Self-harm help Monday 6
Welcome everyone to the 6th Self-harm help Monday we are having! I hope everyone is doing great. How was your week?
Every Monday, reply with your 3 'W's in the comments:
1. Win: What is one small victory you had this week? (Even if it’s just 1 hour clean, or using a distraction tactic).
2. Wave: Did you face a heavy wave/urge this week? How did you ride it out?
3. Word: What is one encouraging word or piece of advice you want to leave for the person who comments after you?
Lets set out rules now:
• The Buddy Reply Rule: Once you post your update, please read the comment right above yours and leave them a message of encouragement, a heart emoji, or a supportive thought!
• The Support Rule: Please be supportive to one another! Avoid unnecessary advices. Show empathy!
Our reminder:
💡 Reminder: You are not what other people say you are. You are not what other people want you to be. You are you.
I hope everyone is doing great. I cannot wait to see your comments on the porogress you guys made!
@Torean @IzzyGamer @HopeWithinDarkness @agreeableSkies9889 @Yougotmyback @7Bear7 @pinkiepie1724 @redOak4624 @stormieandpaws
@cheerfulKiwi1776
To anyone reading this 💛
@Amanda84
THanks for that
@cheerfulKiwi1776
1. Win: What is one small victory you had this week?
this week i was able to not self harm at all after the crash few weeks ago with hurting self after years without doing that
2. Wave: Did you face a heavy wave/urge this week? How did you ride it out?
had waves of thoughts of self harming but allowed self to talk more about what i was feeling and got support online
3. Word: What is one encouraging word or piece of advice you want to leave for the person who comments after you?
to not be hard of self if you after a time self hurt your not starting over your starting where you crashed not from the beginning again
@stormieandpaws
I'm sorry you relapsed after not doing it for so long. Things must have been hard. I'm proud of you tho for trying again and not giving up. Relapse doesn't change or dismiss the part of you that was clean for that long. You were just doing the best you could given the situation. Sometimes just doing what we can is enough. (:
@IzzyGamer
thank you lot been going on sents start of this year with my brothers murder and sis in law other brother wife passing few days later then not be invited to either ones service and family members not really caring about me and how i was feeling at all then added comments about me hating my brother by some family members seem only a ex sis in law cared at all then more comments from family about me not being there to take care of parents sadly even after both parents admitting they know about my brother actions abusing me as a child they both make excuses for him and also the abuse they did also my health getting worst and worst i think it just call got to be after the shock of the stuff with family end few moths after right now i just kinda in a state of not knowing what going to happen with parents to they both in bad health and well no family members really checking on them so i call to check on them from time to time they live alone way outside of the city they live near
i not going to go back into the abuse that i clear about but most not believe me about it all my living brother not remember anything under age 14yr and that partly why he not talk to me as he not want to remember so it more about me like triggering memories he not want to remember
@stormieandpaws
I'm sorry you've been going through so much. It sounds like so much has happened, I can't imagine how hard all of this must be for you. It must be difficult to manage a situation where it feels like no one really listens or really cares enough to listen. It's definitely not easy, but you've shown a lot of strength to make it this far
@IzzyGamer
thank you kinda been that way with family since i was a child but now it even others outside the family i try to do my best but that not change the pain they still do at times many have said if was them they not keep in connected with them but i only really speak to dad mom no longer will on the phone but that due to the Parkinson she has i not believe others in family who was not their in childhood will ever get it but that ok as i always been a over comer but it nice to have a voice not not live in fear
@stormieandpaws
I can definetly understand not having a great relationship with family. it's definetly not an easy thing to try and deal with, but it sounds like you've found ways to navigate it that works best for you even if others don't nessacarily agree with it.
@IzzyGamer
thank you tonight talked to dad on phone he really only one i talk to on phone it was stressful he had another fall and did not go to ER he doing things he should not do but no one helping him so he over doing it that why he fell talked about few things in past mostly about brother who still alive he got remarried and his step daughter trying to get his other special needs daughter taken away she a adult too so was stressful call i can say yes urges to SH be there it why i online as i not want to SH but it hard
@stormieandpaws
I'm sorry, it sounds like there really was a lot going on. I can imagine it was really stressful to manage. It's understandable why sh urges would show up during this as well. Ik it's hard, it's definitely not easy. But ik you can get through it. (:
@IzzyGamer
thank you for believing in me i end up not doing self harm this week just took it one day at a time hope you doing well
@stormieandpaws
Hey, its okay if you relapsed after years of not doing self harm. Its all part of the process. It doesnt diminish your try.
So, well done for riding the urges out by talking more about them and getting help. I m proud of you for seeking help.
Your message is really amazing. Thanks for sharing It with us.
@cheerfulKiwi1776
thanks i wrote more about what lead me to end of my rope that end in self harm above just very little support and well family not caring
@stormieandpaws
I understand! Sending hugs if okay🫂
@cheerfulKiwi1776
I guess my victory is that I've been clean for roughly 2 weeks. It may have been longer but I lost count again lol.
I've had strong urges today but somehow managed to get through it. Just kinda distracted myself and redirected my attention to smth else.
You don't have to do this alone, there's ppl out there who genuinely care. Even if you don't see it right now you matter more than you know. You deserve to be happy. (:
@IzzyGamer
Well done for being clean so long! Losing count of it is okay! You managed to not self harm 2 weeks and maybe more, that takes a lot of courage and try so well done.
You rode those urges out and thsts reslly amazing! I m so proud of you for trying so much! You've got this.
Your message is really sweet. Thanks for sharing it
win : uhh ive tried not to pick scabs
wave: my sh has become more frequent again sadly. trying to bring it down again
word: this is a horrible addiction. be gentle with urself
sorry 2 days late, school just started
@pinkiepie1724
Hey, I m really proud of you for the effort you are putting in all this! You sre really strong-willed and it shows. I hope you sometime fully stop self harming but its a long process and you need to be gentle with yourself.
Pretty nice emessage the one you sent.
Wishing you the best with school✨️🤎