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Are my friends going to dislike me if I don't want to do what they want to do?

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Last Updated: 12/21/2020 at 8:06pm
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June 14th, 2016 6:03pm
If these are your true friends, they will understand your reasons behind not doing whatever they want to do. If this happens a lot, perhaps pursuing some new hobbies and developing friendships there might help. :)
June 15th, 2016 1:05am
Well it depends honestly. It depends if they are real and healthy friend. A real friend wont mind if you have different interests than them, a fake friend or someone who wants to use or control you, make want you to do things they want to do regardless of how you feel about it. It's important to choose people who respect your choices and emotions.
November 7th, 2016 12:56pm
It deeds. If they're your real friends than they shouldn't be offended by your decision. If they are your true friends they would understand you and would respect your decision.
February 20th, 2017 7:13am
Some people will dislike you. But they should not be your true friends! Your true friends will love you no matter what.
May 2nd, 2017 10:58pm
I think we all feel pressured at some point to do things to feel more accepted, especially among new friends. If it's not a huge compromise, that's fine! Whether it turns out to be a pleasant or not-so-great experience, you can learn from it, and your friends should support you. But I don't think you should feel overly distressed about friends disliking you for not giving in to pressure to do something you don't want to do. Make sure they know how unwilling you are, and if they still pressure you, let them know they shouldn't.
September 11th, 2017 5:31am
They might, and they may not. But if you think what they're saying isn't right, don't do it. Be yourself. That way, your friends will understand why you took decisions and will respect you.
November 14th, 2017 3:32pm
Maybe, but certainly not forever. It's not going to ruin your relationship if you don't do what someone wants just 1 time. And if they are constantly asking you to do things you don't want to do, maybe they're not such a good friend
December 19th, 2017 8:31pm
A real friend will make compromises or will accept and respect your decision. It is okay to dislike things.
March 5th, 2018 5:55am
You're friend's aren't going to dislike you if you don't want to participate in activities you don't want to, they want you to be happy and have fun and if you don't have same interests of things you do than you'll understand it.
April 17th, 2018 9:23pm
If they are real friends they shouldn't dislike you for wanting to do something different. That being said, friendship is about compromise. Sometimes do what they want and sometimes do what you want.
March 26th, 2019 11:57am
Stand up for yourself. If you don't want to do something for your own reasons, you shouldn't feel bad because your friends do want to do it. Nobody is the same, you don't have to like or do the same things as your friends just because you want them to like you. If they're good friends they will understand. They can always do it with someone else or even alone for that matter, don't let anyone make you feel bad for having opinions and don't let people convince or even force you into something you really don't want to do. If they care, they'll understand and if they don''t, they shouldn't really matter.
June 11th, 2019 6:50am
According to my personal experience, friends who would dislike me for not doing what they want to do would turn out toxic and bad for my mental health. Real friends would understand your reasons and not force you through something you don't like. So leave behind toxic people and wait for the real ones to come and trust me the wait will be worth. Because we don't need people who force us to do something we are uncomfortable to do, in our life. We must make sure of the fact that we are comfortable doing things and make sure it's good for our mental health. So take of yourself by leaving people who are not good for your self behind.
December 21st, 2020 8:06pm
Not at all! A true friend is supportive of your boundaries. A healthy friendship allows you space to be who you are any move towards things you might both like and step away from things that might make you feel uncomfortable. If there is something you don't want to do, it's 100% ok to say no. If you turned the situation around, would you dislike a friend for not wanting to do something she didn't want to do? I hope this helps guide you and feel more peace in the situation. You've got this and I have faith in you!