How do I express my thoughts without worrying what others will think?

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Last Updated: 08/06/2018 at 5:22pm
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Dawn04
October 11th, 2016 12:14am
As long as your thoughts wouldn't hurt someone, then it's best to just be yourself and let them out. Most people aren't overthinking it.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 10:29pm
It's hard when we are constantly worring what other people might think about us, and in that way we can neglect our needs or sometimes people feel like they are not representing their true self to others. Usually, atempts to "erase" the feeling which is difficult to us, like feeling of worry, leads to magnifying that feeling. So what is actually good thing to do is to acknowlage that we have that feeling (feeling is neither good nor bad, it's just here with us and it comes naturaly). Breething, relaxation techiques, meditation and mindfulness are very helpful with that. You can find mindfulness and breathing tecinques in this site (just click -path in the upper left corner and go to -mindfulness exercises). That can help negative feelings to stop growing or to reduce them. For expressing your thoughts you can go step by step. For example, you can first try writing them, than reading them outloud by yourself, after that you can choose some people close to you, people who you can trust and practice expresing thoughts to them, slowly you can expend circle of people to who you are expressing your thoughts. This can be hard, but slowly it can reduce the worry about other what other people will think. You can also try to notice what went well in those situations. How did you feel, did your worries decreased, what did you get from exspressing your opinion. Also, working on personal selfesteem can help. For example you can take 10 to 30 minutes each day and write good things about yourself (if something bad comes to mind don't write it, just focus on good thigs) and things you are grateful on. Every day reread the list of things you've already wrote and add new things you noticed. For example I'm crative, a good friend, good english speaker, I can cook a lunch, I passed my exams, I've fixed a problem with my friend, I'm working on my assertivenes, I'm trying not to hurt other people feelings, I'm living near a beautiful river/sea/mountain...
Zenforever
April 6th, 2015 5:58pm
I try to express my thoughts in a diary or a journal. This way, they are not available to everyone, and they are still secret. I also love painting and drawing, in order to express myself without worrying what anybody else thinks.
Brielle224
May 4th, 2015 6:58pm
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind – Dr. Seuss
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2015 2:44am
Just remember you can never please every single person no matter how hard you try.. Nobody's perfect..just be yourself and speak your mind...
Zoe13x
May 28th, 2015 6:41pm
Sometimes we care a little too much about others opinion of us. As it is said, 'Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter.' The best way to start is by taking short steps. The internet is an excellent place for freedom of expression. You can post anonymously on a variety of websites. It will help you gain confidence to stand up for what you feel. And remember, what others think of you is none of your business. :)
bluetriangle
June 3rd, 2015 8:39pm
Expressing your thoughts is very important for good mental and emotional health. It's been scientifically shown to be true! And often when you express your thoughts others react in much more positive ways than we expected them to and it genuinely feels so good when that happens!
heartfulleigh60
September 1st, 2015 10:23pm
They say "Comparison is the thief of joy," for good reason. Everyone is entitled to their thoughts, and I do not know that the worry will ever go away. However, it is okay and perfectly normal to have both things. The worry may come at the cost of the self-expression, but that is never a bad thing.
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 8:50pm
What I try to do is thinking that in the end everyone is insecure and everyone is always going to have a certain opinion. Your thoughts are yours. It's a selfish world we live in, but doing something for yourself (like expressing your thoughts in for example a creative way like music) can help you, but also others! It's about what makes you feel better, but the thought that it can also do something for someone else is always nice! :)
heyworlditsok
January 30th, 2016 1:20am
You can find someone you trust to express your thoughts to or even write it down just to get it out
Nahsha
April 12th, 2016 5:46am
You simply do. Just disregard the thoughts of any negative comments. You don't have to care about what people have to say. Most negative thoughts are to put people down, and that should be avoided.
RebeccaRib
May 31st, 2016 2:22pm
You have to realize that your thoughts are your own and it doesn't matter what other people think or feel towards your thoughts. You shouldn't worry about making other people think of you a certain way you need to worry about your own happiness and your own persona rather than waste time worrying about what others feel.
Baileybug
August 29th, 2016 9:21pm
Don't worry about what others think. It is no ones life but yours. People are going to disagree but that's just life. Its best to say what you say, and feel what you feel, and don't care about what others have to say about it.
livewireraincoat
August 7th, 2017 8:29pm
I believe that the best way to express thoughts successfully is to do so without much thought for the opinions of others. They are YOUR thoughts, so I think that whether you're creating art, putting together a debate or an essay, or just attempting to express your thoughts to a friend- you need to realise that this is your own point of view, and although you should take care not to hurt someone else's feelings, the main thing to focus on is the point that you are willing to make. It's easier said than done, but you've got to just take action and put your dreams into a place of realisation. Take a deep breath, have your best intentions at heart, and do what it is that you desire.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 4:49am
As someone who also struggles a bit with social anxiety, I totally understand that. I often think over what I'm going to say several times over before ever saying it. If you worry about what others think by habit, you'll probably find it pretty hard to change this. But with some practice, you should be able to improve. I would say start small and try not to rerun in your head what you said after the fact, as this often leads to regret and increases your vigilance the next time you think about saying something. Once you have improved on that, tackle bigger challenges such as improving the excessive worry and overthinking that occurs before you say anything. Its ok to struggle with it. I expect it will take some time as well. But you can do it! Remember your opinions and thoughts are just as valuable as others' even if they're different. I've found that I tend vastly overestimate the level of judging other people display. Most of the time, people are much nicer and understanding than I initially assume, as strange as that sounds :) Hope this helps, take care
Anonymous
July 16th, 2018 5:28pm
I think we all naturally worry about what others think. But, it's important to know what you cannot say in front of certain people. You don't want to hurt others by what you say. But, it's okay to have your own opinion too. Sometimes it's not about what you say, but rather, how you say it
Anonymous
July 17th, 2018 6:15am
You decide to do so. These things are in ur control. Try to analyse it . U want to express it, there's nothing wrong in it. Keeping all inside is wrong. So express it and even after that if someone is making judgements or getting offended, try to explain them. Not more than once, just clear out what u meant. And if they continue to be so, it's none of ur concern. Be real .
Anonymous
August 6th, 2018 5:22pm
Don't seek approval, repeat to yourself confidence and self esteem, fear is a liar, just do it