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Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
Enough is enough!
by Aishah0812
Last post
 11 hours ago
...See more Anybody else ever had, or still are, to deal with TOXIC in-laws? smh
Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
Share any Happy Movies you find
by communicativePond1728
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more A space to share happy, uplifting movies. These days so many shows are violent, dramatic or outright stupid. Many don't find cheap, gormless or ignorant tricks for their attention to be worth their time and money.  If you agree that investing one's time and energy in something more meaningful and substantial is a great idea then you're welcome here. https://youtu.be/JhHbUj26rc8?si=o0iAB2TsSfS9bwia
What do single people do to make friends ?
by D86
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I haven’t been able to make a single real friend since moving here about eight years ago. Only “friends“ made his work friends and as soon as I got let go or whatever from the job I never hear from them again.
Is it possible to reconnect, become attracted to and genuinely love your wife again?
by Wildone42
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I moved out a month ago as i thought i wanted something else in my life.. I miss my family and my wife.. But i do not love her completely as a husband should. Is it possible to reconnect. to become madly attracted to her again and want to be with her once again?
Marriage
by KapitalK
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more How is everyone in their marriage? Are you okay? Are you appreciated? Most importantly, are you loved?
i used to be a good person...
by munificentgearhead
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more there was a time that i would have helped anyone who needed it. i have literally given people the clothes off my back. I've spent thousands of dollars on people who wouldn't even consider lifting a finger for me. im so done with it. all my kindness is used up. i have done so much for so many people just for them to spit in my face. im done. im so done with everything. anytime im in a position where im the one who needs help people dont care. people act like i dont matter and i am starting to believe them. when i try to do good i get punished for it so i dont try anymore. when people talk to me the only thing on my mind is how to get them away from me as soon as humanly possible. i dont have friends anymore.... and with how i am now i dont see it ever happening again... how do you make friends when all i can think is they are just humoring me to make their lives easier. either they want something from me, they dont believe me, or they are outright trying to hurt me. i dont believe in good people anymore. i dont even believe im a good person anymore.
Getting a divorce after 12 years
by sunnyBunny8240
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more On Saturday, March 2 my soon-to-be ex-husband mustered up his courage to tell me he wanted a divorce. I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him. I thought the worst thing that could happen was him dying on me. I never anticipated this. He is not happy with me and he had endured and tolerated me for more than several years. He is very tired, and wants his own life alone. I am not resentful of him. He is a kind, smart person who deserves happiness. I am not giving him any. I am devasted but trying to take in day by day, step by step. I would really like some words of encouragement. Thank you.
Checking in with friends
by placidAvocado2692
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more @mytwistedsoul Hi! I can’t find my other thread but you’ve been on my mind. I’m curious how you’re doing? I hope you’re ok….❤️
I've tried dealing with people (humans)
by toughHouse8139
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I've NEVER belonged anywhere and I wish it didn't matter to me. I wish I could remove that feeling and recycle it for something more useful and less depressing. I'm going to try to accept that some of us are just born to be alone, stop fighting it🤷‍♀️  Maybe I'm just supposed to do some stuff, see some stuff and call it a day Trying to find a "community" has exhausted my bones, plus most the of the time people just aren't ... IDK, not worth all the anxiety
It hurts deeply
by helloGlobe608
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more I've been with my foster mom for 30 years and i have always suffered verbal abuse and insults from her and sometimes her family. In previous posts I've described some of my life in previous posts and basically ive suffered all kinds of abuse my entire life... Even though my foster mom is now 91 with dementia..she is still verbally abusing me from time to time.  Today a neighbor who also has dementia offered us some extra groceries she purchased mistakeningly because shes not thinking clearly. . i told my foster mom to tell her we couldn't use them because our refrigerator is packed due to her family purchasing groceries for her. That we were very appreciative of the fact that she thought of us. She called her and told her this, but since the lady was adamant about not having anyone to take them, my foster mother made it her personal issue and responsibility to call around stressing herself out to see if anyone could take them.  When my foster mom gets stressed she winds up more confused and eventually in the hospital.  I told my foster mom that i know that she wants to help, but this isnt her problem to worry about nor solve. My foster mother has always thought that it is her personal responsibility to find solutions for this neighbors problems. This neighbor has a victim mentality and rarely fixes or does things to improve her life. Relying on others to solve her problems for her. This has been going on ever since ive moved here. This lady is actually nasty, blames others for her problems, has an entitled mindset (thinks that everyone should be available for her 24/7 at her becon call, when they tell her theyre unavailable she insults and talks about them unkindly) . She is also unappreciative of the things that others do to help her or for her..Their kind gestures are never enough.  She also is a burden on her family and calls often to complain to my mother about what theyre not doing for her (havent done her laundry, havent taken her places, haven’t cleaned her home, etc...) This lady refuses or pushes away all hired help. Shes had workers from the state helping her with daily tasks and life, but they were driven away by her constantly complaining, being unappreciative, and blaming them for things they didnt do.  This neighbor is having a difficult time living alone, and doing a lot of tasks herself. She calls my foster mom often to complain about her unfortunate circumstances.   My foster mother is always worried about this neighbor and tries to take on the responsibility of trying to figure out this lady problems herself..when shes sickly herself.  My foster mom is always calling around places to get this lady help, despite me telling her that this neighbor has declined all help and doesn't want these things. I have explained to my foster mother that this lady needs to do things to improve her life .  That this lady needs to realize the grim reality of her situation and make adjustments.. such as either accepting state help and being accomodating..or researching local income based retirement homes or communities to move into. That her house is no longer in accommodation for her needs. This lady often guilt trips my foster mother, and she starts feeling really badly and more depressed. I use to tell my foster mom, to be wary of this lady and to perhaps put distance between the two...as this lady doesn’t care much about her. This neighbor lady years ago multiple times have tried to get me to abandon mt foster mother and come take care of her. She has even crudely asked me this in front of her face multiple times.  I told my foster mom that anyone who tries to "steal" away the person who they know is helping you with daily life, knowing that you'd be left scrambling trying to get someone else...is not your friend and does not care about you. I told my foster mom that theres plenty of other help available if she wanted help. That all she had to do is make phone calls and accept it. This lady has been living in her home for 50 years without railing to her basement steps, and for many years my mother has been trying to get her a railing, including burdening her family (who offered to pay for one to be installed) which the neighbor refused plenty of times. I told my foster mother that she should respect this lady decisions that she makes for her own life.  My foster mother does not see things this way, and still often tries to interfere and intrude. This neighbor has fallen multiple times in her home, has fallen in the bathtub and couldn't get out for a few hours, has become sickly sometimes to the point where she didnt have the strength to ring for help, but she still refuses to move.  Last year, this neighbor changed her telephone number that she had for 40 plus years and didn't offer her new number to my mom untill my mother took it upon herself to ring her family involving them , and they called her grandson who gave the number.  The lady claimed she had forgotten to give my foster mother her number, or tell her about the number change even though everyone in her family and some others had her number. It had been a month before my foster mother obtained it. My foster mother believed her story, despite me telling her that she simply didn't want her to have it. So today after i told my mother basically it isnt her problem and that its this neighbors job to find a solution to the food problem herself...my foster mom told me shes glad that she isnt like me because im absolutely heartless. That i dont have a heart and wasn't raised properly....etc.... All my life i have put the needs of others ahead of my own. I always come last...For my foster mother to say these things and worse everytime that i disagree with her is still very hurtful..and still cuts deeply.  Also, am i wrong for not wanting to hear about this lady's problems constantly? That it makes me sad that she is living like this..i care for her deeply but i am dealing with alot and a lot of depression in my personal life already.. added depression isnt good for me..when daily im struggling.. After this lady calls and complains my foster mother often spends a good amount of time discussing her problems with me multiple times. When she senses my disinterest or lack of response....she gets angry and tells me that i am heartless, and going to "***" when i pass...because i dont care about anything. That im selfish and only care about myself. That she can understand why i haven’t any friends or relationships because they would terminate me. Is it wrong to just want silence and to not have to listen to others complaints?? I care too much about others..even strangers and their saddness effects me deeply, especially knowing that i am powerless to help.
Searching
by Aishah0812
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Anyone here to talk to?

Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!

Community Guidelines

The following are the guidelines which are specific to the 35 & Over Community. We ask you to follow them, as well as the Forum Guidelines. Their purpose is to ensure a safe and supportive environment for everyone.

The main goal of this sub-community is to offer support and a space to share and socialize, for the 7 Cups users who are 35 years old, or older. After reaching a certain age, people have specific life concerns that might not be shared by people who don't have as much life experience.
However, age isn't a requirement to participate in our sub-community.

All Adults are welcome!


However, please understand that teens as young as 13 years old can access these forums, so please keep topics appropriate.

So please:
- Reach out for support from your member account
- Offer support as a member or listener
- Be respectful to everyone
- Add a trigger warning  [TW] if your topic needs it
- Take care of yourself
- Take care of others
- Have fun!


 

For more detailed information about how to behave in the forums and in 7 Cups in general:

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Read the 7 Cups Guidelines
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Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!