Seperation before divorce
It would be nice to share the experience of dreadful pain during this time
what are you experiencing?
I got married last year. My marriage lasted for 3 months. On a small minor argument, he decided to end the marriage. All of a sudden the loving caring person which he claims to be turned cold with no empathy and sympathy. He asked for time and space, and for two months I gave him that hoping that one day he will call back. But when I couldn’t wait anymore, I visited him ( we were staying with his family of four) and they bullied me , insulted me etc.. I could only stay there for 5 days and then I left. I came back to my parents. Left my job as I could not work.
There are so many questions that I have for him. The pain is unbearable. Just unbearable. Its been 7 months of no contact.
@tian20
It can be a very painful and confusing time. I'm sorry you are dealing with it now. We often spend a lot of time blaming the other OR blaming ourselves which uses up a lot of valuable time everyday. Because we could be using that valuable time to relearn how to function and relearn our single habits and relearn how to best use our hours and REALLY, just relearning things by ourselves. As scary as that sounds, it comes with great rewards, so make an extra effort to believe in yourself right now.
As common as separations are, they are all as unique as a fingerprint. Please share what you are experiencing? It helps so much to talk about these things.
Wishing you peace and hopeđź’š
Thank you for the advice. I miss a person, who bullied me, insulted and I am sure does not even think about me..with time the pain keeps increasing.. this whole year, every single day I have cried.. sometimes the tears just roll down, at times its in the washroom when I see myself in the mirror. You won’t believe, at this moment , while typing the message , I can’t stop my tears. Do do I get over the pain? Unbearable pain.
@tian20
That sounds horrible. I'm so sorry. Is there anything you can do to occupy your mind away from something that did not work out? It sounds very sad and must be very hard to carry that on your shoulders all the time. When do you think you will want it to be easier and to start Anew?