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Inner Conflict Eating You Up?

Three strategies that can help you gain inner peace
Definition of inner conflict and how to deal

In a world of celebrity envy, prosperity gospels, make-all-your-dreams come-true-in-six-months webinars, 21 days to your best body EVER and endless fast-fixes to the complex, multi-faceted problems that cause inner conflict in our lives, it's easy to feel lost and lonely.

So many people face life-changing issues that are creating inner turmoil and sleepless nights. Measuring our success by the unresolved conflicts within ourselves leads to blame, shame and the desire to have someone else's “perfect life.” But this one life is all we have right now.

Listen

The most valuable skill in any conflict you are engaged in, especially with yourself, is deep listening. After the challenge of relocating and co-parenting my teen through a serious mental health crisis, my body was talking to me (headaches, backaches, fatigue). My body was trying to teach me something about myself, and I needed to listen. Not judge, but really listen.

Taking the time to admit my emotional exhaustion and nurture myself rather than fight my body was the beginning of deep listening. Answers surface when we let all of who we are have a voice in our life.

Take a step back

Whatever consumes us controls us. Refuse to be controlled by what you view as your limitations. The inability to resolve inner conflicts is temporary if we do not allow it to make a permanent impression on us.

Do something with me, please. Breathe in, visualize it and literally take a step back, breathe it out, leave it there and walk away. It's there anytime you want it back.

Practice being fully present

Gary Zukav, a prominent and thoughtful author says, “We have to feel. Emotional awareness is the first step to spiritual growth.” In other words, being fully present allows us to tune in and actually experience our real-life rather than fantasy.

Taking in and feeling what is really happening as it is actually and currently happening helps us come to grips with reality and understand that answers will come. After all, if we look back at our previous challenges, we realize that they always have.

Adopting these life-giving strategies changed my week and…hey, that's a great start.

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Posted: 12 September 2019
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Lynne Hurdle, M.Ed.

Lynne Maureen Hurdle M.Ed. is a Conflict Resolution Strategist, Author, Coach and Facilitator who has spent the last 35 years helping people develop a better relationship with conflict.

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