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How can I deal with my emotions?

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Last Updated: 08/06/2019 at 8:31pm
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Top Rated Answers
dkotabarrios
April 2nd, 2015 12:29am
There are many ways for one to deal with their emotions. You can start by increasing your self-awareness. How you act in specific situations and what triggers certain emotions.
EarlySun
July 21st, 2015 4:50pm
Emotions can be overwhelming at times, and make it hard for us to not only deal with crisis, but our day to day lives as well. Two of the most helpful things you can do to deal with emotions is to accept them for what they are and practice accurately identifying what you are feeling. Sometimes feelings just have to pass and we have to be patient with ourselves. There are no right or wrong emotions. They are just there, and having certain emotions do not define who you are, do not indicate your goodness or badness, and do not have to dictate your actions (even thought it might seem that they do). Accepting emotions as a natural response to events in your life takes the judgment out of them and lessens the spiral that so often results when we start blaming ourselves for having our feelings. Without judgement we can more effectively move towards self care by seeking support when we are sad, understanding when we are angry, companionship when lonely. It is difficult to manage emotions if you don't know what you are feeling. Is it fear, anger, embarrassment? A combination, more likely? It's good to examine what your primary and secondary emotions are. Often anger is a secondary reaction to fear. If we just try to deal with the anger, then likely we will not resolve the cause of our feelings. Practicing identifying your emotions can help you deal more effectively because you'll be more likely to seek out appropriate help and support for what is really causing you the upset. Finally, sometimes we find it hard to identify a feeling and just have to sit with it until it passes, or until we can sense more clearly what we are feeling exactly. There are times when we are unable to either find relief or even identify exactly what we are feeling, so we may have to be kind and patient with ourselves while we sit with it and let it pass. If you find your emotions are unmanageable and are overwhelming you it can help to chat with a listener here at 7 cups, browse the self-help articles on our site, or seek professional help if you are in crisis.
Anonymous
January 19th, 2016 12:42pm
Taking a deep breath...observing thots and feelings it causes....n letting go of negative thots.....
ZeppelinsOverhead
August 6th, 2019 8:31pm
Dealing with your emotions begins with recognizing and acknowledging them. Do you feel like your emotions confuse you? Do you ever sit down and think about it from an objective point of view? It has been helpful, for me, to identify what I'm feeling and why before deciding how I'm going to act. If frustration is overwhelming me, I can think only of the things that make me frustrated. I start thinking in circles, and it makes things worse. It helps to have a sort of "plan" to follow, one that you make when you aren't dealing with heavy emotions. You can look back at that plan when you are overwhelmed, and it'll act as a solid guide for you. Do you think it would help to have something like that? Good luck!
Maxishere4u
April 1st, 2019 11:16am
Emotions reflect how you feel about what you experience in life. They are raw reactions of your body and brain to various stimuli that come your way. They just happen, you can't control how you feel about what happens around you. Some are light and they just come and go, others are mild and grab your attention for a while and then you move on. Others are strong and may feel like paralyzing your actions or even more, leading you to do a thing you would not otherwise do. You can't refrain from feeling, but you can take notice of what you feel. And, for the strong ones, after the storm is gone, you can explore the reasons behind and find out more about what made you feel in a certain manner. By exploring yourself, you will become aware of the reasons - the triggers - that get you to feel in a certain way. And this is the first step in dealing with your emotions.
Anonymous
December 10th, 2018 2:44pm
I feel as if I have recently encountered this situation. I am still learning and growing each day. It's a slightly arduous but enjoyable journey. I've come to realize that, at least for me anyway, understanding yourself, or in other words being HONEST with yourself is extremely helpful. It can definitely at times be pretty difficult and uncomfortable. My best guess is that not too many people want to confront the negative sides of themselves. It can make a person vulnerable, making you feel like you're never going to "find" what you're looking for. Be harsh with yourself, endure the pain, whatever that might mean for you, because underneath truly lies "salvation".
lovelyLion74
August 6th, 2018 11:50am
Breathe. There are so many different methods but the one I found easiest was breathing because it’s extremely portable.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2018 6:59pm
1.Be aware of how you feel. When you have a negative emotion, such as anger, try to name what you're feeling. ... 2.Don't hide how you feel from yourself. ... Know why you feel the way you do. ... 3.Don't blame. ... 4.Accept all your emotions as natural and understandable.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2017 11:48pm
You control your emotions , your emotions do not control you, sometimes, the best way to keep them under control is to take a few seconds, take a deep breath, count to ten if you need to, and then decide your next move with a clear mind . A few seconds can make all the difference in the word.
Anonymous
March 14th, 2017 8:57am
I think all of our emotions are healthy and need to be expressed. If your emotions are intense such as intense anxiety, intense anger, intense sadness etc, then the person will need help to cope with those strong feelings. Now, if the feelings are socially acceptable then the person can remove herself from the situation practice deep breathing and when she/he calmed down try to talk about the situation that cause the emotion.
Yupanqi78
July 5th, 2016 1:52am
Emotions are very hard to deal with. When a new one appears, specially if it is one that you don't like Denial will kick in as a Defense Mechanism. The best way to deal with emotions is to be honest with them, try to name them and try to identify where they are coming from.
edufresne
January 14th, 2015 8:49pm
In order to deal with your emotions, it can be an incredible help to talk to one of the listeners here at 7 Cups of Tea. Having someone who you can spill your heart out to in an anonymous setting can drastically change how you feel. Sometimes all a person needs is someone to talk to and that is why I am an intern listener here.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 7:59pm
Talk to someone whom you can trust, because talking is really therapeutic and when you start talking don't keep anything in, express what you are feeling because it has a powerful impact on what you are feeling, I have tried it a lot and I think it would work for you like it worked for me
Anonymous
December 1st, 2015 8:30am
try to clear your head and calm yourself down by closing your eyes and take deep breaths, and repeat it all over again :)
Greatlistener87
November 18th, 2015 2:09am
Depending on how much emotions that you have not dealt with in the past. If you can handle it then look for the root cause of the trigger for that emotion and deal with it. But if it is difficult for you to deal with it by yourself then seek help.
nomtomatoes
May 26th, 2015 9:19pm
Calm down. Take deep breaths. Distract yourself with things you love. Find support with those you trust.
Potter13
February 18th, 2015 12:12am
A good way to deal with emotions is to find out what they are and what triggers them. Try a mood diary and say what is happening at that time. Avoid any triggers that occur. Ask yourself why you feel the way you do.