Our Listener of the Week this week is Mana. She is a very dedicated Listener and has been with us since early August. Every Listener has a life outside of 7 Cups of Tea, and Mana is a self-proclaimed Foodophile and a Shopaholic! She is a new resident of California so a great deal of her time is spent learning about Northern California and exploring as much as she can about her new home.
Mana has many talents, one of which is writing poetry. She wrote 3 poems for us inspired by her feelings about being involved with 7 Cups of Tea. Thanks Mana!
Almighty has sent 7 cups
On this earth
For giving good mental health girths
7 Cups of Tea
Fill it to the brim.
that calm sea
with 7 cups of tea
This week we celebrate Lukas, one of our very active International Listeners. Lukas hails from Germany, and has been listening with us since early August.
We asked Lukas why he became an Active Listener with us. This is what he said: “I really love helping others. I also had to struggle at some points and found out that it often helps yourself if you can help someone else to feel better - that really works for me. I enjoy talking to so many different people. 7 Cups Of Tea really fills a gap and I'm happy to be part of it.”
We asked Lukas what he does to relax and he responded: “I often relax by doing stuff I really love to do. Filming movies, writing stories - it's my way to relax. And sometimes I just watch some of my favorite series. With some Ellen DeGeneres and a package of Oreo cookies, the day gets better immediately.”
Often, our guests wonder what our listeners do when they are not online. Lukas shared that he is a journalist and publicist. "It's a great opportunity to combine my love for languages with my affection to entertainment news. It's like I'm able to have my hobby as a job and I appreciate that every day.”
Thanks, Lukas! We appreciate you everyday.
Have some Oreos!
We all go through times when we need our friends. Friends, after all, aren’t just there to share the good times, but they are also there to support us through the bad times too. But when a friend is in need of your support, it can be difficult to know what to say. Here are five tips on what to say to a friend in need.
One of the things that we all need is to do is talk about our troubles, and yes, maybe even vent about them. So for you, as a friend, it’s important to be there as a sounding board. It’s important that you make it clear that you’re open to just listening, non-judgementally, to whatever your friend is going through. For example, if your friend is having a hard time with his boss at work, the only thing he might need from you is a friendly ear.
Telling your friend that you support him is critical so that he knows he’s not alone. For example, when a person goes through a divorce he can feel cut off from important supports, like friends, so ensuring the person knows he is not alone in his struggles can go a long way to helping him.
It may go without saying that we care about our friends, but in times of need, people need to hear this directly. Your friend may be feeling unloved, or may feel that you will stop caring about them because of what he is currently going through, so reminding him that you still care as much as you ever did can be very helpful.
Sometimes a person is looking to you to find an answer to a problem in his life, and sometimes he’s not, that’s why it’s so important to listen first, before trying to find a solution to the problem. But if you get to the point where the friend is willing to discuss solutions, remind him that you can face the problem together. Remind your friend that he is not alone in his struggle.
One thing that’s true in this world is that it’s always changing and that means that any struggle will not last forever. It’s important to take a step back, gain some perspective and let your friend know that things will get better with time. Make sure that when you do this, though, you are not dismissing or minimizing what your friend is going through. For example, grieving a death is a very real, painful process, but it does get better over time.
In the end, knowing what to say to your friend in need involves being open, supportive and non-judgemental. It involves saying the things that we all want to hear when times are tough. It involves respecting the vulnerability that our friend has shown by being open about his problem. And remember, handling this situation well will not only help your friend, but will likely strengthen the friendship for both of you as well.
This week's Listener of the Week is Dan. Dan became an Active Listener because he loves to help people. We asked Dan what it is about listening that he loves so much, and he shared:
"I'm not exactly sure why that's the case. I've been empathetic since childhood and although I was shy, I would have no problem sticking up for those even shyer than me. As a teenager, I lived with a couple who convinced me I was special. I believed them then and still do. When my mother died nine years later, I redoubled my efforts to show kindness to others out of respect for who she was as a person. Only now, as a 43 year old, have I found a proper outlet for lending an ear and offering the support that I've wanted to all my life. I think that 7 Cups of Tea is one of the most fulfilling things I've done in my life. And I have a feeling that, as much as 7 Cups helps the people who sign on to it, it may help the Listeners just as much. I know how much it helps me."
We asked Dan, "Limerick, Haiku or other Poem?" As we found out, Dan also happens to be a mean Limerick writer. Check it out:
It is said of this site we belong
Moriarty may not be half wrong
To think it's through giving
Our ears for a living
That our type is considered so strong
Dan, thanks so much for all you do! In your honor of you and your favorite boogie rhythm, we've created this poster:
Have we told you lately that we love our listeners? They fill our hearts with gladness. Ease our troubles. You know, all that good stuff. In recognition of the wonderful people that join our listener community, we'll be showcasing one each week as our Listener of the Week.
This week, we're celebrating Pam. Pam hails from Canada and has been a listener since August. A patient and compassionate person, Pam takes great care to ensure people feel they are heard. Her favorite aspect of being a listener is that she is able to be there for others and offer them support. One thing you may not know about Pam is that is she a huge animal lover!
We asked Pam, "Limerick, Haiku or other Poem?" Here's what she wrote about her favorite season:
The snow sparkles.
The wind howls.
Icicles form on trees.
Want to connect with Pam? Send her a message!