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I don't want to stop, is that wrong?

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Last Updated: 03/28/2016 at 9:19pm
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Estherrrr
February 3rd, 2015 10:57pm
No. Actually that's pretty normal. Most people know they are on a destructive path; they know what they are doing is wrong but they don't have a desire to stop because it's comfortable; they're used to it. It would be scary to want to stop because stopping would require them to change and change can be scary.
SilentSerenityy
December 8th, 2015 10:30pm
It depends on what you don't want to stop. If it's self harm, gambling or anything else equally negative, then I'd say it's wrong and you need some support.
Floral
February 3rd, 2015 4:03am
It's not wrong. Sometimes the things we do just become part of our lives, like a habit or even an addiction. Even though it might not be good for you, it can still feel hard to stop, or even not wanting to stop. It just takes time.
Smrtbibliophile
April 20th, 2015 2:05am
I don't think it's wrong to feel you don't want to stop. Stopping something that is a comfort to us is scary, so it's understandable that you wouldn't want to stop your safety net.
originalLion57
June 12th, 2015 9:25am
It's not "wrong", it makes sense if you are talking about some form of coping mechanism that has been a habit in your life for a while and proven to help comfort you even if it's just for a short moment. But it's often self destructive, like self harming, doing drugs, abusing alcohol or having eating disorders etc. And it's a dangerous thing to be addicted to because a part of you really don't want to stop.
leahlistens2
February 15th, 2016 8:28pm
It's not wrong to want to keep a hold of something you see as a security blanket. It is not health however to hold on to something that causes physical harm top of not truly solving the issue at hand.
ragnarok52
May 18th, 2015 5:18am
It is only bad if you let it affect your day to day life. Relationships, work, sleep, etc. If it significantly impacts your day to day life. You might have a problem at your hands
greenJOHN1971
November 25th, 2015 5:53pm
Do you think what you are doing is wrong? Perhaps, if I knew what you are doing I could be more helpful.
DearAndNear
November 28th, 2015 2:56pm
Don't stop if you don't want to stop. People who have good control over their addiction do not even have second thought whether they should stop it or not. They accept it and make it a part of their life without affecting their day to day activities. This is how you should be if you want to keep your addiction/fetishes or whatever.
peachesandlove
March 1st, 2016 1:10am
Write out small daily goals. Complete them and congratulate yourself, and even if you don't, at least you tried. So don't feel self loathing. Self love is a huge factor depending on all your addiction/s. You don't have to want to stop. its not wrong. you're not in the wrong. Just be aware that you have a problem and that its not healthy. Try to reach those small goals you set out for yourself. ex. .This mornings coffee break I will skip the cigarette Today i will eat a healthy meal. Today i will try to smile more. If I get angry today I will not contribute to the situation. I will use a less threatening/hurtful way to self harm if I'm triggered Today I will try to stick to beer instead.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2016 8:08am
This is a common situation among drug users and addicts, and one that makes a lot of sense. In addition to the fact that many users enjoy the effects of substances in and of itself, drug use also frequently serves as a coping mechanism, albeit an ineffective one. Giving up negative coping mechanisms can be scary and make a person feel vulnerable. It is also important, however, to consider how substance use may be impacting one's life. If it is getting in the way of one's ability to function and work towards their goals, that person may want to consider the potential benefits of quitting, even though it may be hard.
StayStrongNeverLoseHope
March 28th, 2016 9:19pm
You know many people have addictions such as self harming, gambling, alcohol and drug addictions etc, You can't judge a person if they can't stop, most of the time people do find it extremely difficult to stop and that's understandable especially when you've been doing it for so long and have been dependent on whatever it is that you're doing. But this doesn't change the fact that you are still hurting yourself, and in a way potentially ruining your life because addictions can be dangerous and can lead to further damage. I'm not going to say it's wrong because It's probably really hard for you, but you should definitely attempt to get yourself help to try and stop because it can really change your life for the best and you'll feel better.