How to trust someone again who has consistently lied?

Sometimes people can regain our trust after a period of time--over that period of time, we might learn to trust that person again after he or she follows through on promises they have made. Depending on the person and your relationship with them, it may or may not help to discuss your concerns with them in a non-confrontational manner.

The lies may seem innocuous and innocent but the reality is that this person feels lies are acceptable. He or she may lie about being late coming home or say they did something that you needed done but in reality didn't do it. No major lies about infidelity or money but a pattern is being established where lying becomes second nature to the truth. Stop making excuses for the person who lies to you over and over again. He's not going to change and you can't expect him to be truthful

This is to say you have trusted them before after they have lied correct? Some say follow your gut instinct, when sometimes that is the wrong choice and it is based off a simple impulse. Be smart, but with heart. Business majors always speak upon head vs the heart. Understand, we all fall under a few white lies, sometimes others take it to the next level. Trust does not take the other person because it mainly takes you your will to give it. We must not forget to forgive, not just forgive and forget. Trust is give and take, and if you feel that all you have been doing is giving and not receiving, it is time to have a serious sit down with this person and just be transparent. They will see your openness and trust me, no pun intended, it will be easier for them to be open.

Urgh, thats a difficult one. It really depends on how much you cared for them and if you have the patience to find out what eventually got them to start acting this way. I personally think everyone deserves at least a second chance in life.

I always find something good in person who has consistently lied,i always find that lie is for a reason,it's not good advice but i am just like that,i always trust again,and again.

Perhaps... You don't. You may find the determination to choose to trust them, but whoever has "consistently" lied to you clearly hasn't earned your trust. If you want to still keep them in your life, I'd advise giving them a 'last chance' to show that they can be trustworthy; but frankly, don't let yourself get stuck in a bad situation just because you are too kind to let them go, or too afraid of losing them. Your friends/family/partners are only going to be worth keeping around if they respect you.

you can give him a second chance but beware that he lied and he did it once he will do it over and over and over you can give him a second chance but just becareful and take precautions

It is difficult to trust someone who consistently lies or has manipulative behavior. This person will need to prove over an extensive period of time that have stopped their lying ways. There is no reason for you to trust this person until they have a pattern of reliability. It's okay not to trust liars. However, if the person is making an honest effort, they can empathize with your position and will understand that you cannot trust them until a period of time has passed in which they have been truthful. Consider what compromises this person can make with you in the meantime, depending on their lying habits. For example, if the person has lied about who they speak with, are they comfortable showing you their phone from time to time? Trust goes both ways, however. Do NOT snoop on someone who has been lying to you. You too must remaining trustworthy to the other person. If you cannot think of any compromises, ask the other person what they would be willing to give up to prove to you that they are being honest from time-to-time. If the other person is unwilling to compromise on anything, let them know that they are making it even harder for you to trust them. Don't tell the person, but think to yourself how long you will wait to assess their trustworthiness again - a month? six months? How many more chances are you going to give this person - one, two? Try to be open-minded in this time if the person has expressed that they want to stop lying. Keep your boundaries. If the time comes and you decide you still don't trust them, let them know you'd like to take a break from interaction. If the person crosses their chances, let the person know they have lost their last chance and you'd like to take a break from interacting with them. You deserve to be around people who you feel comfortable with, with whom you feel you can trust, who trust you in return. These are just options and by no means are a path to success. Trust is a difficult thing and will take a lot of communication and self-reflection to sort out. Good luck!

Question is, If it is a good idea to trust somebody like that. Why would you want do trust somebody who betrayed you in the past? I highly recommend to consider this. However, if the person wants to change, you can give him one more chance, but be carfull. Don't trust him blindy and absolutely. Sometimes it is good to check if it's true, what the person is saying. It is easy to lost someone's trust but it is incredibly difficult to get it back. And the person should know it and understand it.

Learn to let go and have no expectations. Everyone has a reason as to why they they don't want to let go...but if you let go hopefully you will also be helping the other person.

you don't. if you have entrusted someone with things and they've lied, there's pretty much no way of getting that trust back.

The only way to trust someone is to do just that. The real question here is why are you putting yourself in a position to be lied to again?

It depends on what they lied about and what the relationship was. If it was a small lie may just be aggravated, If it was a huge lie it will just take a lot of time before you can trust them again.

Trust is something that is gained. If there is no desire to keep this person in your life, then remove them immediately. That is a toxic relationship that you do not want to have.

Well this question is as hard as fixing glasses... there is always scare.. this make me put some red lines

It is hard to trust someone who have hurt you with consistently lies. To be able to live a productive life let the past of hurt go or the person who always lies . Let go of a person who does not make good choices . Keep positive people in your life and out with the negative.

I think trust has to be earnt, and it's not up to you to find a way for you to trust the person - it's up to them to behave in a way where they earn your trust again. Trust is something we use to protect ourselves, and if you've lost your trust in a person, it's because you're trying to protect yourself from that person hurting you again. They have to show that they've changed enough that you can feel safe with them. Essentially, the onus is on them, not you, to change that.

After repeated betrayal, it really is hard to regain trust. Time heals wounds, but it also creates space, and it can feel like reopening wounds so sometimes its hard to make amends again and again:'/

The simple answer for me is forgiveness, because I find it so empowering. In my experience it assuages me of the burden of thinking about it, leaving me with a positive outlook. That doesn't necessarily mean I would forget being lied to but it would give me a foundation on which the person could rebuild my trust and earn my respect.

I don't think that you should try to trust this person. You may get hurt if you trust them because they could be lying to you the entire time you talk to them.

Try to slowly introduce the person back into your life, without rushing it. If even if it's asking a favor from them every once in a while, try to do it SLOWLY.

The best way is to allow the person that lied to build the trust with me as a person through actions. It is through actions that I can see what is within the individual rather than to adhere to the words they say.

Personalty, when some one continually lies to you it is very difficult to trust them ever again. this is the harsh truth of things, lying is something one continues on through a persons life.

Many people have interactions with others who aren't completely honest. Some people are less honest than others. The important thing is to identify these people, so you can listen more carefully. Listen to what they say, and if it sounds less than truthful, confront them about it. Maybe there is a deeper reason to why they aren't being truthful. Talk to them about it. Tell them that they can be truthful to you, that you won't judge them. They may open up to you, they may not. And if they continue to lie, distance yourself from them, and when you talk to them, listen carefully to what they're saying so that you have a clue if they're being truthful or not.

If they've constantly lied I wouldn't trust them again. An old saying comes to mind fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me

I don't really know, but as a person who has lied too my husband on numerous occasions when I was in my active addiction I can say its hard. I cant make promises because he wont believe me, but I am going to spend as much time needed to show him I got my head on right this time and I will never hurt him again.

We often find ourselves more trustworthy in situations where we are offered greater trust. Trusting someone is a reflection of our own trustworthiness, and does not necessarily reflect on their specific track record. We must make an active and conscious decision to trust in order to remove our own personal stress, rather than based on the acts of others.

You must first realize that you cannot change the person. If this person has consistently lied to you, do not expect an overnight change in them. My best advice is to remove yourself from any type of relationship with this person until they decide that lying to those that care about them is not a good thing to do. If this person has committed a change to you and is working on no longer being deceitful, trust must be rebuilt. It is difficult and takes a lot of time, but it can be done with patience and mutual understanding.

Your question telling the answer. Yes, how can we trust someone who lied constantly because we can't trust. It will be foolish to trust a liar. The lie is the root of all crime. A criminal starts doing crime from telling lies. If you trust a liar again and again, then you're feeding his criminal trait constantly and maybe one day that person even won't feel hesitated to kill you. So better not to trust a liar. There should miles of distance from a liar. Vigilant people get harmed less by bad people so instead of wasting time on trusting a great liar you better learn ways to be vigilant. Thank you

I am currently dealing with situation where I was lied to over a period of time and it my trust has been seriously eroded. I was very hurt and my heart was broken because I trusted this person with every fiber of my being. I was depressed and cried every day. I believe trust is a foundation and not much can be gained when trust has been destroyed by lies and deceit. The first step is to make the choice if you want to trust the person again and if you do then there is a process. For me it was a matter of setting boundaries, being kind and know that circumstances change people so not harping on the past lies. They happened and harping on them does nothing to help regain trust. The liar has to express remorse, be transparent and accountable in all areas. Rebuilding trust can take a long time, so patience on both parts are needed. I had to remind myself many times that a person is not the summation of the worst thing that they have done. Time heals all and forgiveness is a gift.