When I came out for the first time, I was only 13. For others, coming out might happen in their teen years, adult years, and so on.
Deciding whether or not to come out is a conflicting and difficult choice. For some people, coming out isn’t an option due to safety or financial reasons.
If you do make the choice to come out, it can be hard to know how the person or people you tell will react. Sometimes, coming out is an incredible, gratifying, and uplifting experience. Other times, it can be dangerous, emotional, and traumatic.
So do things really get better when you come out?
Depending on how the person reacts, this answer could very quickly change from yes to no. Regardless of others’ reactions, there are many pros and cons to coming out.
A weight lifted off your shoulders
Builds strength and courage
A step towards embracing your identity
Gives others the ability to have a new perspective on the LGBTQ+ community
Allows you to weed out potentially toxic people from your life
People may treat you differently
You could lose the support of people you love
You could feel vulnerable or exposed
It would be much easier if there was one textbook way for a coming out to go, but there isn’t.
No matter how your personal coming out story may go, it is important to know that there are people out there who love and support you regardless.
And if you decide you are not able to come out yet, that’s okay too! 7 Cups offers a safe space where individuals can be open about their sexuality and gender identity without fear of judgment or rejection.