Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

What struggles do people with ADHD face?

154 Answers
Last Updated: 06/27/2023 at 9:10pm
What struggles do people with ADHD face?
1 Tip to Feel Better
India
Moderated by

Jui Shankar, Ph.D

Psychologist

My worldview offers a systems perspective that values diverse clients and their struggles. I believe supportive and nonjudgmental therapeutic relationships empower clients.

Top Rated Answers
TheBrookster
May 3rd, 2020 6:44am
This is coming from who has ADHD, so this is my perspective on it. ADHD makes the world a very scary and challenging place. People with ADHD may experience things like lack of focus, easily distracted, hyperactivity, lack of organization, forgetfulness. People with ADHD may also experience things like impulsivity, irritability, aggression, and stubbornness. People with ADHD might also have anxiety and/or depression. Some people with Autism may also have ADHD. For me personally, it’s a struggle for me but you learn to adapt to your needs. It’s important to note that just because ADHD makes things harder, they don’t make them impossible!
KennedyRise
May 13th, 2020 9:58pm
Often, people with ADHD spend more time studying than others, but come away with lower test scores than others. It can feel disheartening and confusing and serve as a demotivation to study. If you are in school, advocate for accommodations which will help you thrive. Perhaps your teacher will let you take a test orally or give you more time to take a test than others. If you aren't successful in getting this sort of accommodation, consider requesting to be tested for learning disabilities and ADHD. If you qualify, you will be able to work with the Resource staff to develop and implement accommodations for all of your assignments and tests. These accommodations will increase the chances that you will experience school success more equivalent to the effort you put in. They will also help you in better understanding how best you learn.
shannon3546
May 14th, 2020 2:03pm
I think the biggest struggle for anyone with ADHD is keeping focus, it could be in school in work or at home! little things such as doing homework, tidying there rooms, even just watching a movie, I personally don't have the attention spam others may have especially in school and as soon as someone points it out I would loose the head I have learned to control this. fidgeting is a big some would call issue but I say way of dealing with it, it helps people stay focused and on task rather than sitting there day dreaming, if anyone would like to talk about ADHD drop me a message : )
AstralOcean
May 27th, 2020 10:09pm
I think it really depends on the person. Everyone is different and we don't all experience ADHD in the same manner. For me, anxiety and occasional depression came as a bit of a package deal - mostly anxiety. As a kid, being so anxious made me withdrawn, and my social skills suffered pretty badly as a result. Something else that i notice in particular is being impulsive. This varies per person as well, but i have to take extra care while driving sometimes, and sometimes i want to buy things but hold myself back so i can spend the money on other things. Some people with ADHD are very talkative, while others tend to be quiet because they're anxious or don't know what to say.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2020 4:59pm
People with ADHD face many problems related to how other people see them. Some people think that it is not a real mental illness, and some people only know about the hyperactivity and yhen when other symptoms are shown they don't understand that it's beyond the persons controll. Because of this people choose not to tell people but then they get judged for not acting "correctly" this can really hurt a persons self esteem especcisllh because a person with ADHD already struggles with keeping emotions in check. Most people with ADHD get diagnosed with another mental illness at some point( depression, anxiety) in girls ADHD presents itself differently so they can be misdiagnosed or just think there is something wrong with them.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2020 7:31pm
Well it may vary from person to person. Obviously you have the main ones such as a short attentions span, hyperactivity, fidgeting and squirming etc. But it varies for every individual. Some may find they don't have some of the symptoms that others do, it depends on person to person. In my experience with it I tend to be quite impulsive, speaking without thinking or doing things without thinking them through first,I find tests extreme hard as I can't focus and my mind is just in a completely different place to where it should be. I also have to be doing something. It could be tapping the desk or walking or biting my sleeve, just anything. I can't stand still for long. Obviously this is just the things I have to deal with, or some of them, it will be different for everyone, so if you have any suspicions then it would be best to ask someone professional and trained in the area.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2020 9:00pm
A lot, unfortunately. It can be very challenging to live with ADHD and learning to work with the struggles and how to manage them is a necessary life skill. Things like low self-esteem, poor grades or struggling in school, difficulty getting into college or getting a job. Anxiety, depression or other mental health issues, time-management challenges. Difficulty managing money, disorganization, difficulty sitting still, focusing- either trouble concentrating or hyper focusing are just a few. There are things apparent as children that people struggle with but becomes easier as they grow older. Some challenges stay forever, or appear as responsibilities grow. Hope this helps
proudPeace77
August 13th, 2020 10:12am
They can't concentrate for long periods of time and they become short tempered if they are constantly badgered by people. They have a short attention span which means they find it difficult to complete tasks, so this could mean that they could have issues when they are at school, college or work. They may not have many friends because people may not understand where they are coming from and they can't express themselves very well. Their family life may be difficult and they may have conflicts within the family or become overprotected because their parents are worried about how they are coping with their every day life. It is not easy for them.
Anonymous
October 15th, 2020 12:13pm
They struggle to focus on a project, class, task etc. They find long periods of concentration difficult to manage. Sitting still for long periods can be difficult for them because they have a lot of energy, which can cause them to tap foot, swing arm etc. Hyperactivity is common because of excess energy. Procasination is common because they can find they easily become distracted and get bored easily. The style of learning is likely to be different because they like to be hands on and to move around. Their communication is likely to suffer because they can appear their not listening, which could be misunderstood for rudeness.
RainbowRosie
October 18th, 2020 5:36pm
Having ADHD can have a significant impact on someone’s life. It is a medical condition that affects a persons attention and self control. Symptoms include trouble organising tasks, being easily distracted, avoiding things that take effort, the inability to hold their attention on a given task, often loses things, ie. keys, mobile phone, etc., can often forget daily activities, ie. routine appointment and doesn’t seem to be listening when spoken to directly. They can also have trouble multi tasking, can be restless with low frustration tolerance. For anyone suffering with ADHD it can be extremely difficult for them to do their job or even hold down a job, feeling as they do. If left untreated it can lead to significant problems with their education, family and social situations, any relationship they may be in, self esteem and emotional health. It’s never too late to recognise and diagnose and treat ADHD.
jocelynmaryeilleen
October 25th, 2020 8:31pm
People who have ADHD struggle from so much! From the actual struggles of it to the people who say you use it as an excuse! ADHD is really hard to have, because it make school, sleeping, eating, and doing all the "normal" things harder. You have to potentially take on the responsibility of taking medication, and you may have to have special accommodations in school, that can be sometimes embarrassing. when you want to sleep, your mind does not shut up, and when you have to eat, you may not have an appetite. It makes people think you are weird and hyper. ADHD may not be as serious as other things, but to the person with ADHD, it is serious, because, we have to work so much harder to get by and succeed.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2020 9:23am
People with ADHD have trouble focusing, and paying attention. They may have shorter memory and lose things often aswell, and sometimes they can be disorganized. Some people with ADHD may have trouble controlling anger, or just emotions in general, and some people may have impulsiveness. They may get bored more easily and crave attention more aswell. A lot of people with ADHD will have problems at school or work, and may preform lower aswell. Sometimes they may also have trouble socializing and bulding friendships too. They may have a harder time battling addiction, and might have a low tolerance for frustration.
endearingLove2648
November 19th, 2020 11:09pm
People with ADHD suffer many struggles. Some being anxiety, boredom, trouble concerntration, depression, trouble controlling anger, impulsiveness, and hoplessness. People with ADHD struggle with concentrating at work or any kind of activity. This can be a struggle, especially when the person is in school or having to sit down for extended periods of time. In addition, people with ADHD are often on medications that can come with very troubling symptoms. For exmaple, people with ADHD are often prescribed amphetamines which are knwon for cuasing: insomnia, anxiety, anorexia and weight loss. Patients with ADHD need to be aware of these side effects.
MissMorgue125
January 30th, 2021 12:42pm
I have no concentration, I can get super restless and also super exciteable at times. In these moments I feel stuck in my head, like I am watching a film, and I cringe at what I am doing albeit have little control over it. I can't help being so exciteable all the time. I feel as I have gotten older my ADHD is a lot more manageable than when I was a kid and teen. It is still a part of my life and I have good and bad days. I couldn't even tell you the last time I managed to sit through a whole film.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2021 5:37pm
Adults with ADHD may find it difficult to focus and prioritize, leading to missed deadlines and forgottenmeetings or social plans. The inability to control impulses can range from impatience waiting in line or driving in traffic to mood swings and outbursts of anger. Adult ADHD symptoms may include: Impulsiveness they cant get there work done nor can they focus they need help finishing a task and they cant be still there always moving around no matter what and they need something in thee hand or else they will eat be a big distractions to not only them selves but the people around them
joyous19
April 2nd, 2021 4:53pm
People with ADHD struggle with quite a few symptoms. They often struggle with being too impulsive, meaning they often act before they think, sometimes showing poor judgement. They usually have difficulty feeling and staying motivated, and have trouble paying attention to or concentrating on a given task for long. Sometimes they struggle with organizing tasks and activities, and they may also show signs of hyperactivity, or restlessness, which makes them feel as though they need to be moving. Additionally, the often struggle with controlling their emotions, and often have feelings of low-self esteem because of their inability to act in the ways they are expected to/wish to.
englishpancakes
April 9th, 2021 3:12pm
Not enough people understand that the world is vastly under-stimulating to those with ADHD. In order to pay better attention, sometimes I have to do something else. This makes Zoom calls rough because there's this perception of appearing rude if you're not 100% focused on the screen. But sitting still erodes my ability to listen attentively. As long as I can snack, fidget or do anything else that helps occupy my senses, my mind is free to zero in on the conversation. I need a minimum level of stimulation otherwise trying to accomplish anything takes so much more effort.
Listeninghedgehog29
April 29th, 2021 2:24am
As someone who wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until they were 19, I didn’t realize that the way I thought or the path that lead me to thoughts/actions were different than everyone else. In school, I was chastised for being lazy when I couldn’t retain the information that I read in textbooks. I would get frustrated and experience a lot of anxiety because I could read a test question 30 times and still not understand what it was asking, because My brain would shift somewhere else faster than my eyes could move. I would have questions that would pop into my head that I related to the subject at hand even though others didn’t. If I didn’t have my questions answered right then, I would not be able to continue with a lesson because I would zone out and miss a large part of the lecture which would then confuse me when I got to homework and/or the next lesson. I have a hard time comprehending one-on-one conversations in higher stress situations, like job interviews, professional appointments, medical visits, etc. As a kid, I would get in trouble for not listening, but I didn’t know what I was told in the first place. While I was experiencing all of these things, I shamed myself a lot because I thought that I was the issue. I thought that I was not handling myself well and that it was my fault that I was doing these things and having these feelings. Not only did I not recognize these issues in myself, but my teachers, my parents, and other people in my life thought that what they were observing, (my actions and reactions because of these experiences), were character flaws and lack of intelligence and/or ambition. This inhibited my ability to connect with teachers, peers, and others. It also fueled my development of depression, anxiety, and eating disorders. I have now learned to give myself a little bit of grace and explain my situation to those who notice my differences. I have found that once people understand what is happening, they are a lot more patient and accepting. People with ADHD are not stupid, they are not a nuisance, they are not insensitive or lazy. Most of the time, they don’t realize that people don’t think the same way that they do. My way of thinking is different and can be annoying sometimes, but I wouldn’t want my brain to work any differently.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2021 8:37pm
People with ADHD face many struggles, but it varies from each person. One of the big struggles a lot of people with ADHD face is time management. From my personal experience it is very hard to just do one thing, Im either doing nothing or Im doing everything, and it is very hard. People with ADHD often face struggles in school, but not always, sometime ADHD presents itself in the stereotypes that people have made of the disorder. Some people are very energetic, loud, restless, while others are quiet, reserved, ect, it varies between each person but because ADHD presents itself so differently in every person that leads to misdiagnoses and that makes it very hard for a person with ADHD to know.
Anonymous
May 25th, 2021 3:25pm
I'll make it short We tend to overthink a lot , we over process things inside our heads. Which makes people think that were slow or lazy but we're over working our heads over things. The outcome can be good because we think it over a lot and also can be a bad outcome because we're too slow to make a decision because of overthinking. We rarely get bored, we're very imaginative. We could be good writers they say but can be stubbornly lazy to write . We love to think a lot. We suffers from insomnia. We often get annoyed because we can't concentrate on things that we need to do
Anonymous
May 29th, 2021 12:46am
People with ADHD often have trouble focusing on tasks as their mind will wander from one place to another. They also tend to be fidgety and may move around a lot. This can lead to issues such as impulsivity and trouble paying attention to their surroundings. Low self-esteem, troubled relationships, and difficulty with work may result. However, there are ways to get help. Medication and talk therapy are known to help bring clarity to those struggling. Waiting their turn and interrupting conversations are also common struggles among those with ADHD. Overall, this mental disorder is common, which is why it goes undiagnosed so often. However, it interferes with one's quality of life as their mind and body are overactive, more than the average individual.
Sup3rN0va
June 2nd, 2021 6:14pm
People with ADHD are often misunderstood and suffer from low self-esteem because of this. ADHD is often associated with mental health issues such as anxiety or depression. They face many day to day struggles such as getting jobs, making friends in school and difficulty managing money which doesn't help in either of these areas. Many ADHD sufferers have trouble staying focused and tend to lose track of time and interrupt others because of this. This can be perceived as rude by lots of people who do not fully understand the condition. There is a massive stigma surrounding ADHD which does not help.
sourpatchsnail
August 15th, 2021 2:52am
Hi! Person with ADHD here. First clarification, there are different types of ADHD. There's hyperactive, or what people most commonly associate with adhd. Often these people feel like they can't sit still no matter how hard they try and constantly can feel under-stimulated. This is also the type that the vast majority of diagnosed people have. Then there's inattentive, hi, thats me :). On the daily I have a hard time with anything from being completely elsewhere, mentally, with a complete inability to be present, even, often, on my meds, OR being so hyperfocused on something that it is impossible to move. Yesterday instead of finishing the book I wanted to read, I spent 8 hours reading up on scottish cryptids and urban legends nonstop. Internally I knew I should stop. I wanted to stop. My brain agreed that I should stop. I could not. for the life of me. move from my position. I was too engrossed that while my brain wanted to move on, it wouldn't let me. Executive dysfunction is my worst enemy, and takes so much of my daily energy and motivation. Homework has always taken me 3-4x as long as my friends unless it was a topic I could word-vomit over. It took so much of my motivation trying to finish school during a pandemic, I nearly failed my entire second semester. And when I was little, I was constantly memorizing any commercial I saw or any fact that I read, and because I was a curious child, I was always asking questions. Unfortunately, this led to me being told on a daily basis that I was making everyone's ears bleed and that my parents often needed a break from me. There also the constant flip-fop of what I can do in a day. Some days I'm fine, I can do everything at a decent pace, multitask and still be fully focused on each activity, and others are the complete opposite. Math will make me spiral, I won't absorb a single thing from that day, I feel like a zombie trudging through a thick cloud of gray while barely even being conscious. Stimulation is everywhere and nowhere at the same time. Sitting in a silent room, I'll pick up on the smallest noise (the buzz of a light, the tick of a clock, that one person's sneaker on the other end of the room rubbing their shoe on the metal leg of a chair) and it will completely derail me. I won't be able to stop honing in on it and it drives me insane. At the same time, I put my headphones on and play the loudest, most angry music I can which overstimulates my mind in a good way. I can't speak as much on the hyperactive side, but theres no shortage of resources for that end. Inattentive is more common among females than hyperactive, which is why we so often go undiagnosed. We overcompensate to make up for our shortcomings, mixed with the fact that we're not balls of energy, it comes across as just being determined. The third type is a mix of inattentive and hyperactive, and can be anywhere in-between the two. I hope this helps and so sorry for the word vomit haha! Have a good day!
kindZebra4867
August 15th, 2021 11:53pm
Everyone with ADHD will experience different kinds of struggles. No one person is the same. So, I'm answering based on my own personal experience and from others that I know. I find the ADDitude magazine a great resource for ADHD symptoms. I personally struggle with focusing on one task sometimes. I can't concentrate as well when there's background noise or other conversations happening. I also struggle with concentration when switching between tasks. There's also struggles with executive function and making sure that I finish the important tasks instead of working on the tasks that I want to work on that may not be near as important. Plus there's several others. I highly suggest checking out ADDitude magazine to find out more symptoms and struggles.
abigailrebecca
October 8th, 2021 5:43pm
Personally, I find living a consistent routine that most people would find normal a major challenge. I will put off tasks that need to be done such as showering, doing laundry and washing the dishes until they absolutely need to be done - although I've been much better at staying on top of things recently. ADHD also makes hitting deadlines difficult. I am the absolute queen of procrastination, and I will leave everything to the last second and sometimes even miss the deadline. I find it really difficult to engage in repetitive or boring tasks even if they are very important and need to be completed. I also struggle to hold interest in most things - it feels like there is always a television on in my head with something playing in the background. Some days it's worse than others, but I struggle with listening to long conversations, watching long movies, and doing things such as meditating.
PaulaMaria
October 16th, 2021 6:44am
Having worked with various individuals with ADHD, I think I can list some things that trouble people with this disorder: 1. Disorganization - This is like the hallmark of a person having ADHD. It gets my colleagues into so much trouble at work because they lose track of important documents and information. 2. Procrastination - This is also an extension of disorganization. Procrastination always leads to unpreparedness at work. And in the last moments, projects gets really overwhelming and the end is a mess. 3. Distraction - Do you know how difficult it is to stay focused in a meeting? People with ADHD always miss out on stuff because half the time the mind is traveling to a distant land. Can't help it! I hope this answers your question.
LexTheWolf
November 24th, 2021 8:02am
Hello, person with diagnosed ADHD and autism here, I think I'm qualified to answer this question: One thing people with ADHD struggle with is the motivation to get things done. It's almost like having a mental block... You know you have to do something, but you just endlessly put it off. One thing I've found that helps with this is the "Might as well" mindset, wherein the bathroom needs to be clean, I got nothing better to do, so might as well do it. Another thing people with ADHD struggle with is emotional regulation, and I personally struggle with feelings of rejection.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2022 11:31am
Personally, I find my struggles with ADHD seem to creep up on me the most when I'm at work. The issue isn't symptoms of my ADHD, per se, rather the misunderstanding of my condition. So little people understand ADHD and for that reason I can sometimes come across to others as lazy or unmotivated. The reality is the opposite. I find throughout the working day I run on short bursts of energy to get my work done. Normally I speed through my work quite quickly in the morning, only to end up burnt out by lunchtime. Then, I find it particularly difficult to get back on track and stay focused, until the hour before my shift ends. Usually at that point I feel enough pressure to force myself back to the work. I've also always found it difficult to stick to anything for a long period of time. I dropped out of university twice and left two jobs before completing my first week. It's very hard for me to keep myself on track at times. I tend to disassociate pretty bad. If there are multiple conversations happening at once, or lots of movement, I really struggle to focus on one thing. Back in my schooldays I used to daydream a lot, or zone off. I was a smart kid, but my intelligence only went as far as subjects I had a real passion for, which is why I struggled to scrape by in classes that required heavy amounts of focus, like maths and science.
Sky987654321
January 30th, 2022 11:16pm
People with ADHD may struggle with everyday things like doing housework or finishing school/work assignments, because of a state of brain where you can only do what your brain wants to do, otherwise you'd be bored and/or unable to focus, which can be a problem in school especially while doing boring/repetitive activities. People with ADHD may also have a problem with paying attention to conversations even if the conversations are directed to them. Other struggles may include zoning out or hyperfocusing, cutting out or finishing other people's sentences and sometimes even having and keeping relationships/friendships. Some people might also have trouble feeling restless while sitting/standing still for a longer period of time.
Maggie021
February 4th, 2022 1:59am
The struggles of ADHD are far wider than they seem. Lack of motivation, anxiety, restlessness, brain fog, hyperactive all affect one’s daily life. Living with ADHD can feel like a never ending journey. Managing it can be even harder, but it can be done. Sometimes it feels as though your brain is going a million miles a minute while your body is too tired to move. Other days the brain fog is so bad you can’t remember where you parked your car. Those who don’t have ADHD may not understand what it’s like but just know there are so many that do.