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Mel

Paragon 3
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
Thanks for stumbling into my profile :) It's very nice to see you! I'm Mel and I'm a young girl from Buenos Aires, Argentina. I'm a college student majoring in physics. In the future I would love to work in a laboratory studying neuroscience and illnesses regarding the human brain! I work as a support teacher for young kids mostly. I love teaching and explaining things - I think everybody deserves their chance at understanding a difficult matter, even if they need more time for it than someone else would.  I'm not much of a talker as a listener. I feel like it's very important that every single person out there has someone to rely on and be there for them. I want you to feel like you can tell me anything on your mind, feel heard, understood and never judged. That's what I aim for. I know I can't change your life nor magically solve your problems (Although I would really like to be able to do that) but I do can promise to be here, as much as possible and as much as you need. I'm your friend and I'll always care about you. I deal my own battles every day and I know that talking helps. You are never alone here. I would like to be a writer someday, because books mean a lot to me. Everything I want is what I write to be special for someone, if I could make at least one (only one) person feel something by something I wrote, I would already feel realized. Writing has always come naturally to me. It's who I am. As a kid, I would always grab a pencil and write, instead of drawing. I would always make stories up in my mind to tell other people. I would always write too much, speak too much, and take too long to tell an anecdote. I was born a storyteller. At the moment, I just do it for fun and for myself or my close ones.Anything else you would like to know about me, feel free to message me and ask, I'm pretty much an open book! and will love to get to know eachother more. Right now I have a very tight schedule, and I get aroun 5-10 new chats daily. Therefor my status is mostly offline because I can't take many more chats. I'm mainly working with scheduled chats only. If you need immediate help, I would recommend reaching to someone in the browse listeners page! My responses can take 2-3 days - but I'm always listening! I joined 7Cups in August 2014. A month later, September 23th, I became a Teen Star, and it was an honor to be able to do that which such an awesome group of people. After some time I started focusing mostly on quality projects so I became a Teen Star Leader for Quality. I turned 18 in 2016, meaning it was my time to transistor to the adult (oldies) side. I'm a Mentor now (Adult & Teen). At the moment, I'm a forum, community, chatroom and quality (adult & teen) mentor. I'm a teen mentor leader as well, a Community Mentor Leader for the Teen Only Zone category and a Forum Ambassador, focusing on the development and activity of our teen members. I'm also a Chatroom Ambassador. Right now my main involvement are the subcommunities and the forums and I've always focused the most on supporting the teen side of the site that was where I started.So really if you are around here and have any question or need someone to chat or you are a new listener and want a long term mentor to cheer on you and be happy for all your success - I'm your gal. Mentor projects I'm involved with right now for you to reference:- Forum Ambassador: Forum Support/Mentor applications, Forum Meetings, Forum PAs.      Sign up for a buddy here! Would you like to be involved in our forums? Apply to be a forum supporter! - Chatroom Ambassador: Chatroom Mentor/Star applications, Chat Support applications. Listener Discussions. Issues with LS/TL- Community Mentor Leader (Teen Only Zone).     We're always looking for new teens to take part of your subcommunity! We also launched our own support team, so you're more than invited to join us in our sessions!- Grading Active Listening (AL) 3 & 4 requests and giving out feedback! Giving AL2 badges.    We try to get your requests graded as soon as possible (and we have a great team for that!) but please give us 4-5 days to a week to grade (specially if you're on your internship!) as we have a great amount of requests sent in daily.I'm a doorkeeper so I can open/close rooms. Feel free to message me if you need someone to open a room for you, to approve a discussion or edit/mod a forum post!Much love, Mel. 
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1815
Argentina

Power

Epitome 19
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
"Be the change you wish to see in the world"Time is the most valuable commodityI contribute to these Quality Projects★ Peer Support Project / Training★ Welcoming Team: I have personally provided resources and welcomed 6,680 New Listeners to the 7 Cups Community★ 7 Cups Ambassador ★ 7 Cups Internship Program★ Community Mentor Leader ★ Chatroom Mentor ★ Quality Mentor ★ Forum Mentor ★ Doorkeeper.
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6214
United States

Anomalia

Exemplar 8
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
New job at work has me traveling more, plus life events mean that I'll be away a bit more over time.  Trying to keep on top of PMs, but apologies if my responses are delayed! My availability varies based on work meetings, but generally I can schedule one hour live chat appointments Monday-Thursday during the day (10am-6pm Eastern) and will try to respond to messages within 24-48 hours, with slower times on weekends as I do not typically log in here Friday-Sunday much.  -------------------------------------------------------------------------  Hi all, I'm glad you've found my profile here! I truly love to listen and help others, and am particularly versed in eating disorders, work stress, and sexual assault, though happy to discuss anything, including sexual issues / sexuality. If you feel like you could use some extra support or help working through a problem, please reach out! You can start a chat with me if I'm online or to message me if I'm not and we can set up a time. I'm in the US in Central Time and somewhat flexible during the day Monday-Thursday. I'm hard to catch sometimes, so plan to set up an appointment with me.  I'm also open to messaging back and forth not live, but more frequently, if that's preferable for you. If you see me in the forums, you'll know I have a few favorite quotes around recovery and strength that I throw around all the time, so I'll share them here, too. "You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think" "Never forget you are worth more than the value you place on yourself." "Every day might not be a good day but there is good in every day." Much love to all, Anomalia
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6252
United States

Aayla

Connoisseur 4
Listens to Over 18
in last week
Hi! I'm here because I believe everyone matters, and everyone deserves to be listened and supported. So if you need to talk, I'm here! 
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1141
Italy

AddictedTealover98

Maven 3
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
Due to my busy schedule i’m unavailable to take 1-1 chats so if you are seeking support, please find and connect with a listener here!🔸Unfortunately I DO NOT take any kinds of sexual (orientation or topics), suicidal, or self harm chat requests.🔸🔻Read before clicking to chat with me!🔻"Life's like a cup of Tea, it's all in how you make it"📍 MY LISTENING STYLE 📍GMT+8 / UTC+8 / EST+12 timezoneMy chat lasts 30-45 minutes and I'm generally around during Monday - Thursday 5AM to 9AM ET with breaks in between. My status is rarely online now but you can still pm me. But please allow me to reply back within 3-7 days. If I'm already chatting with you please feel free to send me a message! If i don't reply you for over a week, please know that my chat logs are many so it may have been lost in it, feel free to pm me back if i missed you!My style is mostly messaging back and forth through out the day(s) since i have no set schedule. If we were to be online on the same time, in that time I’ll totally focus on you, to listen and support you, yet I can't provide you any advice. If we speak and you appreciate our conversation, I appreciate it if please let me know in a review!Chinese and Malay is my native language with English but I'm not as fluent as others. I'm sorry in advance if it sounds awkward or if i said wrong, please correct me on this if i do so as im willing to learn more. Feel free to message me if you would like to chat in these languages. I am Proficient in English, with Chinese and Malay as a secondary language and a minor in Japanese.🔆 USEFUL RESOURCES 🔆If you are having suicial thoughts, Please click www.imalive.org or www.befrienders.org to seek for support.  If you are self-harming, or any crisis situation Please click www.imalive.org or www.suicide.org to seek for support.  If you are suffering abuse, Please click www.rainn.org or safehelpline.org to seek for support. If you are seeking support on COVID-19, you can find 7Cups resource page here🔹ABOUT ME 🔹Hi! I'm glad you've found me on 7 Cups of Tea. I'm an active and verified listener and I love to listen to your story! I'll try my best to help you out in anything you want to talk to me with! For Listeners, I'm also here to hear you out as a peer supporter or casual chat! So don't hesistate to pm me 💖I'm Tea, and I'm in my 20s, she/her pronouns, single and i dont have much experience with relationships. Currently pursuing my bachelor degree in Architecture. I don't have any real friend in my life and had conflicts over the years because I'm just different in whatever i try but I still stand strong until now. I had suffered from social anxiety, anxiety, overthinking, loneliness, slight depression, bullying and minor eating disorders throughout my life, though I've never been officially diagnosed. I would dwell on it too but i would just want to believe i can do it despite the odds. My family members has been a great support for me and I would love to be able to help others in the same way they have helped me. My listener twins: If I'm not on and you need urgent chat, you can find them as well. ​They're wonderful! : @HelloWorld29 and @meltingstonesFUN FACT: Im “The Mediator” (INFP-T) personality and a HUGE anime/manga fan. Read more on my Feed here🔺 MY ROLES HERE ON 7CUPS 🔺✿ Adult-Teen Listener (ATL)  ✿ Adult Quality Mentor  ✿ Community Mentor Leader for Student & Career Support  ✿ DoorKeeper ✿ Forum Supporter for YPOC ✿ Global Group Mod   ✿ Internship Mentor ✿ Internship Graduate (with Honors)  ✿ Listener Verifier Team ✿ Needs Reply Team ✿ Peer Supporter/Peer Support Buddy ✿ Q&A Team ✿ Safety Patroller ✿ SPOT Team ✿ Translator [Chinese & Malay] Last Edited on 24 May 2020 
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478
Malaysia

amiablePeace77

Exemplar 2
Listens to Over 18
in last week
SORRY BUT I AM NOT TAKING ANY  CHATS 1:1 AT THE MOMENT OTHER THAN THE REGULAR ONES Hello,  I’m  Ami,  a verified listener on 7cups. My support will be confidential, without any judgement. There are no topics which make me feel uncomfortable and I will do everything I can to make you feel welcome, safe and understood. My listening times are  Monday to Friday  2 to 4 pm edt , usually my listening time will be 45 to 60 min. once a week or 2 x 30 min. twice a week. Apart from my work as listener I am actively supporting the mindfulness community, 50plus and 35plusSome things about me: Exercising,  yoga and meditation,  nature walks,  cooking are some of the activities I like a lot, most of all humour – having a good laugh. My approach to life is holistic,  balance of mind,  body and spirit as well as living in harmony with nature  are very important to me. I had many challenges in my life and learned to cope and overcome them and would be glad to support you to achieve the same.  Volunteering here on 7 cups  means a lot to be,   I am very passionate about helping others. I want to acknowledge the courage that it takes to reach out, this is not easy, but you made the first step. Please feel free to message me any time, I promise I will get back to you as soon as I can.   My mentor is Soulsings My listener-twins are AlexMercer22 and Saifelhak74                                  
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1819
Barbados

pamharley003

Genius 13
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
** ******************* currently not taking new members ************************ *********************  Will not take any chats with sex of any nature  I am sorry ***********                            Please go to browse Listener for someone who will. Please understand.  ********************* I do take chat after 6 P.m. ( Eastern Time only ) ************ ********************* I do not take chats on Sunday ( self care day )***************  Adult and Teen Listener I am  a long term listener and a verfied listener on 7 cups. I also have the door keeper badge. Chat's I do take: Anxiety BipolarBorderline (BPD) BreakupsBullying Chronic Pain Depression Diabetes Disabilities Domestic Violence Eating Disorders Exercise MotivationFamily Stress Financial Stress Forgiveness General Mental Health Getting Unstuck Grief LonelinessManaging Emotions Panic AttacksParenting PTSD/Trauma Relationship Stress Self-Esteem Sleeping Social Anxiety Spirituality Student Life Weight Management Work Stress *** I will repsond back to Your PM'S when I return online ****                                                                      
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1030
United States
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Lisa De Regt

LisaDeRegtMBPsS
Counselor, BSc Psychology (Honours)
Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.
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Western Cape
South Africa

Tazzie

Pinnacle 7
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
7 Cups Ambassador 🔺 Community Mentor Leader 🔺 Help Wanted Project Leader 🔺 Adult & Teen - Chatroom and Quality Mentor 🔺 Forum Mentor 🔺Teen Transitioning Mentor
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880
United States

CaringBrit

Exemplar
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
**IMPORTANT PLEASE READ THE BELOW INFORMATION BEFORE MESSAGING IF YOUR A MEMBER for chats please see my catagories what topics i can cant do & Listener if wanting mentoring/mock chats to get verified/or mentoring mocks** id prefer SCHEDULED chats only you can use the book now at bottom of bio if you cant see this pm me and ill give you the link for it .since im super busy with my other roles . Thankyou For understandingAbout me Hey all my names Brit. I’ve been a listener for 4 years almost 5 .I'm a verified ATL too I'll only take chats for one hour slots at a time if you need regular we will set up a time and date after every chat i take Always accepting long term members .Teams I’m OnPeer supporter this is for the listeners who get rough chats we also can support the Mentors in answering any questions you may have ​​​​Peer Supporter BuddyGroup ModeratorSupport teams : Disability Support , Self Harm and TraumaVL team- Project Agent for VL (1-1 trainings and member checkins )Chat Support i can give ongoing chat support if you are Stuck in a chat also able to give basic mentoring------ if you cant find a chat support in LSR you can use this link to fill a form in to request one Chat Support formQuality Mentor Leader for VL Track - Adult Coordinator -here are some VL Links you wish to become verified here's how - How to become a Verified Listener & Ask Me Anything about VL!DJ Of 7CupsQ&A approval team (Answers and editing answers)ATL (Adult Teen ListenerForum Mentor DisabilityForum Mentor for Trauma SubcomForum Supporter Self HarmSafety Patrol Team checking profiles follow guidelines My Listener Twins are : MagicallySmiles50 , PalmTreesNRainbows, BeckyisHere ( bunny twinny) and RumpleSteeleSkin Please click below on the book now if you wish to book a chat with meClick HERE to book me if you cant see the above button
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1219
United Kingdom

Willofheart

Marvel 12
Listens to Over 18
in last week
On a semi self care break :)
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2904
India

jennysunrise8

Pinnacle 2
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
Hi my name is jenny and i am an adult and teen listener here im in my 40s have been married for 27 years and have three children who are all adults now - I really do enjoy talking to people of all ages who are dealing with a lot of different situations i just ask that you know what you want to talk about and not just message me and then ask me what i want to talk about - although i am fine with casual conversation you should take the lead and you can take all the time you need when it comes to saying whats on your mind im ok with waiting i do not expect quick replies or expect every question i ask to be answered - If im in online mode you can always expect an immediate response and live chat (any listener on green should be responding to you immediately) and if im in offline mode i might not be able to have a live chat right away but just leave a message and i will respond when i can ... also don't ever be afraid to tell me how you feel ! misunderstandings and hurt feelings can happen very quickly and easily with text only communication and its never my intention so just let me know if your upset so we can find a solution  I have many different interests and am open to talking about almost anything however above all else i value communication and honesty between people and will let you know right away if its a topic that I cant support you with but am open to talking about almost anything and very interested in and try to practice mindfulness - I absolutely believe that the way to change your reality and take control of your life is to think about and then question your thoughts  the producers of all emotions and behavior our misery or happiness and ultimately our life there is nothing more important to our well being than to become aware of and to take control over our thoughts although i know very well that for some of us this is a bigger challenge than for others but we cant give up and allow our thoughts to control and prevent us from having the life that we all deserve   If your feeling stuck in your life right now I would love to help you to identify and move past the internal and external blocks that keep you from moving forward we can all choose to do something different at any time outside of the established habits and routines that we have created for ourselves you choose when and how but change is definately possible its never too late and you can do it ! so if that is something that you are interested in working on it is definately something that i am interested in helping you with - we carry the possibility of change with us everywhere all the time and also the power to make it happen there is nothing more life changing than becoming aware of your thoughts and actions and having hope so don't give up your life can get better or if you just want to vent about something going on in your life you can do that also but just let me know what your intentions and expectations are and if you become upset by anything I'm doing please just let me know  how do you perceive things?  https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AGvGQSazaTMincrease dopamine levels naturally  https://bit.ly/2rBH4fEfind free mental health services  https://bit.ly/2KpgZKQfree depression workbook  https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Depressionstart getting control over your thoughts today  http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/abcde.htm  overcome your defeatist mindset  https://bit.ly/2RQg2Aido you feel like your life is out of control? instead of trying to control food or other things that are harmful to you here are some better things that you can control right now  https://bit.ly/2G2N1dB  7cups series on managing thoughts and emotions  https://bit.ly/2Bdx00dovercome your panic attacks  http://bit.ly/2SQoUXk  http://bit.ly/2E3BeZIfree course a life of happiness and fulfillment  https://www.coursera.org/learn/happiness7 simple habits that will change your life Simplify/Give/Meditate/Follow the wise/Accept Mindfulness as a way of life/Embrace change/Live in the Moment  https://bit.ly/35mjLc78 tips for overcoming social anxiety  https://www.mentalfloss.com/article/565957/tips-for-overcoming-social-anxiety-disorder If you are serious about committing suicide i am so glad that you are interested in talking to someone but you need to be aware that 7cups is not a place for crisis counseling but in the US 24/7 you can call 1-800-273-8255 (in UK call 116 123) a trained crisis counselor can talk to you who can help much more than i can also see the free 24/7 online chat or text sites below that are staffed with trained crisis counselors who you can talk to and if this is an emergency please call 911 or the emergency number for your country as 7cups listeners are not able to directly connect you with any emergency servicesif your having suicidal thoughts please read > https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/articles/360026242213-Non-Crisis-Suicidal-ThoughtsCrisis Text Line: Text CONNECT to 741741 - Specialized crisis counselors are just a text message away on this free, confidential 24-hour support line. To further protect your privacy, these messages do not appear on a phone bill. The text line also provides services and support if you are upset, scared, hurt, frustrated, or distressed.24/7 online chat with trained crisis counselors  IMAlive you can chat online with crisis counselors http://www.imalive.org   and at Lifeline (give a US zip code to enter chat) http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/  (under 18) chat online https://www.childline.ie/   (Veterans or friends and family of veterans) chat online https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/   TrevorChat chat online https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/international online crisis chat  https://suicideprevention.wikia.org/wiki/Online(UK) call text or walk-in no referral  https://www.samaritans.org/branchesInternational and US state suicide hotlines  https://www.befrienders.org/if your not in crisis but would like to talk with someone on the phone you can call a warmline     http://warmline.orgdomestic abuse resources  https://www.thehotline.org/ http://queenbeeing.com/get-help-domestic-violence-emergency-resources/(under 18) https://www.childline.ie/   A lot of great articles and resources on this amazing website Lifehack  https://bit.ly/2J75bK2   Using interrogative self talk instead of positive affirmations that you do not believe  https://bit.ly/2JmHwIP Overcome your fears and enjoy life  https://bit.ly/2hyF02o      3 ways to keep fear from controlling your life and stealing your future  https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/236465 its OK not to be OK  https://bit.ly/2JoNsjt   Progressive Muscle Relaxation  https://youtu.be/f7I2Upk5jqI   https://youtu.be/ihO02wUzgkc         Interrogative self talk   https://bit.ly/2J120rn  https://bit.ly/2kBpl40            How to break a habit hack the habit loop  https://bit.ly/2AnhrE9      How to deal with negative self talk  https://youtu.be/h5iZ6ntDlHk                                                  Systematic Desensitization to get rid of triggers that cause anxiety and panic attacks  http://bit.ly/2yUhPbg  https://www.psychologynoteshq.com/systematicdesensitization/  The absolutely best website entirely devoted to SD with free resources and a free book and so much informationhttp://web.csulb.edu/~tstevens/Desensit.htm                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               Activities and distractions to ride out the urge to self harm (or to distract yourself from any intrusive thoughts)   https://bit.ly/2QrUusi... and more activities and distractions to deal with the urge to self harm (based on why you self harm so some self awareness is needed here)  http://becausewecandothistogetherTIP skills for self harm urges or intense anger  https://liberomagazine.com/depression/coping-self-harm-urges/TIP has been proven to be a highly effective method in helping people who self harm in a variety of ways it works by suddenly altering your physical state and this very quickly changes your emotional state using temperature, intense exercize, paced breathing and progressive muscle relaxation  T  Temperature. Have you heard of the mammalian dive reflex? Try leaning over a sink or surface and then placing cold water, ice or a cold pack over the temples, eyes and upper nose region for ~30 seconds. This divelike stance then triggers a reflex that occurs in nature when mammals submerge in cold water. Think back to the last time you dove into a cold pool at the start of summer – you may recall the sensation of slowly cutting through the water with your arms, and a feeling of slowed time as you drifted up toward the surface. As we dive face first into cold water, our heart rate slows and our breathing regulates as the body prepares to conserve energy for survival. We have engaged our parasympathetic nervous system and experience a calming effect.  So next time you feel highly activated, distressed, upset, angry think “T for temperature” and try running cold water on your forearms, taking a hot or cold shower, chewing on ice or just holding an ice cube in your hand.  When we briefly change our temperature, we ground ourselves. I   Intense exercise brief bursts of exercise can be helpful in the grounding process. Think of this process as ‘using up’ some of the energy that may be fueling high-energy emotions like anger or anxiety. When in a low-energy state (e.g. feeling, down, depressed, lethargic) getting the heart rate up will invigorate the individual.  It’s important to note that exercise can be a highly sensitive issue for those who struggle with eating disorders.  If you’re at a place in your treatment where you need to limit exercise, it would make more sense to try the T or P and P skills. P   Paced breathing allows us to activate our parasympathetic nervous system as we regulate and slow our breath. With paced breathing we breathe deeply into our lungs and diaphragm. As we slow the pace of our in-breaths and out-breaths, we may achieve 5-6 thoughtful breaths per minute.  Some people refer to deep breathing as “having a pill in your pocket.” In other words, breathing is a highly accessible skill – available to you at all times no matter where you are – and one that can be very effective to calm and steady you when emotion is riding high. ​​​​​​P  Progressive Muscle Relaxation is paired with paced breathing.  With paced breathing we tense and relax muscle groups throughout the body to promote a relaxing effect. If you are feeling extreme emotion, you may try mindfully tensing all of your muscle groups at once and then dropping your weight back into the ground or into your chair. As you travel from head to toe engaging all of your muscle groups or one area at a time, pay close attention to the sensationshttps://columbuspark.com/2018/04/23/easily-accessible-effective-tip-distress-tolerance-skills/     Techniques and tips that therapists use to help people deal with intrusive thoughts (including memories)Allow the thought to happen   Intrusive thoughts become more distressing the more we try to make them stop. The act of trying to stop them actually makes them more readily available in our brains and thus they are likely to return. Allowing the thought to happen allows it to run its course and as distressing as it may be it will come and it will go. Using self-talk to coach your way through the process is key. "Here is the thought I’m not going to focus on it, I’m going to let it pass." This can help that thought carry less weight. Find yourself a mantra  This can be a word or a phrase it doesn't matter what it is as long as it resonates with you.  When you start to feel/hear that onset of intrusive thoughts repeat it to yourself in your head. The idea is to redirect from those negative thoughts by putting something positive and repetitive on top directing your attention. Remind yourself that they are just thoughts  Thoughts themselves don't have any power.  By remembering that a thought itself cannot hurt you, you are more likely to let the thought exist without altering your behavior.  Intrusive thoughts are distressing because you believe them. Remember, just because you think it, doesn't mean it's true. It's totally natural to have these kinds of thoughts, but remember that these thoughts come from the past and have yet to prove that they represent the truth today we need evidence before we believe what other people tell us and we should do the same with our thoughts. Imagine that the intrusive thought is a thing or person or animal  It can be anything a bird or insect (that you can visualize swatting away or spraying!) a grey cloud or maybe a tiny cartoon character (and you can visualize the thought from the cartoon character in a cartoon bubble) Perhaps it's a 5 year old kid in the backseat nagging for your attention or a little green blob or a little Donald Trump having a tantrum you can try different things even if it's silly separating yourself from it can be incredibly powerful. Say thanks  Can you imagine how different it might be if you say "Yes brain, that's nice - but I'm not interested in that now" vs "Go away I'm so sick of you!"  Pretty different huh? So "talk" to the thoughts:  'I see you thought, you are OK, I love you, but I'm not listening to you." This technique shows both self-love and compassion for the way your brain works. Love and compassion can be critical to mitigating tough feelings of distress. Refocus  Perhaps a crossword or something to fidget with or even just something that smells nice! Try to engage mentally in something else intrusive thoughts often come to us when our brains are quiet, or when they are over-taxed and stressed. When there is nothing going on or too much going on the intrusive thoughts are triggered. By finding an activity that fully engulfs our concentration, the thoughts often move to the background. Music, movies, a conversation with someone, a sport, hobby, or activity can engage our brain in something else. Refocusing can be quite calming and even potentially healing.Grounding and mindfulness exercises  After acknowledging the thought's presence, spend 5 minutes noticing things in the room. By exploring things around the room like you've never seen them before, describing their color, texture, shadows exc. you are keeping your mind in the present moment and making it more difficult to get carried away by the intrusive thought. Anytime you notice the thought has taken you away, simply ​​return to noticing the room. sight sound taste touch the more senses the better.  Be kind to yourself - It does take time  forgive yourself for having intrusive thoughts and for not being able to get rid of them. If anything, that fuels fear and anxiety, and makes everything worse. The sooner we can accept that that's how your brain is wired for now, the faster you can work on building more grounded wisdom.30 grounding techniques to quiet the mind  https://www.healthline.com/health/grounding-techniques7cups discussion on managing negative internal dialogue  https://bit.ly/2HOwCLl7cups discussion on dealing with panic attacks  https://bit.ly/2MomF978 hour talk down with gentle rain sounds   https://youtu.be/4i53B-y_i2oPTSD nightmares why they exist and the best treatments  https://www.verywellhealth.com/the-causes-and-treatment-of-ptsd-nightmares-3014688https://youtu.be/ySL3NllIhfAalways on 24/7 youtube livestreams of relaxing sounds  the first link is light instrumental music and the second one is calming ambient bineural beat music both have changing water nature scenes for sleep study redirection or meditation   https://youtu.be/63GF7qbr34U   https://youtu.be/4qtD8RmvWn0< breathe in - breathe out >  count up to your favorite number with each breath and then do it again you can also repeat a mantra for breath in and one for breath out focus your mind on breathing counting and repeating  free sleep well guidebook you can download https://www.dropbox.com/s/bn9h4n0kcqrupma/Sleep-Guide-Verywell.pdf?dl=0 We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us.  Virginia Satir  The arrogance of believing that today, that at this moment in time, we’re so perfectly correct in our beliefs that we can silence all disagreement, prevent any heretic from calling our gods false, is absurd ... It’s not that people haven’t believed they were finally so enlightened that there couldn’t possibly be any errors in their judgments, anything new to learn, any mistakes to correct. People have always believed that. And they’ve always been wrong. That’s why we still need heretics, not because they’re necessarily right but because they aren’t necessarily wrong.   Scott Greenfield When Ira Glasser Ran The ACLU                        just a place for me to put 7cups quotes that i really like :D will be adding to this as i come across comments in the forums if its here it does not mean that i take one position or another on any issue but only that i think that these words could also apply to different situations or are universally true making them genuine quotes and the wording i admire as being simple perfect and poetic also if anyone wants me to remove anything here if its your comment but dislike it here or see something you think id like just message me We have a system that devastates some of the people we most wish to support and at the same time barely inconveniences the people we most wish to exclude.   RarelyCharlie  I'm angry because I'm scared. I'm​ scared of disappointing you. I'm scared because you always told me that my reputation was the most important thing, and what people think of me is more important than how I feel about myself. I'm angry because when I express that something you do upsets me, you mock me for it, and twist it so I'm the one hurting you. I'm angry because what if I'm actually the problem? If I could just be a better child would you stop? I want to feel like I'm worth more than just how good I am.   ohlemone  https://bit.ly/2Sdt7msMaybe it's important the conversations happened in public fashion. It is scary and hard. Yes. But all the private avenues weren't working. Our leaders and friends who cared so much were literally being forced out and then ultimately eliminated. At least now we know why. If I hadn't been told, and everyone just was gone, I would have felt even worse then I do now. I would have thought, wow, they abandoned and didn't care after all.    KLM3278  https://bit.ly/2NWQwTQThe punishment of people for expressing genuine concerns. The failure to acknowledge why people may ‘bite' at certain comments. There should be understanding, not punishment. There should not be one person at the top beating everyone else with a big stick when all we have to defend ourselves is words and even then those words are often cut or misinterpreted.   DeborahUK  https://bit.ly/2NWQwTQWords do nothing. Actions do. Things can be discussed until the cows come home, but what matters is what's actually done and most of the time, what's talked about vs. what's actually done are two completely different things, I think people forget that a lot.   Torremp  https://bit.ly/2NWQwTQI always feel sad and I always remember how things were and how things are now... I just can’t accept that things changed so dramatically in just a few months. Im hurt and confused, I’m not sure who to trust anymore. I don’t know if you all understand how hard it is. I want to give it a chance but it’s so difficult to do so. I’m afraid I’m gonna lose more people and I’m afraid of connecting again... This isn’t just talking to somebody for me, this is having an emotional connection. That’s how it is for me and imagine when you lose the person you are emotionally attached, imagine how that wouldmake you feel. Feel the pain I feel not because I wanna hurt you but I wanna show you how much it hurts.   sensitiveShade5337   https://bit.ly/2x1FOFt I know you are all trying to pick up the pieces but I can’t stand by and watch people I love be replaced by new people I don’t know or who have never been apart of this community before. This was a family, it was a safe place for so many people, and now it’s been destroyed and I don’t want to be apart of this new thing ... My heart hurts so bad. I had a safe place, I was healing, I was doing better, and growing up, I had a support network on here of people who knew me, understood me, knew how I functioned and loved me. And it’s all been ripped away from me. And im never ever gonna get that back. I can’t stress just how much that hurts right now.   WaterLily16  https://bit.ly/2NzjMTH Everyone is working on putting together the pieces of their own puzzle. Recovery is a journey that takes time. It involves finding out a lot of information about yourself through a process of self discovery.  It's important to never compare your recovery journey to someone else's path. No two people ever have the same puzzle design. Some people have a 25 piece puzzle set and some have one of those 10,000 piece sets but each person's story & struggle is valid ... Sometimes you have to step back from the individual pieces and look at the bigger picture of what could be and sometimes you focus on one small piece at a time. This can help you get unstuck. It may feel like forever but every matching puzzle piece makes a big difference over time!   summertimeSamness  https://bit.ly/2CAM0cFAlthough I’m getting along and all appeared to be going well on the outside, I’m really masking my emotions and feelings masking my own pain about feeling somewhat imprisoned. In fact, when I’m faced with a fearful situation, I try to hide my emotions behind a brave front and to smile while inside I’m really crying... There’s a painful contradiction between what’s in my head my mind and the facade I adopt for the rest of the world   M2nc4s https://bit.ly/2Ge0IX9  Maybe the grieving process is tied in with change and acceptance as well... finding what you have control over vs what cannot be changed. I struggle particularly with this part, but I'm trying to tell myself that I have to reach some level of acceptance of the things I cannot change and are beyond my control. Try to bend with the wind. I believe even considering the idea of acceptance is something that must feel natural and good to a person, even if we might still feel sadness with it.    NoneTheWiser  https://bit.ly/2x1FOFtYou said that you're hoping you'll see your expectations but are getting disappointed - could you share more of what those expectations are so that we can try?   Anomalia  https://bit.ly/2OiSXk8Im struggling with the word compliment mostly because I don’t feel there’s anything to compliment with respect to me. But because self compassion is a goal I’ll try to give myself credit just for the fact I’m still fighting irregardless of how dark and hopeless things feel right now. I’m holding on to hope as if it’s my only lifeline.   ArianaMay  https://bit.ly/2OiSXk8Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s unbecoming everything that isn’t you so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.   resourcefulMagic51  https://bit.ly/2QtYypfIf you want to help people, then help people. If nurses punched walls and complained every time they got disrespected or aggressed, hospitals would be empty. Have you had 10 chats, and 6 were bad? Learn to see them coming, cut it short, and focus on the 4 chats that were genuine   Blaze  https://bit.ly/2CZ30pMSomething just took me here I don't know what this is but like am I supposed to ask for help? cause I don't really talk much/do well with taking advice lol idk why I'm here I'm so tired holy shoot (can I swear here? idk so let's put shoot)    liamlemons  https://bit.ly/2D6HHD5You're a part of that community and your voice always matters. Never be afraid to offer suggestions or feedback or discuss your concerns ... You'll never know how much impact you're going to make and how much enlightenment you can give once you speak up. Don't belittle that inner fire burning in your belly.   Erato  https://bit.ly/2S215uYThere's a stereotype around here somewhere. Curiously, it's a stereotype about curiosity. It is this: As we get older, we become less curious. I think it makes sense. I'm no longer as inquisitive as I was when I was younger, and not everything has to explained - although some things still do! I've been thinking that a potential reason is because of school and exams especially the latter. Exams kind of condition you to believe in one answer, and often you're given no explanation save for 'It just is' ... But it just is what?   Imogene  https://bit.ly/2WCEUdFI have come to the realization that the biggest gap between two people is misunderstanding. Often focus is on how others may or may not feel and or think about us (which is bizzare really as how do we even truely know we aren't them and can't at all control it) Energy and time is put into trying to influence or prove ourselves and how we are judged. Perhaps instead we need to spend more time ensuring our intentions are actually being expressed in such way as best to clearly portray whats desired. Don't compromise yourself as it is enough for those who are enough for you.   tomwillow  https://bit.ly/2SFAhRKAt some time I would like to stop being a negativist... Every time someone creates something there are a whole bunch just wanting to destroy it out of envy or just for being mean (like writing graffity on a newly painted house just to "s...t" on the man's work) and there are critics... What I have learned about critics in life is that when they are not able to create themselves they become critics of other's creations without any justification. Sometimes their criticism helps the creators, most of the time its just a pest to them... I would like to remember the times when I used to be a creator and not a critic... to do and not to be a negativist... Yet nothing is simple in life and nothing easy... I will not have my toy workshop but someone somewhere in the world will do it...  feelitinyourbones  https://bit.ly/2VHFkzm Staring outside the window, I see many things - many beautiful things. I see the way the wind dances with the trees and the flowers swirl around in freedom. I see how the sky is so blue and the way children tumble around on the green grass. Their laughs echo through the air, reaching to everyone with happiness. But, why do these never reach me? The wind stops and the air becomes stagnant. It's hard to breathe. Everything becomes blurry through the tears. I'm living in a void. I'm living in complete emptiness. I sit here and the world around me passes by. Why can't I control this? Why can't I get up and be part of it? Why can't I dance with the trees and play with the children? I am paralysed with my own mind. I am stopped by the dark thoughts seeping in. I feel so empty. Maybe I am not living in a void. Maybe I am a void. Maybe my mind is.  Unknown
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