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How do I support my partner who is going through depression and anxiety?

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Last Updated: 10/25/2021 at 7:23am
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April 3rd, 2018 5:43am
Let them know that you are there for them and you care about them. One of the most important things you can do is listen to them. Don’t try to give them advice. Just be there when they want to talk.
June 19th, 2018 6:09am
the best possible thing you can do is to be there for them. having someone to walk alongside you through everything is extremely comforting. just let them know you're there for them no matter what.
June 19th, 2018 8:32am
tell them that you are there for them and she/he is not alone remind them how much you care about them :) and guid them to a professional therapist because we can help but we are not trained to cure :) take care
June 20th, 2018 10:06pm
Remind them that they’re valid and you care about them very much. Tell them you’re not going anywhere. Be forgiving. Bring them comfort, care and help but recognize when they need time alone. Don’t take it personally when they don’t want to be around people. Reassure them, help them breathe, remind them to care for themselves. Let them vent and never make them feel like a problem is too trivial or not worthy of a listening ear.
July 3rd, 2018 3:39pm
Just be there for them if they need to talk or vent. Try to make sure they do the necessary things, like sleep and eat. Be there if/when they decide to seek help or help them reach that decision if needed.
March 30th, 2020 9:03am
To support your partner who is going through depression and anxiety, the best thing you can do is be there for them and understand what they are going through. Just being there for them and being understanding really is going to help them out. In my personal experience, my partner supported me merely by listening to me and being there for me when I needed someone to talk to. You can also try to cheer your partner up, but don't do anything too overdone or else they may feel bad for making you feel like you had to do that.
April 27th, 2020 10:36pm
I'm going to answer this as someone who has struggled with anxiety and depression using my own experiences in (and outside of) romantic relationships, but everyone's experience is different. One of the best things you can do, in my opinion, is ask your partner what you can do to help them. It's a great way to show how much you care and want to support them, while making sure you understand their boundaries. It's possible they won't know how you can best support them, and that's okay. You can figure it together. Let your partner know that you're a safe person to talk to, and just be there to listen. Make sure you have boundaries, and be careful so that you don't feel overwhelmed by their problems. Don't feel bad if you need to lean on your partner sometimes too!
July 12th, 2021 5:22am
Listen to them and tell them that it's okay.. At this moment all they need is to have someone dear near to them. Show your support and compassion. Believe in them. This will definitely improve their state. Make sure they eat right, exercise well and get a good amount of sleep. Ask them if they need anything. They may have been hesitant to ask. So make sure to let them know that they can express whatever they feel like. Don't leave them alone. Accompany them. They can have their space but you need to make sure that they are okay being alone. Loneliness and being alone are two different things. If they need further assistance please reach out for help from professionals. And thanks for being a wonderful partner. I wish you both the best.
October 25th, 2021 7:23am
Personally, I believe letting them know that they have someone there for them is always a great start, just having a conversation to establish boundaries and routines for certain scenarios, to make both your lives much easier. Also doing your research to better understand your partner, their feelings and any activities that you can both enjoy or help you to relax. But also recognise that this may seem like a long journey but continue to look after yourself as well, resilience is key. Simply taking this first step asking for help is already a good sign, and tells me how strong and ready you are to give your partner anything they need. Keep going and good luck :).