May 9, 2014
What is listening", you ask? Well, I'm glad you asked! To listen to someone means that you're observing and taking in what another person is saying, and reacting appropriately to it. Did you know that there are many positive effects that can come out of listening, and that many successful people wouldn't be where they were today, if they had not been a good listener? As you listen, you gradually become a better listener, and as you become a better listener, you become more patient!
In this blog post, I will explain the positive effects of listening and how you can use listening to help yourself and those around you.
Like I said before, listening is to observe and take in what another person is saying, and then reacting appropriately to it. Lets say for example, you had a friend who was obviously upset, but you weren't sure why. What do you think could help solve that? LISTENING to what she has to say about why she is upset would help you solve that problem, and also help her! How many of you would stop and ask a person why they're upset? Or would you just keep on walking, being too busy with your own life to be worried about listening to another person. Well, if you are one who WOULD stop that person and ask why they're upset, would you just walk away right after you ask? No, you would hopefully stay and LISTEN to that person! To me, being able to be a good listener is an important quality and is something that is often overlooked in today's busy, busy world.
For me personally, I have found that my greatest joys in life come from being able to listen to others.
Don't get me wrong, it's understandable that everyone is different, and that everyone has their own likes and dislikes, but I think that being able to listen to even ONE person a day could help make this world a better place! Listening to other people shows people that their concerns are cared about... it shows them that they aren't alone. I know personally how it feels to feel alone while in a crowd of people, or to feel like no one cares, like the world is crumbling on top of your shoulders. I also know how extremely great it feels to have someone step in and bring some light to your darkness. I know how great it feels to have a friend who cares. I know how great it is to have someone REALLY listen to what you have to say. All of that, I believe, is what led me to enjoy being there for other people.
I mentioned before how pleasant it is to have someone listen to you, but do YOU know personally the difference it can make in your life? From my personal experience, I remember going to therapy, so I've always had that person that I KNEW would listen to me, despite how alone I felt at times. I think that having someone in your life who you know cares about you could make a world of a difference as far as your emotions and well being goes. When someone takes time out of their day to listen to me, it makes me feel important. And even for a minute, it makes me feel accepted. I am thankful that I come from a mother who also knows how important it is to be a good listener and friend. She shows me every day just how big of a difference it can make, just by the way she takes the time to talk to me and is patient with me through my down times. Do you have someone in your life who takes time to listen to you? If so, I'm sure you can relate to this.
I feel like some of you are probably reading this and may be feeling a little lost. A little "out of the loop" of things. I say that because I understand that not everyone has people in their life who will listen to them, and chances are that there will be people who read this that can relate. I'd like to take the time right now to let you know that there is hope.
That no matter how alone you feel, there are people who care.
Being there for people is something that I heavily care about. That is why I became a trained active listeners on 7 Cups of Tea! Ever heard of that? At 7 Cups of Tea, there are people online 24/7 and are just waiting to hear from and be there for you! 7 Cups of Tea is more than just a website, it's a community.
By Teen Listener, Whitney
Photo contribution by listener: Pieta