𓇢𓆸♡ Hi, I'm Rose🌹. ♡ (^=˃ᆺ˂) 𓇢𓆸
♡🌹 If you are around the Sharing Circles, and you see someone doing a fantastic job of hosting, please nominate them here for Hosting Hero. Please don’t nominate me, as I just got “Hosting Shero” Sunday, February 25, 2024. It’s an award I will always treasure, and in fact, I’m printing it out to place on the wall so I can look at it. The award is thanks to You! Thanks to everyone who nominated me!
Here's the link to the nomination form next time you notice anyone here hosting well! https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/MemberSharingCircles_2109/HostingHeros_324437/ [https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/MemberSharingCircles_2109/HostingHeros_324437/]
♡🌹Conversations are limited to no more than 30 minutes for each chat. You can leave me messages in between chats and I will check back with you. All conversations are held in strictest confidence!
Please send me a few options of times that work for you and let me know time zone so we can chat synchronously.
World Clock and Time Converter: https://www.worldtimebuddy.com/
Alternatively, we can have asynchronous chats, where you leave a message and then when I get to your message, I will leave a message for you, and we can have a conversation that way. This is actually how I prefer to chat since my schedule is kind of wonky these days.
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My Fantastic Listener Twin: Mindful Journey22
My Awesome and Amazing Member Twin: Geminieyss4unz
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♡🌹CRISIS:
7 cups Listeners do not have the training or back up to support you properly if you are in Crisis. In other words, your Crisis is worthy of better help than I can provide at this time.
If you are currently in a crisis situation where you or another in your environment are at risk of being harmed, Please log off 7 cups and please go here to one of these links. https://7cups.com/crisis
Find a helpline has international listings and categories for all types of crisis. It is the best link I have found in my experiences as a Crisis Counselor (not on 7 cups) for International Links. Please note that some crisis lines have hours (eg., 9-4 business hours— the hours are listed on this site if they are available) and some do not accept calls from outside the country, though many do. This resource is maintained by a very reputable organization and if I were in crisis, I would go here first. https://findahelpline.com [https://findahelpline.com/]
Here are some other alternatives:
International Suicide hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html
Suicide crisis lines are listed here by country. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines
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Here are a few additional sites for help:
https://Mentalhealth.com
https://Crisiscenter.com
https://988lifeline.org
FREE or LOW COST THERAPY:
Mental Health America is website that offers information and resources to support and find help for a friend or loved one: https://bit.ly/MHA3res
Now Matters Now is a website that offers support for coping with thoughts of suicide through teaching DBT skills, videos, and personal stories: bit.ly/NMN_ref [http://bit.ly/NMN_ref]
Open Counseling is a website that provides a directory of local and affordable counseling. They also have virtual options: http://bit.ly/OC_ref
OPC is a directory of low-cost options for in person & online therapy; the site has a one-time lifetime membership fee or services https://openpathcollective.org
Rise Above the Disorder connects people with local mental health providers and subsidizes costs for those who can't afford it. https://bit.ly/yrad_r
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HELP WITH FOOD, HOUSING (USA)
If you may need help with food, housing, or immediate needs, this website has a list of organizations in the USA organized by zip code. http://findhelp.org [http://findhelp.org/]
WARMLINES
For a list of warmlines (not crisis lines, but lines where you can talk with someone) by state in the USA, please consult: https://warmline.org/warmdir.html#directory
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You can usually find me in Adult Member Sharing Circles, 8-9 a.m. EST Wednesdays and Fridays. You may also find me picking up on-the-spot Facilitation from time to time. Adult Member Sharing Circles are my very favorite place on 7 cups. From time to time, on Mondays, I will facilitate a Gratitude Circle in the Positivity Room, 8-9 a.m. EST.
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Alfred Sisley Rose from my garden for you: https://imgur.com/a/Qokpnyn
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If you’re a new Member and you’re looking for the hub of all the info on what to do, here you go!
♡ 🌹Here is the New Member Welcome Pack, a Google Doc that explains how to connect with listeners, how to use our group chat rooms and forum, and a few other things like safety and reporting: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CL9Yu_6zixlapOjdrhCgKLy9JN5wY3HWdrGH7PIO2WI [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CL9Yu_6zixlapOjdrhCgKLy9JN5wY3HWdrGH7PIO2WI]
Help link:
https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/requests/new [https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/requests/new]
Self-Help Guides
https://www.7cups.com/supportGuides/selfHelpGuides.php
Guide to Managing Family Stress
https://www.7cups.com/family-stress/
Mindfulness Guides: https://www.7cups.com/exercises/mindfulness/
Listener Primer
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1nXShObboR646WnkXOdY1FwmCXyYbmPwii3ZtRGqwFhk/edit?hl=en&forcehl=1# [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1nXShObboR646WnkXOdY1FwmCXyYbmPwii3ZtRGqwFhk/edit?hl=en&forcehl=1]
Censor updates form:
Censor Updates [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScOYDIsgeWmqr4e5hKpTFZ_TC7CnG7OB1DV6mhocHx1kWYWzQ/viewform]
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When Einstein gave lectures at U.S. universities, the question students asked him most was: Do you believe in God? And he always answered: I believe in the God of Spinoza.
Baruch de Spinoza was a Dutch philosopher considered one of the great rationalists of 17th century philosophy, along with Descartes.
According to Spinoza, God would say: “Stop praying. I want you to go out into the world and enjoy your life. I want you to sing, have fun and enjoy everything I've made for you.
“Stop going into those dark, cold temples that you built yourself and saying they are my house. My house is in the mountains, in the woods, rivers, lakes, beaches. That's where I live and there I express my love for you.
“Stop blaming me for your miserable life; I never told you there was anything wrong with you or that you were a sinner, or that your sexuality was a bad thing. Sex is a gift I have given you and with which you can express your love, your ecstasy, your joy. So don't blame me for everything that others made you believe.
“Stop reading alleged sacred scriptures that have nothing to do with me. If you can't read me in a sunrise, in a landscape, in the look of your friends, in your son's eyes—you will find me in no book!
“Stop asking me, ‘Will you tell me how to do my job?’ Stop being so scared of me. I do not judge you or criticize you, nor get angry or bothered. I am pure love.
“Stop asking for forgiveness, there's nothing to forgive. If I made you, I filled you with passions, limitations, pleasures, feelings, needs, inconsistencies, and best of all, free will. Why would I blame you if you respond to something I put in you? How could I punish you for being the way you are, if I'm the one who made you? Do you think I could create a place to burn all my children who behave badly for the rest of eternity? What kind of god would do that?
“Respect your peers, and don't give what you don't want for yourself. All I ask is that you pay attention in your life—alertness is your guide.
“My beloved, this life is not a test, not a step on the way, not a rehearsal, not a prelude to paradise. This life is the only thing here and now—and it is all you need.
“I have set you absolutely free, no prizes or punishments, no sins or virtues, no one carries a marker, no one keeps a record.
You are absolutely free to create in your life. It’s you who creates heaven or hell.
“Live as if there is nothing beyond this life, as if this is your only chance to enjoy, to love, to exist. Then you will have enjoyed the opportunity I gave you. And if there is an afterlife, rest assured that I won't ask if you behaved right or wrong, I'll ask, ‘Did you like it? Did you have fun? What did you enjoy the most? What did you learn?’
“Stop believing in me; believing is assuming, guessing, imagining. I don't want you to believe in me, I want you to believe in you. I want you to feel me in you when you kiss your beloved, when you tuck in your little girl, when you caress your dog, when you bathe in the sea.
“Stop praising me. What kind of egomaniac God do you think I am? I'm bored with being praised. I'm tired of being thanked. Feeling grateful? Prove it by taking care of yourself, your health, your relationships, the world. Express your joy! That's the way to praise me.
“Stop complicating things and repeating as a parrot what you've been taught about me. Why do you need more miracles? So many explanations?
“The only thing for sure is that you are here, that you are alive, that this world is full of wonders.”
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John Roedel (author):
“Me: Hey God.
God: Hello.
Me: I'm falling apart. Can you put me back together?
God: I would rather not. Me: Why?
God: Because you aren't a puzzle.
Me: What about all of the pieces of my life that are falling down onto the ground? God: Let them stay there for a while. They fell off for a reason. Take some time and decide if you need any of those pieces back.
Me: You don't understand! I'm breaking down!
God: No - you don't understand. You are breaking through. What you are feeling are just growing pains. You are shedding the things and the people in your life that are holding you back. You aren't falling apart. You are falling into place. Relax. Take some deep breaths and allow those things you don't need anymore to fall off of you. Quit holding onto the pieces that don't fit you anymore. Let them fall off. Let them go.
Me: Once I start doing that, what will be left of me?
God: Only the very best pieces of you.
Me: I'm scared of changing.
God: I keep telling you - You Aren't Changing!! You Are Becoming!
Me: Becoming who?
God: Becoming who I created you to be! A person of light and love and charity and hope and courage and joy and mercy and grace and compassion. I made you for more than the shallow pieces you have decided to adorn yourself with that you cling to with such greed and fear. Let those things fall off of you. I love you! Don't change! ... Become! Become! Become who I made you to be. I'm going to keep telling you this until you remember it.
Me: There goes another piece.
God: Yep. Let it be.
Me: So ... I'm not broken?
God: Of course not! - but you are breaking like the dawn. It's a new day. Become!!!”
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(Stop, breathe, think how wonderful you are.)
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Here are some links to some Mindfulness Exercises on 7 cups: https://www.7cups.com/exercises/mindfulness/?showlist=1
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Here’s a resource should you be at loose ends how to start a difficult conversation with someone. Seize the awkward gives tips for starting those conversations, while taking care of yourself at the same time. https://seizetheawkward.org/
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Free confidential support from a helpline/hotline near you - online chat text or phone (international just put in your country) https://findahelpline.com/
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Tiny Habits free program here on 7cups to easily add new habits into your life https://tinyhabits.com/program/ sign up for a tiny habits coach https://bjfogg.typeform.com/to/QXc0WJ
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Free procrastination workbook and self-help modules https://bit.ly/2GOcU3e
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ProgressiveMuscleRelaxation https://youtu.be/f7I2Upk5jqI * https://youtu.be/ihO02wUzgkc
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Systematic Desensitization to reduce triggers that cause panic attacks or phobias http://bit.ly/2yUhPbg
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Great website everything related to Self Desensitization and free ebook http://web.csulb.edu/~tstevens/Desensit.htm
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Visuals that help with breathing during panic attacks https://dailyburn.com/life/lifestyle/stressed-gifs-breathing-exercises/
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7cups discussion on dealing with panic attacks https://bit.ly/2MomF97
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7cups discussion on reframing negative thoughts https://bit.ly/2OnBaxv
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30 grounding techniques to quiet the mind https://www.healthline.com/health/grounding-techniques
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7cups discussion on managing negative internal dialogue https://bit.ly/2HOwCLl
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Relaxing piano music and water sounds: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l6J0ylYTO4s
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To send a cuddle to anyone on 7 cups click here:
https://rarelycharlie.github.io/cuddle
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♡🌹𓇢𓆸Sharing Circles
𓇢𓆸I'm a Believer in Sharing Circles because of their storied origin from the councils of Indigenous Peoples during which a "talking stick" would be handed around the circle to listen to each person's views. The purpose there was for each individual voice to contribute to collective decisions for the benefit of the group.
𓇢𓆸I believe that in sharing our personal wisdom, support and validation, the group as a whole is enriched greatly and balance and equality are created and respected.
𓇢𓆸Each voice gets the chance to be heard, and in turn, each person develops their own voice.
𓇢𓆸By listening to each voice and incorporating each of our personal wisdom, we can integrate the insights and lived experience of others into our own mentality and coping mechanisms, and become better able to manage the stresses of modern society.
𓇢𓆸Trying a new approach, or seeing something from another perspective, sometimes gives the fresh air necessary to breathe on old thinking and rustle it up to give energy for movement and growth.
𓇢𓆸We also can learn new vocabulary to describe our emotions and become more emotionally literate. For some of us, learning the vocabulary of the heart is a big journey.
𓇢𓆸Much personal growth can be attained when up to 7 minutes of focused sharing time is applied consistently and regularly towards internal sorting, and when the same person who is sharing is also learning to support others.
𓇢𓆸The cohesion of the Sharing Circle group can lend a feeling of community strength that may not be possible individually.
𓇢𓆸This link is about the origin of Sharing Circles within the groups of Indigenous Peoples:
https://ravenspeaks.ca/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/Sharing_Circle_Instructions_SECONDARY.pdf
𓇢𓆸Here's an article about Sharing Circles and the possibility for restorative justice through them:
https://passthefeather.ca/sharing-circles/?v=e4b09f3f8402
𓇢𓆸Finally, there are some strong theoretical principles from group therapy that are taught through groups like the Sharing Circle. Please read here for more information about the therapeutic forces at work within group therapy. https://pmhealthnp.com/stages-and-yaloms-therapeutic-forces/
𓇢𓆸 More about Yalom's Group Factors: (1970) https://www.cpsp.pitt.edu/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/3-IXB2-Yalom-Group-Therapy-Methods.pdf
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"When you wonder whether or not your life will ever be changed, if you will ever be changed into My image, remember this. Our Father is using in your life the same power that He used to raise Me from the dead. This Resurrection Power is what will allow the old you to die off and the new you to be reborn into my likeness. Trust Him to complete what He has begun." (Eph 1:19)
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♡🌹Advice for Strangers on:
Life: The only thing predictable about Life, is that Life is Unpredictable. Grasp Life firmly, Ride the Waves, Hang on Tight for the Ride. Peace is worth working for with your Whole Life. We can all co-exist and share. Let’s do this. Prayer is under-rated in its Power to soothe, heal and calm the stresses of Everyday.
Love: Love Big. Love Always. The more Love you Deliver, you will receive Three-fold and more. The Universe is basically composed of Love actualized into a material form. Love Little. Love with small gestures of kindness. Wipe the dishes. Take care of the trash. Wash someone’s feet, with their permission of course. Give your loved one a back rub. Do something nice without expecting them to notice. God notices.
Finance: Be frugal. Live simply within your means. Laugh often. Share. Don’t let money or the lack thereof stand in between you and your Splendid Dreams. Money is simply a construct and a tool. Money will come your way once you open the flow within yourself to receive the abundance that is waiting for you. Help People.
Education: Attain the very highest degree you can. Strive! A degree is something no one can ever take away from you. Your knowledge and skills are woven into your very essence. You will learn how to think without being attached to your thoughts. Rich discussions ensue. Life is more fun. The whole of the World awaits you.
From Calm Rosebud for Benitta’s book.
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“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”
William Hutchinson Murray
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“Years ago, anthropologist Margaret Mead was asked by a student what she considered to be the first sign of civilization in a culture. The student expected Mead to talk about fishhooks or clay pots or grinding stones.
"But no. Mead said that the first sign of civilization in an ancient culture was a femur (thighbone) that had been broken and then healed. Mead explained that in the animal kingdom, if you break your leg, you die. You cannot run from danger, get to the river for a drink or hunt for food. You are meat for prowling beasts. No animal survives a broken leg long enough for the bone to heal.
"A broken femur that has healed is evidence that someone has taken time to stay with the one who fell, has bound up the wound, has carried the person to safety and has tended the person through recovery. Helping someone else through difficulty is where civilization starts, Mead said.
"We are at our best when we serve others.”
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Mother Teresa's Anyway Poem
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered; Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God; It was never between you and them anyway.
[Reportedly inscribed on the wall of Mother Teresa's children's home in Calcutta, and attributed to her. However, an article in the New York Times [http://www.nytimes.com/2002/03/08/arts/08MAXI.html] has since reported (March 8, 2002) that the original version of this poem was written by Kent M. Keith [http://www.paradoxicalcommandments.com/index.html].]
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♡ Love and (^=˃ᆺ˂) Courage, 𓇢𓆸 Rose 🌹
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