How can I tell someone how I'm feeling without looking silly or weak?
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Being emotionally strong and open takes courage. Be brave and just say whats on your mind. If you don't get the desired reply it's not because you look weak, it's because they do not know how to deal with your honesty.
Telling someone how you're feeling can be the strongest thing you ever do. Talking about your emotions requires a great amount of vulnerability, which takes a lot of courage. Just be honest with yourself and with the person listening to you, and you'll do great.
Being honest should never be viewed as a sign of weakness or looking silly. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone else how you feel, and anyone worth your time will respect you for doing so!
Well, showing vulnerability can be scary, because we live in a culture where the emotional is considered weak. That culture is misguided. There is no way to tell someone how you are feeling without looking silly or weak, simply because when you talk about your feelings, you are NEVER silly or weak. You are just a human being, strong and self aware enough to know that they need to share and decompress.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2014 4:27pm
It usually helps to try and tell them you feel a little silly/weak before you open up. Like "Hey! I feel silly telling you this, but I feel...."
Its tough, we put a lot of pressure on yourself when we have expectations on how a situation should go. We have to remember not to jump to conclusions on our people can respond or view us.
Ask yourself if it's worth saying. If it is, then it's worth looking silly or weak. You are a lion.
There shouldn't be any fear in telling someone how you're feeling, it doesn't make you silly or weak, if anything it makes you look more mature and more proud of who you are and what you're feeling
When it comes to telling someone how you're feeling, I don't think you should beat around the bush or make him or her guess. Chances are, if you're honest and upfront with them, it's more beneficial.
You just have to tell what you feel. What you feel is important and you want a supporter for that. When the other thinks you're silly or weak, that's their problem.
First, you have to talk to someone you are comfortable with. Figure out if you are more comfortable talking face-face or not. And lastly, pick someone you trust the most.
Please don't ever think that discussing your feelings and thoughts will make you look silly or weak. Everyone feels the way you do at some point; it's okay. There is always someone here, or someone somewhere else in the world who is willing to listen. You just have to find them. :)
you can learn assertive communications skills. there are a wealth of material on communication skills and this is perhaps the most important skill to have in life. Effective communication solves so many problems as most problems are simply misunderstandings. Expressing your emotions are important but give them context so I often tell people to think "I feel because" and use I statements not YOU statements so you own your thoughts and feelings. Attaching the thought and the feeling in the one sentence gives a complete picture of what you feel and why. Just saying what you feel can leave people wondering why or worse, making assumptions.
Simply, say it with confidence and sincerity. The aura will reflect your condition like it's natural.
You can just tell them exactly how you feel. If you tell the right person, they won't think you're silly or weak. Just tell a good friend, a close family member or a school teacher you like, someone you trust.
You should tell it to the person whom you trust and who trusts you and just let it all out. True friends will understand you even if you look silly :)
Never feel weak for talking about your feelings. Just confront whoever you want to talk to and tell them, how they react is their fault, not yours.
Anonymous
November 13th, 2014 9:17pm
I honestly don't think people ever look silly or weak when they say how they are feelings. I think that is brave. By telling someone how you feel, you are opening up to them in a way that many other can't. Try to change your perspective or being weak and view it as being brave instead :)
I don't think that you will look silly or feel weak at all if you have the courage to tell someone how you are really feeling. I have had some of the most incredible conversations when I have had a moment of bravery that has allowed me to share with another person on that level. Give it a chance! You'll be surprised what beauty you will find in yourself and others when you have such true and real conversation! :)
Anonymous
March 26th, 2015 3:57am
If they are your friend, they will never think of you in that way. You will look strong because you are willing to ask for help.
You must say it straight, the way it is. You can't look silly or weak just by admitting your feelings. Perhaps you'll even look brave for saying it in it's actuality.
Anonymous
September 23rd, 2015 7:58pm
Well, sometimes, we do have the liberty to be silly or weak, and there is nothing wrong in it. Yet if you still feel conscious, exude happiness along with silly or weak, not many know the difference
It can be really scary to share how you're feeling with people, and its important that you feel ready and that you're not being pressured into talking about something you're not ready to talk about yet. If you are ready to talk about it, try talking to someone you know well, and trust. There are also a lot of listeners on this website if you'd like to talk.
Telling someone how you feel doesn't inherently make you look silly or weak; that's a perception that exists only in your mind, and maybe potentially in the mind of someone else. However, it could also be the case that in the mind of the other party you don't look silly or weak at all.
Ultimately, you can't control how you look in the other person's mind, but you can try seeing yourself in a neutral or positive light in your own eyes.
Telling the truth about how you feel is the bravest and strongest thing you can do for yourself, if the person you are telling can't see that then maybe their opinion shouldn't matter very much. However, telling the truth about how you are feeling is also one of the hardest things we do because we DO care about what others think.
People are more likely to accept what you are saying if you are direct, honest, and unapologetic, don't be sorry for what you are saying. Setup a time where you won't be interrupted, if possible, and make sure you have their attention. Make it about you, not them. Say "I feel..., I am..." etc. Be clear about what you want to change and how that change could happen.
You can do it! Good luck :)
Anonymous
September 17th, 2015 1:45pm
Write them a letter or send them a text telling them how you feel! You will not be weak nor silly in telling someone how you feel.
Nobody can really tell you what to say or how to feel. However if you allow yourself to be prepared with the things you want to say, in the end you may feel better about the situation and what you want to say.
having feelings about something or someone doesn't make you weak, it just makes you human. Don't hide your feelings. In todays world, people think that hiding feelings will make you strong but it doesn't.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2014 9:43am
You can present your feelings as something you are experiencing right now: "I am feeling angry". You can add some distance to those feelings if necessary by saying how you feel about those emotions: "I wish I could let go of my anger, but I'm having trouble with that right now". If you treat yourself and your feelings without judgment and accept that you are human and cannot necessarily always control your feelings, you can be kind to yourself. That attitude can be "contagious" and help other people see you kindly and with respect. If they don't - that's not your fault!
Depending on who you're talking to, I would just stay calm, take a deep breath, and do it. Honestly, if they're someone who you talk to regularly and you want to tell them how you feel, you shouldn't feel silly or weak because they should be understanding if they're really someone who you care about and want to be in your life.
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