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My parent is an addict. Will I be one too?

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Last Updated: 04/20/2021 at 7:39am
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Adam2342
January 26th, 2016 7:26pm
It depends on how much you're into them , Be yourself ..Everyone else is taken , You parents addiction can be a great lesson for you .. make sure you take the right decision.
fantasticDay32
January 28th, 2016 3:24pm
You are in charge of your own future and your own decisions. It doesn't have to be that way if you choose for it to not be so.
lexieejolleen
January 29th, 2016 4:09am
No, you so not have to follow your parents footsteps, especially if it is negative. Be the good person you know you can be:)
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 4:33am
You won't, you have to see that he's doing somethung hurtful for you, so you need to be strong and take a different way.
LittlePepper
January 30th, 2016 9:22pm
Both of my parents are addicts, so I asked myself this once, and I can firmly tell you. I'm not an addict! :) Although some may believe that addiction is passed on through genes I can say that either I didn't get that gene, or it's a myth! If you're interested in finding out if you're an addict or not, I would say it's best not to even try to identify what you are. Because if you actually are, you don't want to get attached to whatever substance. If you're not, then you're not and you won't need to care about it! :D
InPieces
January 31st, 2016 6:14am
Not necessarily! Both of my parents are addicts, my father being a very abusive alcoholic, and my mother not only being an alcoholic, but also abuses pain medications while she drinks. Watching them as a child I never understood it and watching them has made me want to be stronger than they are and keeping myself healthy and in the best emotional and physical condition as possible. Psychology says that you are more at risk of becoming an addict. I studied under Dr. Michael Meyerhoff who is one of the leading Psychologists at Harvard University and one thing I learned is "There are no rules or recipes for humans" in other words, we can be whoever we want to be.
Miracle
February 7th, 2016 2:54pm
Not necessarily, it is possible that you may have a tendency towards addiction but nothing is set in stone and making choices to avoid traditionally "addictive" activities or substances can help you to reduce your chance of being like your parent.
kindPup32
February 12th, 2016 10:11am
No. You are not what your parent is. You are an individual and unless you allow yourself to be sucked into drug addiction then you should be fine. Try to look at your parent as an example of what not to do whenever you feel like you want to try.
Anonymous
April 29th, 2015 1:47am
The short answer: No. But are you more susceptible to have future issues with addictive behaviors? Maybe. It obviously depends on family history with addiction - how pervasive it has been in your family. Is it generational? Those are things to consider. But even so, you have the power to control your own behavior. And, maybe knowing that your parent has an issue with addiction will work to effectively keep you from becoming an addict yourself. In my case, this has been true. Alcoholism runs in my family and I used that knowledge to keep me aware that I myself might be more likely to have issues with addictions so I will stay aware, for instance, when I am consuming alcohol. Awareness is key. Know thyself ;)
elliejade
February 10th, 2016 7:44pm
You can only be an addict if your mom was using it whilst pregnant with you. If she didn't then the only thing making you an addict is yourself.
Katastropheez
June 13th, 2016 6:14pm
If your parent is an addict, it totally does not mean you will be one too, it is all withing your hands if you want to resist being one.
Anonymous
September 25th, 2018 5:25pm
I had a close friend in the elementary school,she was very kind and so talented. Both of her parents were addicts,but they got clean, years ago. She had her struggles,but she made it through,with her art. Didn't do drugs,although had some issues,and difficulties trying to fit in. I guess, it makes it harder for people who grew up surrounded by drugs, with parents going down that road...but that doesn't make YOU who YOU are, you have a choice,and you can create your own story,and you can be whatever you want.There are many factors in life,that come along with the years,and we can't control it although they make us little bit the way we are,but we are the ones,who are strong and brave enough to be the best versions of ourselves. Stay strong
Anonymous
November 12th, 2019 7:22pm
Of course not! I can perfectly understand your situation. My father was and addicted gambler - he was playing on the best online casino every day. He was loosing big sums of money sometimes and couldn't stop. I have seen this as a bad example and never acted like him. You just have to be disciplined and everything is going to be ok!
MopeMope
April 20th, 2021 7:39am
Hello! This comes as an objective answer that does not involve any emotional comforts. Because of my own limitations of knowledge, this should come as quite understandable. Thing is, addiction is not inheritable. Just because one of your parents is an addict doesnt mean you are too. However, there are indeed contemporary scientific theories that link causes of addiction to your nervous sytem or your genes. That only makes you a bit more susceptible to addiction tho. You don't become an addict if you are not exposed to addictive things. If, say, you are determined enough to say no to drugs and other addiction-causing products, then sure--that makes you a non-addict. Just remember your concerns and know that addiction is never a good thing. Remember this fear and you are well off.