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The 7 Cups Holiday Dinner Survival Guide

December 24, 2014

The holidays are a time when families and friends come together. It is a time of reflection, kindness and being thankful.

But it can also be a challenging time of dealing with judgemental family members and people who "just don't get you." For everyone out there who needs a little encouragement this time of year, this blog post is for you. 

The 7 Cups Holiday Dinner Survival Guide:

aka., how to field questions from your jerky (insert appropriate relative here)

1) On a small index card, make a short list of 3 or 4 thing that you are doing and feel comfortable sharing.

2) Recognize that most people prefer to talk about themselves. Just lean on you active listening skills and listen to them :)

3) Fake it to you make it. If you are experiencing some low self-esteem, no worries! Pretend as if you have confidence and are doing great. Judgemental people can smell fear. If you act confident they'll be more likely to leave you alone.

4) Bring a list of 2 or 3 current events with 1 or 2 points for each that you can talk about if something awkward arises. Transition by saying something like: “Good thoughts; on a different note, what do you all think of the Pope saying dogs go to heaven? I think that is great!”

5) Make eye contact and converse directly with people that you like or like you.

6) Try to spend 90% of your time talking with people that you love. <3


5 Open Ended Questions to Ask During The Holidays:

An open-ended question demands a reply with more depth and thought. Open-ended questions are a cornerstone of active listening and can be used to your advantage in a variety of situations, including the holiday dinner table. They are helpful in finding out more about a person or a situation and moving a conversation in a positive direction!

1) What are you thankful for this holiday season?

2) What is your best memory from the last year?

3) Do you have any plans for the new year?

4) Where did you learn [insert topic relevant to person you are talking to]?

5) What is your favorite holiday movie?


Compiled by LauraS

Sending you all a big holiday hug!