How do I get over feeling that everyone is going to leave me?

I don't think that there is a way to do that, however, you cannot assume that everyone is going to leave. Sometimes life is all about risks and you have to take them. You may end up having a lot of heartbreaks, but you may also end up finding the love of your life or your best friend. If you don't try you'll never know.

People who care for you will stay. No matter how bad circumstances turn out to be in the end they will show up. So they are worth keeping and you should too care for such people. Those who want to go they will go no matter how much ever effort you put to make them stay. By keeping them you will disrespect yourself. Do you want to invest your time, energy and emotions on people who don't want to bother you ? They are disrespecting you. And you are also disrespecting you by bothering them. So who will respect you. You will be taken for granted this way and a new disastrous feeling will emerge out of you seeking counselling for anxiety and depression. So first become independent in life. Be confident to live life without depending on someone else. If people leave then let them go. If you want to justify your side then justify right then but not every time. Do that just once. People keep coming and going in life. We cannot force people what they have to do.

Hi!💗 I had this feeling too, that everyone will leave me and I will stay alone in this world. And it was really hard to get over this feeling, mostly because when I was feeling like this, I started to seclude myself too. And thus this feeling was getting deeper. I think that you just will have to make yourself more sociable, and will have to talk to people with a great will. Also you would better search for best friends too. People always need people, so feel like as you need them they need you too. They need someone to talk, someone to be real friends with. And you need the same things too. Feeling like this is making us only isolated, from my experience. But when you feel like people is part of you like they can be your best friends, you will make a bond and bond can't be broken easily. So they won't leave you and you won't leave them. I hope I expressed myself good and I really hope that it helps☺

Personally, I have struggled with this also. It makes sense to fear being left--relationships are uncertain and we cannot tell the future, which can be incredibly stressful. While I cannot always let the feeling go, one thing that has helped significantly is remembering that it is okay to be flawed, and that I am still worthy of loving relationships even with my flaws. In addition, it can help to remember that we can become comfortable with the uncomfortable. In other words, we can radically accept the uncertainty of the future and make the best that we can of living in the present moment. Life is still worth living even though we cannot predict the behavior of another person.

The feeling of loneliness is a scary feeling. No one wants to be alone. But truth is you are never alone! You have friends, family, and well... 7 Cups! If you do ever feel lonely come and let out your struggles. Because I am here to listen no matter what. Even if everyone else you have ever known leaves you, I will still be by your side! Because when felling lonely or left behind, all you really need, is a friend!! 😄

Figure out why you are feeling this way. Are you feeling this way due to not being about to see them, or are they ignoring you? Speak to your friends and family about how you're feeling. They can help you. The majority of the time the way you're feeling is due to self esteem issues. No one will leave you, i promise. Remember that you are valuable person, and that your value is not determined by appearance, how others treat you, your intelligence, sexuality, or race. If anyone is telling you this, they are toxic and are only trying to hurt you.

I believe that, whoever talks to you and keep hanging around you and is still present in your life. Want you in their life. Instead of worrying about when will they leave you try to deepen the connection! And to value the time with the right supportive people :D we always meet new people at the least expected areas of our lives. And if we keep worrying about those who will leave and those who are leaving then we will never find new ones because we are only looking at the past or the future while we should live the present!

Have you thought about why you feel insecure ? Do you lack confidence ? What has happened i the past to make you feel this way ? Did one of your parents leave you ? Do you ever feel secure ? If so , what or who is around you at that time ? We all feel lonley and insecure at times . Get involved in a hobby or something you enjoy , with like minded people . Keep reaching out and finding supportive people . People that are available . Figure out what kind of people are healthy and safe .

This is very common feeling that i use to feel more than a couple times a day! I know that feeling is horrible and i want you to know that yes people do leave and it hurts like crazy when they do but you will never be completely alone. Someone is always there you just got to look and you will find them. Having this feeling is a burden cause you feel you can't let anyone in because you are scared of once you let them in you will only get hurt, and i am here to say that you will get hurt sometimes but you have to learn and grow! You will find people along the way that won't hurt you and leave though!!!!

When you take small steps to be there for yourself, you will find that not only can you be there for yourself as if you WERE your own best friend, but that other people will begin to be there for you as well. It requires small steps and takes time, sometimes years, to build up the resilience to be there for yourself. As for the feeling that everyone is going to leave, it is important to re-focus that feeling onto yourself, and use self-talk that shows that even if everyone you know left, you, the deepest core of yourself, are still there. You can be your own safe space. Once this realization happens, you feel free to let others leave when they need to.

Sometimes you need to self reflect & ask yourself why you feel as if everyone would leave you , What may have possibly led up to that feeling , Do you suffer from abandonment or gone through a rough breakup recently to where it’s causing you to feel alone or may be anxious. Maybe do some coloring , painting , or any activity that may push that feeling away , as a stress reliever. Happiness & being calm is key & keeping phobias , anxiety’s , & bad feelings away is the goal & in any way if you can side track the feelings , you may or may not feel better if not then check out the 7 cups help guide

I am sorry that you feel this way. It sounds like you are experiencing some anxiety, remember to take a deep breathe and remind yourself that these thoughts mostly exist inside your head. I understand it can be scary and painful if you experienced something like this in the past, learn that this happens and that there is disappointment to find out there was no investment from the other side, but don't let that close your heart; instead of clinging to those who want to leave remind yourself that the people who are still by your side are there because they truly love and appreciate you, be open to meet new people who are willing to join you in friendship. There are alot of great people to connect with, give them a chance to get to know you :)

It sounds like you’re having trouble trusting people. I’ve never spent a day in your shoes so I can’t give advice that would help you specifically. But can I ask you, what would you tell a friend, or someone else close to you, to do if they just told you they felt this way? This can be a really good way to think about things from another perspective. Do you want to talk about what you think is causing you to believe everyone’s going to leave you? Or maybe what helps you feel better when you feel like this?

Anxiety is an issue most people experience, and it is a horrible feeling. However, there are a multitude of ways to move forward from our anxieties. I personally understand the feeling that you are going to be left alone, but you sometimes need to trust you gut feeling and listen to it when it tells you that you are loved by these people. Sometimes, the anxiety we will be left alone makes us push away the people we love the most, making ourselves our own worst enemy. It does get better, however you need to put yourself around the right people who give you that gut feeling that you are loved by them.

I find that I like to right down the people who care about me. I like to write down the qualities I find positive about myself, and the actual likelihood that these people are going to leave me, since most times, it's slim to none. I also find meditating on these issues helps me a lot, as well as pending time with these people I'm worried about leaving me. Also, talking to these people about your leaving worries can be a big help, especially if these people are fairly mature and understanding, they can usually give you a lot of peace of mind this way.

Life can real tough sometimes and honestly we need one another to battle out the tough phases. Having said that, I just like to remind myself one thing, I came alone and I would have to leave alone as well, if someone is joining my path, it is great but if they have to leave something better is in store for me and which is why they are making room...having company is great but learning how to be happy with just yourself is an important life lesson, just trust your instincts and hardwork and one day you shall surpass your own expectations

You need to ask yourself why you feel this way. What happened in your life which made you have these views. This could manifest in the form of a break down in relationship, isolation from bullying, a death of someone close to you or perhaps you or someone close took ill and have a fear of being left on your own. However more often than not we develop abandonment theories due to adverse childhood experiences. This could be a parent not always being there for us whenever we are young. Whether this is a parent always working away or turbulent relationship between our parents which resulted in not seeing one parent for a period of time. Our adult self would be able to process this situation however whenever we are a matter of months of years old we aren't to know if they will return. This can later cause anxiety and fear that everyone is going to leave you and that you will be alone.

These feelings are really common for people who have been hurt and let down in their past, from their childhood or friendships and relationships as adults. I think to talk about these emotions and to understand them is a really positive step forward. Not many people can be free from these kinds of emotions and fear of loneliness, it tends to be at the core of most humans. But with talking and self development these feelings can be more manageable. Neediness in relationships is a consequence of this feeling but it's OK to be needy sometimes, we are all human so self acceptance is also really important.

This is a tough question and one that I think many people struggle with. I think the best advice I can give is to get to the root of this belief and ask yourself when was the first time you felt abandoned? How did that make you feel? What do you want to say to that person that made you feel that way? Let's use "I" statements to craft this message and see what those core feelings are then let's look and let's examine how you grown and what you have learned since this first incident happened. I am sure you will see that you have learned a lot since then-just keep reminding your self of the new and improved person you have become.

The fear of abandonment can come from childhood loss or neglect as a child, especially if it is more emotional. Generally, those who have a fear of abandonment feel they are not worthy of being loved. For example in the case of being neglected as a child; when a child is attached to somebody and the person leaves them, they are left feeling that they are not fully loved. Even though this is likely not the truth, the child wonders what made them unlovable. As an adult, they may still feel there is something about them that makes them unworthy. The first step in overcoming your fear of abandonment is to realise that you're worthy of love, flaws and all. I.e: if you're in a relationship, don't let it become your identity or centre of worth. A relationship does not define you. Remind yourself that it is not another person's duty to make you feel emotionally secure. That security first comes from you. Try to consider where your fear of abandonment started in first place. You may never entirely eliminate your fear of abandonment but you can control your reactions to the fear. If you begin to recognize the fearful moments in your relationships, you can direct the thoughts into a positive self-talk. Also, it's important to accept the idea of being alone. Your worth is not based on your relationship status or how many friends you have. They're plenty more ways to overcome your fear of abandonment.

A good way to cope with this feeling is to prove yourself wrong. Make an effort to create new relationships and nurture your existing ones. As you surround yourself with people and grow in these friendships you will be able to better rationalize this feeling.

Try to join or do things such as work out do some of your hobbies that will help you to think about other things in order to remove those thoughts from your mind.

You have to know that the people that truly care about you will not leave you. Think about it, are you going to leave somebody you love and care about? No. You are important and your feelings are valid and you are special in your own unique way and the people that see that and appreciate it wouldn’t give that up for the whole world. Keep looking for those people! When people leave us, sometimes it seems like there’s no good reason either and it makes us question our self worth. Step one love yourself, step two let others love you. The ones that leave didn’t deserve our affection because it was expendable.

Understand that you are valuable, and people enjoy spending time with you and your presence people who leave you were not friends to begin with. If they truly care about you than they will not leave you. I understand this because I used to be scared that people would exit my life as well, but over time I have realized that if someone chooses to leave my life they were not really a friend, and we’re actually a negative part of my life. By realizing this I was able to understand that important people in your life will not leave you because they are not toxic or negative

Know that not everyone in your life is meant to be there with you forever. Frequently people are only in your life for a season, and that is okay. Know that the people you have around you right now are there to help build you up and teach you about yourself in the world around you. Reassure yourself that even if the people around you currently do leave you, there will be others that come in to take their place. Know what to look for in healthy friendships and relationships so that it is more likely that you form a long term connection, and work on building the relationships you currently have into healthy ones that will last a lifetime.

You have to think positive. No one is going to leave you. Your just feeling very anxious and that’s okay. You have to tell your friends and family or any other close person how your feeling and they can help you through this. Just think positive, no one is going to leave you. Remember that everyone loves you for who you are. It’s okay to have these feelings just know that there’s always gonna be someone who’s there for you now or in the future. Make sure to overcome this feeling that your having right now so you feel that your not alone.

In simple words, "People who care won't leave, and those who leave are not worth the pain and suffering you feel for them". If you are constantly worried that everyone is going to leave you, you should think about 'why you feel that way?' Why do you think you have to work hard for people to stay? Because real relationships/friendships happen when you can be your true self. Also, pay attention to the fact 'How much do you value yourself?' If your answer is 'not much'... maybe its time you understand that being happy with oneself is more important than making someone else happy and going overboard to keep them in your life. Slowly, you'll learn who among your closed ones can truly accept you just the way you are.

whenever you get feelings of doubt that you are now good enough, tell yourself simply "STOP, enough" I LOVE MYSELF. I AM ENOUGH if someone is leaving you, its more for their disadvantage and u just didnt found the person that fits to you. you are a perfect being. just stop doubting yourself. thats the only thing holding u back to spread your wings and unleashing your full potential. it sounds so easy, because it is so easy. stop making yourself down. and from a different perspective, who wants to be with someone who always doubt himself. so step up, set a new standard and enjoy life stronger and more grateful than u ever did before.

though some people will leave you, chances are not everyone will. Just be yourself, stay open and honest. Try focusing your thoughts on something different, like deep breathing, breath slowly and deeply through your nose and out your mouth. Also try reading, coloring, listen to music or take a walk, or a hot bubble bath. Or talk to someone who you really trust and be honest with them on how you are feeling. They may surprise you and put your worries at ease. Also seeing a therapist would also help you with those thoughts.

Me and you both, dear. In a lot of cases people did end up leaving me, and sometimes I acted out of fear and ended up leaving them. I was terrified of being abandoned. Now I am in a place in my life where I am looking at supports and strategies that will help me develop healthy relationships all around. Counseling can sometimes bring resources that we don't realize exist. It's just a matter of finding the resources that are in your area, to help you through challenges that may arise. 7cups can be a great resource but not the only one out there.