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Why is it that I cant seem to get over the urges to use again? Is there something wrong with me?

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Last Updated: 05/13/2019 at 1:31pm
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January 14th, 2015 11:22am
no, there is nothing wrong with you for having urges. that's a natural temptation. you must consider the triggers of your urges and how to avoid them. perhaps you're unpurposefully making the situation harder on yourself than it has to be.
April 13th, 2015 2:01am
There is nothing wrong with you. It's actually very normal for users to want to use again once they stop to get rid of the withdrawal symptoms. Basically, all the good feelings you got when you use the drug will be compensated by your body once you stop (so you start experiencing the opposite of what you felt during drug use)... it's an endless cycle. So stay strong, seek professional help and get rid of drugs altogether. You can do this!!
May 19th, 2015 1:50pm
Absolutely not!!! It is totally common and normal to get urges to use. Using was once a big part of your life, so naturally, it's normal to want to go back to that time. What's important is that you stay strong and remember you can always get help!
June 15th, 2015 1:47pm
No there is is not something wrong with you in one sense. Alcoholism and Drug addiction are a disease. No different to a heart attack A stroke cancer or other diseases. It is recognised by world health authorities as a disease. It can not be cured. Totaly stopping drinking or using is the only way. It us a life long journey on the path to recovery.
June 17th, 2015 10:09pm
There's nothing wrong with you. The urges are something that happen with people who use, no matter how long in. One of my closest friends has been clean for over 20 years now, but still gets urges to use every now and again. They do, however, ease in time. They get less often, and they get easier to deal with. You start viewing them differently.
June 30th, 2015 12:46am
Unfortunately there is, its addiction and that happens to millions of people every single day. The urges are part of the process, but the important thing to remember is that those cravings and urges are only temporary if you let them be. Check out the resources on this website, they are amazing.
September 7th, 2015 2:39pm
There is nothing wrong with you! Sometimes addiction can be hard. Try to find people at your school/ work/ community that are also in some sort recovery. Have people that are able to understand what you're going through.
October 6th, 2015 3:39am
No, urges are a completely normal phenomenon that lots and lots of people experience. Your body simply became dependent on whatever you were taking and now it really wants more. It's a normal, if difficult, stage of recovery.
November 10th, 2015 2:18am
Using is merely a coping mechanism to deal with emotions. It's critical for sobriety that you discover other tools and develop several new coping skills to move past the urges.
January 4th, 2016 6:00am
No, nothing wrong with you the alcohol is not really the problem you must address the problem, what ever it may be. There is not a sane person in this world that would not drink if the problem isn't fixed.
July 17th, 2017 6:20am
No, there is nothing wrong with you. Recovering from addiction is a lifelong process and urges to use are 100% regular. I know it can be frustrating to feel those urges when you feel like you're making progress but those urges do NOT mean you're not doing well. Be strong
October 31st, 2017 8:16am
Changing behaviour requires a lot time, work and stages of relapse. It is very normal to go through stages of relapse before anything sustained and managable in behaviour change is achieved. Little by little, over a long period can make lasting changes no matter how deeply routed the problem behaviour is. It will get better, it does get better, in the end after all the above happens.
May 13th, 2019 1:31pm
it's normal. breaking a bad routine is hard at first, and it can't always be done in instant. learn to distance ourselves first, slowly but sure. distract ourselves with other positive things, spend time with family and friends, hobbies, work, or anything that keeps us happy. it is indeed making us lonely and feel lost because we have been doing the old habit for so long, and it is hard to start something new in our life. but keep in mind that by leaving the bad habits behind, it will make our self better. i wish you all good luck.