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How do I get over feeling that everyone is going to leave me?

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Last Updated: 01/15/2022 at 5:14pm
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Anonymous
December 22nd, 2021 2:41am
The thought of everyone in your life leaving is terrifying, irrational, and gives you a lot of unnecessary stress. The people around you aren't suddenly going to disappear without warning. You can take a couple of deep breaths and trust that they're here to stay. Have they actually given you a reason to think they're going to leave? Is this your insecurities speaking? If so, positive affirmations can help. You can repeat a phrase like "I am enough", and challenge your negative thoughts. And if people in your life do leave, that's also okay. It may hurt, but it doesn't determine your worth. You're more than your friendships :)
matcha007
December 29th, 2021 12:17am
This is a very valid question and it can be hard to deal with this situation as life continually changes and you are meeting and leaving people. My advice to this is that you invest in yourself and cultivate enough self confidence and self love to know that you got your own back at the end of the day. In addition, it helps to voice your concern to your loved ones and they can help reassure you! In the end, know that everything is always going to work out for you and there are many great memories and moments that will be ahead and that you have been able to live.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2022 8:48pm
Start to be more comfortable with yourself, sometimes loneliness is not a negative thing unless you depict it as so. You can be emotionally indipendent from others and remember that you only are the key of your happiness, in addition, sometimes unconsciously when we are alone, since we usually believe that loneliness is a negative and toxic experience, we don't enjoy things that we will usually have enjoyed in company. Start doing an activity that makes you happy or satisfied when you are alone, so you will understand that happiness doesn't always come from others, if you want you can be happy even alone
Vithleem
January 15th, 2022 5:14pm
First of all, it might help you to take some deep breaths at your own pace. Take as many as you want for as long as you need. Then, it might help to write down some things that you have accomplished over the years- it can be the smallest thing, you decide. See what you have written and feel prouf of them all; it doesn't matter how many things you have written. Then, remind yourself that everyone is worth acceptance, respect, love and compassion- including you. Sometimes you might feel doubtful, but you can overcome this. It can happen to everyone. Finally, you can try to show your appreciation to the people whom you care about in a way that comes natural to you. If this feeling doesn't seem to go away, you can always address a professional who will listen to you carefully and give you appropriate feedback.