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Anonymous
November 17th, 2014 7:23pm
It all depends on the person or thing you are being separated from. If possible, Skype, texting, instant messaging, or emailing is a fantastic resource to keep in touch and therefore minimize the effects of separation anxiety. Also it can be helpful to keep a countdown of the days/months until you see this person and or thing again. Unfortunately if you can neither keep in touch with the person/thing nor do you know when you can see them again it can be more difficult. I would encourage you to find activities to engage in such as clubs, sports, or simply going out with friends. By staying active you are decreasing the amount of time you can think about the separation
There are lots of ways to deal with anxiety. With separation, sometimes it really helps to distract yourself. There are many Big Distraction Lists online that can help you think of many ideas - you may want to try several. Grounding Techniques can help whenever you start to feel Really overwhelmed by an emotion. But, it's also important to talk about your emotions and/or write about them. Being able to understand why you are anxious (even if it's irrational) can help you to address your fears and learn ways to deal with the anxiety. Breathing and mindfulness may also be of use to you.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2014 2:35am
The most important thing for me was getting help. After meeting with my therapist, I felt fantastic!
I've had a lot of troubles with separation anxiety because I have abandonment issues. Here are some things that help me:
*Write a letter to the person you're missing or anxious to be away from. Sending it is entirely optional!
*Distract yourself! My favorite thing is to watch something on Netflix, but it can be as simple as doing your homework. :)
*Hang out with some other friends, some people who will distract you from the anxiety of that one person or thing you're wanting to see the most.
*This is one of the less healthy alternatives, but if it comes down to it, attach yourself to something else. Something you can always have with you. Like a keychain, a piece of jewelry, or a stuffed animal.It could be a way to relieve the stress with an alternative.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2014 9:13pm
Remember that whoever you are separated from will see you once again, and they are not abandoning you for good.
Expose yourself to it slowly and it will go away slowly the more you face it and desensitize yourself to it.
Dealing with separation and the feeling of anxiety caused by this change in your life can be difficult. Ro deal with this hardship I think it is makes things easier by going through things that make you happy and talking to others.
if its only a temp separation by reminding yourself that they will be back, keep yourself busy and communicate with them if possible often.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 4:46pm
Counter every thought of yours that tells you that something is going to go wrong with a question on the possibilities that could go right. Try to ask yourself logical questions, such as Why am I worrying, Do I have any valid reason to? These can help you remove yourself from thinking with just your emotions.
YES, FIRST MONTHS ARE GOING TO BE THE WORST, YOU ARE GOING TO BECAME FUCKING JAMES BOND, TRYING TO TALK TO HIM, KNOWING EVERTHING ABOUT THAT PERSON, FB, CHATS, TALKING TO HIS FRIENDS, CRYING, NOT BEING ABLE TO WORK, EAT, GO OUT...BUT YOU CAN DO THIS..IF YOU THINK YOU CANT...FIND A PROFESSIONAL, SEPARATIONS ARE HORRIBLE BUT IF YOU BEGAN TO BE CONTROLLED BY YOUR ANXIETY...YOU ARE GOING TO DO THINGS THAT YOU ARE GOING TO REGRET BADLY...SELFRESPECT ALWAYWS.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2016 5:45am
If you are separated from someone you love and you can manage to contact them somehow, try your best to talk to or meet with them whenever you can.
I find that a little token works pretty well. It can be a coin, a stuffed animal, hey, even a rock... something that will keep you grounded and connected to whatever you're separated from. I have a blanket!
Start small and work your way up. If you can, try being separated for really short intervals -- minutes, then a half-hour, then an hour. If you are like me, engrossing yourself in a task really helps. When you are back together, you will automatically be conditioning yourself that everything is OK! You were separated, and nothing bad actually happened. Keep practicing. Eventually, being by yourself will be second nature!
Anonymous
July 21st, 2016 6:42pm
You can deal with separation anxiety by staying in contact with the person you are separated from, or try some breathing exercises while thinking of memories about the person/place/thing you are separated from.
Everybody Need help some day. When you Need help People try to help you. But you must help yourself as soon as possible then People will help more and also want to get you to know better
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 5:02pm
You should probably discuss with your partner the time when you can chat or skype if you can. Don't get too upset if your partner won't answer immediately because you just might not know if he or she is busy or not. Try to wind down and do things that will give you pleasant emotions and great experience.
Focus on you and how you want too take care of your self. Focus on you and what you have now. Teach your self that you are not alone. You have youself.
Experiencing the separation and the resulting reality of the 'sky not falling' is a way to desensitize yourself from the anxiety.
I take care of myself.I connect with almighty and I believe in the hope and light in my heart which I follow.
Anonymous
May 15th, 2016 8:43am
Focus on all the positive things I can look upto.. Spend most of the time doing something I love.. Like cooking, drawing or painting... When getting anxious...thinking on why I shouldn't and concentrate on recovering :)
Oh, I have such terrible separation anxiety! Sometimes I am labeled "clingy," but it's much deeper than that. What has helped me has been exposure therapy. Incremental exposure to separating from somebody I love, especially romantic relationships. Stay busy, re-frame your thoughts, keep a journal. If you think you have abandonment fears that interfere with your daily life, certainly seek and counselor. Don't feel down on yourself. Researchers at Haverford College, in Pennsylvania, found people who missed their partners when apart from them were more committed to the relationship, worked harder to take care of it and avoided damaging behavior such as cheating.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2016 2:12pm
Talk to people regularly, tell your friends about it, make sure they know why you don't want them to leave :)
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2016 1:34am
Try to surround yourself with people who you care about, and who care about you. It'll help distract from the loss.
I try and accept and remember that I may be physically separated it doesn't mean that I am emotionally!
One positive thing about todays generation is the internet. It is easier to communicate with somebody you haven't seen for awhile. It might make you feel better to snap chat with someone or even Skype because even though they are not physically with you, you still get to see them and here their voice.
Try to distract yourself as much as possible when whoever that you are attached too leaves you. Video games, reading a book, listening to music, watching television, can all help you! :)
Anonymous
August 17th, 2016 6:28am
In my opinion, I would change the way I do my routine. The more occupied I am, and do things I love, I start to get better.
The best way to deal with separation anxiety is your way. Find what makes you happy, and keep in contact with the person you are no longer with. Sometimes talking with someone to often can be a problem, as well as a big disconnect, you want to find the adequate amount of time to dedicate toward the person you no longer see for periods of time, and make you sure you focus on improving your life. The best way for me is to set goals for when I will see the person, show the progress made while apart, yet how much you missed them.
Anxiety is a fear from something what will happen in near future by the current activity. A fear is bad emotion which is created by the though. Changing the thoughts about some actitivity leads to reducing anxiety
The best way is to keep busy! It's hard, but try to do something that occupies your mind and time. The separation will go by much faster if you're not watching the clock.
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