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How do I know if I did the right thing?

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Last Updated: 05/25/2022 at 8:57pm
How do I know if I did the right thing?
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salicia
December 11th, 2021 6:59am
It can be hard to do the right thing. But often we will feel a peace of mind when making our choices. The right choice isn't always the easiest choice but as long as you don't hurt anybody that's a great start. Moreover it helps to talk to someone you trust who can give you an outside perspective on whether they think you did the right thing or not. When you are alone in a situation it is easy to start overthinking and come to extreme conclusions. When you get in your head too much everything becomes fuzzy, That's why it's a good idea to distract yourself and think look back at it with a clear head.
bigJoy4382
December 29th, 2021 2:00am
If you really feel that special feeling in your gut and just follow your heart then you will know if you did the right thing. Sometimes there is always going to be that little voice in your head that makes you feel like you did the wrong thing and it always tells you that you did it wrong but just know that if you feel it then you did everything the best way you could possibly do it. Not everybody is perfect and can do certain things exactly the way you want but just know if you care and do whatever you want then you deserve it!
OwlsSanctum
January 8th, 2022 2:01pm
The short answer is, you often can't know if you did the right thing. The longer answer is, there often isn't such thing as 'the right thing' in any situation. You can respond to any situation in lots of different possible 'right ways'. The problem is, when you ask the question as to whether something you did was right or wrong, you are actually asking lots of different questions. You are asking things like "is there a chance that what I did might upset someone", or "is there a chance I might regret the thing I just did". Those questions are hard to answer, because they are based on so many unknowns, so many hypotheticals. The best way forward is to instead ask "did I have good intentions when I did that thing". Sure, bad things might happen from good intentions, but it is helpful to remember that you did that thing from a good place. Hopefully, this will give you the confidence to be an active agent in your life, to make bold actions and not to be held back by the many 'what if' questions that can arise with any tough situation.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2022 1:17pm
If you think it is the right thing, then it is the right thing at the moment. Even if you regret it in the future, just remember that for your situation and circumstances now, that decision you have made was one that suited your situation then. The concept of right and wrong is relevant so if you think it is right, then it is right. But of course, in the future, think carefully about any major decisions that you may make, in order not to question yourself like you are now. And do not let anyone make you feel bad or regret any decision that you have already made because they do not know what you were going through at the time of the decision making.
reesemc18
March 3rd, 2022 9:58pm
For me, I know I did the right thing when in my gut it just feels right. Your head may be bouncing back and forth between different things but I have this satisfied feeling in my gut. Otherwise, I would find myself always going back to a certain decision and debating it in my head. It is important to remember that making the right choice is not always the choice other people want you to make. The only person you should listen to when making a decision is yourself. You are the person that knows what is best for you
Anonymous
March 20th, 2022 1:50am
I would feel that I did the right thing when me and the other people feel accomplished in the situation in which we are in. Knowing that you did the right thing can depend on how you feel morally. But I think as long as you are contributing to yourself or another person on a positive level you can feel you did the right thing as long as the intention came from your heart. It also has to do with the type of situation but you can do the right thing by taking time to decide and not just impulsively acting. The more you take the time to think about the consequences and your intentions you will know you did the right thing.
RelatableSoul
March 30th, 2022 5:31pm
When you picture good things, your emotions respond by producing more oxytocin. The problem is that you're falling in love with a concept rather than a person when this happens. It's a "what could happen" daydream. It's a fairy story. This is why individuals can fall in love with people they've never met in person; the mind is incredibly strong in this regard. With a dash of truth, you can assist with this. I'm not proposing you hunt for problems specifically, but rather that you seek truth and perspective on a regular basis. You may not know this individual as well as you believe. You have no idea if they truly want what you want. You have no idea what the future holds for you. It's all a fantasy if you're thinking about such things.
Anonymous
April 20th, 2022 2:21pm
Well, ask yourself first — if it matters that what you did was the right thing or not. You've already done it, so why bother now, unless it turns around and comes back to bite you. Nevertheless, you'll know you did the right thing when deep down in your gut you feel that it was or is the right thing to do. If you felt you did the right thing at the moment and later on realize that it wasn't then, it's a consequence you have to live it. That's how choices are, there's no easy way out. You got to do what you got to do. And that all that I can really say.
peachicus
May 7th, 2022 1:57pm
Often when you make a decision you imedietly see the effects and get a feeling if it was the right or wrong choice. The decision you made simply may not have given any results or the effects of that decision haven't been made known to you yet. It's really hard to be cofident in youir choices sometimes especially if its emotional or a lot of pressure is dependent on what you do. A tip that works for me is to literally write down a list of pros and cons to make that decsion logically. Sometimes you won't know if it was the right thing and all you can do is accept you made your choice :)
ColorMeHopeful
May 25th, 2022 8:57pm
Sometimes doing the right thing, doesn’t always make you feel good inside. Decision making can be extremely difficult (think about sometimes how hard it is to even decide what we want to eat 😊). I think the best outcomes come from if you’ve had time to think it over as much as possible and if you follow your gut, it will lead you to the right decision. In time hopefully you will find yourself at peace with what you chose. If not, remember to use the situation as a learning experience. And take with you the new information so that you can apply that knowledge to future decisions.