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How can I get what I need from my doctor?

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Last Updated: 04/10/2020 at 1:59am
How can I get what I need from my doctor?
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Lara Gregorio, LCSW

Therapist

I believe that depression can feel all-consuming. I have a real passion for helping my clients to reclaim their voices and lives from depressive thoughts.

Top Rated Answers
ThingsGetBetter20
April 11th, 2018 8:56pm
Tell them the truth, in how you feel and what your symptoms are. Make sure they have a clear understanding of the way you feel to assist them in getting you the correct help.
Chippy09
April 12th, 2018 6:08am
Being honest regarding your history, either medication or experiences, is important to get what you need from your doctor.
hollyliz35
April 15th, 2018 6:33am
To get what you need from your doctor you have to be completely honest and truthful with them. Tell them what's been going on, even if it sounds sad or crazy or weird. Everything you say, your doctor will take into account and tell you what's right for you.
Anonymous
April 18th, 2018 1:40pm
By being calm and honest when speaking with my doctor, and listening to his/her advice. If I am too afraid to be honest, it might be a good idea for me to bring someone with me to appointments.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 4:30am
Be honest about your situation, or at least don't lie. You may not get all you wished for or expected, but they will try and give you what they believe is best.
SweetKate
May 3rd, 2018 12:02am
It really depends on what kind of doctor you mean. With a physician it's important to be concise and exact with your symptoms. Don't stretch the truth to try to get them to "take you more seriously". They can see and respect the truth. With psychiatrists, the same goes. You need to be upfront and honest. More importantly though is that you include ALL of your symptoms, none are too minor to 'skip'. I recommend that you work on a list over a week period of all the symptoms you notice, and hand the list to your psychiatrist. they will ask you to go into more detail about these symptoms, and they will be the best party to judge what measures should be taken from there. It's important to not hold anything back out of a fear of "making a big deal of it". Your health is important- advocate for it!
Ar2018
May 4th, 2018 5:43am
Being completely honest and transparent- doctors need to be able to understand and have full details in order to help, diagnose or prescribe... if you withhold you’re not doing self care, helpfulness or diligence to yourself- do self care and be truthful and authentic
incredibleTree19
May 11th, 2018 5:36pm
Say what you need, and give feedback on whether it's working or not. Give context for your concerns. Ask about and make sure you understand your treatment/diagnosis. Advocate for yourself, and speak up. This may require some energy, but it is definitely a good use. It may also be a good idea to seek a second opinion, if possible.
Anonymous
May 12th, 2018 4:29pm
Be honest to your doctor. Open up to him/her about everything and be specific about what you need and about what you think he/she needs to know.
QuirkyGirlSparks
May 18th, 2018 2:11am
Be honest with your Doctor. Do not hide anything. If you are hearing things, feel suicidal, feeling agressive, depressed...tell your doctor!
humbledbygrace
May 20th, 2018 11:17am
Be honest with the doctor. Tell them how you really feel, how long you have felt like that. Be guided by the doctor. They may not prescribe medication straight away, because there are other options that may work, either with or without the assistance of medication.
Anonymous
May 31st, 2018 2:44pm
When you want something from your doctor, First off you need a doctor you can trust and that you know will work with you, and wants to help you. Make sure you establish a relationship with them. Then you have to be clear about the symptoms your having, and be able to show him/her the problems your having. Maybe write all your symptoms down, so don't forget to tell him/her something during the visit. Schedule an appointment, and make sure you show up on time. If you by some reason you have to miss the appointment always make sure you call and reschedule. If you don't call in and just blow it off, it wastes their time when they could be helping another patient, then that leads them to think your not serious about the appointment to begin with. Make sure you are honest with them, and usually most doctors will be willing to work with and you can get what you need.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2018 2:28am
One way is to ask. I know that seems really simple, and I know it is way easier said than done. However, it pays to be assertive. Or, at least, open up a dialogue and be tell your doctor what you need. You can always switch doctors if you find your current one unwilling or unable to help.
generalanesthetiics
June 13th, 2018 1:39am
Communicate openly and effectively. Doctors are human too and may not always understand right away. If you are not feeling helped it is always okay to seek help from another doctor or therapist till you find the right fit for you.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2018 7:39am
you can ask your doctor what you need for this. or if your doctor will provide you what you are seeking. though doctors will go by how the doctor feels about it. but be aware to talk about your doctor about what you need and be honest.
BeTheChangeYouWant
June 15th, 2018 3:50pm
Be honest, clear, and open with your doctor about the full truth of your symptoms and needs. Don't exaggerate, but don't sugarcoat or leave out things you are embarrassed about or don't want to admit either. Your doctor isn't psychic, and without clear and honest communication from you (even if it is difficult to talk about or open up about) they will not be able to diagnose and treat you properly to give you the care you need and deserve.
QuietLittleKaiju
June 15th, 2018 6:44pm
It’s important to be very specific when going to the doctor. Write down questions and make sure to share them. It’s easy to get swept up with anxiety when at an appointment and forget why you even had to see a doctor.
calmBlanket36
June 22nd, 2018 3:49am
Talk to your doctor and explain to them your situation. Doctors are here to help so it can’t be too hard to get what you need as long as it’s for your own good :)
lostgirlfangirl
June 27th, 2018 2:41am
Be honest with your doctor when they ask you questions. Tell them how you are truly feeling so that they can help you to the best of their ability.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 9:29pm
Be honest with him tell him what you need. Be strong. And just keep telling him what you need. Be strong.
HelpingStarlight
July 4th, 2018 7:30am
In order for your doctor to give you prescription medication, you usually need to be diagnosed first. So the doctor has to give you a referral if it's needed, that referral will then bring you to a mental health clinic to be diagnosed, they can then prescribe you medication. Then in order to renew the prescription each month you just go back to your doctor and get the repeat prescription.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2018 1:19am
The best way to get what you need from your doctor is to be as honest with them as possible. They are there to help and provide you with professional assistance. Doctors are bound to confidentiality and therefore can not share what you tell them with anyone else (unless you express you are going to harm yourself or someone else in the immediate future). Being honest with your doctor is the absolute best way to get what you need out of treatment.
LanLaLand
July 8th, 2018 11:26pm
With complete honesty, doctors expect you to tell them everything about your history, sometimes even things you wouldn't consider important, is vital for a doctor to help you. And if it doesn't work out, try another doctor, you can always get second opinions
kindPanda75
July 11th, 2018 9:52pm
By giving the Doctor a accurate account of what symptoms you have they will be able to prescribe the correct medication
SeaShell55
July 13th, 2018 3:14am
Explain clearly the issue and make sure they understand, if you feel unheard you can see another doctor and get a second opinion. Seeing a family doctor isn't the only option, there are clinics.
MattInWonderland
July 19th, 2018 5:32pm
That's a great question! It depends very much on the specifics of the situation, but here are some ideas which may help you - If you feel you are not putting across your message across clearly, it may be worth writing a list of things you want to say and questions you want to ask before going to meet your doctor Another idea which might help is to look at having a trusted relative or advocate who you feel understands your needs to come with you to talk to your doctor - If this is possible, they could provide moral support or interject on your behalf if you need it. A third option is, if you feel your doctor is not listening to you or taking your need seriously, you could always arrange to see a different doctor. There is one more important thing to add to this. No-one knows your situation better than you, and it is great that you are determined to get what you need. Also hear what the doctor is saying and give it some thought. If they are understanding what you are asking for but advising against it, perhaps there is a good reason for this. However, even if this is the case, it never hurts to get a second opinion just to make sure. Good luck and I hope this helps :)
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2018 8:56pm
You need to go in telling them exactly what the problem is, e.g depression. - if you don’t tell they won’t give.
Allears247
July 25th, 2018 11:24am
People often think that they have to do everything that their doctor says and this just isn't true. Doctors are people too and are capable of being incorrect or misguided just as anyone else. You know your body better than anyone will ever know it because you live within it. Be firm, tell them what you are looking for and what you need. If they don't try to work with you I would change doctors.
Dlinepop
July 25th, 2018 2:54pm
Don't forget to say how long have you had the illness, when was the first symptoms occured, what should you do/drink to stop and prevent it?
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 2:59pm
It depends on what you need, if it's a prescription usually the doctor's advice is best, however, you can have a sit down chat with them and argue your case.