Hi, I'm Tuff! I am here for you to listen to what you need to talk about, whatever that might be :) Big or small, or just a fun chat. I am proud of you for reaching out for help.  My Amazing listener twin is @Violetnotes  My Previous Roles ✔️ Listener Chatroom Supporter  ✔️ Anonymous Evaluations Team ✔️ Listener Verifier ✔️ Verified Listener ✔️ Peer Support My Status Meaning  💚 Green - I am online, and you can message me! 💚 🧡 Orange - I am currently busy, and I am not accepting any new requests 🧡 ❤️ Red - I am offline, however you can message me! I will respond within 24 hours ❤️ Experience I have struggled with my own mental health problems through out my life. This include depression, anxiety, personality disorders, substance issues, eating disorders, etc. For most of the chats I accept, I may know a little bit more than you might think (: In my life time, I have also been in mental health treatment, which includes a residential treatment center for 9 1/2 months. I am pretty open about my time in treatment, so feel free to ask any questions you might have. Chats I do not take For personal reasons, I do not take LGBTQ+, dating/relationship issues, and sexual health related chats. Thank you for understanding About Me I’m a pole vaulter and I’m currently vaulting 12 feet! I’m obsessed with the pbs kids show, Arthur. It’s been my biggest interest since I was a little kid My dream job is forensic psychology.  I really enjoy art and poetry. Currently I mainly do water color and free verse poetry.  My personality typing is INFJ IN(F) IEI 5w4 469 so/sp EVLF /R/[L]oai melancholic [dominant] Quotes "Destiny is a gift. Some go their entire lives, living existences of quiet desperation, never learning  the truth that what feels as though a burden pushing down upon their shoulders is really a sense of purpose that lifts us the greater heights. Never forget that fear is but the precursor to valor, that to strive and triumph in the face of fear is what it means to be a hero. Don't think. Become." “What which we manifest is before us: we are the creators of our own destiny. Be it through intention or ignorance, our success and our failures have been used brought upon us by none other than ourselves” You deserve to be listened to and heard  -Tuff #HopeForHappyfeet Thank you for being in my life 

I CURRENTLY DO NOT TAKE CHATS AT THIS TIME. HOWEVER, PLEASE FEEL FREE TO BROWSE FOR ANOTHER ONE OF OUR MANY WONDERFUL & AVAILABLE LISTENERS. "BROWSE LISTENERS HERE" [http://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/]   (My Pm's are always open if you have a question or are in need of help or assistance "outside" of chats.)~  Hi and welcome to 7cups! I’m PoliteOcean~ (But, You can call me "OCEAN")~ I'm a Spouse, a Parent, & also Licensed in the Healthcare Field.  I’m also a Fitness Instructor with a passion for Dance & ZUMBA Fitness. I am here to listen, support and not judge. I cannot solve all problems but I've gone through many of my own personal experiences so perhaps I can help. If I'm away, please leave me a message. ⭐️LISTENING STRENGTHS⭐️ *Family Stress *Healthy Living  *Parenting ⭐️CURRENTLY ACTIVE ROLES⭐️ * COMMUNITY MENTOR LEADER * HEALTHY LIVING TEAM LEADER & SUPPORT ROOM MENTOR *ADULT CHATROOM MENTOR & CHAT SUPPORT  *FORUM MENTOR  *Group Moderator *Discussion Trainer *Verified Listening Team  *Door Keeper ⭐️👯‍♂️ MY LISTENING TWINS 👯‍♂️ ⭐️ @HopieRemi @Vivelespatates  @MusicalMagic (R.I.P.) 🙏🏼 

🔴 Starting from May 6th I will be on break because of exams ^^, I will do my best to respond in a timely manner and I will probably come online during the mornings. During this time I dont take new one on one requests and I will be limiting my time on cups until my exams are over <3 🔴 Heyy I'm Lena and welcome to my listener bio ♡ Peer Appreciation Form [https://tinyurl.com/PeerAppreciation]  A little about me : ) We can talk about any topic, you can be honest with me, you never ever bother me. I always try making you feel comfortable and smile in our chats. You are enough and loved In case nobody told you today: am glad you're here today😊 I don’t judge, you can be you in our chat. If you just want to chat that’s okay, if you wanna talk about something that's okay too. You can tell me what you're comfortable with. If you want to be my friend then lets be friends I absolutely love cats and dogs 🐾, I have a dog which is named Blazer. My favorite color is purple and green My pronouns are she/they. Topics i dont take- I will listen to you and give you support as best as I can while using my active listening skills with almost most topics <3, but there are a few topics that I’m not able or comfortable talking about.  The topics that I’m not able to talk about are, sexual health, sexual assault and abuse, I also don’t talk about certain topics in relationships or break-ups but I am able to take these chats and I will let you know if it triggers me. =-Roles-= 🌌 Peer Supporter!🌌 🌸 Listener chatroom supporter 🌸 🐞 room supporter! 🐞 🌟 Listener Verifier 🌟 Listener Verifying Team: Do you want to become a verified listener? You can learn more here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/VerifiedListenersProject_1839/IWanttobeaVerifiedListener_46935/1/]! 🦕 Verified Listener 🦕 🚪Doorkeeper🚪 🐾I completed 8 weeks of the leadership program.🐾 Links you may find helpful ... Guidelines  [https://www.7cups.com/community-guidelines] Community Calender [https://www.7cups.com/home/communityCalendar.php] Community Forums [https://www.7cups.com/home/] Report A Member/Listener [https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/requests/new] Quotes <3  “No matter who you are, where you're from, your skin color, gender identity: speak yourself. "Find your name, find your voice by speaking yourself.” Green status: I’m online and taking requests/chat, please leave a message if you think I am a good fit for you, I’m here for you and I’m an active listener. Orange status: I’m online but I’m not actively taking requests or chat ( even though my status is orange I will still be take chats while this color is active, feel free to leave a message and I will get back to you as soon as I can) I am most likely in the chat rooms or online in another way. Red Status: There is a chance that I’m online but not actively taking chats or personal requests. ✦ My response time is within 2 working days.

Hi all, I am not a therapist. I am an accountant and a stand up comedian. I don't claim to have all the answers, but what I can do is listen with an open mind and open heart. I promise to not judge you. For who am I to judge anyone. I care about you bottom line... yes YOU!

(Inactive, on a break. Expect very slow responses please. ) https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/Lavsupdatesthread_266226/?p=3 *spots a nice human* Hey there! I've dealt with a lot, and I want to let you know that if you are dealing with a lot too, you are not alone. It helps to just talk about stuff!!! Feel free to reach out and talk to someone-it helps. Please see- I am sorry if I am unavailable while you are reading this, so please talk to another listener [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/] if you want support now. Or if you want you can drop me messages and I'll reply within 48 hours. I am here for you! 💜I am now an ATL so both teens and adults can message me💜 Please note- I am generally unavailable for casual chats. 💜   💜💜Let's make it a happier place for everyone!!💜💜 Quick note- I am no longer an ambassador. For any VL related queries, please reach out to @ASilentObserver [http://7cups.com/@ASilentObserver] I can talk about most topics. Chats I am uncomfortable with- Self harm, a member under influence, parenting (like I'm uncomfortable talking about things from a parental point of view. If you want to talk about your parents, that's okay) Members- Please go through the first part of my bio before sending me a message/request (I've indicated till where). If that seems like a lot you can simply read the highlighted and underlined portions I chat for not more than 45 minutes at a time. I am here to listen compassionately and without judgement. The chat will be confidential.💜💜 I can talk about all topics except self harm and parenting. (You can talk about your parents, but not about your kids please).💜 I am uncomfortable chatting about self harm (due to personal reasons) If you want to talk about it please contact another listener. Also if you are thinking about doing it now then please contact a crisis resource 7cups.com/crisis [https://www.7cups.com/7cups.com/crisis] I am uncomfortable talking to members who are under the influence (of alcohol or any other narcotic substance) I am comfortable chatting with neurodiverse members and DID/OSDD systems. I do take chats about sexual assault, PTSD and LGBTQ+ issues💜💜 I do take chats on sexual health (but I am very selective here). Please don't ask me to control your urges or for any inappropriate "help". Please keep in mind that this website is for emotional support, and I would appreciate it if you can be respectful and considerate. I may be unfamiliar with some of the topics you may want to talk about, but I can read up on them during the chat or in-between chat sessions...since sadly I can't know everything (though I wish I did). However if I didn't mention a topic, I am comfortable talking about it. My triggers- Self-harm (and related descriptions). For all members- before reaching out to chat, please check my status- Red(offline)- I am offline and not replying. However you can still drop messages and I will get back to you later. Response time 48 hours Green(online)- I am online, free and open to your chat requests… Orange(Busy)- I am here but I already am talking to too many people here or busy somewhere on 7cups so I am unable to give you the attention you deserve. I recommend you to look for another listener by clicking here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/].... Response time 3-4 hours max.  Note for all members Please note that if I am in the chatrooms and my status is offline, that means I am not currently available for chatting in the PMs.(Usually it means I am about to log out soon and therefore can't chat). In that case you can send me a PM and I'll get back to you in 48h. I do care about you a lot because you are an awesome person...I'll do my best to support you!! If I am unable to do so for any reason, please feel free to reach out to another amazing listener here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/]. You may not be comfortable with me, and I totally respect that and want you to get the best help possible. My PMs are a safe space where you can talk about things, and I am here for you. I care for you all💜💜 I have been facing memory difficulties (due to dissociation), so I may not always remember details about what you tell me, or sometimes I might lose track of what you are talking about. I sometimes might also miss out on tags or messages for the same reason, in which case you are very welcome to follow up with me or tag me again within 2-3 days. Please bear with me on that, and remember that I am here for you, and I am trying my best. My sincerest apologies for the same. Also I'm slow to reply to tags so if it's urgent, message me the link to the post as well💜 *💜sends lots of love for you💜* Please note that I do not check in regularly (since I find it hard to keep track of that), so my listening style is more like you can peek in anytime you need support. Members whom I've spoken to before are welcome to drop a message when they need support as well💜.  Important note- I am a trained listener but I am not a professional therapist so I will be unable to give you advice and/or therapy-like support. You can still drop me a message if you want to talk about what you're struggling with, I'll be here to listen to you. If you are looking for professional therapy (paid) here at 7Cups and you are an adult then please click here [https://www.7cups.com/online-therapy/?ob=1] Unfortunately 7Cups doesn't offer therapy for teens but I hope you get the support you need and deserve. Please note- I am unavailable for casual chats with anyone- be it listeners, members or friends due to time commitments. If you want to talk to me, poke my PMs anytime and I'll surely get back to you!! *💜sending comfy vibes💜* If you are willing to live chat with me, but can't spot me online, please drop me a message so we can discuss availabilities and schedule a chat. Looking forward to speaking to you! Please go through the part of my profile above this before sending me a request!   Some Quick resources for emergencies Crisis link here [http://7cups.com/crisis] or you can chat anonymously for crisis support here [https://nycwell.cityofnewyork.us/en/get-help-now/chat-with-a-counselor-now/]. For Self harm urges, alternatives here [http://7cups.com/forum/SelfHarmRecovery_65/InformationandResources_1079/DistractionsandAlternativeCopingStrategies_221562/] For panic attacks- here are grounding techniques [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/TraumaRecoveryResources_481/GroundingWhenTriggered_42512/], more grounding techniques [https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-article/grounding-techniques-article], breathing exercises (Youtube [https://youtu.be/vXZ5l7G6T2I] or Gif [https://i.imgur.com/bg6J9md.gif]) and muscle relaxation [https://youtu.be/I0wVZIxoe-Q]  A little bit about me ;) If you have lots of extra time, then maybe you may want to read my full bio- You could call me Lavender but everyone just calls me Lav. Some people like to call me cool nicknames like Little Lav, Lave, Lavy, Lavvie, Law(?), Empa, or even Lab (short for laboratory- I love lab)- so if you are too lazy to type Lavender and are bored of Lav then you can call me all that.   The lovely @courageousheart96 [http://7cups.com/@courageousheart96] dedicated an emoji to me (I'm so honoured hehe)- the lav heart💜💜 💜💜You can use pronouns they/them for me💜💜 I am an ace (asexual) and an ally for the LGBTQ+/MOGII community. I am currently a full time uni student in a STEM field (Biotech), which means time is tricky at times. But I try to be here as much as possible.  Some mental health issues that I live with are depression, PTSD, OSDD and chronic anxiety. Members please feel free to message me if you want to talk about these with a listener who has experience. Languages- I speak English, French (well I don't "speak" French well, it's kinda rusty) and I am trying to learn basic Korean. I also speak (but won't be chatting in) Hindi My trigger- self harm 💜Hugs are no longer a trigger for me💜 I said a lot already so I would prefer it if you don't come up with very personal questions (and please don't ask any personal questions for a second time). Please understand that is because I love my privacy and you should love your privacy too!  Also I run a snack-shop here at 7Cups, so there are cookies and cakes and all sorts of awesome stuff for everyone💜 As of now my primary focus is on supporting listeners on the site. Due to personal reasons it is not possible for me to be available regularly for live member support chats. I do live member chats on-and-off and I always update my bio accordingly. I am, however, always open to new members via slow pace chats. Members are always welcome to seek support from me by exchanging offline messages with a maximum response time 48 hours from my side. My favourite place on 7Cups is the PMland- so feel free to text me anytime and I'll surely get back to you within 48h. And my PMs are a spam-friendly space for all :) 💜💜 A quick note- My country shown changes from time to time, since it reflects the country I am currently in. This is to ensure transparency regarding the timezone I am in. I generally reply to all PMs within 48 hours. If I'm on a break or unable to reply timely for any reason I'll surely add that to the top of my bio. If I did not reply within this time, it does not mean I'm angry or anything, because of memory issues or technical glitches I may sometimes miss messages. My sincerest apologies for the same. So in that case please feel free to send me another message. Also response time may be a bit delayed on weekends but I'll try to ensure it's within 48 hours. 💜 You might know me from my previous username (empatheticLavender2924)- changed it since this one is simpler:) My roles here- 💜First and foremost- I am a verified listener [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/QualityProjectsVerifiedListeners_144/IWanttobeaVerifiedListener_46935/1/] which means I am someone who will try their best to listen to you. Members if you want to connect with a verified listener you can click here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=121] 💜 [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=121]I am a  [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=121]listener verifier [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ListenerVerificationProject_1839/JointheListenerVerifiersTeam_46938/1/], which means I can help other listeners here to get verified. So if you want to get verified [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/QualityProjectsVerifiedListeners_144/IWanttobeaVerifiedListener_46935/1/], or have any queries about being verified, drop me a message! I am also an ambassador for the VL team. 💜I am a Teen + Adult Quality Mentor [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/MentorsandTeenStars_1964/QualityMentorsAllyouneedtoknow_219055/] which means I can help listeners improve their listening skills. To reach out to a mentor please go to https://www.7cups.com/listener/listenerMentors.php. I am also a Listener Coach [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ListenerCoachingProgram_2057/2021ListenerCoachingTeamGeneralInfo_251726/] which means I can reach out to you if you fill the Listener Coach Request [http://bit.ly/7CupsLC] form to improve listening skills. 💜I am also a Chat supporter [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ChatSupport_101/WhatistheChatSupportbadge_227368/] so I can help listeners with ongoing chats when they are stuck. I can provide that immediate help in the listener rooms and if needed, PMs. 💜Peer Supporter [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenersOnlyForums_38/HeathersSpace_208/WhatisaPeerSupporter_15860/]- Dear listeners, if after a tough chat you need a safe space to talk, vent and process your emotions(related to the chat), please feel free to PM a peer supporter (me or anyone else here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=98]) 💜Listener Learning Discussions Host [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ListenerLearningDiscussions_1896/ListenerLearningDiscussionsTeamRecruitment_222848/]- I host listener learning discussions regularly to help listeners handle various chat topics better.  💜Safety patrol [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/SafetyPatrolTeam_1685/CallingAllVerifiedListenersApplytoJointheProfilePatrolTeam_152025/1/]- I flag profiles with an inappropriate username/profile picture/bio so feel free to send me such profiles. I have attached hyperlinks so you can find out more about each of these roles. Feel free to check those out💜 Shout-outs: 💜💜Meet my awesome lovely almost triplets!!💜💜 @Rose644 [http://7cups.com/@Rose644] -An awesome angel- You are so kind and considerate. Also I love to smell your pfp lol. *hands Rose my fav book* Enjoy oldie-land at 7cups!!  @Hope2103 [http://7cups.com/@Hope2103] - Just like your name, you are full of hope!! You were a cheerful presence on 7Cups! I miss you so much!  Rose, Hope- I am so happy to know you and meet you here!!  My listener buddies- I love to see you around here @listeningsarinn [http://7cups.com/@listeningsarinn] @Izzy274 [http://7cups.com/@Izzy274] @Jenna [http://7cups.com/@Jenna] @InternalAcceptance [http://7cups.com/@InternalAcceptance] @CommunityModEden [http://7cups.com/@CommunityModEden] @courageousheart96 [http://7cups.com/@courageousheart96] @CommunityModChristine [http://7cups.com/@CommunityModChristine] @BubblegumWings1234 [http://7cups.com/@BubblegumWings1234]  (Please ignore the order...also sadly I can name only a few people here- though I have met many many listeners here and they are awesome too- so proud of them all💜) Hope and Music Zone Quoting some of my favourite inspiring lyrics- 🎵"Whatever hurts you is gonna pass and you'll have learn from it when it comes back...You'll be doing better, doing better"- (Louis Tomlinson) 🎵"They say home is where the heart is, but my heart is wild and free"-(Passenger) 🎵"When I get older, I will be stronger, they'll call me freedom just like a wavin' flag," (K'naan) 🎵"Let your heart sweet heart be the compass of your soul and you should follow it wherever it may go! When it's all said and done you can walk instead of run 'cause no matter what you'll never be alone."- (Lady A) 🎵"If, all the time, it feels like only a deep darkness lies ahead...And even the moonlight has fallen asleep, Believe my friend That the sunshine, your smile is hidden somewhere in plain sight. Somewhere away from this chaos There's a fresh start." (Translated from Hindi, Aaftaab, The Local Train) 🎵"The sun goes down and it comes back up, the world has turned no matter what. Oh if it all goes wrong, darling just hold on" (Louis Tomlinson) 🎵"Though there's rain outside, it'll be warm and dry, the thunder and lightning won't hurt you now. So go to sleep, my love."- (Ed Sheeran, Sandman) 💜💜Here are some comfort songs for you💜💜 Comethru [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jO2viLEW-1A] (Jeremy Zucker) Sword from the Stone [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABFpMiKXz3o] (Passenger) Hello World [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=al2DFQEZl4M] (Lady A) However it comes, wherever it goes [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6TreWCNDX5M] (Passenger) Zero o clock - 00:00 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sBWesVezIrc] (BTS)- this link has English subtitles Anyway [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5HzpPl5a9EA](Noah Kahan) A gentle reminder I promise you can still make a beautiful life for yourself, even if you lost many years of it to abuse, mental illness or trauma💜  For any online friends of mine who are struggling with PTSD (or trying to heal and get better from stuff like depression) and hiding in my bio- I have a sweet analogy for you. Sometimes the weather is not good- sometimes it is sunny and sometimes cloudy and rainy. Sometimes the rain is a storm that destroys everything. The storm felt never-ending and overwhelming. However the storm has calmed down, and is not scary and risky anymore. The sunlight comes back, but all you can see is the damage from the storm (post-trauma effects). The damage looks terrible but you can't look away from it.  Here- I'll remind you- look how far you've come- you've survived the scary storm. That's amazing. There will be damage and that's totally ok. Remember you can make it through- since you survived the storms you are strong enough to slowly clean the mess and heal. That is sad as it will remind you of the storm, and the mess is huge. It takes time to clean up, but you can do this. I know you can. And to those friends of mine whose storms aren't over yet- I see you, I hear you. I know you too are doing your very best and did nothing to deserve this. It might feel like the storm will never end- it will be here forever. But the storm will be over. One day things will get better. And after that you might have to do the post-storm cleaning (or post-traumatic healing) and that is hard, but you got this. One day you'll look back on everything and be really proud of yourself- how hard you tried and how far you've come. If you feel like you are trying but tired, and scared and worried, I hear you. It is tiring to manage everything, and sometimes it is hard to talk about it. But if you want someone to be there for you- I am just one PM away. Come talk to me about it (or any other listener here). We are all here for you, and you can do it because you are amazing and brave. The end of my bio;) This bio is so long, smh so I'll stop here. Sending lots of healing beams for you, yes you amazing fairy!! You deserve love and support💜💜 Please see- I am sorry if I am unavailable while you are reading this, so please talk to another listener if you want support now. Or if you want you can drop me messages and I'll reply within 48 hours. I am here for you!! My PMs are open at all times for both members and listeners!  If you are an adult (listener or member) and can't PM me, you can tag me in a forum post anytime (by typing "@LavenderHere ") that way I'll get a notification and reply to you! Also random people lurking in my bio- you're welcome here (I spotted you hehe) *💜sends cookies💜* Also before I forget- 💜💜Congratulations on reaching the end of my bio!!!💜💜 *💜special cookies for you💜*

𓇢𓆸♡ Hi, I'm Rose🌹. ♡ (^=˃ᆺ˂) 𓇢𓆸 ♡🌹 If you are around the Sharing Circles, and you see someone doing a fantastic job of hosting, please nominate them here for Hosting Hero. Please don’t nominate me, as I just got “Hosting Shero” Sunday, February 25, 2024. It’s an award I will always treasure, and in fact, I’m printing it out to place on the wall so I can look at it. The award is thanks to You! Thanks to everyone who nominated me! Here's the link to the nomination form next time you notice anyone here hosting well! https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/MemberSharingCircles_2109/HostingHeros_324437/ ♡🌹Conversations are limited to no more than 30 minutes for each chat. You can leave me messages in between chats and I will check back with you.  All conversations are held in strictest confidence!  We can have asynchronous chats, where you leave a message and then when I get to your message, I will leave a message for you, and we can have a conversation that way. This is actually how I prefer to chat since I’m a new puppy mum and my schedule is kind of wild these days.  World Clock and Time Converter: https://www.worldtimebuddy.com/ ♡ (^=˃ᆺ˂) 𓇢𓆸 My Fantastic Listener Twin: Mindful Journey22 My Awesome and Amazing Member Twin: Geminieyss4unz ✿ڿڰۣ— ♡🌹CRISIS: 7 cups Listeners do not have the training or back up to support you properly if you are in Crisis. In other words, your Crisis is worthy of better help than I can provide at this time. If you are currently in a crisis situation where you or another in your environment are at risk of being harmed, Please log off 7 cups and please go here to one of these links. https://7cups.com/crisis Find a helpline has international listings and categories for all types of crisis. It is the best link I have found in my experiences as a Crisis Counselor (not on 7 cups) for International Links. Please note that some crisis lines have hours (eg., 9-4 business hours— the hours are listed on this site if they are available) and some do not accept calls from outside the country, though many do. This resource is maintained by a very reputable organization and if I were in crisis, I would go here first. https://findahelpline.com [https://findahelpline.com/]  Here are some other alternatives: International Suicide hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html  Suicide crisis lines are listed here by country. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines ♡ (^=˃ᆺ˂) 𓇢𓆸 Here are a few additional sites for help: https://Mentalhealth.com https://Crisiscenter.com  https://988lifeline.org FREE or LOW COST THERAPY: Mental Health America is website that offers information and resources to support and find help for a friend or loved one: https://bit.ly/MHA3res Now Matters Now is a website that offers support for coping with thoughts of suicide through teaching DBT skills, videos, and personal stories: bit.ly/NMN_ref [http://bit.ly/NMN_ref] Open Counseling is a website that provides a directory of local and affordable counseling. They also have virtual options: http://bit.ly/OC_ref OPC is a directory of low-cost options for in person & online therapy; the site has a one-time lifetime membership fee or services https://openpathcollective.org Rise Above the Disorder connects people with local mental health providers and subsidizes costs for those who can't afford it. https://bit.ly/yrad_r ♡ (^=˃ᆺ˂) 𓇢𓆸 HELP WITH FOOD, HOUSING (USA) If you may need help with food, housing, or immediate needs, this website has a list of organizations in the USA organized by zip code. http://findhelp.org [http://findhelp.org/]  WARMLINES For a list of warmlines (not crisis lines, but lines where you can talk with someone) by state in the USA, please consult: https://warmline.org/warmdir.html#directory ✿ڿڰۣ— You can usually find me in Adult Member Sharing Circles, 8-9 a.m. EST Wednesdays and Fridays. You may also find me picking up on-the-spot Facilitation from time to time. Adult Member Sharing Circles are my very favorite place on 7 cups. From time to time, on Mondays, I will facilitate a Gratitude Circle in the Positivity Room, 8-9 a.m. EST. ✿ڿڰۣ— 🌹 Alfred Sisley Rose from my garden for you: https://imgur.com/a/Qokpnyn 𓇢𓆸 If you’re a new Member and you’re looking for the hub of all the info on what to do, here you go! ♡ 🌹Here is the New Member Welcome Pack, a Google Doc that explains how to connect with listeners, how to use our group chat rooms and forum, and a few other things like safety and reporting: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CL9Yu_6zixlapOjdrhCgKLy9JN5wY3HWdrGH7PIO2WI Help link: https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/requests/new Self-Help Guides https://www.7cups.com/supportGuides/selfHelpGuides.php  Guide to Managing Family Stress https://www.7cups.com/family-stress/ Mindfulness Guides: https://www.7cups.com/exercises/mindfulness/ Listener Primer https://docs.google.com/document/d/1nXShObboR646WnkXOdY1FwmCXyYbmPwii3ZtRGqwFhk/edit?hl=en&forcehl=1# [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1nXShObboR646WnkXOdY1FwmCXyYbmPwii3ZtRGqwFhk/edit?hl=en&forcehl=1]  Censor updates form:  Censor Updates [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScOYDIsgeWmqr4e5hKpTFZ_TC7CnG7OB1DV6mhocHx1kWYWzQ/viewform] ✿ڿڰۣ— When Einstein gave lectures at U.S. universities, the question students asked him most was: Do you believe in God? And he always answered: I believe in the God of Spinoza. Baruch de Spinoza was a Dutch philosopher considered one of the great rationalists of 17th century philosophy, along with Descartes. According to Spinoza, God would say: “Stop praying. I want you to go out into the world and enjoy your life. I want you to sing, have fun and enjoy everything I've made for you. “Stop going into those dark, cold temples that you built yourself and saying they are my house. My house is in the mountains, in the woods, rivers, lakes, beaches. That's where I live and there I express my love for you. “Stop blaming me for your miserable life; I never told you there was anything wrong with you or that you were a sinner, or that your sexuality was a bad thing. Sex is a gift I have given you and with which you can express your love, your ecstasy, your joy. So don't blame me for everything that others made you believe. “Stop reading alleged sacred scriptures that have nothing to do with me. If you can't read me in a sunrise, in a landscape, in the look of your friends, in your son's eyes—you will find me in no book! “Stop asking me, ‘Will you tell me how to do my job?’ Stop being so scared of me. I do not judge you or criticize you, nor get angry or bothered. I am pure love. “Stop asking for forgiveness, there's nothing to forgive. If I made you, I filled you with passions, limitations, pleasures, feelings, needs, inconsistencies, and best of all, free will. Why would I blame you if you respond to something I put in you? How could I punish you for being the way you are, if I'm the one who made you? Do you think I could create a place to burn all my children who behave badly for the rest of eternity? What kind of god would do that? “Respect your peers, and don't give what you don't want for yourself. All I ask is that you pay attention in your life—alertness is your guide. “My beloved, this life is not a test, not a step on the way, not a rehearsal, not a prelude to paradise. This life is the only thing here and now—and it is all you need. “I have set you absolutely free, no prizes or punishments, no sins or virtues, no one carries a marker, no one keeps a record. You are absolutely free to create in your life. It’s you who creates heaven or hell. “Live as if there is nothing beyond this life, as if this is your only chance to enjoy, to love, to exist. Then you will have enjoyed the opportunity I gave you. And if there is an afterlife, rest assured that I won't ask if you behaved right or wrong, I'll ask, ‘Did you like it? Did you have fun? What did you enjoy the most? What did you learn?’ “Stop believing in me; believing is assuming, guessing, imagining. I don't want you to believe in me, I want you to believe in you. I want you to feel me in you when you kiss your beloved, when you tuck in your little girl, when you caress your dog, when you bathe in the sea. “Stop praising me. What kind of egomaniac God do you think I am? I'm bored with being praised. I'm tired of being thanked. Feeling grateful? Prove it by taking care of yourself, your health, your relationships, the world. Express your joy! That's the way to praise me. “Stop complicating things and repeating as a parrot what you've been taught about me. Why do you need more miracles? So many explanations? “The only thing for sure is that you are here, that you are alive, that this world is full of wonders.” ✿ڿڰۣ— John Roedel (author): “Me: Hey God. God: Hello. Me: I'm falling apart. Can you put me back together? God: I would rather not. Me: Why? God: Because you aren't a puzzle. Me: What about all of the pieces of my life that are falling down onto the ground? God: Let them stay there for a while. They fell off for a reason. Take some time and decide if you need any of those pieces back. Me: You don't understand! I'm breaking down! God: No - you don't understand. You are breaking through. What you are feeling are just growing pains. You are shedding the things and the people in your life that are holding you back. You aren't falling apart. You are falling into place. Relax. Take some deep breaths and allow those things you don't need anymore to fall off of you. Quit holding onto the pieces that don't fit you anymore. Let them fall off. Let them go. Me: Once I start doing that, what will be left of me? God: Only the very best pieces of you. Me: I'm scared of changing. God: I keep telling you - You Aren't Changing!! You Are Becoming! Me: Becoming who? God: Becoming who I created you to be! A person of light and love and charity and hope and courage and joy and mercy and grace and compassion. I made you for more than the shallow pieces you have decided to adorn yourself with that you cling to with such greed and fear. Let those things fall off of you. I love you! Don't change! ... Become! Become! Become who I made you to be. I'm going to keep telling you this until you remember it. Me: There goes another piece. God: Yep. Let it be. Me: So ... I'm not broken? God: Of course not! - but you are breaking like the dawn. It's a new day. Become!!!” 🌷 (Stop, breathe, think how wonderful you are.) 𓇢𓆸 Here are some links to some Mindfulness Exercises on 7 cups: https://www.7cups.com/exercises/mindfulness/?showlist=1 🌷 Here’s a resource should you be at loose ends how to start a difficult conversation with someone. Seize the awkward gives tips for starting those conversations, while taking care of yourself at the same time. https://seizetheawkward.org/ ✿ڿڰۣ— Free confidential support from a helpline/hotline near you - online chat text or phone (international just put in your country)  https://findahelpline.com/  𓇢𓆸 Tiny Habits free program here on 7cups to easily add new habits into your life  https://tinyhabits.com/program/   sign up for a tiny habits coach  https://bjfogg.typeform.com/to/QXc0WJ ᎧᎮܔ Free procrastination workbook and self-help modules  https://bit.ly/2GOcU3e 𓇢𓆸 ProgressiveMuscleRelaxation https://youtu.be/f7I2Upk5jqI * https://youtu.be/ihO02wUzgkc ✿ڿڰۣ— Systematic Desensitization to reduce triggers that cause panic attacks or phobias  http://bit.ly/2yUhPbg   🌷 Great website everything related to Self Desensitization and free ebook  http://web.csulb.edu/~tstevens/Desensit.htm 💐 Visuals that help with breathing during panic attacks  https://dailyburn.com/life/lifestyle/stressed-gifs-breathing-exercises/ ᎧᎮܔ 7cups discussion on dealing with panic attacks  https://bit.ly/2MomF97 𓇢𓆸 7cups discussion on reframing negative thoughts  https://bit.ly/2OnBaxv ✿ڿڰۣ— 30 grounding techniques to quiet the mind  https://www.healthline.com/health/grounding-techniques ♡🌹 7cups discussion on managing negative internal dialogue  https://bit.ly/2HOwCLl .❀。• *₊°。 ❀°。 Relaxing piano music and water sounds: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l6J0ylYTO4s ♡ (^=˃ᆺ˂) 𓇢𓆸  To send a cuddle to anyone on 7 cups click here: https://rarelycharlie.github.io/cuddle ♡ (^=˃ᆺ˂) 𓇢𓆸 ♡🌹𓇢𓆸Sharing Circles 𓇢𓆸I'm a Believer in Sharing Circles because of their storied origin from the councils of Indigenous Peoples during which a "talking stick" would be handed around the circle to listen to each person's views. The purpose there was for each individual voice to contribute to collective decisions for the benefit of the group. 𓇢𓆸I believe that in sharing our personal wisdom, support and validation, the group as a whole is enriched greatly and balance and equality are created and respected. 𓇢𓆸Each voice gets the chance to be heard, and in turn, each person develops their own voice. 𓇢𓆸By listening to each voice and incorporating each of our personal wisdom, we can integrate the insights and lived experience of others into our own mentality and coping mechanisms, and become better able to manage the stresses of modern society. 𓇢𓆸Trying a new approach, or seeing something from another perspective, sometimes gives the fresh air necessary to breathe on old thinking and rustle it up to give energy for movement and growth. 𓇢𓆸We also can learn new vocabulary to describe our emotions and become more emotionally literate. For some of us, learning the vocabulary of the heart is a big journey. 𓇢𓆸Much personal growth can be attained when up to 7 minutes of focused sharing time is applied consistently and regularly towards internal sorting, and when the same person who is sharing is also learning to support others. 𓇢𓆸The cohesion of the Sharing Circle group can lend a feeling of community strength that may not be possible individually. 𓇢𓆸This link is about the origin of Sharing Circles within the groups of Indigenous Peoples: https://ravenspeaks.ca/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/Sharing_Circle_Instructions_SECONDARY.pdf 𓇢𓆸Here's an article about Sharing Circles and the possibility for restorative justice through them: https://passthefeather.ca/sharing-circles/?v=e4b09f3f8402 𓇢𓆸Finally, there are some strong theoretical principles from group therapy that are taught through groups like the Sharing Circle. Please read here for more information about the therapeutic forces at work within group therapy. https://pmhealthnp.com/stages-and-yaloms-therapeutic-forces/ 𓇢𓆸 More about Yalom's Group Factors: (1970) https://www.cpsp.pitt.edu/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/3-IXB2-Yalom-Group-Therapy-Methods.pdf ♡🌹  "When you wonder whether or not your life will ever be changed, if you will ever be changed into My image, remember this. Our Father is using in your life the same power that He used to raise Me from the dead. This Resurrection Power is what will allow the old you to die off and the new you to be reborn into my likeness. Trust Him to complete what He has begun." (Eph 1:19) ♡ (^=˃ᆺ˂) 𓇢𓆸 ♡🌹Advice for Strangers on: Life: The only thing predictable about Life, is that Life is Unpredictable. Grasp Life firmly, Ride the Waves, Hang on Tight for the Ride. Peace is worth working for with your Whole Life. We can all co-exist and share. Let’s do this. Prayer is under-rated in its Power to soothe, heal and calm the stresses of Everyday.  Love: Love Big. Love Always. The more Love you Deliver, you will receive Three-fold and more. The Universe is basically composed of Love actualized into a material form. Love Little. Love with small gestures of kindness. Wipe the dishes. Take care of the trash. Wash someone’s feet, with their permission of course. Give your loved one a back rub. Do something nice without expecting them to notice. God notices. Finance: Be frugal. Live simply within your means. Laugh often. Share. Don’t let money or the lack thereof stand in between you and your Splendid Dreams. Money is simply a construct and a tool. Money will come your way once you open the flow within yourself to receive the abundance that is waiting for you. Help People.  Education: Attain the very highest degree you can. Strive! A degree is something no one can ever take away from you. Your knowledge and skills are woven into your very essence. You will learn how to think without being attached to your thoughts. Rich discussions ensue. Life is more fun. The whole of the World awaits you. From Calm Rosebud for Benitta’s book. 𓇢𓆸 “Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”  William Hutchinson Murray ♡ (^=˃ᆺ˂) 𓇢𓆸  “Years ago, anthropologist Margaret Mead was asked by a student what she considered to be the first sign of civilization in a culture. The student expected Mead to talk about fishhooks or clay pots or grinding stones. "But no. Mead said that the first sign of civilization in an ancient culture was a femur (thighbone) that had been broken and then healed. Mead explained that in the animal kingdom, if you break your leg, you die. You cannot run from danger, get to the river for a drink or hunt for food. You are meat for prowling beasts. No animal survives a broken leg long enough for the bone to heal. "A broken femur that has healed is evidence that someone has taken time to stay with the one who fell, has bound up the wound, has carried the person to safety and has tended the person through recovery. Helping someone else through difficulty is where civilization starts, Mead said. "We are at our best when we serve others.”  ✿ڿڰۣ—🌹 Mother Teresa's Anyway Poem People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God; It was never between you and them anyway. [Reportedly inscribed on the wall of Mother Teresa's children's home in Calcutta, and attributed to her. However, an article in the New York Times [http://www.nytimes.com/2002/03/08/arts/08MAXI.html] has since reported (March 8, 2002) that the original version of this poem was written by Kent M. Keith [http://www.paradoxicalcommandments.com/index.html].] ✿ڿڰۣ—  ♡ Love and (^=˃ᆺ˂) Courage, 𓇢𓆸  Rose 🌹 ♡ (^=˃ᆺ˂) 𓇢𓆸

❤️•🧡•💛•💚•💙•💜•💗 𝓗𝓮𝓵𝓵𝓸 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓮, 𝓘'𝓶 𝓓𝓮𝓼𝓲𝓻𝓮𝓮! Hello there! I'm Desiree. I'm so glad you found me on 7 Cups and selected me as your listener. I honestly suffer from my own share of mental health issues. However, despite my diagnoses, it has taken me a long time to realize that I am not those labels nor do they define me. I would love to support you by lending a listening ear. If you see my status as available, you are welcome to send me a message so we can connect. If my status is set to offline, then please respect that I am not available to offer support at the moment. I do not support any one member for a long period of time, as I believe there needs to be established boundaries. I tend to frequent the forums as there is where I meet so many wonderful members and listeners. Don't ever hesitate to drop me a line and say hi if you see me about.  ── ⋆⋅☆⋅⋆ 7 Cups Academy Graduate ⋆⋅☆⋅⋆ ── Internship w/ Honors  Leadership Development Program Content Development & Marketing Inner Development Goals ·.★·.·´¯`·.·★ 🅼🆈 🅰🅼🅰🆉🅸🅽🅶 🆃🆆🅸🅽🆂 🅰🆁🅴: ★·.·´¯`·.·★.· ·.★·.·´¯`·.·★ @🅸🅿🅷🅾🅴🅽🅸🆇 ★·.·´¯`·.·★.· ·.★·.·´¯`·.·★ @🅰🅽🅽🅰🆂🅸🅻🆅🅴🆁🅱🅴🆁🅶 ★·.·´¯`·.·★.· ·.★·.·´¯`·.·★ @🅹🅰🆂🅼🅸🅽🅴🅸🆂🅷🅴🆁🅴4🆄 ★·.·´¯`·.·★.· 💜XOXO💜 ·.★·.·´¯`·.·★ 🅼🆈 ♊ 🆃🆆🅸🅽 🅸🆂: ★·.·´¯`·.·★.· ·.★·.·´¯`·.·★ @🅱🅻🅸🆂🆂🅵🆄🅻🅱🆄🅴 ★·.·´¯`·.·★.·

***Please note: I am not currently available for 1-on-1 support chats. With my roles as a community mentor leader, group support mentor, and chatroom moderator I will be focusing my efforts primarily on community teams, forums and group support activities.*** It's not a community without 'u'! About me: Others have described me as an empathetic individual who strives to be objective, motivational, and empowering. I do firmly believe that if you challenge yourself to look at a situation from a different angle you will see options you have overlooked, and that sometimes even unpalatable solutions need to be seen for what they are, possible solutions. I aim to offer a respectful and non-judgmental ear, keeping in mind that my personal values and beliefs are just that: Mine and need only apply to me/my life.  I am a member of the LGBTQ+ community, some of the labels I use, or have used, to describe(not define) myself include but are not limited to, lesbian, homoromantic asexual and demiromantic. While I am open to and accepting of all members of the LGBTQ+ community, I feel my personal experience makes me most suited to supporting those who relate to or don similar labels. Now entering my 40's I have had experiences with a variety of issues from early childhood to present. I have found this can enhance my natural ability to empathize while still offering alternate perspectives. I primarily provide support for and am most comfortable with topics I have indicated in my profile. There are certain topics that I do not take chats involving, namely drugs, alcohol, detailed discussion of sexual topics, or any which contravene the rules of 7 Cups. "No matter what we have come through, or how many perils we have safely passed, or how imperfect and jagged our life has been, we cannot in our heart of hearts imagine how it could have been different. As we look back on it, it slips in behind us in orderly disarray, and, with all its mistakes, acquires a sort of eternal fitness, and even, at times, a poetic glamour." – Randolph Silliman Bourne

Currently not taking member chats, please go to Browse Listeners [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/] to reach out to another listener! ★ Welcome to my profile - I am Rasp. I love cats, reading and listening to music. I know what it feels like to be alone and needing a non-judgemental ear to listen to you. I know that sometimes it is hard to take that step. But it's good that you decided to reach out! ★ Verified Adult-Teen Listener • Support Session Leader • Intern Graduate (with Honors) • Peer Support • Verified Listener Team • Global Mod • Internship Mentor • Adult/Teen Quality Mentor • Support Team Leader For Eating Disorders • Community Mentor Leader For Eating Disorders • Q and A Team • Doorkeeper • Teen Transiting Mentor ★ Self-Harm Recovery (Adults) - Monday's at 3:15PM EDT • Eating Disorders (Adults) - Friday at 6PM EDT ★ Listeners - Find me in the LSR. Members - Feel free to message me when I am offline, my messages are a safe place for you!

My name is Sebastian and I am half Greek half Danish. I am non-binary, transmasculine, and use they/them pronouns.   I have completed my bachelor's degree in Psychology and my master's in Foundations in Clinical Psychology in the UK. Currently, however, I am working as a content moderator for a media platform, making sure that inappropriate, abusive, or otherwise violative content is removed. While I do want to work in the mental health field, my current job position is also very fulfilling to me, given that I feel I contribute to making the internet a safer space.  As a non-binary and pansexual person, I have much lived experience when it comes to exploring one's identity, accepting it, and, well, coming out. Homophobia, transphobia, stigma, and exclusion, are all things that I have dealt with and occasionally still do. Thankfully, I have a very supportive family and live in a country that at least doesn't legally penalise LGBTQI+ people. Yet, I know this is not the case for everyone. Appreciating the importance of a safe space for people to navigate their identity, I am eager to provide my support and make life even a bit easier for those who need it.  Other experiences in my life have further motivated me to become a mental health therapist. Witnessing traumatic events has given me a better understanding of the necessity of having access to mental health support, and unfortunately, I have also lived through (both directly and indirectly) the consequences of not having such access. My purpose today is to be by people's side, and together find a way to add colour to the darkness :) If you would like us to have a chat, do feel free to leave me a message and I'll get back to you ASAP. Stay safe and know you are not alone :) 

I AM NOT TAKING NEW MEMBER CHATS. If I am not responding, please understand that I am not here! WILL BE BACK SOON. THANKS FOR UNDERSTANDING. TAKE CARE! Greetings my friend, I am Earth. You can call me Earth, Sis, Earthling, WeE or any new nickname you can come up with - I am always open to embracing new ones.  I am a researcher, innovator, historian & archaeologist by heart. My hobbies are coding, writing, reading books, volunteering, planting trees, etc.  💗 Knowledge is my playground, and books are my loyal companions. 📖 Fun facts about me at the end of this bio 😜 My birthday is on 25 August. 😎😃 ------------------------- ROLES & RESPONSIBILITIES ON 7 CUPS Project Leader - Gratitude Rain Project   Academy Mentor - CDM (Extensions & Drop out), LDP (Course 1 - Processing) Quality Mentor Anonymous Evaluation Team Safety Patrol Team Smile Spreader - Peer Appreciation Team Forum Supporter  Chat Supporter Kindness Crusaders Project Team Listener Coaching Team (LCT) Outreach FORMER ROLES Project Agent- 7 Cups Crisis Resource Team Room Supporter - General Support Community ACADEMY PROGRAMS & COURSES Leadership Development Program (LDP) with Honors Internship Program - Student Track (with Honors) Content Development and Marketing Program (CDM) Quality Listening Program (QLP) with Honors Completed IDC, Time Management Course, Community building course, Peer training, etc. ------------------------- PIECE OF WISDOM FROM 🌍 Remember, every challenge is an opportunity to grow, and I'm here to support you on your unique path. 🌟 I believe that real success is based on our efforts and not just on worldly achievements. ------------------------- Inspirational Quotes That Fuel My Ambition and Drive * Take risks in your life. If you win you can lead! If you lose, you can guide!      * Dreams are not seen when you sleep, dreams are those that don't let you sleep.   * One individual may die for an idea, but that idea will, after his death incarnate itself in a thousand lives.   * No need to learn from our own fault. We can learn a lot from others' mistakes.    * Self-confidence provides strength & power imparts knowledge. Knowledge provides stability & stability leads to victory.     * Once we decide, we have to do something, We can go miles ahead.     * Everything can be sacrificed for truth. but truth cannot be sacrificed for anything.    * Apart from himself/herself & her/his family, one who thinks about her/his nation is a true citizen.    * Truth can be stated in a thousand different ways, yet each one can be true.     Time for Fun facts * I belong to a large family whether it's biological, 7 cups or anywhere. * I adhere to my own set of rules and values, while I respect others'. * My interests are diverse and I want to pursue a multidisciplinary path rather than a conventional one. * I love animations whether it's movies or series. * I love horse riding, archery, Indian martial arts, fencing, etc.  * I always wonder about the past and future and I love to explore! * I am not a regular drinker of tea or coffee, just a cup of water will be more than sufficient. But I do enjoy a cup of coffee from my sister. * I am not a foodie person but I love cooking and sometimes I create new recipes as part of my self-care plan.  * I am not an artistic person, but I love using colours.  * I love exploring but I don't like travelling.  * I love to solve problems, but I don't like to memorize math formulas. * I love hearing songs from my playlists (specific genres) Thank you my bestie for coming here!💓 Have some chocolates (with & without sugar) 🍫🍫🍫  

                                                                                           Hello! :) I am Rio and my pronouns is they / them. Im studying social work. Usually my listening time will be around an hour once a week or 2 x 30 min twice a week. I do accept chats, if it is a topic I support. If you are contacting me, please let me know in a few words what our conversation will be about. Feel free to message me.