How to trust someone again who has consistently lied?

Try to slowly introduce the person back into your life, without rushing it. If even if it's asking a favor from them every once in a while, try to do it SLOWLY.

I don't think that you should try to trust this person. You may get hurt if you trust them because they could be lying to you the entire time you talk to them.

The simple answer for me is forgiveness, because I find it so empowering. In my experience it assuages me of the burden of thinking about it, leaving me with a positive outlook. That doesn't necessarily mean I would forget being lied to but it would give me a foundation on which the person could rebuild my trust and earn my respect.

After repeated betrayal, it really is hard to regain trust. Time heals wounds, but it also creates space, and it can feel like reopening wounds so sometimes its hard to make amends again and again:'/

I think trust has to be earnt, and it's not up to you to find a way for you to trust the person - it's up to them to behave in a way where they earn your trust again. Trust is something we use to protect ourselves, and if you've lost your trust in a person, it's because you're trying to protect yourself from that person hurting you again. They have to show that they've changed enough that you can feel safe with them. Essentially, the onus is on them, not you, to change that.

It is hard to trust someone who have hurt you with consistently lies. To be able to live a productive life let the past of hurt go or the person who always lies . Let go of a person who does not make good choices . Keep positive people in your life and out with the negative.

Well this question is as hard as fixing glasses... there is always scare.. this make me put some red lines

when a person lies consistently then there are'nt many reason to trust him again, for your own benefit

You just have to give them some time. Give yourself some time too, and try to relax. Time has a way of healing some issues before they get too out of control.

If someone is consistently being untruthful and they are a part of your most of your life, than we must find out the "why" Why do they feel the need to lie? Something must be causing this effect. Also, explaining the consequences if this person chooses to continue misleading people. Like, the bridges that will burn and not allow this person to cross anymore. Asking this person how they feel when someone doesn't believe something they've said to be true. Then taking that and multiplying it by everyone. This is what the future holds for that person if they continue their deceiving ways. OK so first, finding out the "Why". Secondly, explaining what the consequences of their actions could lead to. Thirdly, wait.... ...to see if any enlightenment happened and if so, slowly bringing in the trust. TRUST, so hard to gain, so easy to lose. B-Blessed & Safe

Always believe in second chances , If that someone really means something to you.. You have to let go of the past and forgive him/her. Forgiveness is accepting.

Once the trust is broken, it is difficult to regain that trust. So it is okay if it takes a lot of time for you to trust someone. Take baby steps and keep high expectations if you can. It is okay if you do not trust anyone at all. Even though trust is the base of a relationship, mending a broken trust is like repairing a broken mirror. It might not always be possible to bring the mirror back, or even if you do, you will see many cracks.If we talk of lying, I will not justify the constant lying, however, everyone does lie at least once in their life. It is just a human tendency.

It is very tough, because you will have that doubt in the back of your mind, it will take time and faith. Counselling as a couple can help, to work through those emotions.

That's a tough one. There are big lies and small ones. If you feel uncomfortable with trusting again- trust YOURSELF and move on from the situation and the person who betrays your trust. Trust is earned👍🏻

Make it clear to him that if he is going to lie again that will be the end of the relationship. And give them a chance and be open.

I think its natural and normal to not be able to trust someone who has broken our trust and understandably so. Because our brain has a way of protecting itself from disappointments and pain, so it wont trust something or someone which has given it a sense of lack of ability to be trusted so that we don't suffer from disappointments. Naturally, I don't think I could do much to trust such a person, other than maybe seeing them in a different light to project a different self they have and to give that more importance than the person whom I think they are when lying. The easiest way though would be for them to change if possible. I hope you find a way

I think the answer is you can't, or perhaps shouldn't. If this person must be in your life, then I think you need to explore ways in which you can live with them while not trusting them completely. If they don't need to be in your life, it might be worth giving them some space or moving on from them. But if you feel that you should try to trust them simply because you need to keep them around, I'm not convinced it's something you should or even could do. If they've consistently proven that they are not trustworthy, unfortunately I think that's something you need to come to terms with and work around as much as possible/is necessary.

First of all, accept that it will be hard. Let them know that you're trying to trust them again, and that anything they do to prove their trustworthiness is noticed and appreciated. Tell them that your relationship is in a fragile place, so anything they do to breach your trust will send you back to the beginning of the journey. Sometimes, you're subconscious won't actually trust the person still. Your brain automatically gets defensive after being lied to so many times. But if you believe they are changing for the better, you have to make a conscious leap of faith to trust them. The longer you make the leap the more natural it will feel.

Firstly I would suggest analysing if this is something that you actually want to do. If someone is not willing to be truthful with you then they do not deserve your trust. That said, If they are working on their behavour then absolutely give them another chance. The key to trust is actually in understanding that you trust your ability to cope if they hurt you. This is empowering because you hold the power to choose how you react and what you tell yourself about the situation. You need to decide if the change is genuine and they are not just pretending to change until you forget about the issue. Are you strong enough to forgive them and deal with another betrayl of trust? Always put yourself first.

Express this concern to them and let them know that you will not completely trust them for the time being. Allow them to reflect on their mistakes and have them explain the circumstances behind their lies. Help them understand that they will have to work hard to earn back your trust and, in doing so, your bond together will become stronger if done sincerely. Tell them that you can see through their lies and that lying now will cause irreparable damage between the two of you. Although you are kind and forgiving, there is a limit to your compassion so one more misstep and you will never be able to trust that person again.

Imagine if you were them, tell them what you would tell yourself. (Like if you were lying you would tell yourself to stop by telling yourself to stop doing things that you would have to lie about.)

I think the best way to trust them is to forgive them for yourself, number one. Then, I think it's important to remember that other people are not perfect. While this doesn't excuse their lies, it does explain that one person will never not lie and that it isn't your fault that someone is untrustworthy.

trust takes time to earn and no time at all to break, comparatively speaking. as much as you want to patch it all up and make everything okay again, restoring trust in someone who is not earning it will not make anything better. if this person has consistently been dishonest, and you are finding you cannot trust what they say, you have to honor yourself and your emotional well being in this situation. the bottom line, is you have to allow time for that person to turn things around, and to create a new track record for themselves. sometimes a conversation with them is a good start to that, but be judicious and use caution.

It is not an easy process and requires self-awareness! However it is possible through forgiveness, understanding why the other person has lied, not to take it personal, and give another chance. Always be loving although it may not be the easiest.

Sounds like you and hurt and scared for being lied to. Sounds like you would like someone to talk to about betrayal. I have had some relationships that it was hard to trust again and its scary and uncomfortable. May i ask you about this relationship? Is it a family member, friend/s or romantic relationship? Life can sure let us down sometimes. Have you ever experienced this type of situation before? If so how was the outcome? Sounds like you really care about this person. You sound like a caring person. Have you a close friend?

For me personally i usually slowly take there actions into account and over a long long time decide weather they are trustworthy and i will sometimes tell them certain things and if it doesnt come back to me i take that into account

It is extremely hard to trust someone who has consistently lied to you. But the fact of the matter is trust has to be built up and earned over time. It is not something to just be given carelessly away. If someone has deceived you it is their responsibility to redeem themselves with consistent honesty.

This is a tough one! Sometimes you just got to give it time and see if they can prove to themselves and to you that they have what it takes to stop the cycle of lying!

You can't really. Or maybe you can, depending on the situation itself. Why did this person lie? Are the reasons for lying somehow justified? Does he still have these reasons to lie? Did he just has a period of lying, or is he a liar from an early age? How big were lies? Based on questions like that, i would try to determine if i can trust this person, but the process would be really slow and i would keep both my eyes and ears open.

Some people forgive and forget; others forgive but don't forget or they forget but don't forgive. Either way, to build trust again would be quite hard at this point. But all people are different, some can trust more easily than others and some people just can't see through past betrayal. Do what you feel is right in your heart.