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How do enable myself to stop being peer pressured into doing things that I don't want to do?

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Last Updated: 08/03/2020 at 7:03pm
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Top Rated Answers
SlowReader55
March 9th, 2015 9:45pm
I've always found peer pressure to be a major problem in young-adult life. There is no easy answer to this question and just asking any of your peers they'll tell you to "Just say no to people trying to pressure you into something.". But it's never that simple. People will be constantly pressuring you to do things you don't want to throughout your life. To drink underage when you're young, to smoke and take drugs in your teenage years, to drink the day before going to work in your adult life and finally your family trying to pressure you into an elderly home in your old age. There's nothing you can do to stop it really. Eventually you'll give into something that you could regret in later life. The question is, are you ready to face the consequences of the decision you make? Or will you refuse to give in to the pressure and move on with your life? It's your decision. We're just here to try and bring you to a decision.
cellardoor1985
June 16th, 2015 1:45am
You need to seek out your inner-strength. let go of your desire to appease others and learn to let the pursuit of your own moral code dictate your happiness.
uniqueSalamander23
November 14th, 2016 7:09pm
Going against your peers can be scary but it is worth it to grow as a person. Think about if you would do this on your own without your peers around. Its better to be yourself.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2018 7:46pm
Remind yourself of the reasons why you don't want to do those things that others are doing. Also to go against peer pressure is a test of strength and character, it strengthens your will power and gives your a sense of being your own person.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2018 6:14am
Try to remind yourself why you dont want to do the things your peers are trying to get you to do, reinforce that idea in your head and be confident in your decision to say no.
WesternCanada1
March 10th, 2015 3:12am
You should work on your self esteem and also develop your skills in things that you really like. If you do so, you will manage to put boundaries in your social relationships.
gentleMelon29
May 4th, 2015 12:41am
Think of myself and ask myself is this the right thing? Does this go along with my conscious?Respect
Vend
May 26th, 2015 6:51am
You speak up and take matters into your own hands. Nobody has the right to make you do anything that you don't want to.
Chelsdeanne93
June 29th, 2015 10:25pm
Stand up for yourself. Establish your own limits and continue to stand by them. Practice saying no in the mirror.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2016 12:33am
You have the right to say no! You also might want to stop hanging around anyone who may be a bad influence.
peacefulPup71
April 24th, 2018 4:25pm
I have learned that peer pressure never ends, however, I surround myself with people who enjoy doing the things I enjoy and not the things that could assist in the destructive side of me.
LittleMissJoy
January 22nd, 2019 12:07am
The best thing a person can do in this situation is learning and having the courage to say no. While it's normal for your friends and the people around to experiment, if you don't feel like doing that thing that everyone else seems to be doing then build up the courage to either walk away or say no. If the people your around make you feel bad or make fun of you for saying no then it's best you re consider the kind of friends that you have because, a good friend would accept your choice and support you for saying no.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2020 7:03pm
Peer pressure can be a difficult thing to deal with, despite people saying you can just say "no." The most important thing you need to do is constantly remind yourself of your own values, interests, and priorities and vow to yourself to stick by them. And don't worry if it's hard to do so at first, it takes time to overcome peer pressures, so be patient with yourself. And another major factor is the friends you spend time with. Find friends (and stay close to friends you already have) who value and treasure you for who you are and love you, despite your differences in interests. Additionally, it helps to find friends who have the same values and interests you have.