A talk about teen dating violence on Valentine's Day

February 20, 2016

In honor of San Valentine's Day, I want to talk about Teen Dating Violence and Healthy Relationships.

 

What is Teen Dating Violence?

"Teen Dating Violence (also known as relationship abuse, dating abuse, domestic violence, domestic abuse, etc.) is any form of abuse that occurs in a dating/romantic relationship involving a teenager. " by RebeccaEmily in this post.

If you want to learn and understand more about what Teen Dating Violence is, I invite you to check out the post linked above.

How can one identify an unhealthy or abusive relationship?

An unhealthy relationship might include:

-Making you feel isolated

-Attempting to control what you wear

-Grabs, pushes, shoves, or hits you

-"Checks in" on you frequently, expect you to ask permission before doing things, gets \ violent when you don't respond quickly.

-Pressures you for sex or is forceful/scary about sex.

-Makes you feel like you need to apologize to yourself or others for his or her behavior when he or she treats you badly.

-Tells you they cannot live without you.

You can find more warning signs here.

 

How to establish a healthy relationship and set boundaries?

-Be aware of your needs, desires and feelings.

-Be open and communicate to your partner how you feel, your wants, your “wills and won’ts.”

-Be willing to compromise but also know it’s alright to stand your ground with what you don't feel comfortable with.

Learn more here.

 

Question for you, reader: What helps you establish healthy boundaries in your relationships?

~Check back in a few days for part 2 and see how the community responded to this question.~

#TeenCommunity #TeenDVAwareness

Written by: Iara

Edited by: Jake & Amelia

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10 Self Improvement Steps (Part 2)

February 18, 2016

Click here to see the part 1 of this blog post.

#6: Complete each task in a perfect manner

Whenever you are working on a project, try to accomplish it in the best way possible. Always ask yourself “Is this project turned out as perfect as it could possibly be?” If the answer is no, try to correct or add something to it until there is nothing that you can improve.

Also, when you entirely focus on one task excluding everything else, you will sometimes notice that you start enjoying the task more. If you concentrate on the task but still do not enjoy it, that means that you probably see the task as a means to an end rather than the process.

You could start focusing on the process itself to find enjoyment in the task. Such enjoyment may fuel motivation and thn can usually accomplish things faster and at a higher quality.

If you enjoy your work, you can put only positive energy into it. As a result, your completed tasks will most often bring you success.

#7: Challenge yourself

Nothing develops you more than challenges. Challenges force you to shift your comfort zone, experience new situations and make you grow. Without challenges life would be very boring and depressing.

Challenges are necessary for every human being who is seeking a quality life. Only through trial and error you realize who you really are.

#8: Read personal development books

There is nothing more important than finding information about self improvement. There are many books that can help you to improve on whatever it is you may want to. Look at your local book store for these types of books.

                                                

#9: Socialize only with positive people

Positive people can inspire, empower and make you happy. It is worth so much to be with positive people rather than constantly spend time with negative friends or relatives.

If you spend your days with lazy people, you may notice that you become increasingly lazy.

If all your friend’s main qualities are negative, try to avoid all of them. This way you will not be affected in a negative way and after some time will start attracting positive people.

#10: Exercise

Daily exercise develops determination, focus and patience. It improves your health and strengthens your body. It makes you more active, positive and invincible.

People who exercise every day are often perceived as strong-willed and disciplined.

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Written by: TruthPrevails

Edited by: Jake & Amelia

Tags:part2self improvement

10 Self Improvement Steps (Part 1)

February 9, 2016

#1: Use your energy on important things

If you want to succeed in life, it is recommended that you do not waste your energy on activities that do not bring benefits.

Examples of such activities include surfing the Internet without any purpose, watching TV, excessively worrying and wasting money.

When you are involved in such activities, you have little energy left for activities that can create a better future. It is worth prioritizing and accomplishing important tasks first.  Then, if you still have enough energy, you may decide to do tasks which are less important.

 

#2: Focus on one task at a time

If you want to achieve your best results, you could try to concentrate on one activity at a time. This way, the majority of your energy will go into it and you have a better chance of performing to the best of your ability. If you divide your energy among multiple activities, you are less likely to perform to the best of your ability because you will divide your energy between the activities.

                                              

 

#3: Control your thinking

To avoid chaos in your mind that leads to a lack of control of one’s situation, it is recommended that you try to observe your thoughts.

Once you start doing this, you will notice a wide range of thoughts. By observing negative thinking, you will have a better chance to emotionally disengage from it. As a result, negative thinking will affect you less and you are likely to notice that your days are becoming more peaceful and positive.
 

#4: Get organized

When you live in an organized manner, you are less likely to suffer from stress and your life is more likely to be peaceful and balanced.

To begin living this way, it is recommended that you start planning your day in advance. This will help reduce stress caused by being late to a meeting or forgetting to complete some task.

It is also encouraged to keep your life organized because by keeping your home clean and organized, for example, you are able to spend your mental energy elsewhere which may help you to feel more calm.  This may help you to improve your memory and experience less negativity.

 

#5: Live in the present

Although this self improvement activity may seem strange to you, it is a very important activity that many ignore. The majority of people do not live in the present. They either dwell on their past or daydream about the future. They seem to forget the most important time of all - the present.

Enjoy every present moment because your current state of mind can manifest in the outside world, creating your future accordingly.

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Written by: TruthPrevails

Edited by: Jake & Amelia

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