It's quite common to feel self conscious when someone is looking at you, although an astute quotation about insecurity is often attributed to the novelist and teacher David Foster Wallace:
'You’ll worry less about what people think about you when you realize how seldom they do.'
It's not meant to make you feel less significant in any way, but when you're walking through a shopping centre for instance, you might glance at 100 people. How many of them do you think about for longer than that moment? For longer than a few seconds? It's the same when someone looks at you, they've most likely forgotten your face and you altogether a few seconds after they look at you, so there no need to worry or feel insecure. :)
A good method I enjoy using is to think "No one gives a damn I'm here" because using this when becoming anxious in public, people are there for them and not you. They might even be looking at you to acknowledge your existence and the fact you exist in that spot. For example, you go to the store to buy things and everyone else around you is irrelevant or in the background. This is the same for everyone else!
First off, not everyone is looking at you. Perhaps you're just thinking that everyone is looking at you, but you have no definite way of reading their minds. Also consider that everyone has their own ego and maybe they're too busy thinking the same thing - that everyone's looking and thinking about them - instead of you. As humans, we have no way to read someone else's mind. Even if we play devil's advocate and they are thinking about you - it's probably only for a miniscule second and then they go on with their lives. Also be mindful that to constantly worry what others are thinking about you is to assume that everyone is always thinking about you. That's not always possible, people can think about anything and everything. Whenever you feel like someone is judging you, just remember how quickly your mind reacts and processes information and how long you stay on a subject. Don't worry. It's just not worth your time to fret about things you cannot prove.
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June 1st, 2015 5:28pm
It is more than natural for people to look at you, it's often done because of curiosity or because you are in their line of sight. By understanding that people look not to judge you, but just to look at you - hopefully this will help you stop worrying.
The answer to the question is simple: People tend to look at us when we excel in what we do and when we take initiative to be different. Make use of this opportunity to boost the efficiency level of the work which is being done cause these times of weakness are our source of strength,and continue and enjoy what you do. To stop worries remember the slogan "Do what you love and love what you do"
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April 7th, 2015 8:26pm
When you're out and about look around at other people. You might catch the eyes of a few of them but take it in your stride. Ask yourself why you're worried people are looking at you. Take a moment to realize that you don't look at everyone and think about how you think of complete strangers (if you even bother to take note of what they're doing). It's nothing that bad, right? All you want to do is get on with whatever task you're trying to complete or get from point A to B with as little difficulty as possible. Whatever that person was wearing won't matter in 20 seconds time, what that other person was doing was just a background thing to your day that you won't remember by the time you go to bed that night. When you realize that they have similar thoughts to you and just want to get on with their day you'll start to feel more relaxed about it.
I know that for me to stop worrying if people are looking at me I think what if it is all good things they are looking at me for. I try to think of the positives that makes it so that I change the fear of worry to positive. I try to create a new mindset that being said it helps me to stop worrying. I keep things in perspective, question my thinking of being worried and tell myself stop and breathe. There is no point in worrying they could just be looking at something above me. I just try to turn the worry into a positive thought