Who Are You (Really?)

Self Discovery is defined as “the process of acquiring insight into one's own character.” So what does it mean to discover yourself?? Is it possible to have ‘been’ yourself all these years and still not ‘know’ yourself? You better believe it. I see it all the time because what better way to really get inside your head- than to invite a therapist along into it, right?

Self Discovery means first, becoming aware of what makes YOU you. The messages you tell yourself, the ways those messages make you feel, whose voice seems to be giving the messages- is it your own or has someone else put them there until you mistake them for your own. The things you can do, want to do, and have failed at. The choices you have made and how they have affected you and the choices others have made and how much they affected you. Self Discovery means trying new things… New ways of seeing the world, new ways of relating, new ways of thinking and being and seeing how it all feels and works for YOU. Figuring out your purpose in life based on all these clues!

Along the way it’s ok to say “I don’t know”! To change your mind! Knowing what to avoid is often more valuable than knowing what you think you want and just because we’ve lost our way doesn’t mean that we are lost forever.

One of my favorite tools for self discovery is the game of Kokology. Kokology is the study of kokorowhich means "mind" or "spirit". The main focus is the analysis of the deep psyche. (It's kind of like a Rorschach test that uses words instead of inkblots.) My clients always think it is a fun way to inspire some insight into themselves! Which is important… because what better way to discover yourself than to have a little fun too, right? Checkout one of the exercises below and see what you learn!  

((Answer the questions on paper before you move on to the answer section))

1. Imagine there are horribly threatening monsters angrily rampaging the city. What do you think is the cause of their anger; why are the monsters so furious?
   1. They're hungry and looking for food
   2. They're looking for their lost love
   3. Just because they are ugly monsters with high temper
   4. They're angry with this desperate world
2. You are walking in the art gallery, you are relaxed and stop at one picture. You stop and stare at this picture for a long time, amazed and fascinated. What kind of picture is that?
   1. Self-portrait
   2. Parody version of something
   3. Abstract
   4. Painting of nature
3. If you have a magical eraser that can erase anything:
   1. Erase yourself
   2. Erase your lover
   3. Erase the third party
4. Again, you are in the art gallery, the same one as before. While you are looking at that picture, a guy standing next to you is about to say something. What might it be?
   1. "What a beautiful painting, you think?"
   2. "How do you like this painting?"
   3. "Excuse me; do you know what time is it now?"
   4. "You know, I'm the one who painted this picture"
5. You are in 5 stars hotel room with a blue sky view. You fall asleep and take a nap for a couple hours. What do you expect to see outside the window once you wake up?
   1. Midday sun shine above the marine blue sea
   2. Dark blue sea reflecting stars in the sky
   3. Cold blue sea barely visible in the mist
   4. The sun is setting at the end of the line where sky and sea meet

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Now, it's time to check your answers:

1. The question stands for the dark side of yourself and the cause of pressure in your life.
   If you choose:
   1. You are on a diet and feel a bit suffer from it
   2. Love is the main cause of the pressure in your life
   3. You feel unsatisfied with your own appearance
   4. You are pessimistic person
2. The question stands for your attractiveness.
   If you choose:
   1. You are self-confident
   2. You are talkative and have a sense of humor
   3. You are creative person
   4. You are gentle and well-manner
3. The question stands for how you handle the problem in your love life.
   If you choose:
   1. You always run away from the problem in your love life
   2. You respect love and see it as a beautiful thing
   3. You don't like to let the problem goes on and effect with your life. You love to solve it right away
   4. You are gentle and well-manner
4. The question stands for the way you act when you met someone for the first time
   If you choose:
   1. You are friendly and love to get to know and have new friends
   2. You will consider carefully before get to know someone
   3. You are independent and see no importance of getting to know new friends
   4. You always get excited to know someone and try to make them impressed in you
5. The question stands for what do you want from love
   If you choose:
   1. You want a high-voltage love
   2. You believe the importance of honesty between lovers
   3. You want your lover to be your best friend
   4. You are looking for a perfect love. Ideal and romantic

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