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Everything in my life is messed up. Motivation works temporarily and I'm not suicidal but feel it's pointless to live like this. What should I do to feel hopeful?

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Last Updated: 04/19/2020 at 11:15am
Everything in my life is messed up. Motivation works temporarily and I'm not suicidal but feel it's pointless to live like this. What should I do to feel hopeful?
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Top Rated Answers
softJoy55
November 9th, 2016 12:34pm
Being hopeful starts with yourself. To see hope you have to see the positivity in your life. Let go of the things that you think is pointless. If you think your life is pointless, then, let go the way your living now. Meditate, forget everything you know and just be positive.
sereneWriting55
November 19th, 2016 6:35pm
When I am at my lowest, I concentrate on the things that are right, instead of focusing on the things that are wrong. EVERY life has something to be grateful for - even if you start with a roof over your head, heat in your home, a bed to sleep in . . . you already have it better than a lot of people.
sunnytea
December 3rd, 2016 2:14pm
Take every day for what it is, a new chance to work, improve, and live. Enjoy what is good as it comes, by living in the moment like this, we can become hopeful and work towards feeling "normal".
eternitya7
December 4th, 2016 11:33pm
Reflect upon your self the things you love most. Keep focus on the motivation you aspire to permanently have.
friendlyPerspective32
December 24th, 2016 3:25am
I'm a very verbal person; in other words, I like to write my feelings out on a piece of paper. It helps because then I have a channel where I can address and let go of any negative emotions that I may have bottled up inside. So, whenever I'm struggling to stay positive or optimistic, I like to write out (1) what I'm grateful for, (2) what I like about myself, and (3) what my goals are. I also write about how I am feeling in the moment and why things aren't going the way that I want them to go, and how things aren't always as bad as they seem to be at first. In other words, I try to look at the brighter side of things. Once you get in the habit of doing that, it becomes easier. I hope this helps :)
Anonymous
January 7th, 2017 9:40pm
Typically when I feel like that I surround myself with positive people who will build me up as a person and encourage me to keep up all the effort I'm putting into life. When I need to feel hopeful, I plan out a future in which my life isn't so messed up, and after I plan that out I plan out a path to get myself there and I start out on it. Good luck with everything!
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2017 6:02am
I've been there. I suffer with anxiety, which at times makes me feel utterly hopeless. Sometimes my brain can't take anymore of the incessant stress and worry. When I'm feeling this way, I like to just turn to something I love doing. That makes me feel like I have purpose and my life isn't hopeless. Working out also helps relieve some of that stress as well. Even though it's sometimes difficult to find motivation, I manage to give it to myself because I know I'm worth it. Happiness is worth fighting for.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2017 6:01pm
Remember that none of us knows what's going to happen next. Something huge and amazing could be right around the corner and all you have to do is remember that.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2017 11:25pm
I think the trick here is not to force anything. If you feel down then embrace that and go with it. Just trust the process. You could keep a Gratitude journal and list the things you are thankful for each day. Start with 3 things you're really glad you have. Think about a time when you helped someone or about a happy event from your life. That will help to buoy you up. Spend time with friends or pamper yourself - go and do something you really like or something you have planned to do for some time and fully give yourself to that. Be your own best friend. Eat well, exercise for just 20 minutes 3 times a week and your mood will improve.
cactusmilk
February 25th, 2017 8:11pm
Try doing things you enjoy. Find a motivation. If you find life as being pointless then what keeps you grounded here? A family member you love? Turn them into your motivation.
IndiAdamJones
March 4th, 2017 6:56pm
When you feel like crap, hang in there, and tough it out. You can focus on body needs first, and that can help you feel physically better. Igniting enthusiasm takes skill, and often this proceeds by trial and error. Try to find a coach that can guide you to the techniques that can work well with your style.
Rakune
April 1st, 2017 2:25am
Schedule activities and spend time around positive, supportive people. It also helps to keep a gratitude journal. I don't know about other people, but writing what I'm grateful for everyday makes me feel a little more hopeful about life.
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2017 9:17am
Although it's hard, try to notice the little things in life more often. Feel the wind against your skin, hear the sound of the birds, look at the sky and the moving clouds, look at all of the flowers. Let yourself be pleased and satisfied by these things. Think of how lucky everybody on this earth is to have been given a chance to experience this thing called life. Life is a blessing.
Islah
April 7th, 2017 5:20am
I would say, set yourself extremely realistic goals. Being unrealistic and pushing yourself will only result in disappointment, and that's a bit counter productive to feeling hopeful, no? Goals can be very small and should probably be fairly realistic. For example, my daily goal is to usually drink water. Small, but reasonable. Best of luck!
Anonymous
April 9th, 2017 6:08pm
Don't think too much. It will pass eventually, the bad things I mean. We all go through things that probably seem endless and it is perfectly okay to feel that way. However don't let it consume you as a person because that is not healthy either. We all have bad things and good things in our life even if it seems impossible to find the good things. Sometimes we just have to keep fighting for the good things yet to come! So don't give up. I believe in you
Lovingheart1982
April 10th, 2017 2:19am
Why don't you consider refocusing your life, take a time to think what is most important for you, and then, act according to that.
Anonymous
April 20th, 2017 9:34pm
In my personal experience I feel that when feeling this way you should open u pro somebody as there is always someone who can help you, you life is not pointless, you are very important to so many people and you positively impact people's lives everyday! To feel hopeful I would recommend to always share the way you feel with someone you trust and maybe enjoy more time with friends doing things that you love 😊
starrySpring
April 21st, 2017 4:26pm
For me it helps a bit if I live day by day. I ask myself "what do I what to accomplish today?". Doing this, makes everything more structured n less overwhelming. Also being around friends and talking to them helps.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2017 1:55am
Learn something new! Take up a new hobby/class that you may have an interest in. I have found that having something that has a routine (such as a class) helps keep me hopeful and looking forward to moving on!
Anonymous
May 4th, 2017 10:10pm
Keep your faith and remember that everything happens for a reason! Even though you may feel hurt, afraid, or hopeless, know that bad things happen for a reason. Struggles are what make you strong and wise! Hang in there and just know that you have a lot of people who care and love you very much! Set yourself goals and plans to get to where you want to be in life :)
Anonymous
May 7th, 2017 3:25am
A genie has arrived and you can make 3 wishes. What are they? Pick one of the 3 wishes and visualize it coming true. How does that feel? What steps can you make to feel that way right now?
bountifulDreamer46
June 10th, 2017 7:27am
I feel you. Sometimes I wonder why on earth I keep trying because my life seems like it's always such a mess. I've started to learn though that maybe, if you're out living life, it's just not as easy and clean as we want it to be. I've learned to meditate and keep a "thankful" diary where I record good things that happen to me. It's nice to pull out when I'm feeling overwhelmed so I can look at all the positive things that happen around me every day even when I feel out of sorts.
Haileymarie
June 15th, 2017 9:49pm
life can be very overwhelming. understand that it is okay to need breaks,to feel sad, or to feel this way sometimes. if it is an overwhelming feeling constantly then please talk to a loved one.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2017 9:10am
Remind yourself you are only human we all make mistakes and feel at times pointless. You should also look at the self- help guides here on 7 cups they are very beneficial, as they can really help you gain a sense of clarity and oneness with yourself.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2017 3:50am
Depression is like a thunderstorm once its over there comes a rainbow. Stay strong! You are making the right choice by talking about it.
JackDOrr
July 9th, 2017 5:23am
You may be closer to the answers than you think, even while right in the middle of the chaos that may be your life. Stop and listen. Go to a place where you can sit in solitude and connect with your soul. Your soul is your partner forever and it needs attention; it will give you back as much as you give it. Sit under a tree, or on a bench in a busy city, or simply at a window, and breathe. Deeply. Deep in your soul is a knowing of what your purpose may be. Stop and listen to it. Find peace looking up at the sky, or out at passersby, or sitting in a park. You will realize that it’s a relief to take a break from thinking about your chaotic situation—and it’s productive. Stopping to calm your mind and connect with your body and soul is actually doing something!
Anonymous
July 20th, 2017 3:23pm
Getting out and doing things with friends and family can benefit our attitudes towards the world and life in general a lot. Spend time with those who care about you and those who you care about. If you feel that you could benefit from getting professional help, that is also a conversation which you should have with your parents.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2017 6:57pm
Look for your passion, try useful good things, try charity or volunteering, make good change and impact in others life. Make good things to people you know or don't know, even a smile. A life is never pointless.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2017 3:54pm
Omg same ! :/ , but you should surround yourself by friends , family , a lot of people love you and you do belong to here in this world no one deserves to die , I hope your gonna be okay.
doraemonlessthan3you
August 31st, 2017 2:39pm
Set goals for yourself! Step out of your current situation and think of meaningful things to do in life! It need not be related to work or studies, it could be something you're passionate about, something that can leave a positive impact on someone else. Use that as your motivation to live everyday with purpose and meaning!!! :)