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KristenHR
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Number of ratings163 Number of reviews103 Listens toTeens & Over 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceMay 24, 2014 Last activein last week GenderFemale PathStep 1,054 People helped138 Chats4,254 Group support chats458 Listener group chats353 Forum posts2,063 Forum upvotes3,633
Bio

If you request a chat, you'll need to state your purpose.  I ONLY take chats from those working on recovery from eating disorders and trauma (with PTSD & Dissociation) and those making decision on college and careers.   I am not available to chat real-time any longer, but we can message back and forth. 

I spend most of my support time in the Eating Disorder community due to my time limitations of committing to long-term chats.  https://www.7cups.com/forum/eds/. 

I love life.  I enjoy helping.  My focus is recovery from abuse and sexual trauma, eating disorders and dissociation.  I have interests in university internships and career development. 

I am a Christian and that gives me strength. If you are wanting faith-based support, please let me know. I know that for some individuals, Christians have been very hurtful. If you are not a Christian, I'm not here to judge or impose my spiritual beliefs - I'm here to listen. I will not talk to you about God unless you ask to talk about faith.  I do not take theological chats.

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IMy involvement with 7 Cups:

Listener - Eating Disorders, Trauma, PTSD, Dissociation, Careers & College (Including internships)

Project Agent - Safety Team

Forum Mentor - Eating Disorder Community

Group Mentor - Eating Disorder Community






Recent forum posts
Supporters for the Eating Disorder Community Wanted
Eating Disorder Support / by KristenHR
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Join in and Help our Eating Disorder Community! We are in need of regular members and listeners who wish to commit regular time to supporting our community.  There is a need for Forum Supporters, Room Supporters and Moderators.  Here are descriptions of the roles and what is needed for each role as well as how to apply.  Please let me know if you are interested in joining our community team in any of these roles or have additional questions about these volunteer opportunities. ------------------------- Forum Supporter Role Description: A forum supporter is a leader who focuses on 1-3 communities and maintains engagement in the forums by posting and replying to threads with compassion and support. Requirements for members: 25+ forum upvotes 25+ forum posts Make 10+ forum posts per month Taken the Member Oath [https://www.7cups.com/forum/Welcome_27/7CupsofTeaMissionCoreValues_207/MemberOathAllEncouragedtoParticipate_7447/1/] Requirements for listeners: Verified Listener 25+ forum upvotes 25+ forum posts Make 10+ forum posts per month Taken the Listener Community Guide [https://www.7cups.com/listener-community-guide/] & Listener Oath [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ChatResources_61/ListenerOath_117/1/] Click here [https://forms.gle/fbgWYJRPZ4fVfvtV7] to apply! ------------------------- Room Supporter (Members) Role Description: A member leader who creates the desired environment they feel comfortable in and make the room more welcoming for both members and listeners. Responsibilities: To take part in community building with members, listener room supporters, and moderators of the room. To create a kind, compassionate, and supportive environment in group support To support members in the room through active listening skills adjusted for a group support setting To communicate with the rest of the support team To offer feedback and suggestions to team leaders Requirements: Friendly Face Badge Been a member for at least 4 weeks Have completed the Compassion Course [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbuGsqFMbaKWtCoC1WHaCJfaKfwfI8YZ62CsqTI2BzqVNwDg/viewform] Click here [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform] to apply! ------------------------- Room Supporter (Listeners) Role Description: A room supporter is a listener who has been trained to support members in a group support setting and is integrated into the support team. Responsibilities: To take part in community building with members, listener room supporters, and moderators of the room. To create a kind, compassionate, and supportive environment in group support To support members in the room through active listening skills adjusted for a group support setting To communicate with the rest of the support team To offer feedback and suggestions to team leaders Responsibilities: Listener in the community for 4+ weeks 1 written review + star rating of at least 3 Be willing to send at least 50+ messages per month in your chosen group support room Click here [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform] to apply!
**Eating Disorder Check-ins** Month of April 2024
Eating Disorder Support / by KristenHR
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more April is here tomorrow.  As the graphic says, Do Recovery at your pace.  You know your needs. ------------------------- Check in with us this month and keep us updated on how you are doing and what you would need.  Let your voice be heard.
Friends & Family - How to Respond
Eating Disorder Support / by KristenHR
Last post
 March 6th
...See more How Friends & Family Can Respond Many times it's difficult to know how to respond to the person you know with an eating disorder.  There are things that we can say that help and things we can say that hinders and can really trigger someone.  Let's look at these factors on how to respond to someone with an eating disorder when we have concerns or we want to be supportive. What to Say to be Supportive * What is validating and encouraging for individuals to hear when they are struggling to eat or struggling to stop the binge or purge cycle? * What is validating for an individual who is struggling with an eating disorder when you see there is something to acknowledge is difficult or successful? * How can we be as supportive as possible for the individual who is struggling? It can be helpful to ask the individual how to support them best. Eating disorders obviously focus on food and for most, body image, but is much deeper than this.  Understanding what other issues are going on is important, as much as they are willing to discuss with you. What Not to Say * What would be triggering to an individual with an eating disorder that would perpetuate the eating disorder? * What comments are not meant to be hurtful but are hurtful to someone with an eating disorder? * How can making a statement about someone's body impact their eating disorder? It's important to know that telling someone that they have gained or lost weight as well as commenting on someone's body shape can be very triggering to someone with an eating disorder.  It's not just necessarily having difficulty with feelings, but can actually be taken as confirmation of their eating disorder behavior or that they need to increase their eating disorder behavior. Avoiding commenting on how much or little someone with an eating disorder is eating is important.  If they are under the care of a professional, they likely have a meal plan.  Unless you are part of their care team, you may not be privy to what their meal plan is and how much they are supposed to eat or what they are to eat and why at this time they should be eating.  If you are part of their care team, being aware of how to share encouragement or challenges if they aren't eating according to their meal plan. For those of you who have an eating disorder, please share what is helpful and not helpful to say.  Please share why it is or isn't helpful so that our loved ones can understand better about communicating concerns and help. What are your thoughts?
Recovery Plan
Eating Disorder Support / by KristenHR
Last post
 March 6th
...See more When realizing that you have an eating disorder, it's important to think about how to work on recovery.  That means looking at some things that are needed to start to get a handle on what you can, and getting help for what you need assistance for.  * What do you want with recovery?  What do you want to do when you are in recovery? * Who can you reach out to that is part of your support system?  This can be family, friends, physician, therapist, support group or others. * Where can you go to help you make good choices rather than using eating disorder behaviors?  Think about places that help you to feel safe, that are neutral places, and places where you wouldn't be alone. * What can you do to help you with distraction when you are feeling like acting on your eating disorder or behaviors?  These are things that you may enjoy, things that can keep your attention for a while, or things that help you to change your mood such as your favorite movie, a comic, or other things. * What are healthy coping skills you can utilize when you are feeling urges to give in to your eating disorder?  Examples are using distress tolerance skills, grounding skills when triggered, or what helps you when you are struggling. * What does your eating disorder voice typically tell you and what can you tell your eating disorder voice to counteract that? * What's one goal that you can work on toward your recovery this week? This is just a start of what you can put in a recovery plan, but there is so much more you can put in it.  Adding as many options and things as you can think of makes it more beneficial. If you want to share your thoughts here, that would be great, as it can help others who are thinking about their plan.
Eating Disorder Community Chats - 2024
Eating Disorder Support / by KristenHR
Last post
 February 16th
...See more Join us every other week for discussion chats this year. ------------------------- If you wish to be added or removed from the taglist, please go here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/eds/DiscussionsCheckins_1336/EatingDisorderSupportAutomatedTaglistNew_281025/]. @agreeableWest1354 @Catanaandmiagirl @courteousCar9137 @creativeDart @cyanPlatypus6370 @Deadtiredperson175 @dinomaskmaker1987 @dream88catcher @enlightenedDew4105 @eunicengg @friendlyEve3 @Georginahowe @GwydionRowan @Holly74 @koli @KristenHR @lxveyoongi @Michelh1996 @MinecraftMob @Ruby2468 @Rubylistens22 @sadcat13 @Suen00 @TheMadHatterWasHere @Warriorprincess47
Holiday Triggers & Relapse Risks
Eating Disorder Support / by KristenHR
Last post
 December 23rd, 2023
...See more As Hanukkah, Christmas, Boxing Day, Kwanzaa, and New Years days are upon us, we are surrounded with gatherings, activities and food.  This is a particularly difficult time in general if you have to spend time with people who may critical or toxic, or are opinionated about your eating or how much you eat. This is a time when it benefits to have someone who is supportive and understands about your eating disorder and the unique challenges you may have at this time of year who can help to ground you or even redirect conversations away from your eating or food to other topics. Maybe this is a time of loss and grief or difficult memories from trauma, which impacts your eating as well. How do you manage the triggers you experience at this time of the year?  What do you need to pay attention to with your risk of relapse with the progress you have made?  Some areas of relapse include: * Nutritional/weight/dietary * Behavioral * Emotional * Thoughts/Cognitions * Physical * Social/Relational/Interpersonal If you notice these as something you've been struggling with recently, what are some coping skills that you have or can pull back out that you've learned or has helped you in the past?  Some to consider: * Emotion Regulation * Distress Tolerance * Self-Care * Grounding * Mindfulness * CBT Skills * Humor * Gratitudes * Support system * Other things I'd love to hear your thoughts.
Safety Hunt: December 9th - 22nd - 2023
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by KristenHR
Last post
 December 24th, 2023
...See more Our Safety Team would love to have you join in on our Scavenger Hunt.  To help you review or learn more about safety of the site, where to find things and learn a little more about our communities and some recent announcements, we've prepared a Hunt for you.  You'll need to look around various parts of the site to find the various answers or links to come up with the correct responses to these questions. Dates are today, December 9th through December 22nd.  We'll award 10 cheers for every correct response you have to the hunt.   To participate, compete the following form.  Cheers and acknowledgement will be noted here after the 22nd. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4NzvhpiEtZMa2z3baEIK9lblqcYyLvfKPXZu46VY4cSmbMA/viewform?usp=sf_link Can't wait to see how you do!  Everyone is welcome - Not just the Safety Team! ------------------------- @EvelyneRose @Rebekah @tommy @positivePumpkin22 @AuRewolf @KristenHR @KindnessMatters2020 @Lunaire00 @LightsFromDark @iPHOENIX @Comphi @EmotionsListener @Dystopiatae95 @blissart @LittleBirdie30 @SolaceCares @SirenOfSerenity @Lou73 @Jenna @MistyMagic @fruityPond7887 @Star001 @Hamstermum @MelodyoftheOcean @AffyAvo @Sunisshiningandsoareyou @kindheartedlily @richuyulin @florablossom3319 @blissfulSky8162 @sereneMirage8103 @courageousDreamer8927 @Jiminycricket91 @kyan1 @Raspberrycheesecake @MattForHelp @radiantLight33 @TabbyCat97 @LandOfHopesx3 @Daf8 @Optimisticempath @coco128 @jundaee @pandanfe @Artalistens @Bunnylovesyou @WatermelonLover22 @Suryansh @SparkyGizmo @rubyjane00 @niamh333 @lovelyApple6441 @LOOPHOLE @azuladragon34 @Rui00 @Ralien @fantasticJet1739 @Grace3012 @Mahad2804 @HachiBee @LoveMyMoonflowers @OllieRNLI999
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Kristen is so kind hearted
Kristen is so caring and is great with my littles. I really appreciate our chats.
Super encouraging listener, knowledgable and helpful
Thank u so so much maam! Your words help me a lot!
Kristen is always so encouraging, talking to her is like someone hugging my soul.
Kristen is so helpful, her experience is very much appreciated.
Kristen is an amazing listener who never ceases to amaze me!
Validating and insightful listener
Very patient and affirming
Kristen is so wise and affirming, such a joy to talk to!
Thanks for your constant comforting support.
Helped me through some really painful trauma, I'm very grateful.
Kristen gave me space to reflect on and understand my derealisation triggers.
Stable rock solid listener on 7 cups.
Such a helpful listener
Thank you for years of support thru this platform. Speaks volumes of anyone willing to talk to me for this long. I appreciate all you've done for me from the bottom of my heart.
Always compassionate and sweet!
She's very caring and understanding such a beautiful soul!
Kristen is great and very understanding. Even when I didn't have a scheduled chat, she made a bit of time when it mattered.
Thoughtful and kind
Kristen encourages me to focus on putting myself first which is something I really struggle with.
Once again, you provided gentle and caring support while keeping things real. Thank you.
Very thoughtful and kind!
She is so great !! She helped me through a tough decision. She suggested me to do something about which I never thought . If anyone out here is stuck in student life issues , let me tell you she will be good for the guidance
Kristen is very knowledgable about trauma and eating disorders. She is a breath of fresh air!
Kristen is so supportive and helpful. I really appreciate the time she shares here.
Kristen has known me forever and is so encouraging and supportive. She helps me notice the progress I've made and encourages me for all the hard work I've put in!
Really caring & sweet.
So sweet and explains so well and maturely and is a great listener
Kristen is so helpful and knowledgable about trauma. She asks insightful questions and gently prompts me to open up. She is very encouraging and calm too.
Thank you for your wise and kind words
Very easy going and amazing at communication
Kristen has been my listener for over a year, possibly two. She has given me so much invaluable support and love, and I would not be who I am today without her. I am thankful for everything she has done for me.
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amazing listener
GREAT LISTENER!!!
Super Listener. Really good at bringing in new ideas I haven't thought of and great at encouraging when I feel low on hope or that recovery is too difficult.
so thankful for a great support, answered a lot of questions with great support and helped me make sense of things when I feel like I can't find any good solutions
Kind. Patient. Caring. Professional. I would highly recommend this listener!
Kristens the bests, kristens listens and talks the best. She bestests ever
Very helpful. Thank you so much
She brings much needed peace. Just so kind and calm.
Wonderful calming listener. Soothed the pain, let me talk without being judged even a little bit... I am so glad she was there... =)
KristenHR was a good match for me today. She was kind and sensitive. We will talk again. Hey 7cups! Here's a great listener - let's not lose her, okay? :)
This listener is just amazing ☺❤
Truly understands. Not afraid of the truth.
She is very professional really awsome listener. Thank you everything.
Kirsten is a lovely compassionate individual and I AM HAPPY to have met her.

You are amazing! Thanks!
Kristen has been absolutely wonderful. She always seems to understand you, and knows what to say. She's been an absolute godsend.
Very insightful and patient.
that was a good chat. helped cleared my thoughts
Kristen has been absolutely a god send. She's helped me alot thru some rough patches. She's very patient and always knows the right thing to say.
Kristen is so patient and incredibly supportive
Absolutely amazing listener. She really put me at ease and was so supportive. She asked all the right questions and I felt like she truly understood me. I felt like I could say anything. She was sooo professional! Highly recommend! Thankyou so so much x
I'm really surprised at how easy I found it to talk to Kristen. She is very patient and non judgemental . Thank you Kristen :)
Thank you for your insight, it helps knowing someone else has been down the same road. Nice to have someone to talk with, and to look up to.
Lovely and caring person who helps to gently guide you to the answers that are already inside you.
Having Kristen as a listener felt like having a mentor. She was someone I could confide in. It's nice having someone who will listen without judging you. She's a great listener and very encouraging. She also provided some spiritual guidance when I asked and it helped tremendously. She helped me get past a roadblock in my life and she can help you with whatever problems you may be facing, no matter how hopeless your situation seems you can share it with Kristen and feel safe. You may even gain a new pe
Thank you so much :)
Helped me through it
She was great c: Thanks for being there. It means alot
An amazing listener. Really understood me and how I was feeling.
KristenHR has endeavored to give me the best listening ear possible. I really appreciate her kindness
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She's nice.
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