4 Ways to Move On After a Breakup
"1. Allow yourself to feel
Instead of suppressing or ignoring your emotions – or trying to prematurely convince yourself this was a blessing in disguise – allow yourself to be vulnerable and give yourself time and space to cry. According to an article published in Frontiers in Psychology, crying is a means of self-soothing, returning our body to a state of equilibrium when we feel out of sorts. It doesn’t matter if you cry it out in an open space or dig your face deep into your pillow.
2. Leave all reminders of your ex in the dust
Gather the courage to purge your house or apartment of overt reminders of your ex. To get over your ex, it can help to cut them off for some time so you have the space to heal. Here are two steps to take in the aftermath of a breakup:
- Box up any physical reminder. Having your ex’s picture on the nightstand or any of their belongings laying around the house can make it difficult to move on and heal. It is your decision whether you want to toss out these items for good or put them in the corner of your closet. Either way, you’re making progress.
- Get rid of social media reminders. Simply ridding yourself of physical reminders isn’t enough; you need to prune your digital space as well. Perhaps this means taking a break from social media and returning when you are in a happier place. Research published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships confirms that keeping virtual possessions can be a significant impediment to post-breakup adjustment. Fewer memories of your past connection can reduce feelings of nostalgia and make it easier for you to move on.
3. Accept that you two were not the right fit for each other
Cut yourself some slack and stop over-analyzing where you went wrong and what you could have done or improved to save the relationship. It’s better to accept that you two were just not the right fit for each other and that nothing you could have done would have saved the relationship. Let go and prepare yourself to move on.
4. Be cognizant of your ex’s negatives
Sometimes, we have a tendency to drown ourselves in all of the things that made our relationship with our ex last for so long. Instead of remembering them as they truly were, we see only the good qualities – the things we are really going to miss. This form of "rosy retrospection" can be damaging, especially when these thoughts prevent us from getting started on our self-healing journey. Instead, create a balanced and objective (not idealized) view of your relationship. Working with a therapist can help you fact-check any romanticized notions"
Read the full article on Psychology Today
✨Takeaway: Allow yourself to feel your emotions and grieve the loss. Getting rid of physical and digital reminders can reduce feelings of nostalgia and make it easier to move on.
✨Reflection: What helps you get over a breakup?
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@innateJoy9602
Thank you Joy for such a wonderful post. I’m sure a lot of people will need it.
I loved the part about allowing ourselves to grieve. Breakup is a loss and even though no one died, it’s still difficult to get over it because we will likely not be close with that person again.
To everyone going through or recovering from a breakup:
You’re important, you can get through this! I know it’s awful right now. It’s not gonna stay this way. You’re doing your best with what you have and I appreciate you for it!
@Bunny1637
Awe I appreciate you sharing those encouraging words! Thank you <3💜
