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empatheticLavender2924 |
Listener - Proficient 6

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Hey there! I've dealt with a lot, and I want to let you know that if you are dealing with a lot too, you are not alone. It helps to just talk about stuff!!! Feel free to reach out and talk to someone-it helps.Β 
πŸ’œπŸ’œLet's make it a happier place for everyone!!πŸ’œπŸ’œ

Please check my bio if I am on a break (since exam time is here I take frequent breaks). I update it right here.
On my Weekend Break- I'll still answer all PMs (within 24h) but I am unavailable for regular chatting. I take these breaks on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays for self-care. I hope you understand!

Please go through the first part of my bio before sending me a message/request (I've indicated till where)

I am usually online and available for chatting 3pm to 4pm ET on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays. That is the time in my schedule that I have dedicated to 1-to-1 member chats.πŸ’œπŸ’œ

If you want to catch me online, I'm generally here at 2-4pm et. And I do come time to time to reply to PMs.πŸ’œπŸ’œΒ  Β 

For all members old and new- If I am not online and you want to chat, you can schedule a chat with me by clicking here or going to

Due to my inconsistent schedules, I amΒ currently not taking long term members.Β Members I've spoken to are more than welcome to drop me a PM or book a chat, but please note that I won't be able to reconnect with you as regularly as I used to. I hope you understand.

I chat for not more than 45 minutes at a time. I am here to listen compassionately and without judgement. The chat will be confidential.πŸ’œπŸ’œ

I am uncomfortable chatting about self harm(due to personal reasons) If you want to talk about it please contact another listener
My sincerest apologies for not being able to help you here. Also if you are thinking about doing sh now then please contact a crisis resource

I am uncomfortable talking to members who are under the influence (of alcohol or any other narcotic substance)

I do take chats about sexual assault, PTSD and LGBTQ+ issuesπŸ’œπŸ’œ

I do take chats on sexual health (but I am very selective when it comes to that topic). Please don't ask me to control your urges or for any inappropriate "help". Please keep in mind that this website is for emotional support, and I would appreciate it if you can be respectful and considerate.

I support neurodiverse members and I am comfortable chatting with themπŸ’œπŸ’œ

I may be unfamiliar with some of the topics you may want to talk about, but I can read up on them during the chat or in-between chat sessions...since I am a human too I can't know everything(though I wish I did). However if I didn't mention a topic in my bio, it means I am comfortable talking about it.

My triggers- Self-harm (and related descriptions), hugs

For members- before reaching out to chat, please check my status-

Red(offline)- I am offline and not accepting chats. Alternatively I am participating/hosting an event or in the chatroom, or busy so I will not be able to reply to your messages during this interval. However you can still drop messages and I will get back to you later. Response time 24 hours
Green(online)- I am online, free and open to your chat requests...
Orange(Busy)- I am here but I already am talking to too many member chats so I will take time to respond and not be able to give you the attention you deserve. I recommend you to look for another listener by clicking here...there a lot of great people here who want to help you. Response time 5-20 minutes

Note for all members
Please note that if I am in the chatrooms and my status is offline, that means I am not currently available for chatting in the PMs.(Usually it means I am about to log out soon and therefore can't chat). In that case you can send me a PM and I'll get back to you in 24h.

I do care about you a lot because you are an awesome person, and I am here to listen to you...I'll do my best to support you!! If I am unable to do so for any reason, please feel free to reach out to another amazing listener here. You may not be comfortable with me, and I totally respect that and want you to get the best help possible. I care for you allπŸ’œπŸ’œ

I have been facing memory difficulties lately, so I may not always remember details about what you tell me in chats, or sometimes I might lose track of what you are talking about. Please bear with me on that, and remember that I am here for you, and I am trying my best. My sincerest apologies for these messes
πŸ’œsends lots of love and apology cookiesπŸ’œ*Β 

If you want to talk to me, poke my PMs anytime and I'll surely get back to you!!
πŸ’œsending comfy vibesπŸ’œ*

If you are willing to live chat with me, but can't spot me online (because sadly I don't appear online a lot), you can schedule a chat with me by clicking here or going to Looking forward to speaking to you!

Please go through the part of my profile above this before sending me a request!


A little bit about me ;)

If you have lots of extra time, then maybe you may want to read my full bio-

You could call me Lavender but everyone just calls me Lav. Some people here like to call me cool nicknames like nommer lav, Little Lav or Lave, Lava, Lavy, Lavie, Lavey, Empa, or even Lab (short for laboratory- I love lab)- so if you are too lazy to type Lavender or are bored of Lav then you can call me that.Β 

Β Some of my friends were kind enough to give me personal hashtags-Β 
@emotionaltalker2260- #lavenderilyawesome
@MimiMoon- #ihavecreatedsomanysectionsthatidontrememberthem (I have created so many sections that I don't remember them)

I collaborated with my awesome almost triplet @Hope2103 to make a thread about ’Myths and Misconceptions Surrounding Asexuality’- feel free to check it out here! Thank you so much Hope for working on this!!

A few friends here made a Noni Quiz (I helped a bit) - check it out here!! I love it- thank you @ShiningStars1 @VicK5123 @KindNutella926 for the idea and working on this!!!!

Β I am an agender (basically that means I have no gender). I don't get the concept of gender so I don't identify with any one of them.
πŸ’œπŸ’œYou can use pronouns they/them for meπŸ’œπŸ’œ
I am an ace (asexual) and an ally for the LGBTQ+/MOGII community.

Languages- I speak english, french (well I don't "speak" french well- bad pronunciation but I can write and chat in french) and I am trying to learn basic Korean. I also speak (but won't be writing in) Hindi

I am an introvert/ambivert so I won't talk a lot here, but I'm here to listen to you (that's why I am a listener- sorry bad pun)πŸ’œπŸ’œ

My triggers- self harm, hugs

I said a lot already so I would prefer it if you don't come up with very personal questions (and please don't ask any personal questions for a second time). Please understand that is because I love my privacy and you should love your privacy too!Β 

If you see me in the chat rooms you'll know that I nom everything *wink*

My favorite place on 7Cups is the PMland- so feel free to text me anytime and I'll surely get back to you within 24h. And my PMs are a spam-friendly space for all ;)Β πŸ’œπŸ’œ

My roles here-

πŸ’œFirst and foremost- I am a verified listener which means I am a high-quality listener who will try their best to listen to you. Members if you want to connect with a verified listener you can click here

πŸ’œI am a Care team Guide here!! (We reach out to listeners and we are basically like a buddy you can talk to- a friendly face in the PMs.) We are like PM buddies that can provide support and help you navigate the site.
Β So if you want us to reach out to a listener (yes that can be you too) please click here-
πŸ’œI am a listener verifier, which means I can help other listeners here to get verified. So if you want to get verified, or have any queries about being verified, you can always PM me and I'll be more than willing to assist you!
πŸ’œPeer Supporter- Dear listeners, if after a tough chat you need a safe space to talk, vent and process your emotions(related to the chat), please feel free to PM a peer supporter (me or anyone else here)
πŸ’œQLP Graduate- I have completed the Quality Listening Program with Honours- A 7cups academy program which focusses on listening skills.

πŸ’œFor each of these roles, I have attached hyperlinks so you can find out more about each of these. Feel free to check those outπŸ’œ

Here are some projects where I host:
I host sharing circles, teen discussions, listener sharing circles and listener discussions. And occasionally I host popup discussions in the TCR. If you're interested in hosting any of these, check out the hyperlinked forums (I have hyperlinked all the relevant forums for the hosting.) And of course you can PM me if you want to ask anythingπŸ’œ


πŸ’œπŸ’œSome awesome listeners here!!!πŸ’œπŸ’œ
So a shoutout to some very special listeners I look up to-
@sia1325 @fristo @VicK5123 @Izzy274 @Mango3Β 

πŸ’œπŸ’œMeet my awesome lovely almost triplets!!πŸ’œπŸ’œ
@Rose644 - An awesome angel- You are so kind and considerate. Also I love to smell your pfp lol. *hands Rose my fav book*Β 
@Hope2103 - Just like your name, you are full of hope!! You were a cheerful presence on 7Cups! I miss you so much!
Rose, Hope- I am so happy to know you and meet you here!!Β 

My listener buddies- I love to see you around here @Iamsidhere @Nerdtastic01 @imlistening01 @PatientMateΒ  @mamtasha22 @considerateOrange2567 @listeningsarinnΒ 

My oldie buddies- Some oldie friends of mine-Β @AmyΒ (with her special cookies)Β @CommunityModEdenΒ  @CommunityModLucy (CommunityStylishModAstrolucy) @DreamTouch @ColorfuldogsofParadise @CommunityModAnne (granny anny)Β @MinervaaaΒ (who is teenier than the teenie town)

(Please ignore the order...also sadly I can name only a few people here- though I have met many many listeners here and they are awesome too- so proud of them allπŸ’œ)

Hope and Music Zone

Quoting some of my favourite lyrics-

🎡"Whatever hurts you is gonna pass and you'll have learn from it when it comes back...You'll be doing better, doing better"- (Louis Tomlinson)
🎡"They say home is where the heart is, but my heart is wild and free"-(Passenger)
🎡"When I get older, I will be stronger, they'll call me freedom just like a wavin' flag," (K'naan)
🎡"Let your heart sweet heart be the compass of your soul and you should follow it wherever it may go! When it's all said and done you can walk instead of run 'cause no matter what you'll never be alone."- (Lady A)
🎡"If, all the time, it feels like only a deep darkness lies ahead...And even the moonlight has fallen asleep, Believe my friend That the sunshine, your smile is hidden somewhere in plain sight. Somewhere away from this chaos There's a fresh start." (Translated from Hindi, Aaftaab, The Local Train)
🎡"The sun goes down and it comes back up, the world has turned no matter what. Oh if it all goes wrong, darling just hold on" (Louis Tomlinson)

πŸ’œπŸ’œSome more comfort songsπŸ’œπŸ’œ

Comethru (Jeremy Zucker)
Sword from the Stone (Passenger)
Boulevard of Broken Dreams (Green Day)
See you again (Charlie Puth, Wiz Khalifa)
Hello World (Lady A)

And for my online friends here (that means all of you who are reading this hehe)- this song is a sweet message that I am here for you and you're never alone. You can listen to it if you'd like.
πŸ’œπŸ’œFriends don't let Friends (Lady A)πŸ’œπŸ’œ


A gentle reminder

For any online friends of mine who are struggling with PTSD (or trying to heal and get better from stuff like depression) and hiding in my bio- I have a sweet analogy for you. Sometimes the weather is not good- sometimes it is sunny and sometimes cloudy and rainy. Sometimes the rain is a storm that destroys everything. The storm felt never-ending and overwhelming. However the storm has calmed down, and is not scary and risky anymore. The sunlight comes back, but all you can see is the damage from the storm (post-trauma effects). The damage looks terrible but you can't look away from it.Β 

Here- I'll remind you- look how far you've come- you've survived the scary storm. That's amazing. There will be damage and that's totally ok. Remember you can make it through- since you survived the storms you are strong enough to slowly clean the mess and heal. That is sad as it will remind you of the storm, and the mess is huge. It takes time to clean up, but you can do this. I know you can.

And to those friends of mine whose storms aren't over yet- I see you, I hear you. I know you too are doing your very best and did nothing to deserve this. It might feel like the storm will never end- it will be here forever. But the storm will be over. One day things will get better. And after that you might have to do the post-storm cleaning (or post-traumatic healing) and that is hard, but you got this. One day you'll look back on everything and be really proud of yourself- how hard you tried and how far you've come.

If you feel like you are trying but tired, and scared and worried, I hear you. It is tiring to manage everything, and sometimes it is hard to talk about it. But if you want someone to be there for you- I am just one PM away. Come talk to me about it (or any other listener here). We are all here for you, and you can do it because you are amazing and brave.


The end of my bio;)

This bio is so long it looks like a newspaper smh smh so I'll stop here. Sending lots of healing beams for you, yes you amazing fairy!! You deserve love and supportπŸ’œπŸ’œ

Please see- I am sorry if I am unavailable while you are reading this, so please talk to another listener if you want support now. Or if you want you can drop me messages and I'll reply within 24 hours. I am here for you!! My PMs are open at all times for both members and listeners!Β 

As you might have guessed, everything in blue is hyperlinked.

Also random people lurking in my bio- you're welcome here (I spotted you hehe) *πŸ’œsends cookiesπŸ’œ*

You can book a chat with me here-

Also before I forget-
πŸ’œπŸ’œCongratulations on reaching the end of my bio!!!πŸ’œπŸ’œ
*πŸ’œspecial cookies for youπŸ’œ*

Number of Ratings: 85
Number of Reviews: 70
Listens to Teens
Languages English, French
Listener Since Aug 24, 2020
Last Active in last week
Progress Path Step 167
Cheers 107,040
People Helped 234
Chats 1,286
Group Support Chats 486
Listener Group Chats 345
Forum Posts 125
Forum Upvotes 153
Feedback & Reviews
I love talking to lav and they just make me feel comfortable. Talking to them is really easy and fun πŸ’›πŸ§‘β€οΈπŸ’šπŸ’™πŸ’œ thank you lav
They are an amazing listener! I love them so much!!
they are always there for you, it makes me feel comfortable that they stay with me and make sure i am comfortable first and then share. amazing listener
Really listened to me, I like how comfortable I felt with her and how sincere she was. I'm feeling better and hope we can chat again
amazing! That’s all I got.
You were great!
Comforting words, understands you. just perfect
Nice to talk with
extremely empathetic, good listener and it helps a lot to char with Lavender.
Listened attentively
Great listener:)
They are very thoughtful and a great listener.
she is the greatest most helpful person that i've ever talked too
they are very sweet and knows what to say, understand people coming in from different situations very well, kind soul
A really good listener
very kind, and a good close online friend
Empathetic indeed.
They were really nice to talk and helped me solve a confusing issueπŸ˜©πŸ’“πŸ’“
she's so kind and considerate, it really really helped!
Helped me feel better
She's compassionate and willing to help
Very great listener, very kind as well.
she is an amazing listener , helped me feel better and motivated me
a nice person who is understanding
Great listener I really felt comforted
Amazing and really lovely. Open to talk to and easy to chat to, thank you for being here
Makes me feel heard
Very sympathetic and helpful, could not recommend more
She is a great listener as well as positive vibe from heaven
Easy to talk to
helpful and kind
very approachable and understanding
He is really good
listened to my issues, gave me advice on how i can better, related to my problems, and told me i can get through it
yeah very nice person
Great listener!
They are nice and are helping
She's a great listener and actually engages in the conversation with you. After speaking to her I felt soo much better and she's always positive πŸ₯° and kindπŸ’• which I personally loveπŸ₯Ί and encourages πŸ’•me to go right back to her if I have any problems..😘
terrific and considerate
very lovely , inviting and understanding . Makes you feel as though you can really open up about what is happening
very cool and chill
they were really good at asking open-ended questions!
She was really compassionate. She listened to me patiently and asked questions that didn't feel disruptive or intruding. I loved chatting with her
good listener, really sweet
Loved it! Awesome chat!
They were super kind and caring
Honest and kind listener.
So sweet and easy to talk to!
amazing, really helpful and empathetic, helped me and made me feel understood
Great listener! Keeps the conversation great and interesting, doesn't judge and just!!! The best!!!
super nice and helped me with my sexuality
So nice and she cheared me up :DD
amazing listener
really listened to what i had to say and helped me become a lot more calm in the end
Very relatable and understanding
she was a great listener
Very good listener
they were nice and they did help a lot.
Amazing, and very nice to talk to. Relatable and very helpful for an array of things. I Will definitely come to again if I nee to.
Listens really well, let's me rant as much as I want
Best listener ever!
They were lovely! They were never harsh, asked good questions, and I felt truly cared for.
Loved it! Awesome chat!
Very understanding.
Amazing chat and long time! Loved it!!!!!
Very helpful and understanding!
Really nice listener makes me feel at least a bit happier
responds quickly and very kind.
They were easy to start off with, and asked questions which made it easier to start talking
Genuinely the best person I've ever talked to
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