How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.

This is definitely a situation we've all experienced at one time or another, with varying intensities. I can say my experience has been less than graceful, but what i learned is that it takes trust in your friends to truly lose this feeling. I know it may seem scary, and maybe even impossible to fully place your trust in someone. However, if your friends are people you have fun with and love having in your life, they need to become people you can trust. Confidants in a way. This takes time and reminders, but it's worth it. Your friends can even tell you that they love you if you ask them, and while it may not help at first, it may be just the reminder you need.

You are surrounded by people who love and adore you! If these people hated you they wouldn’t be in your life and you always need to remember that. Everyone has a choice who they spend time with, and your friends choose you! It’s not easy to believe, but it’s true. It really is! Have you considered seeing a therapist about social anxiety? Check out the website if you want to find out where you can find highly trained professionals to help unravel your fears! Best of luck, I’m here if you need any more help in the future! Look forward to hearing from you again(:

All I can tell you is to ignore it, no matter how real it feels, it's just your imagination, I used to always ask my friends, "Do you actually enjoy my friendship? I can't stop feeling as if no one could possibly like me." They'd always tell me it was a stupid question and that I was an appealing person, that they really did enjoy my friendship; eventually it got kind of annoying for them to always hear me questioning our friendship and I decided to just make myself stop, whenever I'd think about it I'd just tell myself to ignore it and get on with my life because they really are my friends. After a while, I thought about it less and less and at this point, I barely think of it at all. I really hope you can get past this, your friends really do like you. They wouldn't be your friends if they didn't. Don't let yourself think otherwise.

Having trust issues can be pretty painful for both parties. I guess this can happen after you got disappointed or hurt by other. I'd say, first, let's try to be more positive and be more mature. Your friend seems to not care about you. But if you try to look from his/her perspective, he/she probably also has problems. Of course, they probably won't tell you directly what's wrong. But just letting them know that you're there for them is plenty. Second, instead of waiting for someone that you can give your trust to, try to be that person. And last but not least, if someone does harm you, just smile. And ask if they're okay. If you can't really contain your anger, wish them for something good. You can still think positively and it's better than cussing.

One thing that has really helped me understand my own fears of people hating me has been listening to/reading Brene Brown. One of my favorite concepts of hers is that of, "The story I am telling myself." The idea is that you can use this phrase to help differentiate objective reality from the irrational fears and worries. So, I will give you an example here to show you what I mean. Objective reality: Sarah cancelled plans we had to go swimming. The story I'm telling myself might be that Sarah doesn't want to go swimming because she doesn't want to spend time with me. Or maybe she secretly hates me because of that time I accidentally broke a plate at her house. Oh my god, I can't believe I am so stupid! You can see how quickly jumping to conclusions about how someone else feels can quickly devolve into self-deprecation, which feeds those previous fears even further. So, once you separate the objective from the story you're telling yourself, what can you do? Try to understand the side of the story from other perspectives. Using the previous example, maybe Sarah doesn't want to go swimming because her stomach hurts today. Maybe she got a really bad sunburn the day before and doesn't want to be out in the sun more. Maybe her car broke down and she has to deal with that instead of going out with friends. In any situation, there can be other explanations than the story you're telling yourself. It takes training, but it's very possible to teach yourself how to rationalize like this.

I’ve found that when I feel like this, I tend to pull away. So what I need to do is chat with my friends and engage regularly. I also sometimes need to go out of my comfort zone and push a bit more for interaction, such as messaging a couple of times or trying to meet up again. Or even talking to them and asking them to contact, or scheduling a time to catch up. I think it’s okay also to push away friends who you don’t get along with as well. But I do find that even though I find it scary to reconnect it’s often alright and people are happy that you did.

Sounds frustrating. Why do you feel your fear is irrational? Do you believe your friends don't like you? Or do you think they do like you? Do you believe the dislike is only in your head? Or do you think there is a reason you are feeling this way? Do you like your friends? Do they treat you poorly or imply that they don't like you? Do they mistreat you, or laugh at you? Do you think it's all in your head or do you is there a reason you feel that way? I am here to help!

I know exactly how you feel and the best way to overcome this is to simply say how you feel. It can be tough to even just ask but it really is the best way to help yourself. There are times where I go through the feelings that my friends don't care/like for me so I think it over for a bit then simply just ask in a way that makes me comfortable. 9/10 it's through text messages but if you have a good group of friends then they will support you. I have a really close friend who has been through a lot and she goes through her own anxiety and I support her through that like she supports me. If you don't feel comfortable to speak out about it then journaling is a really good way to let out your thoughts and feelings. I do it almost daily to just keep tabs on myself. I find when I write negative thoughts down I can tackle them and overcome them. I hope this helps.

Perhaps try sitting your friends down, and having a slow and contained conversation with them. express your feelings in the best way you can, explain your fears and worries, and explain how they make you feel and affect your day-to-day life. After you’ve expressed those fears and emotions, perhaps try asking for reassurance, and ask if they can do more activities with you, or text you more. engage more with them and increase the bond, it may reduce the anxiety. Some days may feel worse than others, and the fears will convince you everybody hates you, but I assure you that it’s wrong. My best advice would be laying it all out for them to better understand, and ask for help. Be safe!

Ughh tell me about it! I have this problem too!! I think you need to ask yourself a few questions to help you understand your feelings. For example, "why do I think my friends hate me?" "what did I do to make them feel hate towards me?" "if they hated me for real, how would they act? Is it the same as what's been going on before?" Also asking yourself, where did this irradiation fear come from. If it was from some traumatizing experience in your past, maybe you should see a counselor about it to help you more or ask someone you trust. Talking really helps, so do that

Sometimes it may feel like your friends hate you based on how they act around you. But you just have to take a step back and look around and notice how fortunate you are to have such amazing people around you! Your friends are there for you though sometimes it doesn’t feel like it. And if you ever do feel like your friends HATE you hate you, talk to them and tell them who you’re feeling! Your friends will be king and understand how you feel and listen. But if they aren’t truly your friends they’ll do the opposite.

You know its irrational. There isn't an easy fix I know of, but I can tell you that you know its irrational. As in, the thought is not true. You will be okay. Do whatever helps relax you, and understand the thought won't destroy you. As I need more words, have some mantra-reading below: You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You'll be okay, I promise.

In my experience it is best to think about what things your friends said and their actions that make you feel as though they hate you. After getting everything in perspective, try to think about the other reasons they might have done this, what they might have meant, or what they might not have realized they had done. Sometimes my friends seem to not include me in things, but I realize that I never told them how I felt. After talking with them, it became clear they didn't realize how they were making me feel and things improved. Sometimes we need to give them that chance, because they aren't in our heads and what may seem obvious to us is not so obvious to them. You've got to give a little trust to truly understand how much they give you, these people are your friends, give them a chance to tell you how they really feel.

so it sounds like you have this concern that you are not liked by your friends, but you are identifying that it is irrational- so that is a good start. By identifying it as irrational, you are aware that this is probably not the case- can you think of one thing that you enjoy about the friendship of those around you? and what is one things that you think your friends might enjoy about you being in their lives? Try to focus on one positive from each side of the friendship- start small and grow from there

Your friends may have some rough bumps in life and may not want to hang out with you. It is hard to accept if you were friends for a very long time. Sometimes people just need space from others and that may be what is going on. If not you can always ask them. Some people may just tell you what is going on straight up. Others may just want to be away from you. People do not hate you if you are thinking they have been spacey. You can ask them what is wrong and if they say they are having a bad day you can help them and then after they will hang out with you more

This fear is often a difficult feeling to cope with and can be very intimidating. It is important to remember that the mind can make up worries and stressors about things that aren't necessarily present. There is no benefit in worrying about something that isn't present to worry about, it will only waste your energy. I think that it can be very difficult and intimidating to confront a friend about this issue, which makes the fear problematic. But if it becomes this problematic, it is worth a simple conversation with a friend simply by asking if anything is wrong. They can truthfully give you an answer you may be seeking.

Look for actions your friends do that show they love you as a friend, it can be something nice they do, or they call and talk to you, they invite you to things, or ask you how you are, or share their life with you, or spend time together, these are all things that show that your friends like you. Also, you can look at how you see yourself as a person, as an individual, and how well you value yourself, sometimes if we don't treat ourselves well, we don't feel like people around us are treating us well. So perhaps that a good place to start too.

Peoplare usually are quite straightforward. They dont pretend to enjoy someone's company for long if they actually dont. We have nothing to gain being fake in friendship. So when someone says they like you, there is no reason for it to be a lie. If you still lack confidence, you can ask them what are the things they like so much about you, you'd be surprised to discover what are your super powers. Mine is to make people feel safe and listened. People know that I will never judge them, I will never betray their trust and never make fun of them. They know that I will share my knowledge if I have some over the issue they are facing and simply tell them I am as powerless as them if I cannot help but that I am willing to face whatever is ahead by their side. This is my super power. I am not the funny type of friend. I am not a cool kid either. I am not a very inspirational role model, I am not entrepreneur. But this, my listening skills, is my super power. And people love me for that. It is not much but it is enough. What is your super power ? Are you good at gathering people ? At planning events ? Are you a creative mind that inspires people through the si guardian beauty of your work ? Are you good at solving others problems ? Are you passionate about many subjects that make it interesting talking with you about arts, sports and politics, so people always learn something being around you and are never bored ? Ask your friends, they will know what is your super power.

My honest opinion is that if your friends are really your friends and they care for you, they dont hate you. Friends are there to support you and care for you in your time of need. We all have people in our lives that we say hello to from time to time, but our closest friends we keep close to our hearts. You need to take a step back and ask yourself if the friends you have are the ones to keep close to you. Friends are and important part of all of our lives but at thee same time should not be there just out of necessity.

I feel that everybody experiences or has experienced this in their life. You are not alone. I think that the best way to give yourself conformation is to remind yourself that unless your friends are hinting at being mad or being passive aggressive, it is unlikely that they have a problem with you. Also remember that they may feel the same way. It is not uncommon to feel worried about other's opinions of you. Also, if this feeling will not go away, you can always ask your friends how they feel. Otherwise, if you know your fear is irrational, try thinking of the good times you have had with your friends. Do you think they hated you in that moment? Most likely not.

I've felt this way countless times. Some of my friends even spread rumors behind my back and I used to get paranoid that my friends secretly hated me. However, I think as you mature, you come to realize that friends who make you feel unloved or unworthy really shouldn't be considered your friends. I no longer associate myself with my friend group from last year. Instead, I found a few friends that bring me up rather than tear me down. I'm much happier now, and I think you will feel the same way once you find some other people to bond with. In terms of getting over the irrational fear, don't worry about what your friends might be thinking! When I heard that one of my friends thought I was "boring," I immediately became self-conscious about my personality. Just be confident in yourself. Even if you don't feel confident, act confident and others will be automatically attracted to you.

If you are feeling like your friends hate you it is important to look at what makes them love you, and what you love about yourself. Hate is a very strong emotion and I know your friends don't hate you, so talk to them about your feelings. Tell them this and if they are your real friends they will understand and support you. Ask them what they love about you. And ask yourself do I deserve to be hated, truth is no one deserves to be hated, you are strong, intelligent, and empowered. This fear does not define you, don't let it define your friendships either.

I believe this is an issue regarding self-love. I have been through it and I know it is hard. Self love is hard. You can ask yourself: What do you like about yourself? What are your qualities? Your sens of humour, your kindness, your listening skills, your music or movie preferences? Think of the question and write down your qualities. You can also ask yourself: Why would my friends hate me? We go out, we talk a lot. Remember that your are bigger than your fears. I hope this helps! Good luck and remember you are loved! Have a nice day!

Express this fear to your friends. You will be able to get it from them, and then since it's word of mouth. It's straight from the source. If they're good friends they will be thankful you came to them, instead of letting your fear dictate how you live and act around them. It may be scary at first, but start with the friend you feel closest to. I know the fear can be over-whelming but if you keep it all bottled in, it might start to affect your friendships. People dont often hang around people they hate. Good chance is, they dont hate you

Okay so to tackle negative thoughts we need to put our thoughts ‘on trial.’ This helps us to rationalise them by offering alternative perspectives. To do this, you first need to think of all of the evidence as to why the thoughts might be true. So why do your friends hate you? How do they hate you? Next you need to think of all the reasons this might not be true. Can you think of a time your friends proved that they don’t hate you? Would they still be your friends? What would you say to someone else in your situation. Now it’s time to re-evaluate. Is your thinking rational?

Take a moment to think of all the things you have to offer to your friends and how you treat them. Then think back on how they treat you. If you notice a significant difference on how you treat each other, there may be something to talk about. Don't jump to conclusions that they hate you and cause yourself the stress. Instead, discuss it with your friends and how you feel. Something as simple as this may help you and your friends better communicate and talk about any problems you may be having. You are an amazing person and have a lot to offer, surround yourself with people that know your worth, support you, and don't bring you down!

You can ask them directly, "Do you hate me?" It might feel weird to ask your friends this, but it would be the most efficient method. Also, showing yourself compassion is a good practice because people who think close ones don't like them normally have low-self esteem. By gaining confidence, you won't be looking at things in a negative light as much, or searching for things your friends are doing that follow your low-confidence mindset. Try daily affirmations and self-love practices (like face masks, yoga, etc.) to rewire your brain into seeing you as an interesting, fun, important, [insert whatever positive adjective you want], person. Hope that helps!

Well, perhaps making a list of positive things that they've done that showed their love that you can take our whenever this fear overtakes you would be helpful. It's also a good idea to just sit and calmly tell yourself, it feels like they hate me, but I know that that's not true. Why would they hate me? They don't act like that. It's still hard to feel like they hate me, even though I know it's not true, and it could be painful, but it's not the truth, it's just something I feel. It could also be helpful to get them to say something that will reassure you, like texting I love you so they answer that they love you back, or if you want to, telling them about your irrational fear so they can reassure you that it isn't true.

When you feel like you in this situation, you have to first acknowledge if your saying this out of overthinking or either because you have seen some inappropriate actions from your friends. Best way to know this is by observing how you feel around certain friends and also observe their actions in terms of how they treat you to gain understanding of your thoughts. Sometimes even talking to your friends to gain that validation of remaining good friends for a long time can help as well. This can also be a trust thing where you have to learn to allow yourself to form new friendships.

Trying to convince your mind anything is an endless war you cannot win. The harder you force yourself into thinking or not thinking something and the more you engage in what your mind is telling you, the harder it gets. You end up in the middle of a battlefield, where you you are fighting against your inner world. How about taking a step out of the battlefield? You could try to observe your mind's work with a discompassionate curiosity, insted of trying to change what it has to say. Having such fear means that you value friendship and relationships, which is a great thing to have in life. Have you tried mindfulness?