People will experience ADHD a little differently per individual as with all experiences, however common struggles are being easily distracted, intrustive thoughts, impulsiveness, difficiult staying focused on what they want to do, trouble following or remember directions, difficulty reading lists or doing things in sequence, sometimes it is hard to keep up with promises even with best intentions, difficulty organizing activities; an adult who has struggled with adhd since childhood without assistance may also suffer from self-esteem issues and restlessness. It's not uncommon for people with adhd to have general anxiety, social anxiety, depression, challenges managing emotions, or extreme stress. It is frustrating to experience for the person with ADHD and the person may feel they are a burden to those around them even though the ADHD is not their fault. Imagine in a simple scenario, you wake up in the morning - you are now attacked by all of the things you can do that day all at once, it is immense pressure and hard to prioritize what you should do first - get dressed? pay bills? make a phone call? check on an app? eat something? Imagine that you are hungry, you go to the kitchen but on the way, you are thinking about what is happening tomorrow, what happened yesterday, what else you could be doing on your walk to the kitchen, if you have your phone with you, you might be looking at web sites or apps on your walk to the kitchen, continually being distracted until finally you may forget why you went to the kitchen in the first place, you are already doing a million other things, the moment when you wanted to go to the kitchen feels like it was hours ago even though only a minute has passed. Imagine that you are in a relationship with someone whom you love very much, you want to make them happy and show them that you care, and you do your best, you are always doing little things for them, but you also forget things to do for them that you said you would, this makes you feel frustrated and when you see that your partner is disappointed, you feel even worse. People with ADHD need a lot of encouragement. Positive reinforcement. Negative reinforcement does not help with ADHD at all, it only spirals the ADHD out and magnifies any other symptoms that the person has such as depression or low self-esteem. Patience, compassion, and love is key for both people in this situation. ADHD is not a bad thing. Many people with ADHD accomplish great things, can become innovators, motivators, or successful in many areas of their life. Having ADHD does not mean that someone is crazy. If you know someone with ADHD, let them know that you're there for them, that you accept them and love them. If you have ADHD, try to be patient with yourself, compassion for yourself. There is more and more reading material and research on ADHD than ever before, it's okay to do some research for yourself or speak to a professional about it. Good luck and be well.