What good does it do listening to a lie or knowing the truth
I have all these opportunities to Look through his phone. It sticks in my mind, but I know nothing good will come of it. I'm uncomfortable if I don't but hurts when do. It doesn't stop any thing - he still does whatever he wants and presses me for invading his privacy after dating and living with each other for a few months now. He always has an excuse when asked and a lie when being questioned. The only good that comes of looking is I know the truth but if don't know and listen to what I know are 90% lies it's like what does that change?
Either way the burden lays on me and even when I know the truth I haven't changed the outcome.
Idk what to do or how to feel.
@goldenBranch8894
I think there isn't enough info here to tell you much..
But I see this pattern of you worrying alot and you also don't seem to trust him much..
I would stay positive and just focus on being a great loving person yourself. You can't change your partner..🌟
Been with my wife 18 years it has been a roller coaster of this kind of stuff since early on. I quit looking at her phone years ago but recently she logged in to *** on my work phone. I opened *** thinking it was mine and found stuff I wish I hadn't. When I said something it turned in to a big fight now probably getting divorced. Long story short. I should have never given her a second chance years ago when we were supposed to be only for each other. Cheating is cheating g and if you keep forgiving they will keep cheating.. That's why I am here now.
Been with my wife 18 years it has been a roller coaster of this kind of stuff since early on. I quit looking at her phone years ago but recently she logged in to *** on my work phone. I opened *** thinking it was mine and found stuff I wish I hadn't. When I said something it turned in to a big fight now probably getting divorced. Long story short. I should have never given her a second chance years ago when we were supposed to be only for each other. Cheating is cheating g and if you keep forgiving they will keep cheating.. That's why I am here now.
@goldenBranch8894
It sounds like the real issue isn't the phone, it's the lack of trust. Looking hurts, but not looking leaves you questioning everything. If you feel like you have to investigate to know the truth, that's a sign something important is missing in the relationship. You deserve honesty and peace of mind, not. constant doubt.
@goldenBranch8894
I can say lies destroy things... I did not act on calling my partner out on big or small things. I would want to know or sit down and ask why the lies? I wish I had tried harder to communicate with partner.
What happened after is now I rationalized it is ok for me to lie too. feeling like why not they lie to me... now too many things have not been said or were covered up. Not all lies or problems mean breakup and start again with communication and wanting to fix people can get over a lot but you need to figure out what YOU want.