A family member thinks I am lying about where I am going but I'm not, what should I do?
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Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 10:11pm
Speak to them honestly and tell them that them not trusting you hurts your feelings, be honest with them
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 11:26am
Let the person think what they want .
That’s stress on them not you .
Just remain honest and true to yourself ✨✨
Explain to your family member that you are an honest person and you have no reason to lie. If you have a history of lying maybe you should find a way to prove to them that you are in fact telling the truth.
Maybe you can prove it by taking pictures and send them directly ? Or try to ask someone with you for confirm the things ?
Perhaps you could turn your location or something on to where they can see where you're going, or maybe you can just take pictures to prove to them that you are actually going where you say you are going.
If you are not lying than I would not worry about it too much. The truth will reveal itself at some point and even if it doesn't, you know the truth so who care what they believe.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2018 7:28pm
Just let them know where your going, make sure that they know exactly where you are like keep them updated to where you are all the time.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2018 11:46am
Send him a Picture of the place, if he see you there he cant say anything against it. Tell him that you arent a liar
This has happened to me before with my mom. I found it easiest to let her track my phone so she would always know where i was. This is also helpful in case I was in an accident and was not able to call out for help she would know where i was.
Its totally fine , I know exactly what you’re going through and it’s not easy having them not believe you. I actually experienced this earlier on in my days in school when I said I went for a particular program but they didn’t always believe me and thought I was lieing, it bothered me a lot and I didn’t like it one bit but I found my way about and they started believing me . The fact you believe yourself and you’re genuinely telling the truth is what really matters. What do you think is best for you to do for them to believe you ?
Let you be urself don't try to justify that u are right because when u does right things u have no need to justify let him know by himself from experience
Anonymous
April 25th, 2018 10:17pm
Explain to them how you are not lying and how you have gave them no reason to lie about this. Then say they need to trust and have more faith in you about you're whereabouts as you have no reason or need to lie to them
first and foremost proceed with caution, and keep the importance of your safety at the forefront of the situation: make sure that at least one person who does believe you knows where you are going and what you are doing. secondly, if that person thinks you are lying there may not be much you can do to change that. if that person thinks that, then their trust has probably been betrayed enough in the past, that they have become cynical and disbelieving. you could try to show them through your actions that you are trustworthy, but I can't promise you that will work. not everyone can be convinced.
If you aren't lying, I wouldn't worry too much. It's up to them to believe you or not. You could always send your location from your phone, or take a picture of something that would prove you are not lying.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 6:41am
I would sit down and respectfully ask them why they are questioning me, and try to understand their point of view.
You could message them proof the next few times you go somewhere and you will gain their trust after a few times.
I've also dealt with this issue, stand your ground, you are your own individual; you know what's true from what is false, if needed, provide evidence. Some people, even someone within your bloodline, has a hard time trusting people.
Try to give them evidence of where you are going, or offer to let them come with you if applicable, and try to let them find trust in your words before going out on your own
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 11:20am
You should slowly work towards earning their trust. Check in on them to make sure they are ok and send them messages/ call them, informing them of what you are doing
Calmly talk to the family member, tell them you've given no reason for them to not trust you. Ask them what their worries are, why, and offer solutions. They are probably just worried for you so try to remember that. You could give proof by taking a photo when you're there, having an alibi or even getting that family member to drop you off.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2018 7:09pm
You should ensure them that you are not lying where you are going, that’s there’s no reason you would lie. Maybe by sending pics of where you are will let them trust you.
The best course of action if somebody disbelieves something you can prove, such as your location, is to show them you are trustworthy and telling the Truth. Rather than getting frustrated with them disbelieving you, tell them you'll call them when you get there, send them pictures to show where you are. After a few times, you should build enough trust for your family member to believe you without convincing.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2018 12:38pm
Show them your Google maps location and take pictures? Siblings tend to tease each other so it could be you are being taunted, in which case try to ignore it. Hope you resolve it!
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 10:51pm
Perhaps you could try by saying you are going to do something, (assisting them in some way) keep your word and show them you meant what you said, therefore when it comes to trusting your whereabouts they will be more at ease.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 4:18am
Show him/her that you are a reliable person. Maybe trying to impress the family member by doing the dishes or something like that. It is probable that he/she thinks that you are not responsible and doesnt trust you.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 5:03pm
Are they a close family member? Do they live with you? Support you? Take care of you? I don’t know your age but if you are a minor and this person does none of these things for you and you live with your guardian, the only person who should be questioning you is that guardian. If you are an adult and this person still does nothing for you, then they should mind their business. However, if you want to peacefully put this to rest, ask them to come along or text them a selfie at the place you are at and show them.
Have you considered just taking them with you one time? If you show them where you are going, perhaps they will stop accusing you of lying.
Try reassuring them and ask them why they're concerned. If you ask them they might have some assumption that you can clear up with them.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 8:19pm
You are probably dealing with trust issues. Try to talk about it with your relative and find the source of the problem.
Prove to them that you are not and gain there trust so they can trust you when you are going somewhere
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