A family member thinks I am lying about where I am going but I'm not, what should I do?

In today's day and age, technology is all around us. There are numerous apps that you can use to "check in" to let your loved ones know that you are safe and where you say you are. As a long distance runner, several of my family members worry about me when I am on a longer run. I use Road ID to let them know where I am. You may feel like using an app to allow your loved ones to check on your location is an invasion of privacy, but if you really are where you say you are, then there is no need to worry. Also, depending on the activity, you may invite them along.

I think you should talk to them and explain where you are going. If they still do not believe you tell them you will send them picture of where you are so they know you are there. If you are going with other people you can text those people and have them fully confirm where you are going. If the person thinking you are lying is a parent make sure they know you will be safe. If the person is not a parent then do not worry about it too much because they are not your parents and can not do anything about it.

You should sit down with them and have an honest conversation with them about where and why you are going somewhere and if you are comfortable with doing this you can share your location when you arrive at your destination to help calm them down. Remember they only think your lying because they care and want whats best for you. Family cares about family and you should be proud to have a family that cares so much about your safety. If you talk to them about there concerns and offer to send your location or an "arrived" text when you get there it should calm them down.

Well in my experience, you cant be to safe, so never lie about where you are going if something was to happen to you someone needs to know who you are with, now sorry that's the parent in me, really if it's a friends house or somewhere like a event, you could video call you could get someone to call them an verify you are there, it's just to reassure them that you are safe an okay an that's all a family member really wants to know now be safe out there an have a good day friend

prove it to them. if you really are going where you say you are, facetime them or something just to show them, build up the trust but after a while gradually stop facetiming them as you dont want it to become a controlling habit. build up the trust, build up the relationship. go out with whoever they are, talk about the things you do wherever it is you are going. build up that confidence between being able to openly communicate with eachother. it will help you in life trust me. relationships with family/friends/ partners who care about you are important. and after a while they will trust that you are going where you say you are because they feel more comfortable with the situation

I believe you in a situation like you need to ask that family member if you guys can have a conversation. Than when that request is approved start by asking that family member what makes them think that you are lying about where you are going. Maybe also ask if they trust you or not. Once you've got your answers to any of you questions you felt needed to be asked than you can simply let the family know that they don't have worry if your lying or not. Let them know that they can trust you. By doing this will allow them to think better when you want to do something.

I think family members do and eventually they get concerned if you are not engaging. Family members often get so confused or think that telling eatchother everything is the key. Sometimes not. I have to admit that family's do not usually listen until a significant part of your life has fallen apart! Family's don't normally get involved unless it's something serious or damaging to the family. I recommend you would take help and allow the process to begin. Families can take complete control. It's up to you to be able to rise and overcome it. If you admit the situation you can work towards recovery of your family. Have talks and be able to move on.

Unfortunately, I cannot give personal advise on this topic however I understand how this may be stressful and upsetting for you. Try to understand why they they think that you are lying to them. Think about what you could do in order for them to trust you and not think that you are lying. Do you think that they are mistrusting of you for a reason? If not, what do you think would be the best way for you to show that you are telling the truth. Is there any way that you could show that you are telling the truth when you are going somewhere?

I sit them down and tell them I love them, and to ask me about where I'm going. When they start to express doubt, I ask them to elaborate and ask them why they think I am lying about something so important. The most important thing is to make sure that they know they are loved and that you want to be trusted. I wouldn't take a confrontational attitude and would do my best to see why they feel the way that they feel. It could be some sort of miscommunication, or based off of things that aren't true. The biggest thing, I think, would be to just show that you love the family member and be honest about where you are going, and why.

You need to gain the trust, sit with them, spend time with your family. You need to be expressive some times. Not rudely, but calmly try to explain where you actually go. Sometime being accountable is also good to gain their trust so tell them where do you go, with whom you spend most of the time and you care about what the person thinks about you either it is where you go or any thing else and if the person is not understanding then explain again and again you'll see gradually the person is going to trust you the most.

Does it cause any trouble for you? If yes, do whatever you have to do to justify yourself, confront them, talk to your family.... But if it doesn’t cause any trouble for you except disturbing your peace of mind, then ask yourself why would you want to stay in a bad feeling?

I usually tend to look at why the other person feels insecure and is not able to trust. A lot of times I am reminded that we are mere reflections of oneself, it is likely that they are having a hard time trusting themselves. I would continue to be open and truthful in my responses to him/her. Sometimes it takes time to build or earn trust. And if I did not feel that I was being heard or validated for my consistent and open honesty, I would express how the person is making me feel by repeatedly not believing what I tell them.

These are some possible actions which you can possibly take:- 1.) Track as why that family member is thinking like that, some past incidents maybe. 2.) Establish more trust with surrounding family members and try to somehow influence that particular member. 3.) Have a common friend who can go with you and maybe prove that you are right. 4.) If that member is not your parent , then maybe your parents can help you. fact :- people want to hear what they already believe.

I would ask them where this mistrust in them had come from. If it is from somewhere where you have done something to break their trust I would apologize for that instance and tell them why you would not do it again. I would also say that you are wanting to work back up to their trust and ask them what you could do to build their trust back again. If you haven’t done anything previously to break their trust I would respectfully remind them of that and say that you respect them and their rules and do not wish to put them into a uncomfortable situation by lying to them.

That sounds really difficult! It can be a really hard thing to deal with, and sometimes make you feel hurt or angry. It may help you to remember that people all act and think differently based on their own life experience. There are so many years of experiences that may be leading your family member to think this way. Sometimes there's not much we can do to convince people, or control their thoughts and feelings. If they are not willing to believe you, and you feel you've done all you can, you may need to come from a place of compassion and understanding and try your best to let go of what they choose to believe. If you feel the need, you may be able to show them something that will further build their trust in you for the future? In the end, if you're telling the truth and they are choosing to distrust you, the only thing you can control is your own reaction. I hope this helps!

That stinks. I am sorry you are going through that. Is it possible to ask them the reason they think you are lying? And then to share that it upsets you? also let them know that you are honest and are concerned that their doubt in your honesty breaks down trust in the relationship which is important for any relationship? How would that feel to have that dialogue? And then there is always the option of providing proof, though Id recommend starting with a dialogue. Often we need to first understand the reasoning people think or feel the way that they do in order to then really address the underlying cause/doubt.

If you truly aren’t lying. I would try and tell the family member how I feel. Sometimes talking things over with the person who doesn’t trust you can help them realize you are telling the truth. If that doesn’t change their mind I would try to take a step in their shoes and try to see in their point of view why they wouldn’t trust me. E.g. you’ve lied about this before. If there isn’t anything you can think about as of why they wouldn’t trust you. Ask them why and don’t be shy because talking to them about how you feel can really make a difference, but do what YOU think you should do.

Explain to the family member that you have nothing to hide and you are being transparent and honest when giving them the courtesy of letting them know of your movements. If they continue to believe you are lying there is not much you can do about it except carry on with what you are doing and keep moving forward. If it still bothers you that they don’t believe you then you may like to have a conversation about what you have done to make them doubt and disbelieve what you are saying. If they are unwilling to have the conversation then maybe you need to question them further about why they are feeling this way.

Kindly tell them that they need to have more trust in you. Though it may seem like your family member is against you they most likely just want what’s best for you and your safety. Sometimes they’re scared and don’t know how to voice that properly. Talk it out and see how you feel after. If they still feel the same way, try talking and telling them that you wouldn’t do such things and that they need to look back and see what type of person you are and that you aren’t one to do something like that?Just talk to them!

Ask yourself why they don’t trust you. If you gave them many reasons to not trust you previously, and you have changed be patient with them. If not, ask yourself why they are the way they are and if they are people you should be spending time with If you can, prove that you are telling the truth; if you can't, don't worry about it, you know that you are telling the truthConsistently tell the truth. Be careful to ensure everything you say is a material fact and do not make statements unless you are sure something is true. Point out that family Judgements maybe flawed as it is emotionally biased and advise them to hire an independent forensics professional to prove or disprove their claim against you.

Talk to the person.....make things clear about where are you going....maybe he/she is worried about your safety....assure them....and the last thing you can do is ask them to keep a track talk to the people who are accompanying you....share your plans and make them realise that you are not the one they judged you to be....you too have your work and issues to deal with...maybe you can ask them to go along with you or track your details if they are so doubtful....if the issue arose because of some previous things make them believe that you learnt from your mistakes and now you have changed....you know your best and can do it....

If a family member thinks you are lying about where you're going when you're not, I say you should confront them and ask them on the reason why they don't believe you. I would show proof on where I am going. Say, you are going out with your friends to a restaurant and your parents still don't believe you, show them the text messages. Ask them the reason for their disbelief, but be gentle about it. Parents may not all be this way but if they are, then I say you should use this method. Don't get hurt if they say that, however.

Well, i think a good starting point would be to try and talk to the said family member and see what reason they have to think you are lying. Then if if possible try to put there mind at ease, work out a way that can allow them and yourself to be comfortable.. Maybe this could be just a simple form of someone showing you they are scared but not going about it the right way. If all else fails maybe jump on and speak to a listener and see if they can help you think of a strategy.

Promise to call them when you get there, or send them a picture of where you are when you go. Promise that if they aren't comfortable with it, you'll send them your location and they can pick you up, I know it's the hardest thing to do, but it will give you a chance to prove that you're responsible and loyal to your word. You could also try offering them to drive you their and update them every hour or every 2 hours of where you are. It has always worked with me and my parents. Just don't break their trust. :)

Examine inside you why their opinion matters. Examine and get an awareness of what effect and impact their opinion has on you. Communicate to them the effect that their lack of trust has on you. Aim to talk about why they do not trust you. Understand that the situation may not change even with your best efforts. Be prepared to accept that they may not change their attitude. Find inside you what is important to you - keep doing what you will, or modify your behaviour to make them happy? Do what is important to you. It may mean making them unhappy. Be prepared to live with the conflict.

In my opinion, firstly, you can explain it to your family, and if it is possible, you can give them some proofs to show you are not lying. If they still don't trust you, you can also go the place you are going to with them. You can also try communicating with them more and more, it may be more helpful. By the way, if you have a friend or someone who can help you to prove yourself. Anyway, you can find many methods to let them trust you. Anyway, it depends on yourself. Just trust you can do it.

Interesting question. This is actually a very common phenomenon that many of my friends and I have gone through. The simple answer is trust. Perhaps there was one time when you were not truthful and your family member applies that one time to every time. It also does not matter how long ago it was (the lie), at least in my experience. A good first step is to get to the bottom of their thought. Make sure you try to communicate with them to find out why they think you are lying about where you are. Next it is important that you show your willingness to build their trust. When you do go out, maintain communication and call or text them your location. You can also share your location on your phone if it has that feature for the first couple of times to just build trust. Once they slowly start believing you, progress from sharing your location to just a simple text indicating your location. Eventually, they will trust you are not lying, and everything will return to normal. Just be aware that one "slip-up" or a small lie could take you back to square one. All the Best. P.

That's must be hard, you can let them talk to witness, like a coworker, colleague, or a friend. You could try also have an honest conversation with this person and identify why they don't believe you. It could because of they catched you laying to them before, or someone lied to them and they developed trust issue. And it is also depends on your behavior and kind of places you go to, and kind of friends you hang out with. A lot of various reasons, so the best selution in this case to set down with this person, talk to them honestly, try to figure out a selution together. I know it is hard to not having trust between the one family members, especially between the parents and children and we should be careful of not hurting this trust, and try always to improve it.

I understand that must be hard how is that making you feel? I think you know you are family more than me what do you think is the best thing to do in this situation? I think having disagreements with family can make you very upset and it is frustrating which is why being at peace with family members is always kind of therapeutic. It can be hard for the family member too I’m sure they are just worried about you hence why all the suspicion, it is however not nice of them to think think that you are lying

You could always share your location when you reach the place you're going to via any messaging app. Otherwise, you could take a picture of yourself in that place with whoever you're going to be with or even if you're alone and send it to that family member. While that family member should trust you, sometimes a show of faith is always helpful. Alot of the times they just want your safety, by doing this you're showing them that you're being safe and most definitely no lying.