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...See more I’m really considering going no contact with my family and trying to decide if it’s the right step. There’s been a long pattern of my boundaries not being respected, especially around politics, religion, and mental health. I’ve asked multiple times for those topics to be off-limits just while I'm around, but they still come up regularly. These conversations often include racist/sexist or inflammatory comments, and I end up either staying silent, leaving the room, or disengaging. They know how I feel, but it doesn't feel right to start an argument at my parents' house. They also consistently dismiss or minimize my mental health. The lack of understanding (or even trying to understand) has taken a real toll over time. Even when I’ve tried to communicate how much that impacts me, it hasn’t really changed. At this point, all contact mostly leaves me emotionally drained and anxious, and I’ve started avoiding it or wishing for more distance. One example that stands out is a family conflict where I was the only one defending a sibling against our cousins. My concerns were ignored, the situation escalated, and I ended up receiving such hateful comments without any real apology or support from my family. This dynamic where I’m only heard or respected if I fully align with them has repeated over the last few years in different forms. So basically, I'm trying to decide if I should go no contact with my parents and my siblings. I have five siblings, and some are more like my parents than others. I'd appreciate any suggestions, advice, or whatever about this, even if you think I'm overreacting. For those who’ve gone no contact, what made it clear for you that it was time? How did you do it? Just randomly stop talking? Did you let them know first?

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