(Inactive, on a break. Expect very slow responses please. )
*spots a nice human*
Hey there! I've dealt with a lot, and I want to let you know that if you are dealing with a lot too, you are not alone. It helps to just talk about stuff!!! Feel free to reach out and talk to someone-it helps.
Please see- I am sorry if I am unavailable while you are reading this, so please talk to another listener [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/] if you want support now. Or if you want you can drop me messages and I'll reply within 48 hours. I am here for you!
💜I am now an ATL so both teens and adults can message me💜
Please note- I am generally unavailable for casual chats. 💜
💜💜Let's make it a happier place for everyone!!💜💜
Quick note- I am no longer an ambassador. For any VL related queries, please reach out to @ASilentObserver [http://7cups.com/@ASilentObserver]
I can talk about most topics.
Chats I am uncomfortable with- Self harm, a member under influence, parenting (like I'm uncomfortable talking about things from a parental point of view. If you want to talk about your parents, that's okay)
Members- Please go through the first part of my bio before sending me a message/request (I've indicated till where). If that seems like a lot you can simply read the highlighted and underlined portions
I chat for not more than 45 minutes at a time. I am here to listen compassionately and without judgement. The chat will be confidential.💜💜
I can talk about all topics except self harm and parenting. (You can talk about your parents, but not about your kids please).💜
I am uncomfortable chatting about self harm (due to personal reasons) If you want to talk about it please contact another listener. Also if you are thinking about doing it now then please contact a crisis resource 7cups.com/crisis [https://www.7cups.com/7cups.com/crisis]
I am uncomfortable talking to members who are under the influence (of alcohol or any other narcotic substance)
I am comfortable chatting with neurodiverse members and DID/OSDD systems. I do take chats about sexual assault, PTSD and LGBTQ+ issues💜💜
I do take chats on sexual health (but I am very selective here). Please don't ask me to control your urges or for any inappropriate "help". Please keep in mind that this website is for emotional support, and I would appreciate it if you can be respectful and considerate.
I may be unfamiliar with some of the topics you may want to talk about, but I can read up on them during the chat or in-between chat sessions...since sadly I can't know everything (though I wish I did). However if I didn't mention a topic, I am comfortable talking about it.
My triggers- Self-harm (and related descriptions).
For all members- before reaching out to chat, please check my status-
Red(offline)- I am offline and not replying. However you can still drop messages and I will get back to you later. Response time 48 hours
Green(online)- I am online, free and open to your chat requests…
Orange(Busy)- I am here but I already am talking to too many people here or busy somewhere on 7cups so I am unable to give you the attention you deserve. I recommend you to look for another listener by clicking here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/].... Response time 3-4 hours max.
Note for all members
Please note that if I am in the chatrooms and my status is offline, that means I am not currently available for chatting in the PMs.(Usually it means I am about to log out soon and therefore can't chat). In that case you can send me a PM and I'll get back to you in 48h.
I do care about you a lot because you are an awesome person...I'll do my best to support you!! If I am unable to do so for any reason, please feel free to reach out to another amazing listener here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/]. You may not be comfortable with me, and I totally respect that and want you to get the best help possible. My PMs are a safe space where you can talk about things, and I am here for you. I care for you all💜💜
I have been facing memory difficulties (due to dissociation), so I may not always remember details about what you tell me, or sometimes I might lose track of what you are talking about. I sometimes might also miss out on tags or messages for the same reason, in which case you are very welcome to follow up with me or tag me again within 2-3 days. Please bear with me on that, and remember that I am here for you, and I am trying my best. My sincerest apologies for the same.
Also I'm slow to reply to tags so if it's urgent, message me the link to the post as well💜
*💜sends lots of love for you💜*
Please note that I do not check in regularly (since I find it hard to keep track of that), so my listening style is more like you can peek in anytime you need support. Members whom I've spoken to before are welcome to drop a message when they need support as well💜.
Important note- I am a trained listener but I am not a professional therapist so I will be unable to give you advice and/or therapy-like support. You can still drop me a message if you want to talk about what you're struggling with, I'll be here to listen to you. If you are looking for professional therapy (paid) here at 7Cups and you are an adult then please click here [https://www.7cups.com/online-therapy/?ob=1] Unfortunately 7Cups doesn't offer therapy for teens but I hope you get the support you need and deserve.
Please note- I am unavailable for casual chats with anyone- be it listeners, members or friends due to time commitments.
If you want to talk to me, poke my PMs anytime and I'll surely get back to you!!
*💜sending comfy vibes💜*
If you are willing to live chat with me, but can't spot me online, please drop me a message so we can discuss availabilities and schedule a chat. Looking forward to speaking to you!
Please go through the part of my profile above this before sending me a request!
Some Quick resources for emergencies
Crisis link here [http://7cups.com/crisis] or you can chat anonymously for crisis support here [https://nycwell.cityofnewyork.us/en/get-help-now/chat-with-a-counselor-now/].
For Self harm urges, alternatives here [http://7cups.com/forum/SelfHarmRecovery_65/InformationandResources_1079/DistractionsandAlternativeCopingStrategies_221562/]
For panic attacks- here are grounding techniques [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/TraumaRecoveryResources_481/GroundingWhenTriggered_42512/], more grounding techniques [https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-article/grounding-techniques-article], breathing exercises (Youtube [https://youtu.be/vXZ5l7G6T2I] or Gif [https://i.imgur.com/bg6J9md.gif]) and muscle relaxation [https://youtu.be/I0wVZIxoe-Q]
A little bit about me ;)
If you have lots of extra time, then maybe you may want to read my full bio-
You could call me Lavender but everyone just calls me Lav. Some people like to call me cool nicknames like Little Lav, Lave, Lavy, Lavvie, Law(?), Empa, or even Lab (short for laboratory- I love lab)- so if you are too lazy to type Lavender and are bored of Lav then you can call me all that.
The lovely @courageousheart96 [http://7cups.com/@courageousheart96] dedicated an emoji to me (I'm so honoured hehe)- the lav heart💜💜
💜💜You can use pronouns they/them for me💜💜
I am an ace (asexual) and an ally for the LGBTQ+/MOGII community.
I am currently a full time uni student in a STEM field (Biotech), which means time is tricky at times. But I try to be here as much as possible.
Some mental health issues that I live with are depression, PTSD, OSDD and chronic anxiety. Members please feel free to message me if you want to talk about these with a listener who has experience.
Languages- I speak English, French (well I don't "speak" French well, it's kinda rusty) and I am trying to learn basic Korean. I also speak (but won't be chatting in) Hindi
My trigger- self harm
💜Hugs are no longer a trigger for me💜
I said a lot already so I would prefer it if you don't come up with very personal questions (and please don't ask any personal questions for a second time). Please understand that is because I love my privacy and you should love your privacy too!
Also I run a snack-shop here at 7Cups, so there are cookies and cakes and all sorts of awesome stuff for everyone💜
As of now my primary focus is on supporting listeners on the site. Due to personal reasons it is not possible for me to be available regularly for live member support chats. I do live member chats on-and-off and I always update my bio accordingly. I am, however, always open to new members via slow pace chats. Members are always welcome to seek support from me by exchanging offline messages with a maximum response time 48 hours from my side.
My favourite place on 7Cups is the PMland- so feel free to text me anytime and I'll surely get back to you within 48h. And my PMs are a spam-friendly space for all :) 💜💜
A quick note- My country shown changes from time to time, since it reflects the country I am currently in. This is to ensure transparency regarding the timezone I am in.
I generally reply to all PMs within 48 hours. If I'm on a break or unable to reply timely for any reason I'll surely add that to the top of my bio. If I did not reply within this time, it does not mean I'm angry or anything, because of memory issues or technical glitches I may sometimes miss messages. My sincerest apologies for the same. So in that case please feel free to send me another message. Also response time may be a bit delayed on weekends but I'll try to ensure it's within 48 hours. 💜
You might know me from my previous username (empatheticLavender2924)- changed it since this one is simpler:)
My roles here-
💜First and foremost- I am a verified listener [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/QualityProjectsVerifiedListeners_144/IWanttobeaVerifiedListener_46935/1/] which means I am someone who will try their best to listen to you. Members if you want to connect with a verified listener you can click here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=121]
💜 [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=121]I am a [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=121]listener verifier [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ListenerVerificationProject_1839/JointheListenerVerifiersTeam_46938/1/], which means I can help other listeners here to get verified. So if you want to get verified [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/QualityProjectsVerifiedListeners_144/IWanttobeaVerifiedListener_46935/1/], or have any queries about being verified, drop me a message! I am also an ambassador for the VL team.
💜I am a Teen + Adult Quality Mentor [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/MentorsandTeenStars_1964/QualityMentorsAllyouneedtoknow_219055/] which means I can help listeners improve their listening skills. To reach out to a mentor please go to https://www.7cups.com/listener/listenerMentors.php. I am also a Listener Coach [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ListenerCoachingProgram_2057/2021ListenerCoachingTeamGeneralInfo_251726/] which means I can reach out to you if you fill the Listener Coach Request [http://bit.ly/7CupsLC] form to improve listening skills.
💜I am also a Chat supporter [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ChatSupport_101/WhatistheChatSupportbadge_227368/] so I can help listeners with ongoing chats when they are stuck. I can provide that immediate help in the listener rooms and if needed, PMs.
💜Peer Supporter [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenersOnlyForums_38/HeathersSpace_208/WhatisaPeerSupporter_15860/]- Dear listeners, if after a tough chat you need a safe space to talk, vent and process your emotions(related to the chat), please feel free to PM a peer supporter (me or anyone else here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=98])
💜Listener Learning Discussions Host [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ListenerLearningDiscussions_1896/ListenerLearningDiscussionsTeamRecruitment_222848/]- I host listener learning discussions regularly to help listeners handle various chat topics better.
💜Safety patrol [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/SafetyPatrolTeam_1685/CallingAllVerifiedListenersApplytoJointheProfilePatrolTeam_152025/1/]- I flag profiles with an inappropriate username/profile picture/bio so feel free to send me such profiles.
I have attached hyperlinks so you can find out more about each of these roles. Feel free to check those out💜
Shout-outs:
💜💜Meet my awesome lovely almost triplets!!💜💜
@Rose644 [http://7cups.com/@Rose644] -An awesome angel- You are so kind and considerate. Also I love to smell your pfp lol. *hands Rose my fav book* Enjoy oldie-land at 7cups!!
@Hope2103 [http://7cups.com/@Hope2103] - Just like your name, you are full of hope!! You were a cheerful presence on 7Cups! I miss you so much!
Rose, Hope- I am so happy to know you and meet you here!!
My listener buddies- I love to see you around here @listeningsarinn [http://7cups.com/@listeningsarinn] @Izzy274 [http://7cups.com/@Izzy274] @Jenna [http://7cups.com/@Jenna] @InternalAcceptance [http://7cups.com/@InternalAcceptance] @CommunityModEden [http://7cups.com/@CommunityModEden] @courageousheart96 [http://7cups.com/@courageousheart96] @CommunityModChristine [http://7cups.com/@CommunityModChristine] @BubblegumWings1234 [http://7cups.com/@BubblegumWings1234]
(Please ignore the order...also sadly I can name only a few people here- though I have met many many listeners here and they are awesome too- so proud of them all💜)
Hope and Music Zone
Quoting some of my favourite inspiring lyrics-
🎵"Whatever hurts you is gonna pass and you'll have learn from it when it comes back...You'll be doing better, doing better"- (Louis Tomlinson)
🎵"They say home is where the heart is, but my heart is wild and free"-(Passenger)
🎵"When I get older, I will be stronger, they'll call me freedom just like a wavin' flag," (K'naan)
🎵"Let your heart sweet heart be the compass of your soul and you should follow it wherever it may go! When it's all said and done you can walk instead of run 'cause no matter what you'll never be alone."- (Lady A)
🎵"If, all the time, it feels like only a deep darkness lies ahead...And even the moonlight has fallen asleep, Believe my friend That the sunshine, your smile is hidden somewhere in plain sight. Somewhere away from this chaos There's a fresh start." (Translated from Hindi, Aaftaab, The Local Train)
🎵"The sun goes down and it comes back up, the world has turned no matter what. Oh if it all goes wrong, darling just hold on" (Louis Tomlinson)
🎵"Though there's rain outside, it'll be warm and dry, the thunder and lightning won't hurt you now. So go to sleep, my love."- (Ed Sheeran, Sandman)
💜💜Here are some comfort songs for you💜💜
Comethru [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jO2viLEW-1A] (Jeremy Zucker)
Sword from the Stone [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABFpMiKXz3o] (Passenger)
Hello World [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=al2DFQEZl4M] (Lady A)
However it comes, wherever it goes [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6TreWCNDX5M] (Passenger)
Zero o clock - 00:00 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sBWesVezIrc] (BTS)- this link has English subtitles
Anyway [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5HzpPl5a9EA](Noah Kahan)
A gentle reminder
I promise you can still make a beautiful life for yourself, even if you lost many years of it to abuse, mental illness or trauma💜
For any online friends of mine who are struggling with PTSD (or trying to heal and get better from stuff like depression) and hiding in my bio- I have a sweet analogy for you. Sometimes the weather is not good- sometimes it is sunny and sometimes cloudy and rainy. Sometimes the rain is a storm that destroys everything. The storm felt never-ending and overwhelming. However the storm has calmed down, and is not scary and risky anymore. The sunlight comes back, but all you can see is the damage from the storm (post-trauma effects). The damage looks terrible but you can't look away from it.
Here- I'll remind you- look how far you've come- you've survived the scary storm. That's amazing. There will be damage and that's totally ok. Remember you can make it through- since you survived the storms you are strong enough to slowly clean the mess and heal. That is sad as it will remind you of the storm, and the mess is huge. It takes time to clean up, but you can do this. I know you can.
And to those friends of mine whose storms aren't over yet- I see you, I hear you. I know you too are doing your very best and did nothing to deserve this. It might feel like the storm will never end- it will be here forever. But the storm will be over. One day things will get better. And after that you might have to do the post-storm cleaning (or post-traumatic healing) and that is hard, but you got this. One day you'll look back on everything and be really proud of yourself- how hard you tried and how far you've come.
If you feel like you are trying but tired, and scared and worried, I hear you. It is tiring to manage everything, and sometimes it is hard to talk about it. But if you want someone to be there for you- I am just one PM away. Come talk to me about it (or any other listener here). We are all here for you, and you can do it because you are amazing and brave.
The end of my bio;)
This bio is so long, smh so I'll stop here. Sending lots of healing beams for you, yes you amazing fairy!! You deserve love and support💜💜
Please see- I am sorry if I am unavailable while you are reading this, so please talk to another listener if you want support now. Or if you want you can drop me messages and I'll reply within 48 hours. I am here for you!! My PMs are open at all times for both members and listeners!
If you are an adult (listener or member) and can't PM me, you can tag me in a forum post anytime (by typing "@LavenderHere ") that way I'll get a notification and reply to you!
Also random people lurking in my bio- you're welcome here (I spotted you hehe) *💜sends cookies💜*
Also before I forget-
💜💜Congratulations on reaching the end of my bio!!!💜💜
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