How do I stop thinking that people laughing to each other around me are laughing at me?

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Last Updated: 07/02/2018 at 6:10pm
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Anonymous
April 21st, 2015 5:51pm
I've had personal experience in this. I am an introvert with very few hobbies. So I don't socialize much. What I like is physics and music. They form a big chunk of my interests and time. I am reserved, and not very talkative. I do have crazy fun conversations at times, but I crave intelligent discussions. I don't like pointless gossip. And a lot of people don't *like* this personality of mine. I have been ridiculed, been laughed at, by groups of people, for saying what's on my mind. They think I don't *belong* to their group, and they happily have fun belittling *others*. I used to be anxious, nervous and worried about what others would say to me, when I tell them what's really in my mind. I have gotten much better over 2 years. I still get ridiculed and laughed at, for being myself, and not like them. But I really don't care now. I realized how important it is to be aware of one's own identity, to be proud of it, and cherish it. Self assertion is very crucial. It makes you more confident and bold. We need to accept ourselves. I can't enough stress how important that is. When we are able to do that, any other person's actions or comments won't mean anything at all to you. You won't get offended easily and it won't upset you, or make you anxious and inquisitive about what they were talking and thinking about. I did the same thing. I accepted myself. I know I am good enough. No one else can tell me otherwise. Well, someone can tell that to my face, sure, but I won't accept it, ever. I know myself better than any other person in this world. I am bold enough to ignore people who talk bad about me. Those people don't matter to me. If they can't accept me, well, too bad for them. I am the winner, fro myself. No one else can label me less than that.
RhettCoombs20
December 28th, 2015 5:13pm
That is a common feeling that we feel, everyone has felt like they are being laughed at before, but from experience you would be surprised to know that they usually are laughing at something totally different. Our minds trick us sometimes, creating an image that everyone around us is staring at us, laughing at us. Relax and smile.
usefulStar85
March 10th, 2015 11:25pm
They aren't laughing at you sweetie and if they are then just walk away and ignore them that will make them stop trust me
wevegotthis
June 1st, 2015 4:54am
Don't take yourself so seriously. Think about the things that you laugh about. Do you often laugh at others? We are not as important as we think we are.
TheGlovedOne
August 1st, 2016 9:39pm
Remember they are truly just people. If they are laughing at you, they don't matter. They just are cruel people trying to bring you down by bullying and rumors.
Peacefullight
March 10th, 2015 4:15am
Remember all of the times you laughed at something with friends that had absolutely nothing to do with your surroundings.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2015 5:36pm
Distract yourself by completely focusing on something else, it can be anything. This will take your mind of them troubling thoughts.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2015 2:36pm
Simply to not care about what other people thinks of me. The only thing I should be concern about is whether I believe them or myself.
ImhereItsme
July 11th, 2016 7:54am
look around for something that you find funny or think of something thats funny to you so it makes you laugh that way your apart of teh laughter. :)
BALIAS
July 18th, 2016 3:25am
Ignoring them is better way, when you do it every time they will stop laughing otherwise your mind will not matter it.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2017 9:53am
Work on your confidence. Know there might be situations where people will laugh at you but it is not usually the case because as weird as it might sound we are not the centre of the universe and people have their own problems and things they laugh at. Often we are paranoid and thinking what if they are making fun of me etc. But so what if they are. They don't know you, they cannot harm you. You know yourself and your worth so few people ridiculing you is not going to change that. It says more about them than about you.
Anonymous
February 20th, 2018 6:10pm
dont look at them,listen to music or read,just ignore that they are even there. If they are laughing at you and you know it,tell an adult. If they are laughing,dont just assume they are laughing at you.You are an amazing person,dont let people bring you down.
AngeLoL
July 2nd, 2018 6:10pm
If you feel to self insecure, know that you're perfect the way you are, and nobody has any reason to laugh at you. Or you can search for some evidence on what they might be laughing at, or ask them yourself to be sure. Don't worry about it.