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How can I give less importance to other people's judgement on me?

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Last Updated: 09/16/2019 at 9:49pm
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Top Rated Answers
happysoulalways96
June 3rd, 2015 6:05am
The best way in my thinking and experience is that.... When you start loving and accepting yourself, you start knowing yourself.. Then what people think of you does not matter at all. You know who you are...more than they do. You love yourself no matter what, you know your strengths and weaknesses, which you have accepted. So at the end what others say won't matter.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2015 8:05pm
Just remember only Gods Judgement really count! people are just insecure themselves so just be happy they care so much, that means they care less about themselves.
confidentSoul35
June 21st, 2016 8:21am
Answer lies in the question itself. Just keep in mind that all these judgements won't affect your life in any manner - It's their judgement. Letting go of the same will always make you feel better.
JessInTechnicolour
March 22nd, 2015 11:50pm
It's a choice you have to make. I think when you get out and see lots and lots of people, you get some perspective and can start to realize how different everyone actually is. The grass may seem greener on the other side of the fence, but it often isn't. Appearances can be deceiving. The only thing you can do is own who you are and stand by your decisions. At the end of the day, you are the only one that suffers if you don't stay true to yourself.
AbbieAlexis
March 26th, 2015 8:06pm
By knowing that what other people think isn't what defines you. By learning to love yourself and doing what makes you happy
TinkerBe11a
August 25th, 2015 7:54am
Everyone in life has different view points, goals and ethics. In order to not let others judgements impact us we have to do some self reflection and insight. We our selves have to know what we stand for and why. Once we know this it makes what others say less meaningful and we don't worry about it because we know what we believe in.
worthytalktime
September 14th, 2015 5:57pm
You could do that by understanding that you would find jealous, anxious and unworthy judgements round the corners of every new folds of life. Just remember like "air" they are always there. They would be there to be all judgemental and would try to hamper your capabilities because probably they are aware of the fact that you are, in some way or the other, better than them. So, goodluck!
MusicMajor
October 26th, 2015 1:33pm
It's hard to not care what others think of you, espeically in todays society when we seek aproval from everyone. The best thing I would say is just own you! Be who you are and stay confident! If you wake up and want yo wear something that you don't know if you should, do it! Express yourself! Go to the mirror and tell yourself that you look fabulous and how you dress is an extention of you and who are you! I am a male and I wear makeup sometimes (nothing big, just eyeliner under my upper waterline) to make my eyes look better! I take pride in how I look and I have been questioned for it... I seriouly looked at them and said "Is it a cry to try and make my eyes look nice?" If you are confident with what you are doing, then people will stop judging you and move on with their lives! Hope this helps! Love ya! "\ml/"
damselinthisdress
May 9th, 2017 8:01am
You can start by realising that no matter what you do, you're always going to get judged. We can never impress everyone around us. People are always going to find something or the other to talk about. So, instead of worrying about what six billion people are thinking about you, it's better to worry about what you think about yourself. be the best possible person you can be. Love yourself instead of waiting for others to love you. When you fill yourself with love and happiness, others 'judgement won't matter anymore. :)
Anonymous
June 25th, 2019 1:46pm
People’s first reaction is to judge others. It’s an easier mechanism then empathy. However, we are sometimes our own worst enemy, judging ourselves with unrealistic expectations. When really we just need to give ourselves a more credibility for being human. If we can learn to not judge ourselves first, then others judgements fall wayside. Life is full of challenges and one persons challenge, no matter how big or small, is a challenge still the same. We are all here to learn, some at a faster rate then others. If someone is placing judgement on you for playing your role in this lifetime, then perhaps they shouldn’t be a main role in your life story. Cutting out the toxicity of others thoughts and opinions is a great first choice.
TheHelpfulPillow
September 16th, 2019 9:49pm
By reminding yourself that those people have flaws themselves, and are nowhere near as perfect as they try to make you feel. Sure, maybe you're not as good as something as they are, however, they're not as good as something as you are. I would distance myself from the people that do make judgements on you. They won't ever be healthy people to be around, unless they first start changing themselves. If you can't help but be around them e.g. they're a family member or a work boss, stay calm, keep positive and remind yourself of your own strengths.
Anonymous
March 11th, 2015 9:00pm
Try taking some time, and a small piece of paper (about 1 inch by 1 inch or less). Then really think about whose opinions in your life should really matter to you and why. Write those people down on the paper. Keep it in your wallet, bag, or pocket, somewhere close. When you're having a moment where you need to remind yourself whose judgements are important to you, look at that paper. If they're not on the paper, their judgements should not hold heavy on your mind or close to your heart.
peaser0712
March 18th, 2015 7:49pm
Realize that if they are judging you, then they are the one's with the insecurities and lacking confidence--not you.
PippaCalisto
March 21st, 2015 3:44am
Realize that people will continuously judge you from birth to death and that there's nothing you can do about. Although, it does remind me of some good song lyrics... "Love me or hate me. Still an obsession." They just can't keep their minds off of you~
FoxInTheBox
December 14th, 2015 5:36pm
People are bound to have opinions. But remember, sometimes these opinions might not have a basis; that's what differentiates opinions from facts. Just stay focused, do what you keep doing, seek help from the experts, and you should be good.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2016 7:40pm
Increase self-confidence. Look at all that you've done that you're proud of. Stop regretting things. Realize that this is who you are and if they don't like you than they don't have to be around you.
Friendtotalk123
June 20th, 2016 3:46am
Everyone has their own opinion of what is right and wrong. Furthermore, what is right for someone, may be completely wrong for someone else. Only you can decide what works best for you, because no one knows your situation better than you.
NumberEleven
July 18th, 2016 2:42pm
By understanding that people's perception of you won't matter when you have a clear, confident self image.
dancer19
September 25th, 2017 11:18pm
Trying to ignore other people's opinions of you can be really hard. One thing to try is to reflect on yourself and your actions. Did you do the best you could? Were you kind to everyone? Take a look at how much progress you have made before you let someone else's opinions dictate how you will feel the rest of the day.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2017 1:44pm
You probably know that what others think does not really have a weight on your life. Do somebody think you are doing wrong? Who cares if you enjoy what you do? does somebody think you are ugly? what matters is how you feel about yourself which should be positive, their thoughts are nothing but a big bubble which needs just a touch to burst out. Let them be.
gentleWaterfall91
February 27th, 2018 7:57pm
keep a thought in your head that you are unique and you are amazing, who cares what others think, they are just trying to get under my skin and I wont let them
Anonymous
May 29th, 2018 6:30pm
Remember whats important to you and who you are. Think about your own morals and how you, yourself think about you without their judgement.