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by Kristynsmama
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more I would like to take a moment to introduce myself to the Self harm subcommunity.  My name is Kristynsmama (Kristy for short).  I have been self harm free for about 10 years!  I look forward to supporting this community!  Please feel free to reach out and make sure to tell me you are from the self harm forum!
Weekly Check in 4.14.24
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 1 day ago
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Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
S/h
by Midnighttink
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more Two days clean.
New Forum Supporter
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more I would like to take a moment to introduce myself to the Self harm subcommunity.  My name is Kristynsmama (Kristy for short).  I have been self harm free for about 10 years!  I look forward to supporting this community!  Please feel free to reach out and make sure to tell me you are from the self harm forum!
Anxiety and SH - really really need advice
by anonymousturtle1121
Last post
 22 hours ago
...See more Ive had depression for a long time. I never actually self harmed until really recently, and I don’t even know if it’s considered self harm, I would just scratch at any parts of myself until they turned red or felt like it burned. either way, I’ve been trying not to do this bad habit, and it’s just really really hard. I have pretty bad anxiety and little things cause me to panic really easily. Right now im dealing with some relationship issues and just the anxiety around my relationship issues and wanting that feeling of anxiety to go away, but not wanting to take out those emotions on my boyfriend or other people, I don’t know what to do with those feelings. I don’t want to take out this anxiety negatively on my boyfriend, especially when he is already busy and dealing with his own issues. And, it causes us to spiral further down a relationship rabbit hole and my anxiety gets worse. But then, if I sit with it, I don’t know where to put it. Without resolving it or “taking it out” on someone or something, it sits there giving me the jitters and I can’t think straight or focus at all. I start physically shaking and I just keep falling down a spiral of negativity. And that anxiety when it starts to build up and become too much, i take it out on myself to make myself feel better. And for the longest time, even right now, I feel like taking it out on myself instead of other people or instead of sitting with it is the best option for everyone. But it’s so hard because I want to find a healthier way to cope, this one just seems the easiest. My boyfriend has told me that I should look into therapy but, without going into the details of my situation too much, that’s not an option right now. Among the self harm, there are other thoughts that I don’t know if I should talk about here. But assuming that anyone reading this can see in between the lines, those thoughts haven’t just come and go like before for me, the emotions are piling up and it’s hard to keep them from leaving at all. Even when im in a situation where im “supposed” to feel happy I just can’t. This- it’s the only thing I ever think about anymore and I don’t know what to do. I don’t feel like I have any more options left to make the pain go away.
Top 5 reasons for self harming behavior
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 22 hours ago
...See more * These are the top 5 reasons that young adults practice in sept harming behaviors.  Which of these rings true for you?  It can be one of them or all of them.  Understanding why we practice this behavior is a key in long term recovery. * 1.  To release emotional pressure (In one study, 85 percent [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2723954/] of participants said this was their biggest reason for self-harming.) * 2.  In order to control how they’re feeling * 3.  To get away from intolerable emotions * 4.  As a way of punishing themselves or expressing anger at themselves * 5.  Being triggered by exposure to self-harm relapse in others or in the media.
"I don't want to live, but I dont want to die" Existential Crisis is killing me OMG, send help (/ω＼)
by IwishmynamewasEllise
Last post
 23 hours ago
...See more AFTER months of going through my days feeling all gloomy and sad (without any major reasons) and multiple Mental Breakdowns, i finally accepted that "I am not okay". (I JUST ACCEPTED THIS YESTERDAY LOL, which is why i joined this community. I want to be better, feel better and grow better) i was indenial of my own vulnerability. Hehe T_T Im not okay... No matter how many times i watch TheWizardLiz for motivational words of wisdom that could boost my spirit up, yes it does have effects on me for a day or two but after that, the emptiness, low sense of purpose continues to eat me up. No matter how many times i try to do the thibgs that used to bring me joy, nothing. Nothing changes, the emptiness and loneliness is still there lingering on the back of my mind. I tend to question my worth these days, my purpose in life and the reason why i exist. I am conflicted of what i should do now that im getting closer to College life. I am confused of what i really want, What i love and need but all i know, i am living without a reason, not that i know it yet. I used to be so happy and motivated in my life but now, ever since i ented Senior Highschool, i no longer feel the fire in me. Its so cold and lonely and i want to know if people here feel/felt the same that i do rn. "A heavy weight is lighter together" soooo meuheheh tho i dont wnat people being conflicted with themselves tho!!! I just want to you know and relate with people HEHE
What do I do? I relapsed again.
by clearnigntmoonlight
Last post
 23 hours ago
...See more TW!! .  .  I relapsed again! Yay! Obvious sarcasm. Sorry, it's the only way I can handle it.  The past two years I've only done it once in the two Novembers. Why? I don't know. I've done it every year since I was like 11 (not exactly once a year in that same month. It's usually always different) and I haven't done it since November 2023. Until now. I don't know why I did it. I've been trying to convince myself not to for the past two months. But it seems the more I try to help myself or the more I try to get help from others, the more I want to do it. I feel like I want it but I know I don't. It hurts a lot. They aren't that bad though. I call them cat scratches because that's what they look like. I have a patch of toilet paper taped to my leg and I have school tomorrow so I'm just gonna have to sleep like that. It's very ugly because they are overlapping previous SH scars. I don't know why it is so appealing to me. Or why I find it "beautiful" sometimes What do I do? Indulging in my interests doesn't seem to help even though I love them dearly. I feel guilty for that fact. The fact it hasn't helped. Like I'm wronging something or someone because I'm doing this instead of trying to cope by watching my hyperfixation medias. I feel sort of sick. But when I go out tomorrow I know I will feel fine on the outside. I kind of don't have a choice. And I don't have anyone to tell either lol!!!! I am also extremely unmotivated to do anything, especially very important and required school work. But I can't let anyone know. If I talk to my school counselor the school will tell my parents and I can't have them going through that again.  So, yknow, again. What do I do? 
How to cover up scars?
by Lilachocolatecake
Last post
 23 hours ago
...See more Hi I'm clean for about 4 month's witch is great but of course I still have visible scars on my left arm. Now that sommer is coming I hate having to wear long sleeves again like the last 2 years while everyone else walks around in shirts. I think my scars are sort of healed but they are white if you know what I mean so they are definitely visible. Does anyone have tips on how to cover them up without wearing long sleeves?
Hello! I’m new here 👋
by DimStar789
Last post
 23 hours ago
...See more Hello! Im new here, my name is Aubrey. I’m 13 (idk I haven’t rly seen anyone the same age as me 😶)  I’ve been self harming for a year or two on and off. Idk rly what I’m supposed to write. Anyways, hello! Love,  Aubrey
scars
by tealOcean147
Last post
 23 hours ago
...See more hi everyone, im devon and i’m new. idk what to say but i have a dance for school coming up and i’m really scared to wear a dress and for people to see my scars and recent cuts. it’s my first school dance because i’m in 8th grade so i’m really scared.
Weekly Check in 4.14.24
by Kristynsmama
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more
Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
The Butterfly Project
by SunFern
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more What is The Butterfly Project? The Butterfly Project is focused on motivating individuals struggling with self-harm to quit it. The idea is simple. The person simply draws a butterfly on their place(s) of self-harm and, if the butterfly fades without them self-harming, it means it has lived and flown away, giving them a sense of achievement. Whereas if they do self-harm with the butterfly there; they will have to wash it off. If that does happen, they can start again by drawing a new one on. The rules are pretty simple: 1. When you feel like you want to cut, take a marker, pen, or sharpies and draw a butterfly on your arm or hand. 2. Name the butterfly after a loved one, or someone that really wants you to get better. 3. You must let the butterfly fade naturally. NO scrubbing it off. 4. If you cut before the butterfly is gone, you have killed it. If you don't cut, it lives. 5. If you have more than one butterfly, cutting kills all of them. 6. Another person may draw them on you. These butterflies are extra special. Take good care of them. 7. Even if you don't cut, feel free to draw a butterfly anyways, to show your support. If you do this, name it after someone you know that cuts or is suffering right now, and tell them. It could help.

Hello, and welcome to the Self-Harm Recovery Subcommunity! It’s great to have you here, and we are proud of you for making the first brave step in reaching out for support. This is our supportive, safe and friendly environment, and we are glad to have you here 😃. Feel free to direct any questions to the appropriate leader of our community, which you can find at the bottom of the about section. ⭐️

🌟 Feel free to say hello and introduce yourself! Or if you want to just browse for now that is okay too! Take your time. We have several topics in our community such as the goals and success corner, recovery zone, support area and much more! Please use the relevant topic where appropriate so we can keep our community organised🌟

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🌟 To join our community leadership team feel free to look through Here for the requirements and apply to join our team 🌟

🌟 Again, thank you for joining our community, and we look forward to seeing your progress on your journey! If you have any questions, please reach out to the relevant leader 😊

Community Guidelines

These guidelines are inspired by some communities around 7 cups! This is so we can adapt our little family to accommodate as many different life experiences and situations as possible. We recognize we cannot adapt to every circumstantial rule. However, we have outlined some of the common guidelines needed for our community. ❤️

✪ Please do not share any graphic images or descriptions of self-harm tools!

✪ Please do not mention the name of any tools used for self-harm in any area of the self-harm recovery community.

✪ Names of methods of self-harm are allowed to be shared in the group support room, but where possible please try to exchange a method name for the phrase "self-harm".

✪ When mentioning methods of self-harm or potentially triggering details of another topic in the forums, please put a trigger warning at the top of the post so people are able to click away from the post if they would like to. Additionally, please try to find an appropriate place within our forums to make your post. Certain areas are reserved for specific content, so please consider this when making your post.

✪ Pro-self-harm content will not be tolerated!

✪ Please be respectful to everyone, members and listeners alike.

✪ Remember, everyone's experiences are different. Please do not undermine or invalidate anyone's situation because it is not what most would consider "normal". We are a diverse community and have people from many backgrounds, so please always be respectful!

✪ General kindness, courtesy, and etiquette are heavily appreciated!

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