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My parent is an addict. Will I be one too?

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Last Updated: 04/20/2021 at 7:39am
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heavenlySun21
May 5th, 2015 1:01am
My family has tons of addicts. My parents are some of those addicts. Science has shown that there are genetic predispositions to addiction but that doesn't mean that you are destined to become one. I spent a few years in my grandparents house and then a few years at another house. One side drank and the other did not..environment plays a big role in addiction, I think.
oceanblue44
June 5th, 2015 1:51pm
Just because a parent or a family member is an addict does not men that you will become one. We all have the opportunity to choose our path! So no, if you choose to stay away from addictive substances then you will not become an addict! becoming an addict is affected by so many different aspects!
Anonymous
June 13th, 2015 3:46pm
I hope not. My parents gamble, drink coca-cola, coffee and insist they're intelligent. Sounds dumb? Both have been nigh unreasonable. I only detest myself partly for traits of two.. The other two, I am adverse to, not only because it was a big deal and that it ruined them. Tested myself. On the contrary, my little sister has a casino card. Then again, she was always a gamer. She loves coffee, I don't. Before that, none of the grandparents have history. Dad's dad smokes, he doesn't. People are different. We're all guilty to get addicted to something, if that is instead your question. If you are that worried, don't touch it. If it's dangerous, you'll be better off anyway.
ClaireyMarie
July 20th, 2015 7:47am
Definitely not. Both of my parents were addicts, and I haven't touched any drug. I think from seeing my parents go down that path, it killed my curiosity about drugs all together. I have seen it in full force, and have never had any interest to do them myself. If you don't want to do drugs, you won't. Luckily it isn't genetic. :)
sarper
August 3rd, 2015 11:49pm
Thoughts like this are completely normal! It shows a mature level of mindfulness towards something that you might actually feel pulled to do (drink, do drugs, gamble, etc.). This does not mean you will be an addict by default, though. The best thing you can do is regularly take stock in how you're thinking and feeling, and make choices that are aligned with your intentions.
Softball900
November 2nd, 2015 4:33am
Not necessarily. Many people say that you turn out to be just like your parents, but that isn't always true at all. My best friend's mom grew up in a very abusive home and now she is one of the best mom's I know. She is like my second mother. She didn't grow up to be like her abusive parents. You don't have to follow in the footsteps of your parents. You might be wired to have a more addicting personality (someone who can easily become addicted to anything) but you just have to learn to control it.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2015 3:23am
Of course not! We are different people from our parents. You shoud take care of yourself and do things that will help you be a become a better person until you will not worry for becoming an addict.
FeelsPuncher
December 21st, 2015 8:30pm
My Dad Was heroin Addict, and im looking to join the police, the choice is yours friend, no one is bound by fate
Anonymous
April 29th, 2015 1:47am
The short answer: No. But are you more susceptible to have future issues with addictive behaviors? Maybe. It obviously depends on family history with addiction - how pervasive it has been in your family. Is it generational? Those are things to consider. But even so, you have the power to control your own behavior. And, maybe knowing that your parent has an issue with addiction will work to effectively keep you from becoming an addict yourself. In my case, this has been true. Alcoholism runs in my family and I used that knowledge to keep me aware that I myself might be more likely to have issues with addictions so I will stay aware, for instance, when I am consuming alcohol. Awareness is key. Know thyself ;)
elliejade
February 10th, 2016 7:44pm
You can only be an addict if your mom was using it whilst pregnant with you. If she didn't then the only thing making you an addict is yourself.
Katastropheez
June 13th, 2016 6:14pm
If your parent is an addict, it totally does not mean you will be one too, it is all withing your hands if you want to resist being one.
Anonymous
September 25th, 2018 5:25pm
I had a close friend in the elementary school,she was very kind and so talented. Both of her parents were addicts,but they got clean, years ago. She had her struggles,but she made it through,with her art. Didn't do drugs,although had some issues,and difficulties trying to fit in. I guess, it makes it harder for people who grew up surrounded by drugs, with parents going down that road...but that doesn't make YOU who YOU are, you have a choice,and you can create your own story,and you can be whatever you want.There are many factors in life,that come along with the years,and we can't control it although they make us little bit the way we are,but we are the ones,who are strong and brave enough to be the best versions of ourselves. Stay strong
Anonymous
November 12th, 2019 7:22pm
Of course not! I can perfectly understand your situation. My father was and addicted gambler - he was playing on the best online casino every day. He was loosing big sums of money sometimes and couldn't stop. I have seen this as a bad example and never acted like him. You just have to be disciplined and everything is going to be ok!
MopeMope
April 20th, 2021 7:39am
Hello! This comes as an objective answer that does not involve any emotional comforts. Because of my own limitations of knowledge, this should come as quite understandable. Thing is, addiction is not inheritable. Just because one of your parents is an addict doesnt mean you are too. However, there are indeed contemporary scientific theories that link causes of addiction to your nervous sytem or your genes. That only makes you a bit more susceptible to addiction tho. You don't become an addict if you are not exposed to addictive things. If, say, you are determined enough to say no to drugs and other addiction-causing products, then sure--that makes you a non-addict. Just remember your concerns and know that addiction is never a good thing. Remember this fear and you are well off.