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Weekly Prompt #35: Why do we often struggle to prioritize our mental health over other responsibilities?
by ASilentObserver
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1 day ago
...See more Hello all!  Last week we discussed:  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/WeeklyPrompt33Whataresomebarrierstodisclosingwhatyouaregoingthrough_324486/]What is a long term goal you have? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/WeeklyPrompt34Whatisalongtermgoalyouhave_325318/]  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/WeeklyPrompt30Ifyoucanchallengeyourselfforonethingtostepoutsideyourcomfortzone_321887/]If you haven't checked yet, please click here to add your thoughts.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/WeeklyPrompt34Whatisalongtermgoalyouhave_325318/] This week's prompt-  Why do we often struggle to prioritize our mental health over other responsibilities? The struggle to prioritize our mental health over other responsibilities is a complex issue influenced by many factors. But also it is essential to recognize the importance of mental well-being and make a conscious effort to prioritize self-care in our daily lives. Let's get started and discuss our thoughts and emotions on this topic.  Also, it is time for periodic feedback on these weekly prompts.  * On a scale of 1-10, how helpful did you find these discussions so far? (10 being most helpful)  * What specific topics related to general mental health would you be interested in learning more about or discussing further? Also, I invite all to help me with creating these weekly prompt discussions so that we all can come together and discuss something related to general support every week. If you any interested in helping me out, please share your interest through this form and  I will reach out to you to guide and support you in creating the next discussion.  [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefjDBwy85YFxWpfrqrdXbdMORBC-pvJA4xhd10R9lMq66fIw/viewform] Join us in the 24/7 General Support Group Chat to share and support each other. -------------------------
[Listeners] Farewell/Taking a Break/Returning Thread: Send Your Regards
by MonBon
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Sunday
...See more This is the public support counterpart of this thread [http://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenersOnlyForums_38/ListenerSelfCare_95/FarewellTakingaBreakReturningThreadSendYourRegards_4132/1/] [L] so that listeners can let the whole community know if they are leaving or if they have come back. Below excerpt taken and modified from the original thread: Some Listeners decide, at one point or another, to take a break or in special cases to leave the site as a Listener. During their time here they may have made connections with others in the community and sometimes people aren't aware that they have left or are misinformed and thus never get the opportunity to sent their warm wishes. Thus, this thread is meant for Listeners to inform the community that they are leaving or taking a break and leave their appropriate comments for others to read. Moreover, returning Listeners can post here as well to inform the community that they are active again. Returning to 7 Cups after a break? We have a welcome Back Committee now, you can find information here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/WelcomeZone_2385/WelcomeBackCommittee_295611/] (clickable), and reach out. Your peers and mentors are here for you. <3 Lastly, others in the community can send their regards to these Listeners. [L] indicates a Listeners Only thread [Welcome back committee information added by Sunisshiningandsoareyou, 02/10/23]
[Members]Farewell/Taking a Break/Returning Thread: Send Your Regards
by MonBon
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Sunday
...See more We often time come to 7 cups in search of something: -Someone who understands -Someone to talk to -Someone who will listen -Someone to keep us company Many of us find that - which is awesome! However, there may come a time when as a member, you are ready to leave. And that is okay. It doesn't have to be forever or even an awfully long time. Maybe you are leaving to go out to eat with friends for the first time in weeks or months. Let us know so we can send you off with warm regards!
Break.
by Maeeeeebae999
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2 hours ago
...See more I know the last time we made a post like this we weren't truthful to it but this time we will be taking a break My mental health is getting slowly worst on here and I really wanna get un grounded so give me 3 weeks and I will be back I love you all!!!  Tagging people who might care :  @Elcc @Finny17 @Famousturtle101 @peachday8184 @Bubblesystem @WonderWhisper @Maxiepooh @XxDustedSkiiesxX @WonderWhisper @incrediblerainbows2036  (Idr atm who else sorry if u ain't wanna be tagged) 
I think I just need to talk/rant.
by bluepostcards
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2 hours ago
...See more Hi, this is my first time here. I don't know if I am doing this right, but I sure hope I am. So, I've hit rock bottom. Gone low. Down, under, smacked against floor— any and every term there is to describe being done.  My family needs money, my work is *** and I had to quit, everything is just so, so wrong. I can't do this anymore, I can't even wake up anymore, or even find a will to eat. I want to cry, but I can't. I'm lonely and I don't have the will to even move, bring myself to sleep or do anything.  If i were a planet, previously i was just off my axis. Now, I am drifting off into the abyss and I don't know what to do or how to fix this.  I've always had answers, always worked towards fixing things, but I really don't know now. I need help, but who, how? 
No one is there for you
by carpenter83
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5 hours ago
...See more Why is it that I try so hard to be there for any friends and family that need me with whatever they need. Drop everything on a dime to help to be there, but when I'm down and I need help and I'm suffering and I reach out they're all too busy or just completely ignore me? Is that how friendships are supposed to work is that how family works? Feels a little one-sided to me and as much as I would like to say no next time I get those calls I know I won't because I'm a sucker I guess. Nice to know who's there for you.
Do you ever feel like telling just about everyone in the world to go f themselves?
by PineTreeTree
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5 hours ago
...See more Well the last couple of days has been exactly like that for me! I am so sick of just about everything and everybody and even people I should like are on my f list!  F f f f f f f f f !!!!! 😡 give me a trash can or something to kick!
Ethical dilemma
by Hopesanddreams5
Last post
8 hours ago
...See more I have been talking to a guy who is quite handsome and tall. We have been chatting and talking over calls since a few weeks now. I like him but he is at a very struggling phase right now and so am I. I am unsure about my career and I have many responsibilities at home. I am planning on moving countries next year and it is like 90% set already and I know he won't be able to move ever. The guy is from a village and his family is not as progressive and modern as mine. Also he is struggling with finances and has no career planning. I have faced financial problems since my childhood and am finally in a place where I can fulfill needs and some desires of me and my family. I am just not seeing myself dating someone who I might have to add to my financial responsibilities just yet. To be honest, I even feel like I want to date and marry a stable person now. I don't need the riches but I don't want struggles as well. He has asked me out on a date. I don't want to lead him on so I have asked him to wait for a month till we atleast understand each other a bit. Am I a superficial person or a *** to think like that?
I'm struggling with hair pulling
by exuberantBlackberry9105
Last post
9 hours ago
...See more hi, i've been struggling with pulling my hair for a while, over a year now, but i've never talked about it much because it makes me feel embarrassed. but i guess it's becoming a bit of a big problem right now and i thought talking might help, so here i am. i pull from my eyebrows, eyelashes, arms, and legs. i first started with my eyebrows, then started with my eyelashes pretty soon after. but i didnt start with my legs until a few months ago, and started with my arms some months after that. i really dont know why i do it. it just feels like a fun thing to do somehow. like if i'm tired and maybe have a headache, pulling, especially from my eyebrows and eyelashes feels relaxing. pulling from my arms and legs isnt that fun to be honest, but i still do it and i dunno why. it also feels good to look at the hair after pulling it. sometimes i roll it between my fingers. and by the way, its not something i just do if i'm worried or anxious or something. i could do it absolutely anytime. i look pretty weird because of this. my eyebrows are particularly noticeable. my mother comments on my eyebrows a lot, and when i tell her that i pull from it, she just tells me that i have to stop. but that's hard, so i just always use makeup to give the appearance of normal eyebrows. and i dont have an eyebrow pencil or something so i just have to use kajal to do it and a lot of times it doesnt work well but i try to make it work. my arms are pretty noticeable too. i mostly pull from my forearm and not my upper arm. i know most people dont have much hair on their upper arm, but i'm a really hairy person so i have hair on my upper arm too. but since i dont pull from my upper arm and pull from my forearm, its like there is more hair on my upper arm than my forearm, and it feels really very wierd and uncomfortable. most of my clothes sadly dont have sleeves that come up to my elbow. i tried to cover my arms by wearing a sweater for a long time but now it's getting too hot to wear a sweater. i still try to wear one sometimes, but 36°C is too hot for that. my eyelashes are luckily not very noticeable. like they dont look super good but they dont look visibly bad. and my legs are luckily not visible because i wear pants and even if i wear a frock i still wear leggings. but my eyebrows and arms are a big big problem. also, pulling is painful for my fingers. i usually use my thumb and index finger to pull, and on days when i pull a lot, my fingertips start hurting and become kinda red.  i try to stop myself sometimes. and if there's someone around i actually can because i dont like pulling in front of others. even when nobody's around, sometimes i actually can stop myself. but usually not for long. sometimes i feel like i should really stop pulling. part of me wants to stop because it makes me look weird, but part of me wants to keep doing this because it feels good while i'm doing it. i dont understand why i feel this way and i dunno what to do about this. i need some help sorting this out. is anyone else in a similar situation? i'm open to any suggestions to figure this out. thanks for reading this post, i appreciate it. 🤍
I am at the end of my rope...
by Jermagic
Last post
9 hours ago
...See more This is my first time ever posting something on anything like this, but I need to vent. I am a married man in my 30s. 3 kids. I work for the railroad, and am always traveling and often gone for 2 days at a time, and I'm consistently on duty 12+ hrs. I miss things with the kids, birthdays, etc. I joined the railroad due to my last job making cuts, and I needed a reliable, decent earning job. Well, often when I get home, my wife IMMEDIATELY hands all parental responsibility onto me. She states "she's exhausted" from taking care of the kids all day. Which I'm sure she is. She is a stay at home mom. She goes to the bedroom and does whatever while I'm taking care of the kids. I've brought up to her before about how I though it unfair that the first thing that she does is say "they are all on you now" after working 12+ hours, knowing I'm going to get called to work in 10 to 16 hours later. She gets mad at me and tells me how I need to help her more. I'm sleep deprived, depressed, anxious, all of the above. I'm dad, I love my children, I'll do anything for them. The issue I'm having is how my wife treats me like I should bowing down to her since she stays at home and takes care of the children. I honestly do not know how much more I can take. I just needed to get that off my chest
everything i’m rubbish at. ✨
by LoveMyMoonflowers
Last post
14 hours ago
...See more this is a list of everything i’m rubbish at (:  1) being a human  2) being a friend  3) being a student  4) being helpful  5) looking after myself  6) talking to people  7) writing poetry  8) writing anything really.  this list is infinite but i can’t think of everything. 
Mistakes & Regrets
by Shinebright777
Last post
18 hours ago
...See more Has anyone made a bad mistake that’s hurt someone and felt guilty ? How did you overcome it?
School problem
by Awele2005
Last post
21 hours ago
...See more Umm, I got accepted into a nursing school, I was very happy, I still am, I've been here for about 6 months, it's far away from home, I recently got diagnosed with mild sensorineural hearing, it's eating me up, I have to sit in front of the class, because I wouldn't really hear the tutor well, I have supportive friends they don't mind repeating what they said or helping me when i don't hear the lecturer, not many people know, I feel so embarrassed when i have to tell someone to repeat, I've cried many times, people laugh when i reply and it's not the correct reply to the question, it's hard to focus in church too, it makes me think how will i cope in clinicals, or the hospital, an elderly woman spoke to me today, she had to repeat herself 6 times before i could understand her, My mom doesn't think I need hearing aids, she says I'm over thinking it, that it's just mild, hearing aids are expensive, the school I'm going its expensive, i don't want to put strain on them,
Hey hey (little update)
by AdrienLovesYou23
Last post
23 hours ago
...See more Hey hey! I'm Adriennn if you guys don't already know me.  Unfortunately, this will be my last day on cups for a LONG time. It's very saddening but I will try to be on here and there, not sure what my availability will look like, but I will try. I will most likely be back around August/September. I will try to come back on before I age up. My pms won't be open, I will be going on break. I'm so sorry to everyone and I will miss you guys dearly Tagging friends: @XxDustedSkiiesxX @Harrypotterfanandbooknerd @Lenapaige @CatHanderOutNoah @TheZodiacSystem @MaxiePooh @justmeeva @Thatcrazysystem99 @lgbtqeario @iloveyouxx @theboymoana @LoveMyMoonFlowers @DarkerPlaces @ReganL (sorry if i missed you, ill remember as i see more people)
our little world
by iloveyouxx
Last post
23 hours ago
...See more hihi lovely🩷 this is my first post ever :0 I need to make an introduction post hehe- but posting can be scary sometimes :'3 @pixierobin i felt like we had a teenie bit of a fallout last year :0 thought it’d be different but youre still the same fun and sweet person I remember you being💜 I know we already used to have a forum space but I wanted to make a new one to kind of just- restart hehe :P🤍 (also I know you were meant to try to sleep before this- did you get any sleep ??🤍)

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