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ASilentObserver

Pinnacle 10
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
"You are always one decision away from a totally different life."Hello everyone, I'm known as Obs and I'm one of the members of the Community Management Team. Here are some resources in case you need them -  If you are unable to see any group support rooms, probably you would need to meet some requirements. Check them here!  Join us in various group discussions? check the community calendar for the schedule and details. Group Support Frequently Asked QuestionsWeekly CommunityMod & Rooms ScheduleA few steps of growth as a listener If you are a listener and need some Chat Support, check this resource Please feel free to PM me with any questions or doubts regarding our community and roles. I am here with you to help with the best of my efforts while we keep building our community better each day with team efforts. I am unable to take chat requests right now as I am unable to respond timely. I request you to connect with other available listeners here-  Browse Listeners. We all are here with you to listen and support. Do not say, "I am having a bad day." Say, "I am having a character-building day." - Les BrownHave a wonderful day and thanks for stopping by!!
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2759
India

IcyLight

Guru 12
Listens to Over 18
in last week
Currently not accepting chats.​​​​
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548
Solomon Islands

kindSoul10

Marvel 14
Listens to Over 18
in last week
[ I'm on a self-care break, I'll be back. Please reach out to other team leaders. In case of doubt, ask mentors. ] < Sorry, I can not take 1-1 chats for the moment. Feel free to message me but I do not promise to answer to chat requests. >You've got a heart as loud as lions So why let your voice be tamed? Maybe we're a little different There's no need to be ashamed There's no need to be afraid I will sing with you  Hello! I'm glad you found me. I'm a trained active listener and a peer supporter. I'm happy to listen and help people who want me to. Feel free to contact me.
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1644
Austria

Gracey

Exemplar 5
Listens to Teens &amp; Over 18
in last week
I am currently not taking any new personal requests from members! Thank you for your understanding! Listeners - Please feel free to send me a message anytime and i will reply as soon as possible!----------------------------------------------------------------Hello, my name is Grace (cis female -she/her) 👩 and I am a 24 year old tea loving ☕ cat mum 🐈  and a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community! I'm glad you've found me on 7 Cups!  I have been on 7 Cups as a listener, on and off for nearly 6 yearsListener Twins - @Karrot @Jem7cups  @asthebeesaysRoles here on 7cups - - Adult teen listener  - Teen chatroom mentor/mod - Teen chat support - Quality mentor leader - SPOT - Profile flagging team - Safety Patrol  - SPOT team & safety patrol trainer - Peer supporter for listeners----------------------------------------------------------------Everyone who visits my profile is accepted and will not be judged, this is a safe space for everyone ❤❋ LGBTQ+ and questioning friendly ❋ ABDL / TBDL friendly ❋ DID / Dissociation and mental health friendly ❋ Autism / ASD / learning disabilities / disability / learning difficulty friendly ----------------------------------------------------------------❋ I am passionate about helping to make sure that no-one ever feels like they have no-one to turn to❋ I understand the importance of having a safe and nonjudgmental environment to talk in ❋ I am compassionate, understanding and very open minded therefore nothing shocks me - so don't suffer in silence ----------------------------------------------------------------Personal request - I will do my best to accomodate personal requests so feel free to send me a message if you would like to chat - I will only chat for a maximum of 60 minutes at a time to make sure my focus is solely on you! Advice - Please be aware I will not offer you any advice on your situation or tell you what you should do. Instead I will listen to you with understanding and support you to open up about how you are feeling in a safe and supportive environment.Listening style - My listening style is not for everyone, I prefer to leave the majority of the talking to you while I prompt the conversation. I will not lecture, give long responses or provide a lot of feedback - this is to allow more time for you to speak and be heard. My aim is not to improve your situation or make you feel better, but just to be with you through whatever it is you are going through or experiencing. I will do my very best to adjust to suit you as an individual. ----------------------------------------------------------------  
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2256
United Kingdom

BabyPingu

Epitome 14
Listens to Teens &amp; Over 18
in last week
Hello I'm Pingu. Nice to meet you ^_^   
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1619
United Kingdom

Mel

Paragon 4
Listens to Teens &amp; Over 18
in last week
I am not taking new chats through personal requests, please message someone else through the Browse Listeners page. Thank you! Mentor projects I'm involved with right now for you to reference:- Forum Ambassador: Forum Supporter, Forum Mentor, Forum Mentor Leader and Forum Key applications, Forum Meetings, Flag queue and overseeing modified Forum content. Would you like to be involved in our forums? Apply to be a forum supporter! - Chatroom Ambassador: Chatroom Mentor, Teen Chatroom Mentor and Teen Chatroom Star applications, Chat Support training, Listener Learning team (Listener Discussions), Listener Room Review form.- Community Mentor Leader for Teen Only Zone subcommunity. We're always looking for new teens to take part of your subcommunity! Come join in! - Active Listening (AL) 2, 3 & 4.  Grading, badges and feedback. We try to get your requests graded as soon as possible (and we have a great team for that!) but please be mindful that we grade these manually and we have a great amount of requests sent in daily. You can check the updates threads of each test.I'm a doorkeeper so I can open/close rooms per request. Feel free to message me at any time. ---------------------------------------------Thanks for stumbling into my profile :) It's very nice to see you! I'm Mel and I'm a young girl from Buenos Aires, Argentina. I'm a college student majoring in physics. In the future I would love to work in a laboratory studying neuroscience and illnesses regarding the human brain! I work as a support teacher for young kids mostly. I love teaching and explaining things - I think everybody deserves their chance at understanding a difficult matter, even if they need more time for it than someone else would.  I'm not much of a talker as a listener. I feel like it's very important that every single person out there has someone to rely on and be there for them. I want you to feel like you can tell me anything on your mind, feel heard, understood and never judged. That's what I aim for. I know I can't change your life nor magically solve your problems (Although I would really like to be able to do that) but I do can promise to be here, as much as possible and as much as you need. I'm your friend and I'll always care about you. I deal my own battles every day and I know that talking helps. You are never alone here. I would like to be a writer someday, because books mean a lot to me. Everything I want is what I write to be special for someone, if I could make at least one (only one) person feel something by something I wrote, I would already feel realized. Writing has always come naturally to me. It's who I am. As a kid, I would always grab a pencil and write, instead of drawing. I would always make stories up in my mind to tell other people. I would always write too much, speak too much, and take too long to tell an anecdote. I was born a storyteller. At the moment, I just do it for fun and for myself or my close ones.Anything else you would like to know about me, feel free to message me and ask, I'm pretty much an open book! and will love to get to know eachother more. Right now I have a very tight schedule, and I get aroun 5-10 new chats daily. Therefor my status is mostly offline because I can't take many more chats. I'm mainly working with scheduled chats only. If you need immediate help, I would recommend reaching to someone in the browse listeners page! My responses can take 2-3 days! I joined 7Cups in August 2014. A month later, September 23th, I became a Teen Star, and it was an honor to be able to do that which such an awesome group of people. After some time I started focusing mostly on quality projects so I became a Teen Star Leader for Quality. I turned 18 in 2016, meaning it was my time to transistor to the adult (oldies) side. I'm a Mentor now (Adult & Teen). At the moment, I'm a forum, community, chatroom and quality (adult & teen) mentor. I'm a teen mentor leader as well, a Community Mentor Leader for the Teen Only Zone category and a Forum Ambassador, focusing on the development and activity of our teen members. I'm also a Chatroom Ambassador. Right now my main involvement are the subcommunities and the forums and I've always focused the most on supporting the teen side of the site that was where I started.So really if you are around here and have any question or need someone to chat or you are a new listener and want a long term mentor to cheer on you and be happy for all your success - I'm your gal. Much love, Mel. 
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1819
Argentina

Hope

Epitome
Listens to Teens &amp; Over 18
in last week
Community Manager at 7 CupsFocus: Forums | Internship | Sub-communities | Teens I am afraid I am no longer taking support requests/listening requests. If you are looking for a supportive listener, please find one here!  
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4545
United Arab Emirates

RarelyCharlie

Paragon 11
Listens to Teens &amp; Over 18
in last week
On a Break -- I am on a self-care break until early August. No live chats until then. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Feel free to message me, but I might not be able to respond quickly. In an emergency or a crisis: If you are in an emergency or a crisis—for example, if you are at immediate risk of suicide or other serious harm—7 Cups is not the right place, because we cannot deal with emergencies or provide crisis counselling. Click here for information about getting help: Get emergency or crisis support Miscellaneous resources: For some other resources, mainly for listeners, see my unofficial companion site: The 8th Cup Long term support: I don't make any formal arrangements for long term support, but I am happy to chat regularly over an extended period when that's helpful. Notebook: To follow what I'm up to, subscribe to Charlie's notebook Wuhan Warriers: I'm happy to support anyone in quarantine anywhere. See: Wuhan Warriers
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5357
United Kingdom

TaranWanderer

Veteran 4
Listens to Over 18
in last week
I am taking a break from live chats, so I may not be the listener for you right now! But we have many who are available, so I hope one of them could be of more assistance :) Hey there :) It's nice to meet you, you can call me Taran! A bit about me: ☆I try my best to be as non-judgemental as possible, as I believe all people are deserving of support equally. You have value and worth unconditionally. ☆I have a BA in psychology and a post-graduate certificate in Addictions and Mental Health - I am not a professional, but I am passionate about listening to and supporting people through whatever they may be facing.  ☆I'm comfortable discussing any topic. I may have less knowledge in some areas than others, but will always be willing to lend an open ear :) I am not easily offended or shocked, and chats are always focused on the member, not my personal feelings or opinions.  ☆LGBTQ2S+ positive space
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574
Canada

holly29

Sage 7
Listens to Teens &amp; Over 18
in last week
Not available for member chats at the moment. To find a listener who is available click here. 
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3160
United Kingdom

jennysunrise8

Pinnacle 2
Listens to Teens &amp; Over 18
in last week
Hi my name is jenny and i am an adult and teen listener here im in my 40s have been married for 27 years and have three children who are all adults now - I really do enjoy talking to people of all ages who are dealing with a lot of different situations i just ask that you know what you want to talk about and not just message me and then ask me what i want to talk about - although i am fine with casual conversation you should take the lead and you can take all the time you need when it comes to saying whats on your mind im ok with waiting i do not expect quick replies or expect every question i ask to be answered - If im in online mode you can always expect an immediate response and live chat (any listener on green should be responding to you immediately) and if im in offline mode i might not be able to have a live chat right away but just leave a message and i will respond when i can ... also don't ever be afraid to tell me how you feel ! misunderstandings and hurt feelings can happen very quickly and easily with text only communication and its never my intention so just let me know if your upset so we can find a solution  I have many different interests and am open to talking about almost anything however above all else i value communication and honesty between people and will let you know right away if its a topic that I cant support you with but am open to talking about almost anything and very interested in and try to practice mindfulness - I absolutely believe that the way to change your reality and take control of your life is to think about and then question your thoughts  the producers of all emotions and behavior our misery or happiness and ultimately our life there is nothing more important to our well being than to become aware of and to take control over our thoughts although i know very well that for some of us this is a bigger challenge than for others but we cant give up and allow our thoughts to control and prevent us from having the life that we all deserve   If your feeling stuck in your life right now I would love to help you to identify and move past the internal and external blocks that keep you from moving forward we can all choose to do something different at any time outside of the established habits and routines that we have created for ourselves you choose when and how but change is definately possible its never too late and you can do it ! so if that is something that you are interested in working on it is definately something that i am interested in helping you with - we carry the possibility of change with us everywhere all the time and also the power to make it happen there is nothing more life changing than becoming aware of your thoughts and actions and having hope so don't give up your life can get better or if you just want to vent about something going on in your life you can do that also but just let me know what your intentions and expectations are and if you become upset by anything I'm doing please just let me know  how do you perceive things?  https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AGvGQSazaTMincrease dopamine levels naturally  https://bit.ly/2rBH4fEfind free mental health services  https://bit.ly/2KpgZKQfree depression workbook  https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Depressionstart getting control over your thoughts today  http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/abcde.htm  overcome your defeatist mindset  https://bit.ly/2RQg2Aido you feel like your life is out of control? instead of trying to control food or other things that are harmful to you here are some better things that you can control right now  https://bit.ly/2G2N1dB  7cups series on managing thoughts and emotions  https://bit.ly/2Bdx00dovercome your panic attacks  http://bit.ly/2SQoUXk  http://bit.ly/2E3BeZIfree course a life of happiness and fulfillment  https://www.coursera.org/learn/happiness7 simple habits that will change your life Simplify/Give/Meditate/Follow the wise/Accept Mindfulness as a way of life/Embrace change/Live in the Moment  https://bit.ly/35mjLc78 tips for overcoming social anxiety  https://www.mentalfloss.com/article/565957/tips-for-overcoming-social-anxiety-disorder If you are serious about committing suicide i am so glad that you are interested in talking to someone but you need to be aware that 7cups is not a place for crisis counseling but in the US 24/7 you can call 1-800-273-8255 (in UK call 116 123) a trained crisis counselor can talk to you who can help much more than i can also see the free 24/7 online chat or text sites below that are staffed with trained crisis counselors who you can talk to and if this is an emergency please call 911 or the emergency number for your country as 7cups listeners are not able to directly connect you with any emergency servicesif your having suicidal thoughts please read > https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/articles/360026242213-Non-Crisis-Suicidal-ThoughtsCrisis Text Line: Text CONNECT to 741741 - Specialized crisis counselors are just a text message away on this free, confidential 24-hour support line. To further protect your privacy, these messages do not appear on a phone bill. The text line also provides services and support if you are upset, scared, hurt, frustrated, or distressed.24/7 online chat with trained crisis counselors  IMAlive you can chat online with crisis counselors http://www.imalive.org   and at Lifeline (give a US zip code to enter chat) http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/  (under 18) chat online https://www.childline.ie/   (Veterans or friends and family of veterans) chat online https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/   TrevorChat chat online https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/international online crisis chat  https://suicideprevention.wikia.org/wiki/Online(UK) call text or walk-in no referral  https://www.samaritans.org/branchesInternational and US state suicide hotlines  https://www.befrienders.org/if your not in crisis but would like to talk with someone on the phone you can call a warmline     http://warmline.orgdomestic abuse resources  https://www.thehotline.org/ http://queenbeeing.com/get-help-domestic-violence-emergency-resources/(under 18) https://www.childline.ie/   A lot of great articles and resources on this amazing website Lifehack  https://bit.ly/2J75bK2   Using interrogative self talk instead of positive affirmations that you do not believe  https://bit.ly/2JmHwIP Overcome your fears and enjoy life  https://bit.ly/2hyF02o      3 ways to keep fear from controlling your life and stealing your future  https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/236465 its OK not to be OK  https://bit.ly/2JoNsjt   Progressive Muscle Relaxation  https://youtu.be/f7I2Upk5jqI   https://youtu.be/ihO02wUzgkc         Interrogative self talk   https://bit.ly/2J120rn  https://bit.ly/2kBpl40            How to break a habit hack the habit loop  https://bit.ly/2AnhrE9      How to deal with negative self talk  https://youtu.be/h5iZ6ntDlHk                                                  Systematic Desensitization to get rid of triggers that cause anxiety and panic attacks  http://bit.ly/2yUhPbg  https://www.psychologynoteshq.com/systematicdesensitization/  The absolutely best website entirely devoted to SD with free resources and a free book and so much informationhttp://web.csulb.edu/~tstevens/Desensit.htm                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               Activities and distractions to ride out the urge to self harm (or to distract yourself from any intrusive thoughts)   https://bit.ly/2QrUusi... and more activities and distractions to deal with the urge to self harm (based on why you self harm so some self awareness is needed here)  http://becausewecandothistogetherTIP skills for self harm urges or intense anger  https://liberomagazine.com/depression/coping-self-harm-urges/TIP has been proven to be a highly effective method in helping people who self harm in a variety of ways it works by suddenly altering your physical state and this very quickly changes your emotional state using temperature, intense exercize, paced breathing and progressive muscle relaxation  T  Temperature. Have you heard of the mammalian dive reflex? Try leaning over a sink or surface and then placing cold water, ice or a cold pack over the temples, eyes and upper nose region for ~30 seconds. This divelike stance then triggers a reflex that occurs in nature when mammals submerge in cold water. Think back to the last time you dove into a cold pool at the start of summer – you may recall the sensation of slowly cutting through the water with your arms, and a feeling of slowed time as you drifted up toward the surface. As we dive face first into cold water, our heart rate slows and our breathing regulates as the body prepares to conserve energy for survival. We have engaged our parasympathetic nervous system and experience a calming effect.  So next time you feel highly activated, distressed, upset, angry think “T for temperature” and try running cold water on your forearms, taking a hot or cold shower, chewing on ice or just holding an ice cube in your hand.  When we briefly change our temperature, we ground ourselves. I   Intense exercise brief bursts of exercise can be helpful in the grounding process. Think of this process as ‘using up’ some of the energy that may be fueling high-energy emotions like anger or anxiety. When in a low-energy state (e.g. feeling, down, depressed, lethargic) getting the heart rate up will invigorate the individual.  It’s important to note that exercise can be a highly sensitive issue for those who struggle with eating disorders.  If you’re at a place in your treatment where you need to limit exercise, it would make more sense to try the T or P and P skills. P   Paced breathing allows us to activate our parasympathetic nervous system as we regulate and slow our breath. With paced breathing we breathe deeply into our lungs and diaphragm. As we slow the pace of our in-breaths and out-breaths, we may achieve 5-6 thoughtful breaths per minute.  Some people refer to deep breathing as “having a pill in your pocket.” In other words, breathing is a highly accessible skill – available to you at all times no matter where you are – and one that can be very effective to calm and steady you when emotion is riding high. ​​​​​​P  Progressive Muscle Relaxation is paired with paced breathing.  With paced breathing we tense and relax muscle groups throughout the body to promote a relaxing effect. If you are feeling extreme emotion, you may try mindfully tensing all of your muscle groups at once and then dropping your weight back into the ground or into your chair. As you travel from head to toe engaging all of your muscle groups or one area at a time, pay close attention to the sensationshttps://columbuspark.com/2018/04/23/easily-accessible-effective-tip-distress-tolerance-skills/     Techniques and tips that therapists use to help people deal with intrusive thoughts (including memories)Allow the thought to happen   Intrusive thoughts become more distressing the more we try to make them stop. The act of trying to stop them actually makes them more readily available in our brains and thus they are likely to return. Allowing the thought to happen allows it to run its course and as distressing as it may be it will come and it will go. Using self-talk to coach your way through the process is key. "Here is the thought I’m not going to focus on it, I’m going to let it pass." This can help that thought carry less weight. Find yourself a mantra  This can be a word or a phrase it doesn't matter what it is as long as it resonates with you.  When you start to feel/hear that onset of intrusive thoughts repeat it to yourself in your head. The idea is to redirect from those negative thoughts by putting something positive and repetitive on top directing your attention. Remind yourself that they are just thoughts  Thoughts themselves don't have any power.  By remembering that a thought itself cannot hurt you, you are more likely to let the thought exist without altering your behavior.  Intrusive thoughts are distressing because you believe them. Remember, just because you think it, doesn't mean it's true. It's totally natural to have these kinds of thoughts, but remember that these thoughts come from the past and have yet to prove that they represent the truth today we need evidence before we believe what other people tell us and we should do the same with our thoughts. Imagine that the intrusive thought is a thing or person or animal  It can be anything a bird or insect (that you can visualize swatting away or spraying!) a grey cloud or maybe a tiny cartoon character (and you can visualize the thought from the cartoon character in a cartoon bubble) Perhaps it's a 5 year old kid in the backseat nagging for your attention or a little green blob or a little Donald Trump having a tantrum you can try different things even if it's silly separating yourself from it can be incredibly powerful. Say thanks  Can you imagine how different it might be if you say "Yes brain, that's nice - but I'm not interested in that now" vs "Go away I'm so sick of you!"  Pretty different huh? So "talk" to the thoughts:  'I see you thought, you are OK, I love you, but I'm not listening to you." This technique shows both self-love and compassion for the way your brain works. Love and compassion can be critical to mitigating tough feelings of distress. Refocus  Perhaps a crossword or something to fidget with or even just something that smells nice! Try to engage mentally in something else intrusive thoughts often come to us when our brains are quiet, or when they are over-taxed and stressed. When there is nothing going on or too much going on the intrusive thoughts are triggered. By finding an activity that fully engulfs our concentration, the thoughts often move to the background. Music, movies, a conversation with someone, a sport, hobby, or activity can engage our brain in something else. Refocusing can be quite calming and even potentially healing.Grounding and mindfulness exercises  After acknowledging the thought's presence, spend 5 minutes noticing things in the room. By exploring things around the room like you've never seen them before, describing their color, texture, shadows exc. you are keeping your mind in the present moment and making it more difficult to get carried away by the intrusive thought. Anytime you notice the thought has taken you away, simply ​​return to noticing the room. sight sound taste touch the more senses the better.  Be kind to yourself - It does take time  forgive yourself for having intrusive thoughts and for not being able to get rid of them. If anything, that fuels fear and anxiety, and makes everything worse. The sooner we can accept that that's how your brain is wired for now, the faster you can work on building more grounded wisdom.30 grounding techniques to quiet the mind  https://www.healthline.com/health/grounding-techniques7cups discussion on managing negative internal dialogue  https://bit.ly/2HOwCLl7cups discussion on dealing with panic attacks  https://bit.ly/2MomF978 hour talk down with gentle rain sounds   https://youtu.be/4i53B-y_i2oPTSD nightmares why they exist and the best treatments  https://www.verywellhealth.com/the-causes-and-treatment-of-ptsd-nightmares-3014688https://youtu.be/ySL3NllIhfAalways on 24/7 youtube livestreams of relaxing sounds  the first link is light instrumental music and the second one is calming ambient bineural beat music both have changing water nature scenes for sleep study redirection or meditation   https://youtu.be/63GF7qbr34U   https://youtu.be/4qtD8RmvWn0< breathe in - breathe out >  count up to your favorite number with each breath and then do it again you can also repeat a mantra for breath in and one for breath out focus your mind on breathing counting and repeating  free sleep well guidebook you can download https://www.dropbox.com/s/bn9h4n0kcqrupma/Sleep-Guide-Verywell.pdf?dl=0 We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us.  Virginia Satir  The arrogance of believing that today, that at this moment in time, we’re so perfectly correct in our beliefs that we can silence all disagreement, prevent any heretic from calling our gods false, is absurd ... It’s not that people haven’t believed they were finally so enlightened that there couldn’t possibly be any errors in their judgments, anything new to learn, any mistakes to correct. People have always believed that. And they’ve always been wrong. That’s why we still need heretics, not because they’re necessarily right but because they aren’t necessarily wrong.   Scott Greenfield When Ira Glasser Ran The ACLU                        just a place for me to put 7cups quotes that i really like :D will be adding to this as i come across comments in the forums if its here it does not mean that i take one position or another on any issue but only that i think that these words could also apply to different situations or are universally true making them genuine quotes and the wording i admire as being simple perfect and poetic also if anyone wants me to remove anything here if its your comment but dislike it here or see something you think id like just message me We have a system that devastates some of the people we most wish to support and at the same time barely inconveniences the people we most wish to exclude.   RarelyCharlie  I'm angry because I'm scared. I'm​ scared of disappointing you. I'm scared because you always told me that my reputation was the most important thing, and what people think of me is more important than how I feel about myself. I'm angry because when I express that something you do upsets me, you mock me for it, and twist it so I'm the one hurting you. I'm angry because what if I'm actually the problem? If I could just be a better child would you stop? I want to feel like I'm worth more than just how good I am.   ohlemone  https://bit.ly/2Sdt7msMaybe it's important the conversations happened in public fashion. It is scary and hard. Yes. But all the private avenues weren't working. Our leaders and friends who cared so much were literally being forced out and then ultimately eliminated. At least now we know why. If I hadn't been told, and everyone just was gone, I would have felt even worse then I do now. I would have thought, wow, they abandoned and didn't care after all.    KLM3278  https://bit.ly/2NWQwTQThe punishment of people for expressing genuine concerns. The failure to acknowledge why people may ‘bite' at certain comments. There should be understanding, not punishment. There should not be one person at the top beating everyone else with a big stick when all we have to defend ourselves is words and even then those words are often cut or misinterpreted.   DeborahUK  https://bit.ly/2NWQwTQWords do nothing. Actions do. Things can be discussed until the cows come home, but what matters is what's actually done and most of the time, what's talked about vs. what's actually done are two completely different things, I think people forget that a lot.   Torremp  https://bit.ly/2NWQwTQI always feel sad and I always remember how things were and how things are now... I just can’t accept that things changed so dramatically in just a few months. Im hurt and confused, I’m not sure who to trust anymore. I don’t know if you all understand how hard it is. I want to give it a chance but it’s so difficult to do so. I’m afraid I’m gonna lose more people and I’m afraid of connecting again... This isn’t just talking to somebody for me, this is having an emotional connection. That’s how it is for me and imagine when you lose the person you are emotionally attached, imagine how that wouldmake you feel. Feel the pain I feel not because I wanna hurt you but I wanna show you how much it hurts.   sensitiveShade5337   https://bit.ly/2x1FOFt I know you are all trying to pick up the pieces but I can’t stand by and watch people I love be replaced by new people I don’t know or who have never been apart of this community before. This was a family, it was a safe place for so many people, and now it’s been destroyed and I don’t want to be apart of this new thing ... My heart hurts so bad. I had a safe place, I was healing, I was doing better, and growing up, I had a support network on here of people who knew me, understood me, knew how I functioned and loved me. And it’s all been ripped away from me. And im never ever gonna get that back. I can’t stress just how much that hurts right now.   WaterLily16  https://bit.ly/2NzjMTH Everyone is working on putting together the pieces of their own puzzle. Recovery is a journey that takes time. It involves finding out a lot of information about yourself through a process of self discovery.  It's important to never compare your recovery journey to someone else's path. No two people ever have the same puzzle design. Some people have a 25 piece puzzle set and some have one of those 10,000 piece sets but each person's story & struggle is valid ... Sometimes you have to step back from the individual pieces and look at the bigger picture of what could be and sometimes you focus on one small piece at a time. This can help you get unstuck. It may feel like forever but every matching puzzle piece makes a big difference over time!   summertimeSamness  https://bit.ly/2CAM0cFAlthough I’m getting along and all appeared to be going well on the outside, I’m really masking my emotions and feelings masking my own pain about feeling somewhat imprisoned. In fact, when I’m faced with a fearful situation, I try to hide my emotions behind a brave front and to smile while inside I’m really crying... There’s a painful contradiction between what’s in my head my mind and the facade I adopt for the rest of the world   M2nc4s https://bit.ly/2Ge0IX9  Maybe the grieving process is tied in with change and acceptance as well... finding what you have control over vs what cannot be changed. I struggle particularly with this part, but I'm trying to tell myself that I have to reach some level of acceptance of the things I cannot change and are beyond my control. Try to bend with the wind. I believe even considering the idea of acceptance is something that must feel natural and good to a person, even if we might still feel sadness with it.    NoneTheWiser  https://bit.ly/2x1FOFtYou said that you're hoping you'll see your expectations but are getting disappointed - could you share more of what those expectations are so that we can try?   Anomalia  https://bit.ly/2OiSXk8Im struggling with the word compliment mostly because I don’t feel there’s anything to compliment with respect to me. But because self compassion is a goal I’ll try to give myself credit just for the fact I’m still fighting irregardless of how dark and hopeless things feel right now. I’m holding on to hope as if it’s my only lifeline.   ArianaMay  https://bit.ly/2OiSXk8Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s unbecoming everything that isn’t you so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.   resourcefulMagic51  https://bit.ly/2QtYypfIf you want to help people, then help people. If nurses punched walls and complained every time they got disrespected or aggressed, hospitals would be empty. Have you had 10 chats, and 6 were bad? Learn to see them coming, cut it short, and focus on the 4 chats that were genuine   Blaze  https://bit.ly/2CZ30pMSomething just took me here I don't know what this is but like am I supposed to ask for help? cause I don't really talk much/do well with taking advice lol idk why I'm here I'm so tired holy shoot (can I swear here? idk so let's put shoot)    liamlemons  https://bit.ly/2D6HHD5You're a part of that community and your voice always matters. Never be afraid to offer suggestions or feedback or discuss your concerns ... You'll never know how much impact you're going to make and how much enlightenment you can give once you speak up. Don't belittle that inner fire burning in your belly.   Erato  https://bit.ly/2S215uYThere's a stereotype around here somewhere. Curiously, it's a stereotype about curiosity. It is this: As we get older, we become less curious. I think it makes sense. I'm no longer as inquisitive as I was when I was younger, and not everything has to explained - although some things still do! I've been thinking that a potential reason is because of school and exams especially the latter. Exams kind of condition you to believe in one answer, and often you're given no explanation save for 'It just is' ... But it just is what?   Imogene  https://bit.ly/2WCEUdFI have come to the realization that the biggest gap between two people is misunderstanding. Often focus is on how others may or may not feel and or think about us (which is bizzare really as how do we even truely know we aren't them and can't at all control it) Energy and time is put into trying to influence or prove ourselves and how we are judged. Perhaps instead we need to spend more time ensuring our intentions are actually being expressed in such way as best to clearly portray whats desired. Don't compromise yourself as it is enough for those who are enough for you.   tomwillow  https://bit.ly/2SFAhRKAt some time I would like to stop being a negativist... Every time someone creates something there are a whole bunch just wanting to destroy it out of envy or just for being mean (like writing graffity on a newly painted house just to "s...t" on the man's work) and there are critics... What I have learned about critics in life is that when they are not able to create themselves they become critics of other's creations without any justification. Sometimes their criticism helps the creators, most of the time its just a pest to them... I would like to remember the times when I used to be a creator and not a critic... to do and not to be a negativist... Yet nothing is simple in life and nothing easy... I will not have my toy workshop but someone somewhere in the world will do it...  feelitinyourbones  https://bit.ly/2VHFkzm Staring outside the window, I see many things - many beautiful things. I see the way the wind dances with the trees and the flowers swirl around in freedom. I see how the sky is so blue and the way children tumble around on the green grass. Their laughs echo through the air, reaching to everyone with happiness. But, why do these never reach me? The wind stops and the air becomes stagnant. It's hard to breathe. Everything becomes blurry through the tears. I'm living in a void. I'm living in complete emptiness. I sit here and the world around me passes by. Why can't I control this? Why can't I get up and be part of it? Why can't I dance with the trees and play with the children? I am paralysed with my own mind. I am stopped by the dark thoughts seeping in. I feel so empty. Maybe I am not living in a void. Maybe I am a void. Maybe my mind is.  Unknown
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Not taking member chats at this time "You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think."- Winnie The Pooh I believe that all people need something to do, something to aspire to, and someone to love. I believe that angels walk among us, because God is a really busy person-solving lack of world peace, world hunger, etc.  He sends angels to us even in human form to help the cause.  Look for them...now, look harder. I believe what you seek, you shall find. I believe that we all have something to learn from anyone and everyone that we meet. I believe that happiness is a journey and not a destination. I believe that kindness matters, always. Oh well, that's just me.  I BELIEVE.  Enough about me, how about if we talk about you? Roles on 7 cups Trained Active Listener Verified Active Listener Global Forum Supporter Peer Supporter Safety Patrol Team 7 Cups Welcome Committee Listener twin @LuLuRings Eyes to the ground. Head bowed. Love in my heart. If we could only just think....."Ideologies separate us. Dreams and anguish bring us together". - Eugene Ionesco . Please let us all be kind to ourselves and to one another.   
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