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How can I stop getting nervous in front of people?

23 Answers
Last Updated: 05/07/2019 at 7:32am
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
May 7th, 2015 1:59am
I can realize that everyone gets nervous and its nothing to be ashamed of, and even if I cant quit being nervous I can still find ways to make me more comfortable around people.
LeapingLaughter
September 8th, 2015 8:03am
Practice, practice, practice. I used to teach acting, and this was the number one question people had in class. Did you know that public speaking is more stressful on the brain than being a test pilot? Pretty wild, huh? Nerves are normal. I used to get so nervous in class on the first day, in college, introducing ourselves, that I would shake and sweat when my turn to talk was coming up, so I took acting classes. I was so nervous the first few dozen times on stage, but eventually my brain said "You've been doing this a long time. You have nothing to worry about anymore because you have done it so much." Keep at it and you will overcome it.
Skybringslight
April 3rd, 2015 4:31am
Realize that there are 7 billion people on this planet, and if you mess up with one of them, then you have 7 billion more chances.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2014 8:11pm
the only way that I have helped stop me from getting nervous in front of people is be around people more. Get out there the more you put yourself out there, the more comfortable you will be.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2014 2:44pm
Remember that their goal is not to judge you, You are a person who has value and people realize that and want you to feel comfortable.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2014 5:56pm
Breathe Deep, and then realize that whatever you have to do in front of people, you're in control of the situation
Anonymous
July 4th, 2017 4:29pm
By boosting your self confidence and self esteem. No one is perfect in this world. Remember that you are blessed, make yourself calm, take deep breathes. Think positive.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 3:52am
Imagine it's a game and you're just taking missions slowly to level up.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2015 2:07pm
That's hard. You really just need to practice practice practice and do it a lot to the point where you stop being nervous or just learn to make a joke out of nervousness. It will help ease the nervousness you get in front of people.
lovingwatermelon
April 29th, 2015 4:57am
You can not just fully stop being nervous in front of people but you can lean ways to cope and try talking to a professional about your nervousness.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2014 6:29pm
The first step is knowing yourself and accepting yourself. Then try talking to your friends about it. The more you talk, the better you would feel. Then when you feel comfortable enough to socialize with a few people, then see if its eased up? Or you could even use therapy, which can be really helpful :)
cashmeredreams
December 22nd, 2014 8:44pm
There are many reasons why people get nervous in front of people, and they are different for everyone, so it would be better to figure out what it is that you are afraid of exactly and what it is that's making you nervous. One of the ways of trying to deal with it is easing your way in and facing your fears but starting with a very minimal exposure at first. So if you're afraid of meeting new people, practice in front of the mirror, got to a shop and say hello to the shop assistant, take your friend with you to a meeting with someone new and have them there as a safety blanket.
thoughtfulApple41
February 16th, 2016 2:14am
I try to stay in my own head. I often find myself trying to guess what everyone else is thinking. I am better if I focus on the interaction rathe than the inner workings of others minds
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2014 7:39pm
Becoming comfortable with yourself first will allow you to become comfortable around others and practice will help, like with anything the more you practice a skill the easier it becomes.
Rikka617
December 22nd, 2014 10:08pm
Try thinking in a positive way about them. People will do you no harm!! :) Learning to socialize is always a way to control anxiety and it will make you less nervous in future situations!
Anonymous
February 14th, 2017 5:44pm
By learning not to be nervous. Practice being in front of people with manageable "baby steps". Preferably in a situation where you have the possibility of backing out, but still where you put a little bit of pressure on yourself.
Anonymous
May 20th, 2015 5:35am
It is normal to feel nervous in front of people, and it takes time to feel comfortable staying with people with practice. I would recommended doing volunteer work and get in touch with people in the community. Of course you might need to consider seeking professional help when the nervousness is too severe that you feel panic when you're with people.
magicalsummer152
June 17th, 2015 5:36pm
Back straight shoulder uprite...comfortable to approach know what you speak...and dont forget everybody is nerous just like you make them confortable and believe in youself ... that will make it worth the moment
Anonymous
June 27th, 2016 4:44pm
It is not always about stopping yourself from feeling certain emotions, however it seems like it could be benefitial maybe if there was more control over this emotion and you felt as though you were able to control the nerves. For example, staying calm doing breathing exersizes if you feel a little scared around them, You could maybe try and stay with a friend if you were having to go with being you weren't as comfortable with. I hope this helps a little bit!
Anonymous
May 10th, 2015 11:22am
The best thing to do is to count up to ten, slowly, pacing your self. Everyone will love the personality you have, just give people a chance to see it. When you count to 10, you give yourself time to relax and to calm down.
shishir77
December 21st, 2015 12:16pm
Bytalking more in front of people. ability of talking in front of people increases as you do more of it
JennyTotoro
August 13th, 2018 4:55pm
Ground yourself in the moment. For example, if you are doing a presentation, focus on something really hard. Focus on the table that is in front of you, what colour it is - what texture it is. Take a moment for yourself.
Anonymous
May 7th, 2019 7:32am
If you know who you’re meeting with beforehand, take advantage of that and do some research on them. You can usually find out a lot about a person with just a quick Google search. Go ahead and do a little bit of Facebook or LinkedIn “stalking.” Check out their personal website, if they have one. (Just to be clear, it’s not really stalking… Anything that someone posts on their public social media profiles should be considered just that–public. These days, I go into meetings expecting that the other person has most likely looked me up and seen all of my social media profiles.)