Is she distancing herself?
Hey,
so my girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months (almost 7 unofficially). Things at the beginning were picture perfect, almost textbook for how most relationships start. We get to about the 3 or 4 month mark and she texts me much less. Now mind you, her job doesn’t really allow for her to text as much so I get that…I got over it. However, as of recently, the texting has gotten to a minimum and I feel like my needs aren’t being met. I always reach out first, always text her last, my needs such as affirmation every now and then, communication, planning things for us, and physical touch and sex seem to becoming more scarce. It’s eating me up. I’ve mentioned it (maybe not as directly as I should) but I have mentioned it. I’m consistently planning dates and doing things (probably too much), I am always going out of my way to make sure she feels loved, but it’s rarely reciprocated at least for what I need. She also has been starting a lot of fights and getting mad and angry at me over small things. Part of this I think she can’t help, but when she does I talk to her and hear her out but finally the other day out my foot down in it’s not cool with me when she uses me like a punching bag.
In person, she’s very loving, very compassionate, and loves me being there it seems. She always says she loves me, and when I am not there she FaceTimes me every night to talk. However, I’ve been trying to get her to open up to me more, talk to me deeper, and yes we haven’t had sex in about 3 weeks (medical related issues)…I can get past that if she would try to meet my emotional needs more. I am struggling with how to properly bring it up again, and I’m also struggling with understanding if she’s backing away. If she is, I’d love to know how to resolve it.
lol i feel the exact same way as u, except ive been starting fights because i feel like my needs are met. (do not recommend). u need to be as upfront as possible and ask her why shes doing the things shes doing and explain why ur not as happy about certain things. something that may help as well is ask her to plan stuff or ask why she never wants to plan anything. ik this is something i will be asking my girlfriend today. best of luck to you, and remember that you need to be as honest and upfront with her as possible.