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How on earth am I going to survive sobriety and stay sober?

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Last Updated: 09/14/2021 at 10:39am
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Top Rated Answers
June 30th, 2015 3:17am
It only has to be done 1 day at a time. Dont look at all to the next day. And break each day into manageable steps. The less you look foward the easier it will seem. After time it will not be as hard. Even though this may not seem like it to you now after 25 years sober I assure you it does become easier as time passes.
May 18th, 2015 12:50am
These are a few things that are useful to keep in mind: first, surround yourself with a group of supportive people. You can't stop on your own, you need help and it's okay to ask for it! Have someone to talk to, have someone who can check up on you. Next, identify your triggers. Making a list of all the people, places, objects and thoughts/emotions that make you want to consume, and be careful to avoid them as much as possible. You have to remember that you're sensitive to these triggers, and to take them seriously. Next, find ways to distract yourself when the craving strikes. This is link pertaining to food cravings, but it has a lot of stuff that can work with other types of cravings too: Good luck!
October 25th, 2015 5:43am
It will take effort but you can do it! It will be easy once you've gotten used to not drinking at all.
December 14th, 2015 7:57am
Learn to love yourself more and more each day. Surround yourself with the most loving people you can find. Learn to forgive yourself. Practice gratitude on a daily basis. Help share your sobriety with others in 12 step meetings or in some other way.
August 8th, 2017 12:46pm
If we want to change our actions we need to look at why those actions make us feel "safe". When you have cravings ask yourself what is upsetting you that makes you want to have that relief. Aside from that, the only advice I can give you is to stay busy in a way that improves your life because ultimately sobriety is just something you have to keep pushing through. Remind yourself why you stopped and why you want to keep going. When you loose these reasons just do your best to keep moving
July 17th, 2018 7:42pm
It’s not an easy path, but you have to focus on how better life will get when you aren’t held down.
February 26th, 2019 4:53am
You have to stop thinking about two things: how much you want alcohol, and how hard life will Be without it. Those to mind sets are the kind of thing that leads to relapse. Right now, all you need to do is take it one moment at a time. Eventually you will be able to take it one day at a time and then one year at a time, but for now you need to focus on the current second. Live right now and understand that you are doing just fine without alcohol. Distract yourself with things like going on a walk, or drawing or journaling. I assure you, you can do this.
June 29th, 2020 1:40am
This is a question I ask every day and I completely understand the emotions behind this question, every day gets a little bit easier and there are days when it is crippling but what’s helps me is getting out of bed in the morning, having a shower and just thinking that you’re proving everyone that you can stay clean and value your sobriety, think about getting your life on track and respecting yourself for beating such a hard battle, it takes time but eventually you will wake up and be excited for the day and excited for the rest of your life, you’ll have an amazing life
September 14th, 2021 10:39am
Stay focused, remember why you chose to get sober in the first place and seek as much support as possible. Attend AA meetings and do the work they talk about, all the meetings they suggest and find yourself a sponsor! They have all, each and every one of them, been through what you’re going through and they know the struggles and feelings of doubt that come with becoming sober. They are there for you, to work the steps and push you toward successful sobriety and a healthy, fulfilling life. This is not an easy process, and there will be times when the emotions and the days become so overwhelming you will want to give up. Don’t!! You can get through it, taking everyday as it comes, working the steps and healing what brought you to drink in the first place. You are stronger than you know, and you can achieve sobriety